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i'm kathleen.i'm thirteen years old.
i've been through alot.
i'm absolutely nothing special, and you'll find i'm nothing that will amaze you.
i have trust issues.
i hate many things, such as animal abuse, and labels.
i'm a vegitarian, and i don't drink milk.
i sometimes talk alot, sometimes i'm really quiet.
get to know me: kathleenxsaidd- AIM.
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hey its kelli. i was reading one of your answers and i was like thats so kathleen. but i love it that you dont give a shit and ur totally honest and don't feel the need to tie it up with a pretty bow. Anyway, I love youuu ♥ kelli
lol well, i'm not gunna lie to them.
if you don't wanna hear my advice, then don't go around asking for it :P.
what question?
okay people tells me secrets and stuff but at the same time they question me if they can trust me because i dont tell anything that much or tell them a secret why is that?
Hey. Well, everyone does this. Maybe they feel less safe telling you secrets becuase you don't tell them any. I mean, maybe I'm just a bad person, but I feel safer when telling someone a deep secret, if I know that they have told me one. That way, if they were to ever use it against you, they have something on you, also.
So, maybe you could try telling your friends minor secrets like "last night, my dad didn't know I went to the mall with you, and I borrowed $5.00 from him without him asking." Or, you know, something minor like that, before you get to telling them secrets that are really important.
Just know, everyone has this problem, it's not that you aren't trustworthy, it's that your friends are smart, and cautious.
Hope I helped.
So, my friend confessed she has been making herself throw up because she cares a lot about what other people think and it makes her feel better. I know a lot about it, I told her it's damaging. she says she's gonna try to stop, but I doubt she will. I just don't really know what to do. I know I can't really tell anyone- her parents would not understand, neither would mind. and I can't really tell any adult, cause I know she wont seek help or anything. What can I do for her personally?
Hey. Well, you could personally follow her into the school's bathrooms or her home bathroom after she eats to make sure that she doesn't throw up, also, you could secretly stand outside the door and try to listen and see if she's throwing up. You could also threaten to tell someone about it if she doesn't stop. I know these things are harsh, but trust me, I know they work.
ok so theres this girl kathleen. or flab. or kdawg. whatevs. anyway shes my best friend and i love her like whoa. k? thanks ♥
Hokay, so. there's this girl, her name is kelli, and i LOVE HER LIKE WOAH. kthanks:].
i have this friend and all she does is copy me. like i'll make up words and quotes and hang out with certain people and she's always a step behind me. my friend and i who are also friends with her wanted to go to this concert and now she's suddenly obsessed with it! i can't stand her most of the time and telling her how i feel won't work cause she's one of those 'i can't do anything wrong & it's all about me people' even if she doesn't realize it. ALSO i've liked this boy for awwhile and i was thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend for him, and she started going out with him a week later when she KNEW i liked him and she didn't like him, which i know because i asked her. ANYONE GOOD ADVICE PLEASEEEEEE!
Hey. Well, for one thing, I agree. She deffinatly should not have hooked up with the guy you like, but, think of it this way: She is always very jelous of you, and she envies you and would love to be like you. She found out that you want something that takes a little time to get, so she acted on it right away, to make you jealous of her, for once. I know it's probably extremely annoying to have someone following you around all the time, but try to have a little bit of patience with her, after all, it is a compliment, as I see it :].
As for the kid you like, tell her that you're getting really pissed and you think it's really low for her to go out with someone she doesn't even like, just to piss you off or something. Tell her that it's wicked stupid and skanky to lead someone on to get back at a friend and if she doesn't set this guy straight that you'll do it for her. Don't take shit from her, becuase I hate more than anything the type of person you described this girl to be - "the world revolves around me" and someone that dates someone they don't even like. So, get this hoe straight :].
Ok so me and my friends are wanting to hang out this weekend but we all are flat broke and we need ideas of things to do that won't cost much money. thanks
Hey. Well, if you live in a small town, go to the center of it and go to like the playgrounds and stuff. it sounds really stupid, but it's wicked fun, i do it every weekend :].
