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ahh! i think im going crazy!
okay, so sorry in advance if this is long.
so me and this boy have been friends for so long. like about 8-9 years. and like last year and this year we fought all the time.
So we got into a huge fight about 3 months ago. and its not like we are going to be friends again. and He doesnt care at all.
And like this may sound weird but like i have been doing really bad in school latley. and im not saying that the two have anything to do with each other.
And once when i saw him i got a really sharp pain in my chest and like the other day he came into my class and i kinda may have flipped out. like i put my headphones in and my ipod froze and then i was flipping out to this girl and like i was shaking and i dont know. it was like an anxiety attack.
i dont know if these things are like related or anything.
so do you think that they are? and like what should i do to like control it if it is something to do with the kid?
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What this means is that you are afraid of him and to be more exact of his confronting you. You have tons of anxiety about him that when you saw him in your classroom again you did in fact have a panic attack.
What do you do? Relaize that he has long ago moved on from the fight and forgotten about you and it. He's not interested in talking to you or confronting you or he would have found a way to get to you earlier if not the other day.
You need to move on and stop thinking about him and the fight you had. He's moved on and forgotten all about this and as you said desn't care about it. Even if he did talk to you and if it got heated all you would have to say to him is "We have been over this before.
Now, if you don't mind please excuse me I have to get back to my work or class." Walk away after that. He's nt concerned about you and you have to forget about him. It's over, done, in the past. Don't let the past disturb you as that's well, stupid for lak of a nicer term.
As far as not doing well in school this plays a small part. If your thinking and all your time is spent wasted on fearing him it's going to make it hard for you to focus on anything. If you need to ask for extra help from your teacher and or get another student to coach you or start a study group.
If you experience panic attacks again that do not seem to be related to this person you need to tuck your head between your legs as you sit and take in several deep breaths and it will subside. If this is happening a lot you need to see a psychiatrist who can help you and prescribe anti-anxiety medications.
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it may just be because your stressed out over loosing the friendship and whenever you see him you get like upset and mad like you did. its probably just normal that you "flip out" whenever you see him. give it time and whenever you see him next you probably wont care about it anymore. hope i helped
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Hey. Well, I get anxiety attacks about the most random things, too. What you do is, you focus just on breathing, but not hyperventalating. Take deep, slow breaths and try to relax your muscles so they don't shake uncontrolably. Also, try not to think of it as that you and this guy aren't friends, becuase if you think about it, you still are, you're just fighting. When he walks into a room, don't think you have to avoid eye contact and everything, becuase really, if he came into a classroom of yours to get something or whatever, it's not like a teacher would let you talk to him anyways, so what's the big deal? Well, hope I helped. And also, you can get tested and get medicine for anxiety I think, but I'm not sure.
Good luck! ♥ Kathleen.
P.S. sorry for all the spelling mistakes, I can't spell haha.
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