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Boyfriend or best friend?
im12 i just got a boy friend 1or2 weeks ago and his little sister is my only girl friend / best friend and shes mad because i'm spending more time playing with him and not her.witch one should i choose mbest friend or boy friend and i dont want to break up with him ill just stop hanging out with him instead ill play with her
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This is a conflict that both sexes have to deal with. You obviously value both your friend and your boyfriend. Tell her that when she gets a boyfriend she will understand the desire for you and your boyfriend to have some occasional privacy but that it is still important to you to have her as some part of your life. Check around to see if anyone likes her and then try to arrange a hook up for her.
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I know it may be frustrating to hear but don't be worrying about situations like this at your age. All I will suggest is that friends are more important at that stage in your life than boyfriends. Remember, you may have many different boyfriends in the future before you find the right one, but your friend will stay with you through those boyfriends and comfort you in the break ups.
Also, right now how about you spend time with both of them, instead of spending more time with your boyfriend. Your friend will be feeling strange because its her brother, but she is probably jealous and upset that her best friend is not wanting to be with her as much. There is no harm in spending time with your boyfriend, but put your best friend first.
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Your 12,
One you should not be on this site until your 13.
Two, you're 12 and should not be dating until your older like 16 years old.
Three, by saying you "play" with him.. and that you'll "stop hanging out with him instead ill "play" with her" means that you are still playing as a child.. and you're still in the kid stage..you should not be having "boyfriends" at 12, you should be focusing on just friendships and playing as a child... because before you know it.. your child life will disappear.
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you don't need to choose between them, you just need to find the right balance.
When you make a plan to with your friend, you need to make it clear that you are there to hang out with her - so if you are at their house, acknowledge him, but your focus is on your friend. Have a word with your boyfriend and tell him that when you are with his sister, you want to spend time with her, ask him to understand - I'm sure he will.
If the sister is still feeling angry, ask her for to come round to yours or hers for a sleepover? Explain to her you are going to find the right balance and that you apologize if you've unintentionally hurt her feelings. Sleepovers are great fun! Films, make overs, baking - it's a great way to makeup and put the mistakes behind.
Your situation seems difficult, but I assure you it can be handled easily if dealt in the right way.
Please message me to let me know how the situation works out.
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