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I joined this site when I was very young (hence the ridiculous username) but now I feel I'mn old enough to give out advice.Ask me anytime. I have had my fair shares of family issues, as well as good at solving relationship problems.
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im12 i just got a boy friend 1or2 weeks ago and his little sister is my only girl friend / best friend and shes mad because i'm spending more time playing with him and not her.witch one should i choose mbest friend or boy friend and i dont want to break up with him ill just stop hanging out with him instead ill play with her
you don't need to choose between them, you just need to find the right balance.
When you make a plan to with your friend, you need to make it clear that you are there to hang out with her - so if you are at their house, acknowledge him, but your focus is on your friend. Have a word with your boyfriend and tell him that when you are with his sister, you want to spend time with her, ask him to understand - I'm sure he will.
If the sister is still feeling angry, ask her for to come round to yours or hers for a sleepover? Explain to her you are going to find the right balance and that you apologize if you've unintentionally hurt her feelings. Sleepovers are great fun! Films, make overs, baking - it's a great way to makeup and put the mistakes behind.
Your situation seems difficult, but I assure you it can be handled easily if dealt in the right way.
Please message me to let me know how the situation works out.
i've been friends with my best guy friend for about 5 years now. we use to be really close but lately we've drifted. the problem is; the things he does to me makes me wonder if he even is a good friend. i need an outsiders view because of course i love him, we're really close so i wouldn't be able to be like "hes not a good friend to me"
if i were to text him when i was drunk and say something like..."i love you best friend" he would never say anything back. whenever we text he's ALWAYS the one to end the conversation by not texting back to something i said. when i tell him my problems, he doesn't even try to help and console me he just says.."that sucks." he doesn't seem to like ANY guy that i talk to, even if i'm just friends with them. he'll be like.. your friends with him!!!? why!! he never calls or texts me to hangout, i'm always the one who has to text him. when we're together with a group of people and there are girls he will flirt with them and try to make me jealous, which just annoys me. it seems like he will only call me "best friend" when he tries to get something out of me, like when he really wants something. i mean just things like that, that makes me think... is he being a true good friend? is this something that typical guys do?
don't get me wrong he does to alot of good things! he accepts me for me. he's seen me with no make-up, my hair not done and scrubbing and he doesn't care. he always can tell when something is wrong. when we're hanging out he can always make me laugh and have a goodtime. seeing him makes my bad days better. he's the only guy who i can truly trust. he's the only one who i will fight with and know that i am mad at and should be mad at, yet i can NEVER stay mad at him. i've talked to him about him seeming like we're not "best friends" anymore and everytime i bring it up he doesn't seem to understand and thinks im crazy for thinking any of that. it's like he doesnt know that hes being like that towards me and that i do overanalyze everything.
am i overanalyzing? should i be worried about our friendship?
Have you ever thought the fact he doesnt like any guy you date or friends with, or that he tries to make you jealous, means he might LIKE YOU!? As in "more than friends". It's pretty obvious in my eyes. Make up your mind if you like him, and if your friendship is a good as you say it is, bring up the fact you don't feel you're good friends- BACK IT UP, gives reasons (ie - you never text me back, you never like anyone Im friends with or date) and ask HIM why does do that you? Explain to him, it's upsetting you, and that's not what friends do to eachother.
You're not analyzing too much :) But I think he likes you. Confront him, honesty is the best policy, you won't feel comofrtable until you've spoken about it properly.
Talk to a friend, they'lll know you both - so they'll be able to understand and see the situation clearer.
Hope I Helped :)
My friend told me that she is gay and I do not want to be friends with her anymore. It's not that I don't like her as a person but I cannot grasp the fact that she has become a lesbian. Just months ago she was dating men and now she is claiming homosexuality. I don't like it and the entire thing makes me uncomfortable. I'm trying to avoid her now more than ever since she has confessed her sexuality to me and I feel that I need to just tell her to her face why I no longer have interest in our friendship. How should I tell her? What should I say? I don't want to come off as cruel by saying, "You're a homosexual and that makes me too uncomfortable to continue a friendship with you," but at the same time I think it sounds most appropriate because it is the truth.
