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good listener?
What does exactly good listener means? example please? and how do you know if you're friend is a good listener? thank you =]
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Hey. My oppinion of a good listener is someone that gets really into the convorsation you are having, not just a "yeah" or "mhm" every once in a while. You can tell if your friend is a good listener by haveing a conversations and observe if they are looking at you when you are talking and it looks like you have their interest. Also, bring up the convorsation a little while or a day later and see if they know what your talking about
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hey, well my opinion of a good listener is someone that will listen to what your saying carefully and show it by the answer/advice that they gave you.
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A good listener is essentially someone who pays attention to what you are saying. Basically someone who is a good listener should have the following qualities:
- They should not think about other things while you are talking
- They should not consider how to respond to what you are saying before you are done saying it
- They should have some level of genuine interest/ concern in regards to what you are telling the person
- When you are done speaking, they should respond to the best of their ability
Most people are pretty bad listeners actually. With some its really easy to spot. A few typical mistakes that give them away include:
- Starting to speak when you make a lengthier pause (even though you werent done)
- Changing the subject all of a sudden
- Interupting you (only exception here is if they interupted you to get something you said clarified)
- When you are done they respond poorely. e.g. only to part of what you said, or turning the subject to themselves in some way, etc.
Amongst my friends I have learned which ones can listen well and which cant. Usually the ones that cant begin thinking about something else while you are speaking. Without exception their facial expression changes, as does the way they are responding (with more monotonous "yes...yes...aha"). Be mindful of these things and you will soon be able to discern when someone is really paying attention.
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