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Heyyy!!!! What's up everyone. I'M BACK!!! my name is Catherine. I am 15 years old. I may be a minor you will be surprised of what I know, especially things I haven't been trough. Just leave anything you want to talk about in my inbox.advice
so, my best friend, can treat me like DIRT.
i mean horrible. she's just sooo rude! what do i do? i mean i love her so much, and shes amazing. but when shes rude i dont know what to do! i just take it. beucase i NEVER want to loose her. i NEED HELP!
15fem.
Here is what I think. Me and my best friend are aways mean to eachother, but playing around you know. But if she is taking the meaness to a different level, meaning seriously. You need to say something or else she'll think she can take advantage of you. You can either treat her the same she treats you to let her know how it feels, OR you can just tell her. I mean she can't be a best friend if she is NOT willing to at least listen...Hope I helped.
basically i suck at holding a conversation. whenever i talk to someone, i come up short for things to talk about. and when i do talk, its usually about something boring lol. so what im asking is for advice on how to create conversation and keep it going so im not boring. thank you!
Well, umm you can talk about things you both like. You can make things exciting. Tell jokes. Tell them what you saw on t.v or anything, don't just THINK of what to say. Just say what you feel at that moment. Hope I helped.
Well wen i was 10 i was raped and all of my friends know well one of my friends told me that she wants 2 get raped(she's a virgin)just so she doesn't have 2 be the only virgin in our cliqué and so she stays on her myspace talking 2 perves im scared 4 her she says on monday she is going 2 meet somebody and im scared she is going 2 get raped and that the person is going 2 kill her so i need advice fast before i might not ever see her again
Okay, Number one, She is deffinatly going overboard. It's not RAPE if she wants it. Two she need to quit being on myspace cause she does NOT know who is on the OTHER side of that computer. You need to tell her how you felt when you were raped. You need to tell her about the horror the tagedy, and tell her if she meets someone, that she met though a computer, she might not ever come back. Be straight up with her. Don't give her that little child act. You need to be for real and honest or else she just won't get it...
15/f- Its really long but if you would take the time, I would really really appreciate your help.
Okay I have 2 best friends, shelby and christa. Well shelby recently got a boyfriend, and all of a sudden started acting very distant to me and christa. She never hung out with us anymore, and barely talked to us at school. She was trying to change herself to fit in with her bf's friends. Well Then she started telling people that me and christa abandoned her and that we were mad and jealous that she has a bf. We never said anything to her. So then we heard it from more people, so we asked her about it, if she said it. She denied it, and got mad at us and walked away. We let it go. Then my friend found a note from her to her bf that said " I dont know what is up with HER (meaning me) lately. If she doesnt knock it off quick, Im not gonna talk to her at all at homecoming because I dont want my night to be ruined by HER". So then I called her and asked her about it. Now Im not a mean person at all. Im too nice at times. Well I must have said "Now Im not trying to attack you or be mean, I just wanna talk" fifteen times, and she was like "Oh I know" She made up some lame excuse, and I was like whatever, so then we talked for about an hour like normal about our day and whatnot. The next morning she came up to Christa and I and hugged us to make sure we were okay. Well afterschool a friend came up and said "shelby said you called her and yelled and bitched her out for an hour and then she cried after you got off the phone" I was so angry, and I was tempted just to not talk to her anymore, but I gave it one more chance. I went up to her before lunch at her locker and asked her why she was saying that, and that she knew very well it wasnt true. I was being wayy too nice. She wouldnt look at me, she kept her eyes on her locker and was like "yeah... whatever.. sure" while I was talking, so then she was like "IM DONE okay? IM DONE WITH YOU" and just kept saying it, and I walked off, and then she went and told her bf that it was the otherway around. So then she comes up to me like 1 or 2 days later and says I was being a bitch the otherday, I dont know what was up. Blah. And I just said yeah I agree and walked away, then she wrote me a 3 page note and the first page was an apology finally. Im the forgive and forget type, but I dont really wanna forgive exactly, but she sits at our lunch table now, but everyone is like "why are you talking to her, she doesnt deserve your time"
Should I forgive her after all she did?
Am I right about this whole thing?
Should I talk to her still?
What should I do?
I would greatly appreciate any help anyone can give
Well if I were you I would talk to her. There is no harm in giving a couple of more chances. I mean hey this IS what mostiy happens when your friend has a bf.
for the girls
do u think boys that have long hair are hotter than boys than short hair
it depends how it looks like. Descibe it and I'll tell you if it is hot or not. Try to do braids, now that is CALIENTE!!
Ohkay.. ill try and write this more descriptively..
Me and my best friend always hang out, we sit with each other everyday at lunch and i love her to death.. But lately she is getting on my nerves.. shes really obsessed with this boy and she always askes me to get him to like her.. well i would hate bugging the guy and be like " PLEASE LIKE MY BEST FRIEND" and shes acting soo much different since we're in high school now.. i love her to death. but i just dont know what to do or say.. can u please help me!?!
Hope its more descriptive =]
Thanks!
Well you really don't have to say it like that. Try to talk to him with her in the conversation you know brag about her, make her seem more important to him as she is to you.