I know it isn't fair of me to not tell her why I have been avoiding contact with her. I know I should tell her but I'm not sure how I should go about this. I was thinking a neutral setting would be most appropriate but I don't want to embarrass her if she gets upset in some form.
Does anyone have experience with this or any ideas of how I should handle this matter? Thank you.
You have a friendship. Think about it - she thought she could trust you because you are her friend and that you would judge her, but you've done just that.
Just because she is a lesbian does not mean she fancies you, or infact every other woman out there. You should be happy the fact she is happy, that's what friends do. They support eachother. Why don't you just talk to her about it - I am sure she will understand that you're wierded out by it, it takes a while to adjust and accept new things.
Being lesbian is normal to her, you dont see her rejecting you because you are straight.
If anyone should end the friendship, it's her. You have no right to reject someone who has done nothing wrong to you. You shut out people in your life who have hurt you or done wrong, not someone who has the decency to be honest with you.
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I apologize in advance if I sound really naïve for asking this
Have any of you ever just made out with a friend but then simply continued your friendship afterwards? Can you explain to me how such a thing could happen? Like, I can kind of get how it would start if the mood and setting were right, but then what about after you were done? Wouldn't there be a sense of awkwardness between you two, or an unanswered question of a possible relationship? It just seems like it would be really awkward after that.
You see, the whole idea of just making out with a friend and then going on with the friendship completely baffles me. I've always thought that making out was something special that should only happen between people in a relationship...I mean, I understand the idea of a hookup, but isn't that usually not between people who are considerably good friends?
The reason that I ask is that there is one particular guy friend that I have in mind that I know made out with one of my friends a month or two ago and they didn't even know each other that well [not as close as me and him]. That's what kind of got me thinking. We might be hanging out soon and I don't actually like him like a crush but there's some interest and I could do with a nice snog because I kind of miss it. I just don't want it to be weird between us afterwards because he's a really fun guy and I don't want us to not be friends after it because I feel weird. It's not that I'm uncomfortable with the idea of making out with him, I'm just uncomfortable with what might happen later. Any advice?
P.S. Sorry for the length
It depends on a few things really
- How tight you are as friends. If you're good friends, its not likley to ruin your friendship
- How you both value "making out". If you guys are on the same page, that its just a bit of fun, then you guys are likley to be mates after. HOWEVER , example - If you made out for fun, but HE made out with you because he REALLY likes you - thats where the friendship would get rocky because it meant something different.
You just need to make sure you guys are comfortable enough with each other, to make out, laugh it off.
When it happens to me or my friends, you know, just for a bit of fun - usually dares, it's no big deal. What it means to you, should mean the same to him. But if it means something different, thats where it goes wrong.
Take the risk if your friendships strong enough.
Ps - The only way it will feel wierd, is if YOU make it wierd. Behave around eachother as you would normally, it's not difficult, right?
Sage :)
so lately my crush/freind/stand partner in orchestra (his name is alex) has been treating me a little bit diffrently than he has been like today when he wanted to get my attention (he ussually just says my name) he touched my shoulder yesterday when we were walking to our lockers (they'r just a set of lockers apart) and i told him (becouse i was mad at 2 people that day) that i dont get mad too easily but when i do get mad i get really mad then i told him that he doesnt want to get me mad so then (jokenly) he called me a loser then when he said that he was just joking he touched my shoulder and one day it was really cold out in the morning and we were waiting to go into the school and i just had short sleeves and jeans on and i was shivering so he said that i could wear his jacket i said no and today during orchestra when i told him (becouse he asked) that i dont have a bf he told me that he is gonna ask a girl out but i have no idea who she is but is there a possibility that its me today when we were handing back our sight reading music (he ussually just says my name or puts the music on the stand) but he put the sheet music on my head instead of just saying my name so i would know that the music from the people in the stand behind me needs to be handed up and when i was handing it to the person in the stand in front of mine and alex's i said (while laughing) hey sorta like a why did u do that hey not like a annoyed or mad hey i am not new at the school and him and i have been good freinds since the start of the school year.him i talk alot more to him than i have with my bff reenay this week i have probobly talked to him more than i have to reenay all school year.he does get really annoyed and mad (he does not get annoyed or mad easily at all or very often) if when i am talking to him and one of his other freinds interupes me but he does not get really annoyed if i interupt him or the person that he is talking to but i try not to do that.he asked me how my bf is doing then i told him that i dont have a bf and he said oh and that he is gonna ask a girl out then he started to act a little diffrently around me
He does like you :)
Normally, a girls instinct is right anyway.
