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My Friend Does things she really shouldnt be doing at this a
Ok So, I'm 15 and my friend is 14. There's this guy that is 22 and she realy likes him. We talked the other night and she told me a whole bunch of things that really concerns me. First, This 22 year old guy that she likes has a girlfriend, and she is also one of my friends. Second, everytime him and her hug, he grabs her boob. She told me that one time, when they were walking around they started making out and it turned into more than just a makeout. He actually pulled down her shorts and underwear and fingered her. I can't believe she let him. I just don't want his girlfriend to get hurt, and I dont know what to tell my friend. Ive tried to talk to her but maybe im not saying the right things. Thanks for your help
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In ref to your question in the response to the rating - Sure, it is ok to go ahead and tell your sister. Tell someone, but make sure it is addressed because I don't want your friend who's 14 to get pregnant, burned, or hurt or abused anymore because he is abusing her and it's illegal. Also remember this: Those who stand for NOTHING, FALL for anything! MY email is sophia_pettus@yahoo.com. Good luck sweetie.
What an a hole to take advantage of a 14 year old! Talk to your friend again and tell her that if she really likes him, she will not do that mess again because he can take his sorry ass to jail and that he is only using her. He has no respect for her ,his girlfriend or himself to even do that. Also, let her know that you don't like it and don't want to be a part of that mess, which means that you don't want to be around it. If you are that strong about the difference in your friend,and yourself (morals and values), you may have to cut her off, for real.
Since you are friends with his girlfriend too, that means you most likely know him well enough to tell him that you know what he has been doing and that if he doesn't stop that you will tell her parents and his girlfriend! If you don't want to do that, you could also tell your parents and they could tell her parent's, if you just flat out want nothing to do with the BS, then after you tell your 14 year old friend everything you're feeling and she doesn't respect it, cut her off and let her do what she does to get caught, pregnant, aids, STD, CAUGHT! whatever is done in the dark always comes to light!
Good luck and I am sorry you are in this type of situation, which is why I always caution kids, teens, adults too, watch the company you keep or who you hang with!
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Some girls are so blind that they dont realise what they are actually doing. I know you are suprised that your friend would do such a thing but there could be many reasons why she let him - she might think he wouldn't be interested her anymore or maybe she thinks she's mature enough to have sexual activity. I think you should remind her he does have a girlfriend - it might make her see that no only is he getting a piece of her but a piece of his girlfriend too - it's like he gets what he wants when he wants. If she doesn't listen to the advice that you give to her maybe you should think about telling his girlfriend - since she is your friend. If she found out you knew how angry would she be with you? Remind your 14 year old friend the concequences of her actions, and if she doesn't listen - tell th girlfriend the truth , even if gets angry at you - least you know you stopped the worst from happening
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First off making out with your friend who is 14 while he is 22 is statutory rape in most states. I would tell the girl's parents. If they allow her to date someone that age--that's on them but he shouldn't be looking for a hook up or relationship with someone who is 14 when he is 22. She's going to be mad but you can always tell them not to tell her how they found out and say that someone say them and told them. Then I would have a talk with my parents and tell them everything. My daughter did this when it was one of her friends and instead of her telling them she asked me to so that it really was someone else and she could say "I didn't tell your parents" and it was true. Tell them you're worried about her and let them handle it. Sounds like she needs more supervision.
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Make sure she knows that you are concerned about her; whether it be safety, social-wise or mental-wise. Also, make sure she knows all the facts, the girlfriend, and the fact that the girlfriend is YOUR friend. Make sure you tell her that you arn't very comfortable with it, and that you feel that it isn't right. If she really sees you as a friend, she'll treasure your thoughts and concerns and think about it.
But in the end, it's down to her. If she is eventually hurt, make sure you're there to support her all the way.
Hope it helps =]
Kkytha - 14/f
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