I'M SO PISSED OFF AT HER!!! She ditched me this weekend, saying she was going to go to a party to get "messed up" and by her saying messed up I was thinking... drinking. You know, because she wouldn't ever smoke! Well today I went to her MySpace, and I saw pictures, so I was watching them, and I saw pictures of her and her little sister SMOKING WEED!! I WAS LIKE DUDE, WTF! She wouldn't have done that if she was with me! BUT NOOOOOO, she just HAD to go to that stupid fucking party! Another thing that makes me sooo mad is that she didn't even have the nerve to talk to me, and tell me that she was planning to go to the party, and she had all week! She didn't tell me until Friday night, when I had plans on going to her house. So she basically left me to go get high.
WHAT SHOULD I DO!
She's already dtole guys from me, and now shes smoking weed?!?
Please, Please, Please help me out!!!
-Thank you so much!-
are you more upset that you got left or that she smoked pot...or that she smoked pot without you? maybe she didnt tell you because she knew you'd freak out? If you are best friends with someone you need to keep an open mind about her opinions and thoughts and feelings while expressing concern in a non threatening way. My advice would be to confront her and ask her in a nice way why she felt like she couldn't tell you she wanted to go to a party to smoke. Maybe she felt she couldn't tell you because you would judge her. Either way remember that she is an individual and entitled to her own decisions even if you don't agree with them. Good luck and let me know if it turns out ok
xoxoxo
supergirl
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this may sound very goody goody but.. i am so sick of everyone doing drugs and drinking.. not that im completely innocent i mean ive done it before but it seems like right now every single person is into that and half of them are doing it to forget about problems.. now i did learn about drugs and i did learn that weed can actually make depression worse and i also know that after youve done weed for a while your wanting to try a new drug so what do i do.. i hate it that my friends do drugs and drink and dont tell me to forget about them and get new friends because i love my friends.. and also.. everyone in my school does it.. whether you want to believe that or not is up to you.. but really.. the ones that dont are like .. messiahs or something.. please help
*stonecoldmystery*
i can totally empathize with you right now. it seems like everyone is into smoking pot because its the latest "fad" or something. i don't know if thats really the case or if its just me, but that's the vibe ive been getting. the thing is im not opposed to that stuff either and i will participate in it-when i feel like it. i guess i'm not quite sure what your question is but bottom line, you can't control what other people choose to do with their lives and if it bothers you then you need to think about it differently cuz i think u're gonna have a hard time changing the behavior and attitudes of the rest of your school. do what you think is right for your life and make decisions that you want to make, you can be sick of the fact that "everyone" is doing these things but theres really nothing you can do about it, so instead of wasting your own time worrying about them, keep yourself busy and do stuff that you want to do. Best of luck-hope i helped at least a little.
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HEY! this guy likes me and i like him. My friend talked to him and told him i liked him and stuff. He said he is gonna ask me out tomorrow. I'm happy and all but now all my friend is saying is(let's just say my name is E and his name is B)
E + B = love forever! it's really annoying...how do i get her to stop??
Thank you for the help!
wellp tell her you appreciate her being so enthusiastic about the fact that you are getting a new bf! Part of friendship is communication and letting the other person know when something is bothering you. It doesn't seem like a big deal but i can understand how it can get annoying. I hope it all works out lemme know how it goes!
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Hey sarah it Beccers_boo's.
My ex and i wer pretty good friends... but i keep hearing about all these lies he told me. He tells other people everything about our relationship i dont know. When my friend told me (they ALL knew) i got really upset and they just got upset at me... liek i had done something wrong!! LAter they said they thought i was mad at them... btu thats not hte point.
He also told me he broke up with me becuase he felt guilty becuase we wasnt allowed to dat eyet. well that turnd out to be a lie and THEN he told me that He wasnt goign to date anyone until he was 18. Well about 1month latr he is dating my good friend. (she asked me AFTER they had started dating !!!)
Well anyways... he had also dated this girl that he always flirted with when WE were dating. He is a jerk!!!! He totaly like flirts with his new girlfriend ( my friend ) in front of me. I think to make me jealous. Its ticks me off.