He's flirting with you a lot, and it's suc a typical thing for a guy to ask if you have a boyfriend, or that he is going to ask a girl out soon ,and not tell you who that girl is, so I'm sure he likes you.
He's giving you a lot of clues and vibes, letting you know he likes you , give him time, or give him vibes back and just maybe he'll admit how he feels. If not, just make the move and ask him what he thinks about you :) You've got nothing to lose, he's flirting with you so much, it's obvious.
Good Luck, He Likes You
Sage :)
we've been friends for over five years... but the last year i began to notice the extent of her devotion to this friendship... it seemed to me that i was the one putting so much effort into the relationship... we're both international students from france and where we met (in college) was far far away from home. I must say first that i really think she has issues... things i thought were irrelevant to our friendship until they proved otherwise.... for starters her mother brought up both her girls to be clingy and withdrawn... their dad is out of the picture since her second daughter was born.. he's back in Australia i think... both girls hang out with each other (the younger one is worse! her only friend is her older sister and she refuses to go out with out her mum and sister at 18, while my friend does leave the house on her own but only to be completely alone) both are very very extremely antisocial... anyway the older one doesn't have any female friends... and we met because i was the closest thing to home...
those she does have (like me for instance) she keeps at a distance only visible from her side... she revels in getting attention from boys (and being the only blond in the entire country, she gets the attention easily... happy with the worst guy out of them) really i've only ever seen her relatively loud and funny or human when she's around guys...
anyway so i had a horrible horrible year 2 years ago and i needed her help and asked... she didn't offer it and began to withdraw... all i needed from her was emotional support and her being there for me... at that point i'd returned to france and she was still in our college... so the distance doesn't help...
what hurts the most is that she pretends nothing is wrong and manipulated me to feel like i did something wrong to her (SAYING THAT I HURT HER BY PUTTING HER IN A POSITION WITH MY FAMILY -for telling them about the issue- AND OUR FRIENDS!!! even though the problem was between my ex and I and nothing to do with her,my family, the group who are mostly girls and who she doesn't like and who had nothing to do with any of it!!!) she stopped talking to me after i confronted her and thought i dealt with the problem... she made it seem like there was none and that my apology was accepted! (i still don't know what i apologized for!) even coming to my town when she was home for summer and spent 2 weeks with my family ... as if nothing was wrong and stepping out of her element away from her mum and sis....
me and my ex are best friends too but with me moving away things started to fade... and she took the opportunity to get closer to him and now they're best friends without me... sometimes i feel she does it purposely... with all the boys... but why this one?? he's probably the only other true friend she had besides me and 2 more guys ... and the fact that she accepted him into her circle (granted he is a guy) was a cue that i did have some higher standing in her friends list... i don't know why she is treating me this way now... did she need me for my social skills?? i don't understand... i mean she never ever invited me over... she never let me into her life.. but she was deeply immersed into mine!
i feel so hurt.. I've invested all this time and emotion not to mention stress over her and this is what i get...
i know i know let it go who needs friends like her... but its really hurting me that she could abandon me like this (i am not sure if she even considered me as a best friend or just an ear she could chew on for the time being) ... I might be going back to college to attend a friends graduation... naturally i won't call and tell her i am in town... what should i do if i see her around or if she calls... i am really hurt and there is no point in talking to her ... it's useless... she's manipulative and she's wittier than i when it comes to face to face confrontations... i tend to think about what people say instead of my own thoughts hindering me from saying everything i have in my heart...
How should i deal with her? i am cutting her from my life but what do i do incase i see her? i really don't want anything to do with her and even considering deleting all her emails and blocking her from facebook... i want to forget her... but i don't want her to know she got to me...
It seems to me she relied on you at the start of the friendship,
for fun and confidence and social skills etc.
But when you went away, I think she had the get used
to the idea of standing on her own two feet, and
tried to fit in the environment. So, in fitting in,
and living in that community she has changed.
