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should i change for a friend
ok so ive known my friend for my whole life pretty much! and now she wants me to change because she says im to full of myself cuz i say that im pretty but she can say it but im a terrible person if i do she also hate my bf and says that if i dont change and dump him no1 will like me anymore and she says that its friends before bf but i really like him and all! and i told her that im never changing for anybody and she says that im just really mean since im never gonna change! should i change and keep my friends or should i not change and have no friends but still have my bf! HELP!
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i had this very similar situation but even worst my "bff" used to said things to my other friends about her not liking mmy boyfriend and i together and stuff..and then as the time passed i learned that this person was not a true friend,.. friends accept friends just as they are , and eventhought they might not like theyr boyfriends /girlfriends you cant put your friend to choose! cause at the end is only her and the guy in the realtionship not the other person, so just dont listen to her she doesnt seem like shes your friend if she really cared about you she would just be happy for you, maybe shes jut jealous you got a boyfriend and maybe she doesnt? that was one of the reasons why my ex bestfreind started rumors and stuff and started to make me choose between her and my boyfriend , cuase i used to spend more time with him than with her, you dont have to choose, and this person doesnt seem like a very good friend....
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Oh sweetie you shouldnt change yourself for anyone. If shes asking that of you, then shes not a good friend. I had a friend like her once, we were best friends since 2nd grade, and one time she told me she was trying out for soccer and I thought wouldnt it be just so much fun if we tried out together, but no, she got very mad at me and told me it was her thing and that I couldnt do it, and if I was a real friend I would just back off. I did and have regretted it. She definetally intimidated me and it wasnt fair of her to do that. And its not fair of your friend to make you change yourself for her. Friends love one another, and they dont make one another change for anything. Friends accept the others quirks no matter what and love them for all the good and bad stuff. And Im sure that if you dont change not everyone will shut you out and hate you. Shes just saying that to make you scared and let her change you. Its just my opinion but she doesnt sound like someone you need or want in your life right now. I know shes been your friend for like forever but believe me friends grow apart, and sometimes its for the better. Just tell her that you wont change but you still want to be friends. If she walks away, thats her choice and shes missing out on something great. Remember that. Good luck girl!
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