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true friend?
i've been friends with my best guy friend for about 5 years now. we use to be really close but lately we've drifted. the problem is; the things he does to me makes me wonder if he even is a good friend. i need an outsiders view because of course i love him, we're really close so i wouldn't be able to be like "hes not a good friend to me"
if i were to text him when i was drunk and say something like..."i love you best friend" he would never say anything back. whenever we text he's ALWAYS the one to end the conversation by not texting back to something i said. when i tell him my problems, he doesn't even try to help and console me he just says.."that sucks." he doesn't seem to like ANY guy that i talk to, even if i'm just friends with them. he'll be like.. your friends with him!!!? why!! he never calls or texts me to hangout, i'm always the one who has to text him. when we're together with a group of people and there are girls he will flirt with them and try to make me jealous, which just annoys me. it seems like he will only call me "best friend" when he tries to get something out of me, like when he really wants something. i mean just things like that, that makes me think... is he being a true good friend? is this something that typical guys do?
don't get me wrong he does to alot of good things! he accepts me for me. he's seen me with no make-up, my hair not done and scrubbing and he doesn't care. he always can tell when something is wrong. when we're hanging out he can always make me laugh and have a goodtime. seeing him makes my bad days better. he's the only guy who i can truly trust. he's the only one who i will fight with and know that i am mad at and should be mad at, yet i can NEVER stay mad at him. i've talked to him about him seeming like we're not "best friends" anymore and everytime i bring it up he doesn't seem to understand and thinks im crazy for thinking any of that. it's like he doesnt know that hes being like that towards me and that i do overanalyze everything.
am i overanalyzing? should i be worried about our friendship?
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to me, i think your in love. I've been through the same things with the guy i'm with right now....like the same exact things. Tell him what you just told me. tell him how you feel and everything, and if he can't handle it...then he's not a true friend. My boyfriend and i have been together for 1 year and 3 in a half months. We've been friends for 2 years....I know how it is girl. If you need anymore help let me know. i'm here for you.
your friend, lulabell aka lulu
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It sounds to me like he wants to be a little more than just friends and if not than he might just be very protective of you. I think he is a good friend you just don't understand him. A lot of guys don't know what to talk about and I know all my guy friends just randomly stop talking to me and yea it gets annoying but it's normal. Just send a text message saying "Hello?" or just send a question mark that will let him know you weren't done talking to him. Also him not liking any of the guys you date could be that he is very protective and doesn't want to see you hurt or he actually has feelings for you. Either way he isn't a bad friend he is just a guy.
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Have you ever thought the fact he doesnt like any guy you date or friends with, or that he tries to make you jealous, means he might LIKE YOU!? As in "more than friends". It's pretty obvious in my eyes. Make up your mind if you like him, and if your friendship is a good as you say it is, bring up the fact you don't feel you're good friends- BACK IT UP, gives reasons (ie - you never text me back, you never like anyone Im friends with or date) and ask HIM why does do that you? Explain to him, it's upsetting you, and that's not what friends do to eachother.
You're not analyzing too much :) But I think he likes you. Confront him, honesty is the best policy, you won't feel comofrtable until you've spoken about it properly.
Talk to a friend, they'lll know you both - so they'll be able to understand and see the situation clearer.
Hope I Helped :)
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