And it feels probarbly upsetting to you because
she no longer feels the need to depend on you.
She's gained her social skills and confidence,
and although you guys probarbly had a
good connection, and stuff, when you left -
she gained attention, and more friends.
She left that old life behind that you were part of.
I'm trying to put myself in her position,
and I think she fits in, she has friends
and quite frankly, in her eyes,
your just a set back...
She's changed, and you didnt.
and yes it hurts.
But at least you can turn around and see
that you're the bad person, you're
not the fake person. She is.
I think its time to move on.
You're a good person and you shouldt waste your time
on someone who doesnt deserve it.
She's hurt you and therefore doesnt deserve you.
And if she cared, she would of contacted or spoke to you etc
So that just shows how much she really cares about
your "friendship".
Just count yourself lucky, that she has the problems
and not you.
So my best friend Amy and I are not friends anymore because i caught her in a lie. I always felt like she was lying to me, but didn't say anything to her because i didn't want to seem like a bad friend. Here's the story.
Amy told my friend Sara something she did with a boy, and she begged Sara not to tell anyone. But when Sara was talking to me one day it slipped out of her mouth. Sara thought i knew because the 3 of us were best friends. It was a total lie, and Amy found out Sara told me and got mad at us. Amy said Sara twisted the story, but Sara is not the person to twist stories. And i guess i'm a bad friend for believing Sara.
I tried talking to Amy and she is just so rude about everything i say. I'm trying to be a good friend but i feel like im wasting my time trying to fix our friendship. What should i do?
Once a liar always a liar.
And If you Lie = you dont deserve to have friends
Therefore For Amy doesnt deserve to have you.
If she has only lied a couple of times -
thats okay because people make mistakes.
She may want to impress because she
highly respects you all
You got to think why she'd lie.
She might see you guys as a threat..
I dont know.Only she can answer why she lies
HOWEVER...
If she lies a lot, dont bother with her.
You can tell her you want to start over etc etc
But she wont change. If she's lied to you before,
what makes you think she wont the next time?
She probarbly enjoyed the attention she got
when she said she did stuff with a boy, so
she'll want more attention and lie more.
.
Amy got caught out, and even though SHE lied, she wants you to feel bad so it looks as if YOU'RE the bad guy.
Don't be friends with someone who is a liar and maniupulative.
You can be civil, but dont just waste your time.
Anyway, thats just my view on it.
I've had my fair share of liars in my time and they have never changed. So I changed. I stopped being gulliable and thinking things will work out when they won't.
I was just wondering and wanted to ask....What do you think about first cousins dating each other??
I personally think it's very strange, all my cousins are boys, and I don't know. They're like brothers
But I guess if you like someone, you like someone
it shouldn't matter about other people think, obviously it easier said and done.
what does it really mean to "open up" to someone? is it just telling them your secret? why does some people someone open up to someone even though they havent known eachother for long?
Opening up is starting to express your thoughts and feelings, opinions, talking about daily life, talking about - things that bother you, school, life, secrets,dreams hopes - anything
Opening up is generally referred to/for quiet /not very confident people or people who find it hard to talk about some subjects as it is too painful - like talkign about the death of your parent,friend etc
opening up can be telling a secret too
Some people open to people they dont really know for many reasons. They could relate to that person or have found a connection and have found that they understand - so they begin to open up - they feel they have this trust. They may open up for advice, guidance, attention and find saying things to someone you don't really know will help them get to know you - and form friendships. They also may need someone to listen and not judge.
Hope I helped
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15f.
i know you guys are probably sick of all the damn questions about friends and friendship issues, but i have a simple question: do i have a right to be upset considering the following:
i used to be really good friends with this girl, but then she got a boyfriend and EVERYTHING changed.
the first time she hurt me was when she told me she went to third base with her boyfriend FOURTH months after. and i know you're like, "um well that's her personal business with her boyfriend. no reason to be jealous, girl." BUT she told two other friends who aren't as close with her as i am BEFORE ME. she has never done that to me before. she used to tell me everything. i thought i would have been the first to know...
the second time she hurt me was today. when her boyfriend told me that one of our really good friends got practically raped. SIX MONTHS AGO. she does not know that i know, but those same two girls even knew before i did. this really got me upset.
do i or do i not have a right to be upset with her?