I met this girl awhile ago. She is my sister's neighbor and I was atrracted to her. She said she just wanna be firends but something can happen. So the friendship is going great, we hang out, talk all night on the phone just as friends then last week she said she wanted space but she was laughing when she said. While she said that, she said she wanna do something we me that she could not say over the phone, what was that about? I been giving her space, but how much space should I give? Should I call and say hi or just wait??? This started about 6 days ago and when talked once on the phone for 5 mintues?? Is this a game? Does she like me?? We do stuff friedns wouldn't do and she calls me all these nicknames that usually isn't her???
Hey. Well, I hate to have to tell you this, but I think that she enjoys flirting with you, but once she realizes that you really like her, she had to set you straight. For now, I would reccomend talking to her, but not calling. Try talking to her online [with a messanger such as AIM] or in person at someplace public, like school. If she continues to flirt with you again, such as she calls you to talk to you for long periods of time, then let it continue for a while and eventually ask her what the deal is with her flirting and then saying that she isn't interested. I'm in the same situation with this guy in my school. Sometimes I flirt with him back a little bit when he flirts with me, but once I found out that he reall liked me a lot, I felt terrible and had to set him sraight. Be patient!! Well, Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
Well, this may be somewhat long..
On Tuesday, my friend Megan and I have had plans for about a week to go shopping. I asked her seventh hour to call and make sure with her mom, and she said that she did and that her mom said she was grounded. I said, okay, that's fine.
Now, when the bell rings to go home from school, I see her, samantha, and heather trying to rush out before I saw them leave with her...didn't work. I was walking with my sister, and she saw it and she calls her name then asks her what happened to her and my plans, and megan just looks at her and said something better came up.
So, I was ditched for the first time and it hurt like hell.
So the next day, she comes into school so bright and cheery to me, and I just didn't talk to her at all...and I felt very bad about this all week because I didn't talk to her.
Well, after I got ditched, I went to one of my teachers and I told her and I was bawling when I told her...and she looked at me and said...now something like this with those girls happens to you every year, and you make up with them, and you apologize for nothing, and when you all make up, you put yourself in the same predicament to get hurt over and over again. Now, these girls are not your friends if they keep doing this to you and it seems as if they don't deserve your friendship because you don't deserve to be treated like that. I agreed, and even it was something what I wanted to hear, but not someting I wanted to hear. And another friend told me this too. So, right now I'm hanging out with Meredith..the girl that has always been there for me, but I never took advantage of the friendship I had with her.
And another thing that pissed me off kind of was that the fact that this girl samantha is a liar. She came to school Monday with little tiny nail marks on her neck that were barely visible and like you would give to yourself. So she tells heather and megan that her grandma chocked her so she can stay a few nights over heather's house. Now, what pissed me off was about three months ago, my parents kicked me out of my house for two weeks, and I stayed two nights in the car, and when I asked heather for a place to stay, she said she'd ask her mom and she came back the next day and she said that her mom said no..which I didn't believe, so I called and explained to her mom what was going on and she ended up saying that heather said nothing to her and that I am welcome to stay as long as I needed..and I told her not to bother because heather doesn't seem to want me over there, so Meredith saw that I was wearing the same clothes for three days in a row, and she gave me a place to stay.
And since I haven't really talked to them at all this week, on Friday a few people came up to me and said that they were talking about me saying that I'm a bitch and that I'm fat and hope the diet pills kills me. This hurt me too because first of all, I'm not on diet pills, and second, since Tuesday happened, I've not been immature and talked shit about them.
So, just after this week and all what happened, I've not said anything to them, even though it feels as if I'm guilty and I was to apologize for what I did, which I don't know what I did.
I just don't know what I did to deserve this at all. And I feel like I'm guilty about it, but I don't want to be used by them again just to get hurt again.
How do I get rid of this guilt?
