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ok i like this boy and i have an idea that hes knw that i like him just by the way he acts around me i mean we flirt like all the time at skool everytime we see each other but my problem is .. he has a G/F he told me just a couple of dayz ago he was breakin up wit her for me... and that same afternoon my whole crew was talkin bout the arguement between him and his G/F not trying to b mean i was kinda happy about that lol newayz when i was leaving skool that day he pulled me to the side and got down on his knees and told me he loved me (which we've known each other for like ever) i kinda brush'd him off .. so then after the bell rings we talk some more but now were on a break for 5 dayz and today i started to think bout him and it brought tears to my eyez girls ur advice shud i tell him i love him or up my flirting game????**

Well, if you love the kid, then let him know but don't say it if you don't mean it. Those words w. no meaning could seriously hurt someone badly. So just follow your heart on this one. If you need anything else just leave one in my inbox.Happy to help
Ciara

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my friend ( i just found out ) hasnt eaten in 3 days....we think she is trying 2 become anerexic...even though she is really skinny....she said she cuts herself 2...me and my friend malerie dont no wat we can do 2 help her....i offer her food but she doesnt take it....and she always seems depressed

Well..before getting any one else involved sit down and ask her why shes doing this to herself.. and try to talk to her(shes bound to listen to a friend before an adult) but if your talk does nothing you really have to get an adult. This is a serious situation you have here.Also heres a number she can call for help:1-800-784-2433
If you need anything else..just leave one in my inbox..Happy to help
Ciara

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In order to understand this question you need to know a little background:
This guy lived two rooms down from me on a co-ed, all-feshman dorm floor and I never really talked to him before. But at my school (college) there was a big drinking fest and everyone is out drinking and socializing with people. I was standing in a large group of people outside, talking and drinking, with all the same age, and he comes to me and asks me if I could get him in to the dorm because he 'lost' or forgot his key. So a couple of people I was with, me and the guy, (lets call him P) walked back to the dorm. We hung out in the lobby for awhile and we all talked. The night is kinda hazy for me, but I remember most parts. ANYWAYS, later on, somehow the conversation lead to P staying with me in my room that night. So it happened, he spent the night and everything in my dorm room. Obviously it was hours after we had been drinking. But we did stuff. The next day he talked to me as if nothing happened. Now this school year started and I rarely see him. We both live off campus and when I do see him, we say hi, how are ya and everything but never a complete conversation. I don't want to keep him from class. But after I see him I just wanna grab him and kiss him like that night we spent together.

Now my question is, From all this background info, do you think he actually likes me, or do you think he was trying to get in my pants that night. BUT lately, he says hi, even if I dont see him walk past or something he makes sure I see him. Should I just stop him and make him late to his class and talk to him, see if he wants to get together some time. I dont have a clue at all. I really like the guy but I'm confused on what I should do.. If anyone could help me, that would be awesome!!


I'm really sorry this is long...

If he's going out of his way to say hello then he definitely wasn't just trying to get into your pants. I definitely think that he has a thing for you. So just pull him aside (he'll live if hes late just this once) get a number and make some plans! see where that takes you my dear! Hope I helped!
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Okay here is my problem, I have a boyfriend and i was sorta upset... i shouldn't of done what i did..... i went down to my ex boyfriend's house and i was talking to him and then one thing led to another and we sorta kissed... okay we did kiss ALOT! I love my boyfriend with all my heart and i am afriad if i don't tell him what happened that my ex will, so he could break me and him up! So should i tell him or not.... maybe i could get away with him not knowing and everything will be fine! But then again i am always thinking about it and it gets to me. Please help me Thanks alot.