In my opinion I'd chill a little. I mean I'd be a little annoyed but dont blow it out of proportion
Some friends go to different people for different things. Like she probarbly told the other girls because she actually MIGHT be closer to them when she needs to confide in someone, or if they are pretty good adivce givers.
Also, if one of your good friends got raped - you should be more angry with her for not telling you than your actual best friend. Why should she tell you? Being raped is something confidential..maybe your best friend didn't want to embarass your good friend like that.
Your a little senstive howver I would be angry like you. Just let that go a little. Your best friend has other friends, and talks to them for different things, so let that go. SHe doesn't have to be tied all the way down to you. Not that im implyin that you want her to be.
I guess what im sayin is dont get angry! She was proabrbly doing it unintentional
Okay...Im not creative...at all. So I was wondering if you guys could help me come up with some gift ideas for my friends. Due to the recession, something I could make, personal, would be best. I really appreaciate the help. Thank you!
A photo album with all your memories or a scap book? Or even burnt cd's of your fave songs, or songs which have a personal memories!
I gave all my friends photo albums last year and they totally loved them - i had old cinema tickets, old pictures to new pictures.
I havn't met anyone that hasn't liked it!
Give it a try!
Ok So, I'm 15 and my friend is 14. There's this guy that is 22 and she realy likes him. We talked the other night and she told me a whole bunch of things that really concerns me. First, This 22 year old guy that she likes has a girlfriend, and she is also one of my friends. Second, everytime him and her hug, he grabs her boob. She told me that one time, when they were walking around they started making out and it turned into more than just a makeout. He actually pulled down her shorts and underwear and fingered her. I can't believe she let him. I just don't want his girlfriend to get hurt, and I dont know what to tell my friend. Ive tried to talk to her but maybe im not saying the right things. Thanks for your help
Some girls are so blind that they dont realise what they are actually doing. I know you are suprised that your friend would do such a thing but there could be many reasons why she let him - she might think he wouldn't be interested her anymore or maybe she thinks she's mature enough to have sexual activity. I think you should remind her he does have a girlfriend - it might make her see that no only is he getting a piece of her but a piece of his girlfriend too - it's like he gets what he wants when he wants. If she doesn't listen to the advice that you give to her maybe you should think about telling his girlfriend - since she is your friend. If she found out you knew how angry would she be with you? Remind your 14 year old friend the concequences of her actions, and if she doesn't listen - tell th girlfriend the truth , even if gets angry at you - least you know you stopped the worst from happening
I have a friend who constantly needs attention. It was my friends birthday, but she made everyone pay attention to her. She thinks she's above everyone, and is 'different' just to be 'different', rather than being herself completely. I know thats a complicated concept. Anyway, the other day she was being mad annoying and i told her to be quiet and she blew up on me. She just recently told me how boring I am, so I think its my turn to tell her how attention-seeking she can be. Any suggestion?
first off when she wants attention don't give it to her. No matter how much she tries to grab your attention, tries to annoy you, ignore it completley -that's firstly how she'll stop
second of all, when it is someones birthday party or something, make sure you remind her " it's so and so's birthday - dont spoil it right now" or something along those lines
She called you boring only for you to get a reaction - so she can have more attention
the only way to stop it is to completly ignore it , and not let her get the better of you. Remind not to take the spotlight from others and just ignore anything she does. She wants attention so dont give it to her. You've tried enough for her not to look like such an attention seeker, so leave her to do it by herself, she'll be the one looking like a fool. It sounds mean because it isnt right to bail on her but maybe leaving her to do it will make other people tell her and then she might just listen to them and realise you aren't the only one telling her to stop. Ignoring is the key
x
Perhaps some of you have been in this situation. What is your opinion on how best to deal with friends who rarely make time to nuture the friendship? Sometimes it seems so one sided with me putting in the most effort. I have always been there for her through life's ups and downs, but when I am down, or when I simply want to get together it feels as if I am bothering her. This is a 30+ year friendship and there have been times when I just quit making contact because I was frustrated. I am about at that point again, but maybe I am in the wrong and should just keep trying, and inviting and calling etc. I tend to get dissapointed though because I look forward to getting together and usually she declines.
