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need help in helpin my bestfriend out !!
Okay so i need some help in helpin out my best friend.. so here goes with some background information. my friend met this kid over the summer at her camp, well it turns out he lives in the neighborhood where we go to school at. well my friend chills with him sometimes and she really likes him ALOT, but the thing is he says he doesn't want a girlfriend and everything but he's trying to get my friend to have sex with him!! i mean she asked me for advice and i told her she shouldn't because i mean she's 14 and she shouldn't lose her virginity to this guy who she doesn't even go with.. and it's kind of obvious that all he wants is to hit it.. well she went to 2nd base with him and i'm afraid she's gonna do it with him and he's gonna like stop talkin to her or just use her for sex. i mean i don't want that to happen to her but she won't listen to me she like wants him to like her. and he'll say all this stuff like yea after we have sex we'll go out, and i'm like yea bullshit. but she believes his lies and she needs to wake up and smell the coffee..lol.. so what can i do to help her out? help me out please. thankies i'll rate you too.. buh bye.
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Well you really need to talk to your friend. Apparently he isn't as great of a guy as she thinks he is if hes pressuring her into sex. Somehow, you have got to get this into her head.
I mean if your friend wants to do it, then there is no stopping her.But as her friend, just do your best to convince her to hold onto her virginity for now. Hopefully she'll realize that he doesnt really like her and he's just using her.Hope I helped!
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you need to let her friend know that if she is still a virgin then she needs to keep it that way.she should lose it to someone that really cares about her.havin sex is not that great. if she gives it up for a dude she dont even go wit people will start to talk about her and she wont want that.jus talk to her and if she dont listen and she is jus tryin to get wit this guy and dismissin errything you sayin then let her make her mistake. she will see that you were right even if it hurts her after its all over. sometimes the only thing that can help a person is let them make the mistake. good luck ~*Alexis*~
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I don't know if your friend is aware of all the horrible consequences she can face, but a boy who wants to have sex with a 14 year old girl isn't interested in her at all, he is just pressuring your friend into doing it because he knows that she is curious, naive, and will give in to him easily. Sex in a non-marriage relationship will change the relationship and make it seem awkward. You can't force your friend to be abstinent, but let her know that if she decides to lose her virginity to this boy, then you aren't helping her out if she gets pregnant or a sexually transmitted disease, or if she moans that her "bf" was just using her. I suggest that your friend visits these websites:
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I really hope your friend makes the right decision. :]
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Tough love. Sit her down and tell her straight. Even if it makes her upset, do it anyway. Sometimes the best road isn't always the easiest. Make sure you assure her that your worried about her and that you just want her to be safe. Make sure she knows your fears and that you have something to back them up with! An argument (especially an accusation) is always stronger with examples. I hope I helped. Em'lee
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just tell her what kind of guy u think he is, that hes only into her for sex.. b like im ur best friend i wouldnt lie to u. does she know condoms rnt 100% safe? if not, tell her.. good luck!
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WOW. Thats very ingtense for your age! I think that you should tell them to back off. Make him change his mind. Confront him rudely telling him to back off your friend. Even tell her parents if it means something. She will probably hate you at first but she will come to relize when she is married, she will be happy to lose her virginity to the man she loves. Not likes.
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wow...This is a very though situation. Tell her that if she does that he is going to end up either a. using her more or b. leave her in the dust. Also tell her that condoms work i think 85% of the time. And believe it or not a lot of people get pregnant even when using them. Tell her that waiting until she is in love is better than now, Also say that having sex with him is not going to make him like her more. It is just going to make him USE her more. This is a very tough situation as i said, and i wish i could help you more. Leave a message in my inbox if you need more advice. I hope I helped and good luck.
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Let her know what can happen to her and what the consequences can be.Ask her if she really wants to waste her first time on some guy who isnt even interested for the person she really is.Try to talk to the guy.If it really comes down to it let her parents know whats going on.I mean she'd pry be mad but in the long run she'd be so happy you did.Your a good friend to her.Hope i helped and good luck with that.
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having been in a situation somewhat similar to that of your friend id have to commend you for being a good friend to notice what shes getting herself into. Sometimes its a lot easier to notice the mistakes people make when you are on the outside looking in. The most you can do for your friend is WARN her about the consequences of sex including pregnancy and mental/emotional/physical changes. Give her your take on the whole situation-she may or may not listen and in any case be there for her and support her decisions regardless of the outcome. Sometimes experience is the only thing that can get through to a person. In any case I hope she trusts and respects your judgement and opinions. Let me know how it works out.
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