Hey. Well, it seems that these girls are flat out losers. And they're really fake. Don't appolagize, you did nothing. They obviously have some sort of issue with you that they don't have the guts to actually tell you. Most girls are like this, and unfortunately won't change. I know you feel guilty, but think: What did YOU do to deserve them not being real friends. And for a 'friend' to leave you on the streets when you get kicked out of your home is the most sickening thing I've heard all day. The way I see it, Fuck them. It's really their loss, not yours. Just forget about them, and stick with Merideth [sp?] becuase those other shitheads aren't worth your time. Just forget them, they're worth nothing.
well one of my best(?idk anymore) friends parents got divorced last year. i knwo its hard and i completley have compassion for her. but, ever since then, she has turned into this really realy mean person. i'm not the only one who noticed it, and alot of people have siad to me, "ever since ___'s parents got divorced, she's become a b****." i know its really hard to have your parents divorced, but does it make it ok for her to be mean and do rude things to me behind my back and just overall not be a good friend? and it's not just me, its too other people to. idont know how to handle it though. cause if i talked to her she'd probably get her meanness again. the thing is, before she used to be a really kinda quiet, nice person. id ont know what to do. advice?
Hey. Well, you deffinatly need to tell her that since the divorce, she has gotten to be really rude and becoming someone you just don't want to be around. Tell her that you're slways there for her whenever she needs you, but this attitude thing has got to stop becuase she can't just walk all over people whenever she gets really upset. My parent's are divorced, and though it took me a long time, I got over it. Your friend will get over it eventually, too. There's not much you can do for her after that. Be there for her, but give her all the space and time she needs. Lastly, you could talk to her parents about how she's become angry and keeps to herself a lot, becuase ever since then, I've thought I was bipolar or had depression, so I reccomend before it's too late, you suggest to her parents that she talks to someone, like a councelor or someone. Well, Hope I helped, tell your friend it's okay, life goes on, trust me. ♥ Kathleen.
Ps, also mention to her the benifits twice the gifts on holidays, two sets of friends, when you get sick of one house, just go to the other one, etc.
okay, so sorry in advance if this is long.
so me and this boy have been friends for so long. like about 8-9 years. and like last year and this year we fought all the time.
So we got into a huge fight about 3 months ago. and its not like we are going to be friends again. and He doesnt care at all.
And like this may sound weird but like i have been doing really bad in school latley. and im not saying that the two have anything to do with each other.
And once when i saw him i got a really sharp pain in my chest and like the other day he came into my class and i kinda may have flipped out. like i put my headphones in and my ipod froze and then i was flipping out to this girl and like i was shaking and i dont know. it was like an anxiety attack.
i dont know if these things are like related or anything.
so do you think that they are? and like what should i do to like control it if it is something to do with the kid?
Hey. Well, I get anxiety attacks about the most random things, too. What you do is, you focus just on breathing, but not hyperventalating. Take deep, slow breaths and try to relax your muscles so they don't shake uncontrolably. Also, try not to think of it as that you and this guy aren't friends, becuase if you think about it, you still are, you're just fighting. When he walks into a room, don't think you have to avoid eye contact and everything, becuase really, if he came into a classroom of yours to get something or whatever, it's not like a teacher would let you talk to him anyways, so what's the big deal? Well, hope I helped. And also, you can get tested and get medicine for anxiety I think, but I'm not sure.
Good luck! ♥ Kathleen.
P.S. sorry for all the spelling mistakes, I can't spell haha.
My best friend hasn't been herself lately. She has recently been keeping a bit more to herself and has an angry tone towards her friends. She still flirts with guys a little bit which in my opinion is great.
About a month and a half ago she broke up with her boyfriend. They had been going out for about a year and a half. She says she has somewhat moved on but I honestly don't believe her---some days she will tell me she still likes him or will get jealous of other girls. I understand that she is hurt. She is a strong, confident person so seeing her this way really hurts. She tells me almost everything, at least that's what I thought.
A couple days ago I accidently caught her crying in the bathroom. Noone else was there. When I asked her what was wrong she gave me widespread answers such as "everything" or "alot". I tried to ask her more but she said she didn't want to talk about it and I respected that. The one thing she told me that got me really worried was that she admitted she has been crying almost every night.
I want to give her space but I am really worried for her. It is eating me up inside. I honestly can't think of anything else. We are really close and I care about her sooo much. What should I do?
Hey. Well, i'll tell you from experience. I'm a girl, and we cry, alot. You don't want to ask her directly what's wrong, it makes her[us] feel worse. I agree, it makes us feel really good when you just simply say "im here for you" and you let her cry on your shoulder. Hold her really close if she does decide to cry on you.