This wsa the SHORT version. Now he says he is gooing to turn himself in to his parents and will have to go to military school in virginia. He is way over dramatic. I cnt stand him!!!!! When ever i try to explain this to my friend who is dating him she just says "i know already he read your MSN conversations to me. He told me eveerything that went on in your realtion ship!!" that just makes me want to punch her!!!! She acts as if everythign he did was my fault!! Like i am so stupid and i dont know anything.
i dont know what ot do about any of this. please help me sarah!! Your good at helping people!
-beccers_boo
hey babe! im sorry bout ur situation-sounds like there's a reason this guy is your ex. Honestly from what you told me it sounds like you are better off without him. I wouldn't want to be with someone who 1) lies to me 2) uses my friends to make me jealous. Since im assuming you love your friend just suck it up grin it and bear it for her sake. Tell her you understand that he is her new boyfriend but you'd appreciate it if she wouldn't talk about him around you. You need to get over this guy so you can move on with your life and find a guy who is better deserving of YOU. As for his lying, its probably his way of covering up his own issues and if he lied to you i have no doubt in my mind that he will lie to his new gf too. Just be patient with her because i bet he will screw things up with her too and just be there for your friend. Keep me updated on the situation and let me know how things go-if anything comes up, u know how to reach me-xoxoxox sar
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well..okay. i like this guy and he has a gf..oh wait. it gets better..haha well he's always leading me on and hinting that he likes me.. well i talked to his gf and she said she isn't really interested in him anymore. well what do you guys think? should i tell his gf(my friend) that i have feelings for him and if she doesnt have feelings for him then she should let go? or whatever else you guys think! please help!
I think you need to talk to the guy. Let him know you have feelings for him but that you don't want to do anything to hurt his relationship with his gf. Make sure he talks it over with his gf-you don't want to be the "other" girl. You could also just wait until they break up because if she isn't interested in him it probably won't last. The 2nd option is probably your best bet only because if she finds out you like him she might mysteriously start likign him again. Hope i helped!!!
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ok, Me and my friend have been BEST friends since 5th grade....and now I am going out with this guy....I love him sososo much!! and I think that she is getting jealous over him b/c I dunno....but she like plays childish games with me...like (sry, this is long) on friday night, i was talking to my b/f and hse was over at my house and we were in the same room and she calls me on her cellphone to tell me that she has to pee....WTF?!?! and I love her to death...I would never choose him over her....how do i let her know that without actually telling her....
hm! That's a tough one. I think communication is key for friendship. But a good idea would be to set aside some quality 2 on 2 time (you and her) at least once a week where you guys get together and catch up on gossip and talk or just hang out. Let her know shes important to you and that you wouldn't trade her friendship for anything in the world ....even a boyfriend (hint hint) Maybe you could invite her to hang out with your boyfriend a few times just so she gets to know him and doesn't think of him as a threatening figure! Hope this helps! keep me updated!!!
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Hi well like u know i lost prety much the friends that i was really close to before and well laitly i have had hard times of making new friends and well usually i'm really good about talking to people and introdusing my self to them but i just dont know what to do anymore.....what do you think is wrong with me..? and well i hope this site will help me to make some new girls/guy friends that i can talk to when i need some one to hear me out!
hey hun-im sorry you feel like making friends is hard-for some people it is very very difficult. I was in a similar situation earlier this year. A lot of my my friends are a year older than me and they left for college at the beginning of this year. It was very difficult for me in the beginning because i felt i had already found my true friends-i so didn't wanna start over because making friends takes ENERGY! and a lot of WORK! Anyways, there is NOTHING wrong with you! People move at their own pace and maybe it takes you longer to open up to people or to really get to know them. If you want to make new friends, you're gonna have to put yourself out there, be friendly, be open, try to find people with similar interests as yourself and then make the first move. And you have a friend in me! Good luck and keep me updated!
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Letely one of my very good friend has been acting a little strange... i dont know if she is mad at me or not. I already asked her if she was like 2 weeks ago so i cant ask again really. your goodwith advice
-beccers_boo
hey sweetie! im sorry your friend has been acting strange. And to be honest with you it could be 1 of 2 things! 1) it could have absolutely nothing to do with you and she just needs time and space to go through problems shes having. 2) It could have something to do with you.