I think you really need to tell him. Relationships are suppossed to be honest. Yes he is going to be hurt by this but its better you tell him then your ex. and plus, if you don't you're going to be carrying all the guilt around with you. So get it off your chest and just try to work things out with your boyfriend. Hope I helped!
Ciara

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Is it bad that my boyfriend is over protective? When ever i flirt he gets mad @ me...but he dosnt tell me other people do and its kinda noticable! But when we talk he dosnt say anything..n i dont want him to hold back anything when hes mad i want him to tell me...what should i do? He is always worried im goin to cheat on him with my ex (his best friend, because we are really good friends) He also says that he can see me and my best friend hooking up! Is this normal...hellpp

well it seems that this relationship is lacking on some trust! you have got to talk to him about this and let him know that your not gonna do anything stupid like cheat on him and also tell him that you want the relationship to be open which means that when either of you have something to say...you actually say it! Hope I helped!
Ciara

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my bf just recently got AIM to talk to me more since we go to diff skools...well he made a myspace (myspace.com) and on his where it says "Who Id Like To Meet" he put "A gurl with a nice body and who is not afraid to try new things" and where it says Status he put single...im soo hurt over it he sent me the link 2 it and he was like look i made a myspace...and idk if i shuld get mad @ this or birng it up? am i over exaggurating? how would i bring it up??? ugh....btw we been goin out 4 6 months and everything so far has been gr8...=\

um you definitely gotta bring it up to him. 6 months is a pretty long relationship so I dont know what going on in this boys head for him to do that? So u have to ask him what that is all about. If he acts like a jerk and doesnt have an answer(although I dont think there could be an answer for that) then I'd break it off..bcuz if thats the case then apparently he thinks he could just use you..Good Luck! Hope I helped!
Ciara

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15/m
I feel really gay having to ask a girl about this but I just have to know. I really like this girl that I am good friends with but I don't know if she feels the same way. Like when we hang out with the rest of our friends she seems to give me more attention then the rest of the guys but what if I am just imagining things? what should i do? help!

Well it sounds like she may have a crush on you. To know for sure why dont you try to have some alone time with her. Just hang out alone without the rest of the gang. I'm sure you'll know in no time then go for it and ask her out! good luck! Hope I helped!
Ciara

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14/f
I guess you could say I dress differently(im goth)
and everyone in school always makes fun of my style and my parents hate it. See I live in Short Hills(which you probably know of seeming your from NJ too) and everyone expects me to dress all ritzy like the rest of them but I like to stand out.I just want everyone to back off already! I mean should I just suck it up and start to blend with the crowd?
-Not so fashionable

You definitely shouldn't "blend with the crowd" who cared if everyone else doesnt like your style. You shouldnt dress to impress you should dress the way you feel most comfortable and like yourself. So just forget all those negative comments. And as for your parents, just tell them that this is how you express yourself and if you don't like it im sorry but you'll just have to live w. it!=P Hope I helped!
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ok so here's the thing...There is this boy that had a crush on me last year and I didn't like him that way. But this year we are flirting w/ each other like crazy and I don't know if he likes me. How do I know!! I mean guys flirt w/ me but most of them just do it for fun, and I think I may really like this by now! HELP! I rate 5 for the effort!

Alright..well I think he does bcuz he liked you last year so there is a very good chance that he still does..so just go for it. Hope I helped
Ciara

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ok, Me and my friend have been BEST friends since 5th grade....and now I am going out with this guy....I love him sososo much!! and I think that she is getting jealous over him b/c I dunno....but she like plays childish games with me...like (sry, this is long) on friday night, i was talking to my b/f and hse was over at my house and we were in the same room and she calls me on her cellphone to tell me that she has to pee....WTF?!?! and I love her to death...I would never choose him over her....how do i let her know that without actually telling her....

Alrighty..well the only way to let her know is to tell her. Shes just scared right now that shes gonna loose her best friend and shes just doing what she can not to. You just have to reassure her that you're not going anywhere. Just flat out tell her that she'll always come first but sometimes you would just like to hang out with your boyfriend alone. She'll understand. Hope I helped!
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OK... im a freshman and theres this boy that ive been liking for a week or so.. we always flirt when we see each other i.e he takes my pop, we play fight etc.

and i really like him alot and i wanna go out with him but im not sure if he really likes me enough to go further... So what should i do? How do i find out? Should i jus ask him out myself?
:( im jus really confused rite now.

