okay i am the worst person in the world right now...
me and my best friend met a group of guys that one guy she knew because he used to work with her. i liked that guy from the minute i saw him. when i told her about how hes cool whatever, i wanted to ask if she liked him to be courteous. never in 100000 years did i expect her to say yes, i like him...so i didn't tell her i liked him too! i dont know why but i tried to hook them up, even tho i liked him. i was being a good friend i guess. one time i could have hooked up with him but made her do it instead and she was so happy after. anyway then i pretty much went ahead and asked him how he felt about her and he asked y i tried hooking them up and i said i dont know, i thought you liked her. and he said...nooo i like u! then we hung out all night and hooked up. and i feel like shit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! should i tell my best friend or not? he doesnt think so but i really dont know!!!!!!!! is it really that horrible what i did?
ok well...i'd say talk to her but dont expect her to be happy my best friend did the exact same thing to me only that they didn't hung out by htemselves but always that i invited her she would flirt with the guy A LOT eventhough i first introduce them because i wanted her to meet the guy im dating and he likes me but she just keeps flirting with him .anyway id say that the guy should tell her that hes not interested in more than being friends and you should tell her that you two hang out its the best you can do , thought sucks too . sorry
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ok so ive known my friend for my whole life pretty much! and now she wants me to change because she says im to full of myself cuz i say that im pretty but she can say it but im a terrible person if i do she also hate my bf and says that if i dont change and dump him no1 will like me anymore and she says that its friends before bf but i really like him and all! and i told her that im never changing for anybody and she says that im just really mean since im never gonna change! should i change and keep my friends or should i not change and have no friends but still have my bf! HELP!
i had this very similar situation but even worst my "bff" used to said things to my other friends about her not liking mmy boyfriend and i together and stuff..and then as the time passed i learned that this person was not a true friend,.. friends accept friends just as they are , and eventhought they might not like theyr boyfriends /girlfriends you cant put your friend to choose! cause at the end is only her and the guy in the realtionship not the other person, so just dont listen to her she doesnt seem like shes your friend if she really cared about you she would just be happy for you, maybe shes jut jealous you got a boyfriend and maybe she doesnt? that was one of the reasons why my ex bestfreind started rumors and stuff and started to make me choose between her and my boyfriend , cuase i used to spend more time with him than with her, you dont have to choose, and this person doesnt seem like a very good friend....
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[wrong category..sorry]
16/f. i got a new boyfriend 2 months ago. after that, basically, i've completely lost all touch with my inner self. my grades went down. some friends turned their backs on me. my parents are giving up on me. i feel horrible. i've become an attention seeking whore. but i'm depressed (i've been diagnosed.)
all because of a boyfriend..? there must be something wrong. it's very pathetic to see myself like this. it's like a drug to me now, this male affection/attention. and it's not like i'm putting less effort into my schoolwork. the grades just decline..
i'm sure this is not normal. any advice would be very much appreciated. =|
sometimes when we are sorrounded by negative people that influences us in some ways , do you think it might be your boyfriend? maybe he's not a very positive person? if he is negative or pesimist abour things this mightr influence you cause this happens to me i didn't mind at first until i realize i was starting to behave the same way so i think you should reconsider it and about the grades it is understandable even if you od your best and really study hard it might work but sometimes there are areas that we aren ot able to develop as we would like to eventhough we give our 140% of effort .
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k so i have a tight group of 4 friends including me, and me and one of my friends keep having private conversations because we trust each other...the others get really mad when we have a convo and are like at least include us in it and its really really frustrating because some of the things i cant trust them with...are they over exaggerating or just jealous? because i think that me and my other friend deserve to keep some secrets...