Well, there's more but this is kinda long, so if you want more advice, let me know. ♥ Kathleen.
Im 13/f depressed gothic girl. One of my bffs is having her 13 bday soon. Shes always been the sporty girl that has all (guy) friends and 4 (girl) friends. Shes as gross as all the guys and acts like one as in acting out sex and porn and everything like that. and tries to get people who like eachother to makeout and ya. And her guy friends spend the night a lot as friends. Her bday is paintball then a sleepover guys and girls. My mom wont let me spend the night but I can go shoot people and they shoot me? Whats so bad about spending the night with a lot of guys and girls as friends? Ive never had a bf and me and my bff (a guy) like eachother and she started it! So what do you think all will happen if I could get my mom to let me? My bff is going to. we love eachother. What would happen between us and at the party? I really wana go. never know what shed do ~Please help soon~
Ohh, Okay. Well, anyways, even if he isn't your boyfriend, he likes you and you like him. So, it's possible for something to, you know, happen. Well, you should still follow the same advice. Tell your mom that it is in fact a boy/girl party, but it is supervised, and that you're smarter than that and you wouldn't do anything stupid, especially becuase you have no one to do it with (!). With that, I think you shold have your mom call the parent or parents that are supervising, and have them talk to her a little bit, maybe that will ease her up. If she still says no, you can try showing her responsibility by taking on some extra chores and such around the house, maybe babysit a couple times. If she still says no after that, I think her answer is unfortunatly final, but you dont HAVE to sleep over, you can still at least GO to the party... Have fun!! ♥ Kathleen.
I feel like I am loosing one of my best friends. We only see eachother in school... we are in two classes together and we hardly talk cause she is talking to her other friends. I feel like I don't know all of these things about her. Like i found out through a friend that she hooked up with someone last night for the first time. She didn't even tell me. I am really upset about this. What should I do?
Hey. You could try to hangout with her, like outside of school. You could also start trying to be more friendly towards her other friends, maybe that way you could hang out with her while she's with them without being a "third wheel."
Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
okayy well this is all over internet
like these people i don't know in real life but anyway
i made this best friend over internet named sally,
we have been besties for EVER. well ever since august of last year. anyway
she has made an enemy her name is adriana
welll
adriana is my friend and one day sally told me not to talk to her
i said okay
well i've been secretly talking to adriana
and sally figures out
now she is all like i hate you
we are not friends and blah blah blah.
i was very sad yesterday but today i realized
its over internet
why am i taking this so seriously.
but i am still sad because i dont have sally
she told me to wait till thursday and she will know by then if she wants to be my friend or not.
pretty stupid i know.
i told her that i should be able to choose my own friends.
she totally ignored my message.
and on AIM she ignored me to but only made stupid smiley faces ever now and then while i just spilled all my feeling to her.
i really don't know what i'd do if sally tells me on thursday she doesnt want to be my friend
and i know you guys are gonna say
she isnt your friend if she treats you like that
but i can't just stop liking someone i've liked and known for a while now.
Hey. I agree. You should trust friends you have in person first. The people on the internet can't always be trusted. Someone could say they're a fifteen year old girl and they could turn out to be alot older than that and someone dangerous to be talking to. So, anyways, as with any friend, you should never side with someone on a fight that you were not involved in. You don't need that kind of drama. If Sally decides that she doesn't want to be friends with you, you don't need her. Well, Hope I helped. Let me know if you need more advice! ♥ Kathleen.
i kno this is long but please take the time to read it and help me. my best friend in the entire world has completely changed. i spent the whole summer with her and we were inseperable. but when i went back home, because she lives in another state, i met some new people. i met this girl and guy and the three of us became really good friends. she started talking to them and me and her talked less. we started getting in huge fights and now we are in the biggest fight ever because shes changed a lot. it used to be that no matter what we could call each other and cheer each other up. but i called her to cheer me up and she ignored me and then lied to me about calling the person i was upset about. now we are in a huge fight. what should i do?