Okay I made the dance team for my school.I'm usally fine performing in front of people.But i just found out that like 8 people from our football team likes me.I like one of them a lot.I'm just afraid that i'm going to mess up in front of them when i'm performing in front of the whole school.So what should i do to help me get over it?Our first game is this wednesday.Help!!please!!I'm 13 female in 8th grade if that helps any bit.
~Kristy~
Okay first breathe in and out for a couple of times. Then pratice a little bit each day till wednesday. Just don't think about them so much, concetrate on your dancing. Remember you are doing this for you not for him
I just started my Sophmore year of highschool. From the begining of Freshman year 'til now, I've lost MANY friends for stupid reasons. Mainly because I got into a fight with one girl that I was best friends with and then she got all of her friends to hate me too. Which was about 15 people. How nice right?
Anyway, I have a reputation of being a bitch. Because.. Well, I CAN be. But I'm really not when you get to know me.
I really want to try to change my reputation on being a bitch, I want to show people that I AM a good person and attempt to make new friends. But I really need help on changing my reputation. Any ideas?
Listen you don't have to prove anything to anybody. If they don't accept who you are than thats their problem.
p.s. don't worry at least you got one friend...ME
Whenever i like someone, I get really shy and i cant talk to him in person. Is the any advice that will help me not be shy and accually talk to him in person. i have no problem talking to him on the computer by the way. :-\
Look, sometimes guys like girls who are shy around them. But if you want to talk to him just think of as a friend for now cause sometimes if you think of him as your crush AND ONLY your crush you will get nervous. Just remember be yourself. Good luck.
a girl i dont know that well, but is good friends with my good friends invited me 2 her b-day party, but i was gonna be on vacation, so i told her that and said i couldn't come. she called me a month later and invited me to another party, but i was really really mad at the moment. and i bitchily said "i'm busy" halfway through her sentance and she was like "oh... ok" and i said "bye" and hung up. i called back and apologized once i had cooled down a bit, and explained it was just my mood. but she's been telling her friends (mine too) that she thinks i hate her. any suggestions to make her realize i have nothing against her (and start getting invited to her parties again, because it sucks, cuz she has them all the time and i'm never invited anymore)
Just tell "look I'm really sorry about my moods and I'm am really sorry that I made you think I hate you. But I don't, can you forgive."
my BEST FRIEND has been for me since 2nd grade, and i dont want anything to come between us.
last year i went out with a guy, umm lou..sure...and he broke up with me...but ive always been crushing on him since. just crushing...i still flirt with others and stuff, but my best friend..uhh..zoe....nos that i "like" him.
lately shes been flirting with lou alot, and she came out and told me she likes him more than a friend. i was really upset, but she promised me that she wouldnt hurt me by going out with him or anything.
so now she told LOU that she liked him, and im thinking that they are soon going to go out, cuz my other friend came up to me and was like, "do you hate zoe now??" and im like why and their like "oops nvm" and so i think they're gonna go out or already are.
so what im asking is should i just let them go and break my heart..but still have my friend and try to forget about it-or let this situation hurt my friendship and make her realize how bad she really hurt me.
ill rate high nomatter what cuz this is longish...thnx
What you should do is tell her how you feel. Don't get mad though cause that will make it worse. Just ask "Are you and LOU going out?" if she says yes then tell her "I thought you promised that you wouldn't HURT ME by going out with him and look what you are doing to me now" Look just talk it over. It least you two will forget somewhere.
ME and my best friend used to never get in fights but lately she is like causing so much drama and like gettin pissed at me for nuthin and i dunno if there is anything i can do to change this.. should i baQ off for a lil while n let her get her issues strait.. or wut?!? please help!!
You need to help her. If she is you best friend you can't just stand there. If she been making drama lately there must be something that is botherin' her if you ask she will tell. You never know just help her out.
What is the real difference between a friend and a "best friend"?
Well to me a friend is like a back up. See your best friend is someone you can tell your secrets to, helps you when your sad, calms you down when ya mad, and will be there for you no matter what. And a friend is, well not as good as a best friend but at least having someone to talk to when your BEST friend ain't there.
i have this friend and we get in fights all the time and i love her to death but it seems like were no supposed to be friends but i really want to be friends with her...whast should i do
-to hate or not to hate-
13/f
You should not hate. What you need to do is try not to have so many arguments. Talk to her as calm as possible. You need to tell her straight up saying "ya know what we really got to stop fighting or else our friendship will get father and father apart and I don't want that to happen"
hi, I am a girl who is 13. I always act mature for my age, and have friend's who are always older than me. Is this normal?
Yeah it is normal. when I was little, like say 8 I was smart I had friends older than me, the oldest was 18 years old. Now I have friends my age their all like my sisters and brothers I never had. Like I said it is normal.
Im 15/f and a senior in my school and I are friends. He figured out i was single agian and said stuff like "Oh i'm single too, you looking?" and said he wanted a chance but i assumed he was playing and was like Right right yeah yeah, of course u like me! whatever and such. But now i kind of like him more! I don't know if he was actually joking or not! He gave me his cell # but im to bashful to call it! do you think he was joking?
School starts tomorrow but i doubt i'll have classes with him, should i wait n see if he talks to me in hallways??? help???
girl you know what don't wait for him to TALK to you in the hallway since you know you like him you talk to him. Don't wait. He gave you his cellphone #. Call. Start a conversation.