Thanks:)
it is very common you have specially one person that your closest to and can talk about evveyrthing l, i also have 4 best friends, but really , theres only 1 which i feel very confortable talking about everything any topic, there are some things i just don't mention to the other ones , but that doesn't mean i appreciate them less,,its just that our relationship its different, maybe they are just jealous, but im pretty sure that they are not 100% honest with you, they also have that someone who they trust everything to . dont worry it will not be inportant once they understand this , explain to them that surely they dont tell you 100% everything . they also must be keeping secrets from you :) thats when one of my friends understood why i wasnt able to trust her some things. cause she also has the same problem with me hahha =)
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i'm 14/f okay so for our school's annual halloween dance the theme is "kid's at heart" like something from our childhood like the 90s. Everyone usually dresses up with their frends & a while ago me & my friends thought we should do rugrats, but now my friendds don't want to do that & we keep arguing over what to do. They keep suggesting things like pokemon or lion king but i dont want to dress up in a weird suit lik that. Does anyone have any other ideas we could do? Thers 4/5 of us
thanks
power rangers? ninja turtles? captain tsubasa? ranma? aladdin ? wizard of oz? or my favorite one , scooby doo hahha i've seen it in a group of friends it looks really cool ,and the flinstones, jetsons , mario bros.!!need anymore?
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My friend is really clingy! Im at college and have just started a new course. This girl who was on my other course last year is on this one too and she wont leave me alone. I want to make other friends on the course because i dont just want one friend at college.
What can i say to her, so that i can make other friends without hurting her feelings?
Please help
Thanks
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dont sa y anything cause you might hurt her , just start to make her notice with indirect comments or actions that shes not your only friend, and try to make her meet more people , for example when you meet someone introduce him/her to your friend so she can get less attached to you and feel more confident about having more friends than you =)
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and ever since i did i have no friends its like i stopped hanging out with all of them. I need someone close to talk to but it seems everytime i find someone like that they always backstab me and tell the hole world...
what should i do?
the same thing happened to me when my bf and i where together like a year :S from then on I decided that I wasn't going to stop hanging with my friends because of him! i told him its okay for him to have friends girls and boys not just like dont talk to any girl and stuff . so i made him understood that my guy friends are nice persons even though they are not friends with my bf but he has notice that is just stupid to make me leave my friends for him and me doing the same to him. make him understand that you both need to spend time with your friends because if you just hang out with him and he does the saem thing you'll get tired of the relationship and will brake up or something similar, so just tell him you both need to spent also time with other people so you can be better with each other. hope you understoo the whole idea :)
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Oh gosh. I think I made a big
mistake. Ok here's an introduction. My friend has repeatedly started forgetting me in her big profile all dedicated to every single friend she has. I have been friends with her since fouth grade and i'm in seventh. When I said why do you keep forgettting me, she said sorry i'll ad you. This is what I said On AIM:
no its ok kaitlin can keep my spot.im not so mad about the fact that im not in it, but that im so not your friend that all those other people are in it but you forgot me when you would be the first person i put in. and when i think about who to invite to parties your the first person i think of.
i know you might be thinking "why the heck is she so mad about a stupid profile" but like im sadthat you just totally forgot about me. im not mad, im totally sad.
and you can tell kaitlin "jackie says thanks for destroying all her friendships" cause the only person that ever does anything with me is my sister.
and the last person that when i say "who are my friends?" does somethin like that.. it really really really makes me feel horrible
your really my only good friend beside sabrina.o and maureen.how nice shes the only one who talks to me during lunch.
you know the REAL REASON why i didnt have a birthday party this year? I HAVE NO ONE TO INVITE BESIDE YOU!
Was this the wrong thing to say?
no it was not wrong in my opinion although you might be over reacting ..but also its like how would she forget about you =(? maybe ..she didn't like the pics she had with you or anything ? it sounds stupid but might be a reason..maybe she didn't put aALL of her firends and really forgot to put you ..thouhgh i don't think so ..maybe you think she's one of your best friends. ..and she doesn't look at you in that way ..which is what i think proabbly is =( |
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i'm trying to plan a party with one of my friends
what kind of stuff would be fun besides a scavenger hunt in wal mart?
like crafts or something thats cool?
for like freshman in high school...? haha thanks
truth or dare games are really fun lol, or in other cases, telling secrets amm what else,,,karaoke contest ,casino night ammm waht else, i cant think of anything else right now but as far as i knew they don't do a lot in parties just dancing all night long! good luck! tae care =D
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So i met this kid in my class and he told me that he would call me and we could hang out sometime....the class is over and he never called me back!
