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Since ive been dating my boyfriend...
I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and ever since i did i have no friends its like i stopped hanging out with all of them. I need someone close to talk to but it seems everytime i find someone like that they always backstab me and tell the hole world...
what should i do?
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i totally know how you feel. i think you should make more of an effort to hang out with them..like every friday night or at least once every other weekend. At first they might be uneasy about it and yes it is frustrating..but things will get back to normal hopefully. you have to make your friends see that you are going to change and hang out with them too
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the same thing happened to me when my bf and i where together like a year :S from then on I decided that I wasn't going to stop hanging with my friends because of him! i told him its okay for him to have friends girls and boys not just like dont talk to any girl and stuff . so i made him understood that my guy friends are nice persons even though they are not friends with my bf but he has notice that is just stupid to make me leave my friends for him and me doing the same to him. make him understand that you both need to spend time with your friends because if you just hang out with him and he does the saem thing you'll get tired of the relationship and will brake up or something similar, so just tell him you both need to spent also time with other people so you can be better with each other. hope you understoo the whole idea :)
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You shouldn't stop hanging out with them.
A boyfriend cant replace a friend. Because one day, when you really need a friend.. they won't be there.
You have to try to make new friends or strength the bonds between your current ones. Try to make amends and hang out. You have to earn their trust back again.. even if it was your close friend.
Because once you start hanging out with your boyfriend more.. your friends feel unwanted and unimportant.. that's like being backstabbed. You have to pay attention to them and make time for them.
Also, you shouldn't tell people things unless you didn't want it to get out. Because it always gets out. Unless it's your best friend.. You have to build trust for each other.. find a good person and don't let them get in so quickly. Get to know them and see if they are trustworthy.
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i know how you feel. everyone needs friends. jsut becasue you have a boyfriend doesnt mean you dont need friends.everyone needs friends to help them and guide them. i know a boyfriend is really close but he can never take the place of a really good friend. try to get back your friends, talk to them. make some time for them and your boyfriend. and you cant be so negative about everyone. not everyone is a backstabber. try to find new friends be outgoing nice and talkative. when you do find good friends or get your old ones back you will realize that not everone is a backstabber.
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