If i were you, i would approach her (one last time) and just lay it all out. You could say something like "Hey i feel like you've been acting a little different lately and i was wondering if something was wrong or if you are upset about something. I don't know if i did anything wrong but if i did please let me know. If there is anything i can do to help you also i would be glad to talk it out with you." You might also want to add that you are happy to give space when your friend needs it.
Sometimes the hardest part of being a friend is just being there even when you can't help. I hope this helps and please keep me updated!!! Good luck!
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One of my really good friends has been really really depressed ever sence her and her bf broke up. A few days ago she started to cut herself.I am really worried about her. Only me and a few of her friends know that she is doing it. I really want her to stop it because I am scared that she is going to do something she will regret. It hurts me a lot to see her like this. I am in practically the same situation that she is in. I want to help her and we always talk about it. ButI feel like there is not much I can do for her right now but try and always be there for her. What should I do?
Being there means knowing when to get help. Hopefully she will get over her bf before she ends up causing major damage to herself. If the cutting is getting serious you need to get your friend help ASAP by telling a trusted adult. Hurting yourself does not solve your problems, it just temporarily numbs the emotional pain and puts in into something physical. Although i agree that emotional pain is far worse than physical pain, cutting yourself is not the answer. Best of luck and keep me updated!
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Okay so i need some help in helpin out my best friend.. so here goes with some background information. my friend met this kid over the summer at her camp, well it turns out he lives in the neighborhood where we go to school at. well my friend chills with him sometimes and she really likes him ALOT, but the thing is he says he doesn't want a girlfriend and everything but he's trying to get my friend to have sex with him!! i mean she asked me for advice and i told her she shouldn't because i mean she's 14 and she shouldn't lose her virginity to this guy who she doesn't even go with.. and it's kind of obvious that all he wants is to hit it.. well she went to 2nd base with him and i'm afraid she's gonna do it with him and he's gonna like stop talkin to her or just use her for sex. i mean i don't want that to happen to her but she won't listen to me she like wants him to like her. and he'll say all this stuff like yea after we have sex we'll go out, and i'm like yea bullshit. but she believes his lies and she needs to wake up and smell the coffee..lol.. so what can i do to help her out? help me out please. thankies i'll rate you too.. buh bye.
having been in a situation somewhat similar to that of your friend id have to commend you for being a good friend to notice what shes getting herself into. Sometimes its a lot easier to notice the mistakes people make when you are on the outside looking in. The most you can do for your friend is WARN her about the consequences of sex including pregnancy and mental/emotional/physical changes. Give her your take on the whole situation-she may or may not listen and in any case be there for her and support her decisions regardless of the outcome. Sometimes experience is the only thing that can get through to a person. In any case I hope she trusts and respects your judgement and opinions. Let me know how it works out.
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I just moved to arizona from texas.. my best friend cried wen i left, and said that i would always be her best friend.. but its a couple of months after i moved, and she doesnt seem to pay much attention anymore.. She never calls, writes letters, or emails... we talk to eachother on AIM sometimes, but wenever i talk to her im so happy! but i feel like she is forgetting about me even though she says im not.. i get so depressed about it, and i cry.i would do anything for her!! she is soo important to me! we tell eachother everything and anything.. wat can i do to get her to relize wats shes doing to me without hurting her feelings?
Hey! First off im so sorry your best friend moved :( My best friend went off to college this year and shes about half way across the country. As sad as i was i came to the realization that things change AND PEOPLE change and its all inevitable so first you gotta accept that. Its definately gotta be hard for you to get adjusted to your new surroundings not to mention 1) get to know the area/people, 2) make new friends, 3) find ur place to fit in. So instead of living back at home i think itd be better to focus your energy on getting adjusted to your new surroundings. Being a best friend means being there for your friend even when shes not there for you. I know that can be hard but let her know you are there for her. When my best friend moved away for college we decided to designate a time each week when we would call each other. So far its working great!!! Keep me updated and stay strong. I believe you can work it out.
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