No I'm a dude and i dont want to sound gay but is there a reason why....maybe he forgot??
lol i think he's just doing that do you won't get away thinking he's a stucker or something , that's probably the main reason or ..so you won't think he's like thinking about you all day (even if he does) guys usually are to proud to let other people know even if he's desperate to call you, he won't so you won't think he's too excited about you two lol hope i helped please ratE =)
Diane
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14/f
who i am seen as: major prep, stuck up, popular, loves cheerleading, loves anything pink, loves chanel & so on
WHO I WANT TO BE/wat i realy like: lip rings, pac sun, hot topic. stuff like that
don't get me wrong, i like girlie stuff, but i like that other stuff too. i dont know wat to do. theres NOWAY I can tell my friends. thed think im weird.
i dont kno if its just a phase though. what if.. i just want 2 kno wat it 'taste' like?
try it! your friends should love you because of who you are not what you wear or what you prefer...if they don't accept the things you like ..then they're not real friends =(
Diane
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how can i get alaan to noticed me?
start talking to him as a friend cause cute guys that are used to have lots of girls they sometimes aren't friend of the girls that obviously have a crush on them cause that might be unconfortale...talk to him as a friend and as in most of friendships there's a moment when those friends have to fall for each other or start wondring about if you can be more than just friends =)
Diane
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15/f
I never invite anyone over to my house to hang out except for my best friend. All we do is take pictures, gossip, go on the computer and watch TV. I'm afraid if I have other people over that they will be bored, so I never can invite anyone over.
What do people usually do when they go to eachother's houses? When I'm at other people's houses all they do is drink/smoke and that's definately not going on at my house.
We have a TV, DVD player, cable, digital camera, webcam, computer, internet, stereo.. and that's about it. No trampoline/swimming pool.
Right now it's rainy weather, if that comes into play.
Thanks so much!
pretty much what you do with your bf hahaha play something , dance, sing, order food, rent movies ,just talking , gossip,bake something, and mmm idk =(
Diane
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16, FEMALE =)
alright so my good friend nick is turning 15 in like..2 weeks? or so maybe earlier haha but he has a girlfriend and i like him. he doesnt know i do though. anyways i told him i would get him something from like "sex world" or a "fantasy" place you know something joking around but i dont think i can since im not 18 and i dont wanna ask anyone else to get it for me. so is there any good ideas or gifts i could get him..maybe something funny and then something he would actually like!? but not too much just some little things because i mean his girlfriend and family and everyone will get him big stuff and i dont want to get him something that will say "i like you" but something that will say i care about you if you know what i mean. dont say cologne or anything i think he has enough of that..nothing too pratical or something his girlfriend might give him but im thinking between $15-20? somewhere around there!! i just dont know i dont want it to be stupid and have him open it and be like what is this? and have me be embarassed! but i have to get him something, hes a good friend we call each other "Best friend" but i like him too :) but nobody knows that..yeah confusing! but if you could help figure out what i could get him it would help me sooo much!! and i already asked him and he said I DONT KNOW? like all guys say haha
well THANKS
a shirt? hoodie :P something practical, if he plays any instrument somthing related to that ..i gave my bf a pedal for his guitar lol, stuff animals haha a cake made for yourself cd's a game if he likes video games that would be a very good gift a sweater an album with pics of both of you and messages on it ammm...a wallet a watch so he would have them with him and use them a lot emm i run out of ideas hope i helped at least a little let me know how it went xD
Diane
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I have crash on this guy for a while. I asked him out the first time, he said yes, but cancelled on me on the day we suppose to go out. And second time, he asked me out, but cancelled out again. Now he appolized and said let's go out next week. Am I going to say yes?
I don't want to show how easy I am that he can just cancel on me all the time without considering my feeling, but in the same time, I do want to go out with him.... What should I do?
tell him you have plans but it will be great some other time :p so you would say yes but not when he wanted to hear it ;)
Diane
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I'l try and make it as short as possible.
I have a best friend and we always fall for the same guys at exactly the same time. It gets anoyin because we cant make a move on a guy because we dont want to hurt each others feelings.