Hey. Well, there's really not much you can do about who she has become. You could try to tell her that who she has turned into is someone you really don't like and you have no desire to be friends with the "new her." If she's any kind of a friend, she'll atleast pay attention to what you're trying to say. Make sure you ask her if she thinks that you're the one that has changed, or if you're doing something she doesn't approve of. If you want to keep a friendship, you need to say what you feel, whether it's the nicest think someone could say to you, or not. Hope I helped and good luck! ♥ Kathleen.
ok i have this close friend,we went to camp together last summer and we go to school together also.i remember one day at camp i was really mad at her and i sad some nasty things about her with my other campfriend behind her back.now everythings fine.. but i was just thinking about that day and i want to apologize. she doesnt know that i talked about her, but i want to be honest.
should i just not bring it up cause it will go bad?
or its worth telling her even though it happened so long ago? help is appreciated
Hey. I say, if it's really bothering you, you could bring it up, but I really don't recommend bringing up old news. She might get upset knowing this, but chances are she talked about you too, so if you do decide to bring it up, you might want to ask her to come clean about anything she's said about you. Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
How do you cheer up a friend when shes sad? because when my friend comes to me for advice i really get speachless and stuff please tell me how and thank you =]
Hey. You can always make someone feel better by getting their mind off of the depressing subject.
Also, you can crack jokes about it, like "wow, what kind of loser would do something like that..." and you know, just make something about the situation funny. Like, "You don't need him, he wears tight pants and talks like a girl" haha or something like that. As for advice, just be honest and tell your friend what you seriously think she should do about the subject, even if your advice is kind of mean. Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
What does exactly good listener means? example please? and how do you know if you're friend is a good listener? thank you =]
Hey. My oppinion of a good listener is someone that gets really into the convorsation you are having, not just a "yeah" or "mhm" every once in a while. You can tell if your friend is a good listener by haveing a conversations and observe if they are looking at you when you are talking and it looks like you have their interest. Also, bring up the convorsation a little while or a day later and see if they know what your talking about
Today I was hangin' out at Taco Bell w/ a bunch of my friends, who were all guys. They claimed that men were better than women at pretty much everything. Then when I disagreed, they said to me, "Ok, name one thing that women are better at than men." I was stuck. Then they started laughing 'cause I didn't say anything. They were like, "Yeah, all these great geniuses and inventors, like Einstein and all, all men." It made me so mad, and embarassed. They said they were just messin' with me, but I somehow can't believe that. I feel like they meant what they were saying. Should I confront them again? Or should I just let it slide and hope it doesn't come up again(maybe they were just kidding after all).
Hey. Honestly, if I were you, I would let it slide. If it happens again, though, I would confront them about it. Good luck! ♥ Kathleen.
14/9th grade]]/female
can somebody define fake (regarding people)..because i called my friend fake today, and she said "Im not fake, how about you define fake then." and it was there, but i couldn't do it. can somebody define it and then tell me if this is a fake girl.
--My freind who told me to define fake, over the summer she made me basically hate one of my BESTBEST freinds from 8th grade, and then she told them i have been talking about them which started a huge fight. Then she became freinds with the girl who she and I were both talking about, and are now best freinds. Also over the summer, she told me everything (which now she hasnt) and she said how much she hates these certain girls who she was friends with in 8th grade. Anyways, now she became freinds with them since 9th grade starts and is now freinds with them and the hole group that she said she hates..and is denying she said it. Also, to add onto this, she used to say over the summer how people who d drugs and get drunk all the time and party alot disgust her, but now, shes one of those people. latley ive noticed shes changed and basically is fake (as i see it) and does everything she says she hates and loves everyone she says she doesnt...we dont talk anymore either...and she has the nerve to read my blog about her on myspace (we was on my prefered list and i forgot she was) and had the nerve to yell at me of how she changed and how shes now fake..
i dont know what i should do.
Hey. Well, fake (regarding people) as I can best explain it means basically that person [the fake one] goes back on what they say a lot. Like, just as your friend does, she says she doesn't like things and then she goes ahead and does what she says she hates. And she like talks about people and stuff and then the next thing you know she's hanging out with those people. I think basically what you said about her [based on what you told me] she is kinda fake. But,yeah, fake basically means someone that has a different oppinion for each person she/he is around. Meaning when she's around one friend she loves something and when she's around,say,you she loves it. Well, I hope I helped and I hope things get better with your friend ♥ Kathleen.