I wouldn't say I have so much knowledge on this friendship but i have that's a 12 year friendship.
I think that because you guys have been together for such a long time that she maybe taking you for granted. You guys are probarbly so close [ well not now] her declining, you'd understand. Maybe she is just tired and stressed. What you should do is ask her to go out - somewhere nice like a restaurant or a spa and make sure the date is early in advance so she cant say no. If she refuses let her know how you feel. I think she doesn't know that you friendship is decaying. But the only way you can save it is to tell her how you feel. Maybe when you are down - she can't support you because she doesn't know how - some people arent good in situations like that. Tell her how you feel - you never know, she might be thinking exactly what your thinking.
So one of my friends cuts. hes been cutting for a while, and hes been on and off with cousellors and stuff. Hes always talking to me about his cutting but never about how hes handling it or how he wants to stop. So tonight I kinda flipped out, im trying to help him by giving him suggestions on what he can do to try and figure out his problem. You see hes so stubborn that hes always trying to find something wrong. He started calling me little miss perfect, saying stuff how im always trying to fix peoples problems. So I got ticked. I told him if you dont want help dont ask for it, because everyone seems to ask for help and when I give them it they turn and treat me like crap.
So now apparently hes going to the hospital. Im assuming because he cut himself bad after our coversation. The convo didnt end well, infact it didnt really end at all, i just signed out. Should I feel bad? Does it seem like I made a poor choice in how I responded to him? I know that hes sensitive but why should I always "baby" him or cover up whats really going on when he needs to hear the truth. I've tried the nice way, the funny way, the boring ways, and tonight i've tried the mean way. Regardless, im always listening to him whine and complain about how he wants to stop but he never takes it uppon himself to really find ways to stop. Im just so frustrated with it.
Feel Guilty or not guilty?
I think not guilty but I just need to see it from someone elses side.
I know you've tried everything to help your friend but flipping out on him was not right . I know if i was you i would of lost all patience too, but it wasn't the right move to make. If he can't come to you about it who can he go to? I don't think you should be guilty of his cutting however, your anger got the better of you, and it hurt your senstive friend. I know you inintensionally meant to upset him but you did - that's where i think the guilt should come in. Never the less - you are RIGHT - if he doesn't want it he shouldnt slate it but just rememeber, sometimes there is stuff he wants to hear but you don't give it to him. Let him know what you feel, like what the cutting makes you feel and how you don't want to lose him. Just be there for him and when he comes for advice, let him know what you think but try to look at it in his shoes too. He probarbly has so much anger because he gives in all the time and then you give him feedback he doesn't always want to hear [im just guessing, i mean im not him]
Hope I helped = ]
my friend is always rude to me even though when she is down i look after her eg i was talkin 2 her and then she said somthing wrong so i laughed and told her then she sweared at me and told me 2 shut up i just walked away i have told her and she said she would stop but she just keeps doin it i dont no if she is a real friend or i could do much better
I personally think that you should tell her AGAIN how you feel really, and let her know you're feeling down because of the way she is treating you
HOWEVER
You friend maybe just hormonal, and may be moany or rude because of things that may be happening at home
You are defiatnly not doing anything wrong to her she is just a very sensistiv person. The best advice i can give is to stand up for yourself, tell her how you feel and if she isn't going to treat you with respect she obviously isn't a true friend. She isn't worth having if all you're going to get out of it is stress and tears.
Give her space when she's angry too. The last thing you need is a happy person all up in your face sometimes.
Hope I helped
so i have this friend, he's cool. i have this huge crush on him since i've gotten to know him a lot better now. but he always says certain things to make me feel like he feels the same way. but then other times he's just like w/e. i don't know what he's trying to do.
for example, the other day he went to chinatown and i texted him have fun, he writes back: can't ur not here :'(
what does that mean??
and other times its just like chill, so i don't know what he's doing.
I think he does like you but is afraid to let you know how he feels because he is scared of rejection. He says stuff that make you think he likes you because he hopes for you to say something similar back, he trying to find out if you like him slyly.Boys are weird and they have their own way of dealing with things like we do. If you really like him, ask him out to the cinema.If he asks is it a date? Say yes [ or if you want] to give him the boost to talk to you. Asking him out somewhere will encourage him to make the moves too. He does like you, he is just nervous to find out what you feel too.