About a month ago my friend fell for a guy and secretly i did too but she found out and i told her that i would move on again and find someone else. So i moved on and found a guy and we began to get on really well. We both flirted alot and we began to get really close. Then my best friend tells me she has fallen for exactly the same guy and she tells him how she feels. We continue flirting but then she takes him to the cinema. they are about to go out and she doesnt understand how much she is hurting me inside because she always talks about how close they are and i makes me cringe inside and i do not know how to tell her to stop talking about him and i really secretly do not want her to go out with him! this is selfish but its just how i feel and i really do not know what to do!! Please help xxx
so selfish from your friend :S you move on so she can have her guy and now she wants yours :S
talk to her !! thats not what a good friend would do also, your guy has to decide between the two of you :s its so ackward he's dating both of you
Diane
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I don't know what category this would go in, so forgive me if it's in the wrong category.
Let's call my friend Jane.
And let's call her boyfriend John.
Okay, well, Jane and John, who were in 11th grade at the time, decided to have sex one day and Jane ended up pregnant. It just so happens, I liked John a lot, but I knew that Jane loved him with all her heart. Now Jane is talking about how hard it is being a mother of a 5-month-old and stuff. It's sort of making me jealous.
I'm just afraid that I'm going to go have sex with some guy I don't even like to have a baby and see what it's like.
So, my question is, Is there any way I can see how hard it is being a teen mother without actually having to go through the pregnancy? Like, not like one of those psycho baby doll things people do in middle school, but like, staying with someone who has a newborn baby or something to convince me I don't want a baby? Or should I just have a baby and get it over with?
Thanks in advance!
yeah babysit for jane's baby and you'll know what she's talking about i have a single mother aunt one day i spent the night at her house to help her with the baby and it was really anoying baby woke up like every 2 hours :S and wont stop crying..also the most important thing to me about being a teen mother ..is that you have to drop off school its so dificult and then how will you pay for all the baby stuff? another thing its that most of the teen mothers broke up with the baby's father because they where inmature at the time they had their baby and its sooooooooooo difficult for teen moms to get a partner for life :S not all the guys want to have a girlfriend with a baby :s also everything most be done during the right time teen moms don't get to enjoy most of the good parts of being young =) ..you are your only responsability ,, go to parties , get a career , enjoy with friends, hang out . when your young you have the world for yourself i know it sounds stupid but you can do things that when your 30 with kids you won't do ..enjoy your youth =)
Diane
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I want to hang out with my friends more but every time I ask. No one will answer if they want to hang out.
I tried asking people but they say they are busy or something because of school and that we would hang out sometime later. Sometimes we do but usually we don't.
So it's break and I would love to get out... but what do I do?
I've been asking people for 3 days already and nobody will answer me.
Is something wrong with me? I didn't think I need anything wrong..
They said they should start acting more like friends but it hasn't happened.
Should I just give up and spend my days alone..?
find other friends , i had a "friend" who always asks us out and to hang out but we didn't wanted to hang out with her so we hang out without her i know it sounds really mean but maybe your "friends" aren't what they suppose to be =( good luck
** find new friends that really wants to hang out with you and won't give you stupid excuses if they dont want your company some else will do it trust me =)
Diane
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Ok so my friends do these things they call bashings. It's where we sit in a circle and tell esch other what we don't like each other. I hate it i think it's ridiculous casue i feel like their trying to stream line me so i'm some form of perfect friend robot.
They say it's so we don't talk behind each others back. Whenever i say i think it's stupid and it hurts me they just say i'm so sensitive and can't handle critism.
What do you think is it a good idea or stupid?
What should i do?
i think theres good to know what bothering other people, but also i know that truth can hurt , any constructive critisism must be welcome also your friends should say the truth in a way it won't hurt so much , if they really are your friends they woudn't say anything that really hurts you badly.
also you can tell them that your not confortable by hearing them critisicing you, although it is not to make you the perfect friedn but maybe they do it in the good way for example. when somethings really bothering you about a person but you don't want to ruin friendship you would want to tell this friend what the problem is so they can fix it .=) hope it helped a little bit
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