Please help! Ill give a 5 jus for effort! thanks a bunch!

*confused chic*

Well it sounds like he has got a crush on you too, but you never know with boys. So before asking him out..give him some time to make the first move. Ask him if he wants to hang out that weekend..maybe the movies or just one of your houses..see where that takes you then go from there..good luck!Hope I helped!
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ok i just broke up with my boyfrend like last monday... well theres a dance comin up next friday... n ithink he still likes me but he likes another girl named caroline and he already asked her oout n everything like 2 days afta he dumped me!! but she said no.. ne ways.. hes obveously gonna dance with caroline but if he asks to dance with her but if he asks to dance with me.. should i? wat if he trys to kiss me or something? i need help! i still hav a small microscopic crush on him (the reason he dumped me was because he didnt want to get sick of me n then when we really had to break up tht he neva would talk to me again) n the girl he likes is so much bossyer like she tells him wat to wear n how to style his hair... i neva did tht!!! wat do i do!?!?

Well if you ask me this guy sounds like a total jerk. He broke up with you for a stupid reason. I dont mean to be so harsh but just from hearing the reason why he broke up with you makes me think he never liked you in the first place. I know you dont want to hear this but its just the truth. So dont dance with him/hook up/even talk to him bcuz hes just using you to get some and you dont wanna get sucked back into his little games..sure he may seem like Prince Charming but believe me..forget him and move on..any boy that breaks up with his girl and asks another out 2 days later is just an ass. Hope I helped!
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k..my friend is out of town right now and i like her boyfriend..the other day we madeout in his truck when he drove me home..and we've been hanging out a lot since she left for thanksgiving..i feel really guilty but i just cant get him off of my mind..i like him way too much..and i dunno what to do!..i swear im gunna end up going crazy..what should i do??

Okay, I think you really need to talk to your friend. First off, her boyfriend is nothing but scum if he makes out with one of her friends and hes just sucking you into his little mind games so you need to tell her so that she no longer has to waist her time with him. Of course shes gonna be mad at you but its for the best. And dont worry, after awhile she'll realize that even tho you did go behind her back & hook up with her boyfriend you were also trying to protect her from getting hurt..and thats why you told her.
Hope I Helped!
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well..okay. i like this guy and he has a gf..oh wait. it gets better..haha well he's always leading me on and hinting that he likes me.. well i talked to his gf and she said she isn't really interested in him anymore. well what do you guys think? should i tell his gf(my friend) that i have feelings for him and if she doesnt have feelings for him then she should let go? or whatever else you guys think! please help!

Okay, well first..make sure you clarify that your friend no longer has feelings for her bf. Then ask her if she planning on breaking it off w. him and if she does then let her know that you have feelings for him(Dont tell her to let go tho). See how she reacts. If she really doesnt like the idea of you and her ex then I'd forget about it. Friends before boys..right? But if she doesnt mind then go for it and be thankful that you have such an understanding friend!=)Hope I Helped!

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Ok I have this friend and I thought she was ok until recently I was dumped by my boyfriend and now she flirts with him like hell the other day he was saying how much he hates her so he doesn't even like her but is trying to make me jelious and I'm sick of it because I'm not over being dumped and she's saying stuff like oh he's flirting with me now and keeps trying to hold his hand should I ditch her because she's really getting me down she's keps going on about him 24/7 some friend she is I'm really gutted but have just kept it all in me and not said a word but I'm really upset about it but can't even cry because my feelings are so deep inside of me please if you can help me if you can't then ok

"some friend she is"..that is so totally correct. As a friend she should be helping you get over the break-up, not making it worse. And its not healthy to keep everything bottled in bcuz its just gonna add up and believe me, nothing but bad comes from that. So what you need to do is talk to this "friend" of yours and tell her to shut her mouth! the last thing you want is to hear her blabbing on about how great your ex is! And tell her that what you need is for hr to start acting like a friend. If that doesn't work, then foget about her..Hope I helped!

