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Am i going to say yes?
I have crash on this guy for a while. I asked him out the first time, he said yes, but cancelled on me on the day we suppose to go out. And second time, he asked me out, but cancelled out again. Now he appolized and said let's go out next week. Am I going to say yes?
I don't want to show how easy I am that he can just cancel on me all the time without considering my feeling, but in the same time, I do want to go out with him.... What should I do?
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tell him you have plans but it will be great some other time :p so you would say yes but not when he wanted to hear it ;)
Diane
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tell him you have plans. its always good to let them chase you a little just don't run so far he can't catch up. if he really wants to go out wiht you he'll as you again.. if you think he is going to bail come up with something that will catch him off guard. you don't want him to end up using you because he thinks your easy. if you make up excuses more than twice and he is still asking then your probably safe he won't bail.
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That's hard! I've been on both the canceler/canceled on side before, so I know what it's like. Did he give a reason for canceling? If he didn't, I'd back off from him a little bit. But obviously, if it was something big like being sick or having to leave town suddenly, then it's more understandable.
I would be honest with him and say something like, "I think you're a great guy, but when you cancel at the last minute it tells me that you seeing me isn't important to you. I'm not sure that I can trust you, and I need a guy who is more dependable than that."
See what he says. If he offers a sincere apology, I would give this guy another chance. If he blows you off or gets defensive, he's probably not worth it.
Good luck! :)
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Tell him Yes tell him the 3rd time is the charm Have him meet you at a public place Skating rink bowling alley Swim pool what ever you think you and him would enjoy ask him what kind of things he likes to do? pick something you both like. Explain to him it will be dutch treat he pays his way and you pay yours eats drinks every thing you pay your own way Tell him he can leave any time he gets ready and you can leave any time you get ready leave separately and see how it goes Then from there work on the second date
1 It gives you a chance to get to know each other.
2 Elimates money problems if there is any.
3 Makes him feel as if he is not on a time schedule or any type of comment.
4 Also pick a place where you can go ahead and enjoy yourself if he does't show and I do mean that Say you pick a bowling alley If he doesn't show go ahead and bowl enjoy your own company Who knows may be some friends will show up and you all can bowl together
5 Your showing him that he has not ruined your day by his cancellation
6 It makes him not to have to apolozie or feel guilty if he can't make it.
7 If he cancels or don't show mark him off and move on it is his lost or if you have a relationship later on it will be you that is being cancelled on more regular then changes your socks good luck
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show him how it feels to be canceled on. cancel on him last minute
HOPED I HELPED
♥ Flaggal
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Here's just a suggestion, when he calls you, ask him what night might work for him, THen tell him you'll check your calendar, don't talk on the phone for a few seconds, (like you just went to check)tell him you already have something else planned that day, even though you may not, then suggest another day. again this is just a suggestion. hope it works out for you!
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He's sounds pretty flaky, but it doesn't seem like he would ask you out again if he didn't like you. You shouldn't rule him out as a boyfriend before you hear his side of the story; just casually ask him why he cancelled. He may have a good reason.
Good luck...I hope I helped!
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If you want to go out with him, then you should cause if you say no you might not get another chance. Maybe tell him that your not sure if you can that day, or be like "i'll have to see what im doing" so it doesnt sound like youve been waiting around for this date. Hope this helped
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I think you should just tell him the truth, say
"Yes I want to go but I don't want to say yes and then you cancel on me again. If I say yes, will you cancel again."
and if he says no then say yes and go but if he says I Dont Know then it's up to you if you want to have him cancel again or not.
Hope I Helped.
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Sara<3
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