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Is this a selfish act??
I'l try and make it as short as possible.
I have a best friend and we always fall for the same guys at exactly the same time. It gets anoyin because we cant make a move on a guy because we dont want to hurt each others feelings.
About a month ago my friend fell for a guy and secretly i did too but she found out and i told her that i would move on again and find someone else. So i moved on and found a guy and we began to get on really well. We both flirted alot and we began to get really close. Then my best friend tells me she has fallen for exactly the same guy and she tells him how she feels. We continue flirting but then she takes him to the cinema. they are about to go out and she doesnt understand how much she is hurting me inside because she always talks about how close they are and i makes me cringe inside and i do not know how to tell her to stop talking about him and i really secretly do not want her to go out with him! this is selfish but its just how i feel and i really do not know what to do!! Please help xxx
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well if she really is your best friend then she wouldnt go out with him because it would hurt you. i think you should talk to her about it and if she still continues to see him then you should forget about them both. it might be hard but no one deserves a best friend like that. make sure this boy knows how you feel about him aswell. if your friend doesnt care about you being hurt, then fight for the guy.
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I don't think you're being selfish at all. It sounds like you told your friend you liked this guy and she moved in anyway. Normally, I would tell you not to get mad because you can't help it if he falls for her and not you and they can't help it either, but in this case I think you should do the same thing. Tell him how you feel and ask him out. Go out with him a few times and then ask if he likes you or your friend better and DON'T GET HURT IF HE SAYS HER! Guys are terrible flirts and you'll find another one soon, I'm sure.
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so selfish from your friend :S you move on so she can have her guy and now she wants yours :S
talk to her !! thats not what a good friend would do also, your guy has to decide between the two of you :s its so ackward he's dating both of you
Diane
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You need to tell her, hun.
Explain to her that you moved on from the first guy for her and now shes back on your tail. Tell her that either she has to move on or no one gets him.
If you've been that good about it in the past, you shouldn't have any problems now.
However, from now on maybe you should try hanging out with people without each other so you can meet different guys to date.
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