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all the guys in mygrade hate me. they think im a whore cause i dress slutty but i dont mean to. I have no idea what i am doing wrong! i am so sad. please just help all you can
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Wear bigger tops.
And longer pants.
Join clubs, get more involed.
Once you open up to some guys,
they will see there's a nicer "non-slutty" side of you.
It also wouldn't hurt to gain more girlfriends.
Goood Lucckkk (:
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Well, if you dress slutty, people will think you ARE slutty... even if you aren't. And I know that's not really fair, but that's just the way it is. So you have to make a choice based on what's important to you. Is it more important to keep dressing the way you like? Or is it more important to have people's respect?
Others have told you to dress the way you want and not worry about what people think. Well, obviously you ARE worried about what people think, and that's completely natural. We all want to be thought well of. There is absolutely nothing wrong with changing the way you dress in order to make a better impression on people. So unless you really DON'T care that people think you're slutty, then I say go ahead and give yourself a style makeover.
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First & foremost, you should never care what other people think of you. On there other hand, there is a level of self respect you should care about. If you acknowledge that you do dress more revealing than you should, then the simple solution would be to tone it down. I'm not sure how old you are, but guys my age find it so incredibily sexy when a girl dresses classy. They like girls who cover themselves because it leaves more to their imagination. I truly believe dressing slutty is the worst way to get attention from guys. You're attracting the wrong crowd & no one is going to find it very appealing. So the only thing I can suggest is to wear clothes you feel comfortable in & don't let anyone get the best of you.
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what the hell do you mean "i dres slutty...i have no idea what i am doing wrong" well for gods sake girl if you know you're dressing slutty, stop wearing belts for skirts and wear longer clothes and less flesh. If that's the way you like to dress, couldn't you try to find your independence or personalirty some other way. Guys will call you names because of what you look like and i know it's not fair but everyone judges eachother on looks it only takes eight seconds to judge someone. I don't know how you dress or what you like and i know it is porbarbly getting you down, earn some respect buy dressing in lighter, gentle colours, in which shorts are longer and clothes aren't tighter and aren't showing a lot of flesh. And not heavy on makeup...maybe join a sport or something to gain respect.. I am not saying change youself i am just saying change the way other people see you or reflect yourself in another way, ie by the type of accesorries you wear...but what i will say is don't listen to them and keep your head high, as long as you respect yourself and know exactly who you are it shouldn't matter, if you ignore them , then they'll give up, people always say "that never works" bur beleive me on this account it will
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When it comes to these situations, the best thing to do is ignore them. I can understand why it bothers you, it's kind of like a situation I was in - where everyone judged me because of how I dressed. I took a step back and looked at myself and realized that I really did need to tone it down (I recommend trying that). And what I did, other than toning it down, was let everyone know who the real me is. Once they saw who I really was, they treated me the same way no matter what I was wearing. It was actually a good situation I was put in, otherwise, I don't think I'd be as popular with people as I am now. And by popular, I mean I've grown a good reputation now - and that's the way to go. =)
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dress the way you want to and dont listen to what they say. who cares if you liket he way you dress thats fine and if you like the way you are then great. But dont get down because of assholes sayin shit to you like that...they dont know you dont take shit to heart by peopel you dont even really know..if you dont think your a slut then thats all that matters all that matters is what you think about yourself it doesnt matter what people think about you.. ok.. hope i helped ya.
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Don't dress to impress, at all. I know you might think you feel comfortable in what you are wearing now, but I don't know why you would. Try dressing for comfort.Wear loose fitting clothes, t-shirts with funny sayings on them, jeans, etc. If you wear what feels good instead of what you think will look the best, you'll feel a lot better about yourself. And forget the guys, they are immature.
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As hard as it is, try not to worry too much about what those "guys" say and think. Its the toughest thing in the world to do but once you realize that other peoples opinions do not matter you will be alot happeir. The most important thing is that you feel good about you. You have to be happy with yourself and thats all that matters; so if you are then dress however you want to!
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