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hey everyone! omg- i need some help!! okay, well this guy, Eric, like me alot and asked me out last night, and I said yes. But, my ex boyfriend(our relationship was 1 year)is coming down from Oregon tomorrow and i still love him. Help, i dont know what to do!! i really love my ex and i still like Eric alot. I am sooo confused!! please help me!!

Alrighty, well you have to do some evaluating. Apparently you and your ex broke up for a reason. Maybe its for the best if you just stay away. And you also just said yes to Eric. And if you knew that your ex was coming down maybe you shouldve held off on your new relationship until your ex left so that anything that may happen won't matter;). So what I'm saying is that you really want to avoid hurting Eric but you also have to be happy at the same time. So just think which boy means more to you and then talk to the other about it. If you cant make the choice maybe you're not quite ready for a relationship?
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Okay so i need some help in helpin out my best friend.. so here goes with some background information. my friend met this kid over the summer at her camp, well it turns out he lives in the neighborhood where we go to school at. well my friend chills with him sometimes and she really likes him ALOT, but the thing is he says he doesn't want a girlfriend and everything but he's trying to get my friend to have sex with him!! i mean she asked me for advice and i told her she shouldn't because i mean she's 14 and she shouldn't lose her virginity to this guy who she doesn't even go with.. and it's kind of obvious that all he wants is to hit it.. well she went to 2nd base with him and i'm afraid she's gonna do it with him and he's gonna like stop talkin to her or just use her for sex. i mean i don't want that to happen to her but she won't listen to me she like wants him to like her. and he'll say all this stuff like yea after we have sex we'll go out, and i'm like yea bullshit. but she believes his lies and she needs to wake up and smell the coffee..lol.. so what can i do to help her out? help me out please. thankies i'll rate you too.. buh bye.

Well you really need to talk to your friend. Apparently he isn't as great of a guy as she thinks he is if hes pressuring her into sex. Somehow, you have got to get this into her head.
I mean if your friend wants to do it, then there is no stopping her.But as her friend, just do your best to convince her to hold onto her virginity for now. Hopefully she'll realize that he doesnt really like her and he's just using her.Hope I helped!
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I started dating this really great guy... but he is really sensitive. He broke up with me and lied to me about why. We got back togethre and he did it again. This time i got upset with him. He was being a complete jerk. I dont want our freindship to be wasted but i feel all weird around him and he is getting on my nerves. Should i forgive him and try to forget about feeling weird or should i leave him alone?

Well this is something that you really have to ask yourself. Do you cherish the friendship so much that you are willing to put the past..well in the past or do you just want to completely move on and never talk to him again? Whatever your decision is, it would only be fair to talk to him about it to and see what he has to say. Hope I helped!
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I've recently become very much in love with Five Iron Frenzy and think that ska music on the whole is the greatest type of music ever. I've been meaning to look around for other great ska bands, but I don't know where to look! Does anyone know of any good ones that have cds I could check out?

Save Ferris rocks=)
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me and mai bf of 6th months r reallie close n we barely ever fight but we got into this fight (which was my fault) about a week ago and i apologized n erything and he forgave me and it felt like everything was back to normal..(we go to diff skools) and hes off this whole week and i hav skool till wednesday but hes been like blowing me off...we wer suposed to do something saturday...and i called and he wasnt home all day and then sunday he was "too busy cleaning his room" i was like wtf he has all week and then so i havent seen him all weekend...not even friday bc he went somewhere with his friends....idk wats goin on with him...should i call him tonite n ask him is he mad @ me n tell him how i feel? or do i wait for him 2 call me?

yea..i would definitely call him..sometimes if you want something down you just have to do it yourself. He may be the type that has something to say but just doesnt know how to say it..so call him up and pull it out of him. If you don't you may be waiting forever for that phone to ring.
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