Im 15yrs old female.hes 16 yrs old.
i hav a best guy friend were really close and i wanted to know how can i tell if were just freinds or not.we flirt alot but he says he doesnt want to be in a relationship.he told me last week that he knows so muc about me that it seems like im his girl.but it was over a text so i didnt really know what his emotion was at the time.he asked me onto go to the movies yesterday but my mom said i couldnt go.he never mentioned the word date tho.but weve talked about if we were in a relationship before and he says it might b a good idea.we fight alot but makeup and laugh about it after.i really dont know how this is gonna end or whats gonna happen.
Your friend defiantly takes a little shine to you! He does like you, but like you, he is scared to ruin the friendship, feel rejection, and actually ask you out. He does want to give it a try but with boys they just never know how to put it into words .When he asks you out to the cinema or something ,go out and just see what happens. What ever happens happens. From what you said, it sounds as if you two get along well ! If you 2 went out, I'd take it slowly, and gradually because when things go too fast the friendship gets damaged. If he isnt going to ask you anywhere, you ask him and if he does ask you to the cinema - what is the harm in asking him if its a date? If he says no, it is obvious he is embarassed and bluffing. Go for it girl otherwise you will never no, you already know eachother so the friendship wont change and it wont be awkward ..give it a try!
all the guys in mygrade hate me. they think im a whore cause i dress slutty but i dont mean to. I have no idea what i am doing wrong! i am so sad. please just help all you can
what the hell do you mean "i dres slutty...i have no idea what i am doing wrong" well for gods sake girl if you know you're dressing slutty, stop wearing belts for skirts and wear longer clothes and less flesh. If that's the way you like to dress, couldn't you try to find your independence or personalirty some other way. Guys will call you names because of what you look like and i know it's not fair but everyone judges eachother on looks it only takes eight seconds to judge someone. I don't know how you dress or what you like and i know it is porbarbly getting you down, earn some respect buy dressing in lighter, gentle colours, in which shorts are longer and clothes aren't tighter and aren't showing a lot of flesh. And not heavy on makeup...maybe join a sport or something to gain respect.. I am not saying change youself i am just saying change the way other people see you or reflect yourself in another way, ie by the type of accesorries you wear...but what i will say is don't listen to them and keep your head high, as long as you respect yourself and know exactly who you are it shouldn't matter, if you ignore them , then they'll give up, people always say "that never works" bur beleive me on this account it will
Know i know this is sounds wierd but i think that the guy that i like, likes my BFF. He always laughs at her jokes and they talk alot. At lunch he tends to steer twords her. But he also doesn't tell her his secrets. But he tells me his deepest secrets, but he won't tell me who he likes.
But i feel like "unconfident" around him, when him and her are around eachother. Like an example is at lunch i can't really talk to him because i have this mind set that he likes her.
I guess what i want to know is if i THINK he likes her, should i flirt more and make him like me? Or.... Leave him alone and let her "have" him? Or... What else is there???
P.S. Did i forget to mention she ALSO LIKES HIM!!! Omg. help if you can PLEASE!!!
First off, let your friend know that you like him too.If i was you two you either vow that you WONT go out with him or you either vow that the other one WOULD be happy if he did like one of you
Boys can get in the way of friendships and i think you should talk to her about that and she dosnt want her or yourself to get hurt.
Well, I'm not a braniac but if he is telling you secrets he could see you more as a trusted friend but from what you told me...there is a chance that HE could like her.
Don't tell him how you feel because it isnt fair on your friend.I'd just talk to him & ask him who he likes you know how we are! we badger people but just ask him.
You MUST tell your friend how you feel and that noone should get hurt and both of you make a descion on if one of you were to go out with him ot not.I'd presonally not do that because if my friend went out with him i wouldn't be happy.I wouldnt be angry at her, but i might become jelous and harsh so i'd talk to her about that and just ask him who he likes....
Don't feel unconfident....because you dont know how he feels just be yourself and be HAPPY because THERE IS A CHANCE HE COULD LIKE YOU!!
Please rememeber he isn't owned by YOU or your FRIEND.So don't get all possessive and jealous..
xxx