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Okay, so I've been talking to this guy for awhile. Lemme point out the majority of my friends are guys. I just like them better - they're easier to get along with.
So this guy is kind of a jerk, but he's not really mean. He just like, teases and makes fun of me a lot. I was talking to him the other night, and I said something about talking to much and joked about him "probably want[ing] to duct tape my mouth and hands" (we were talking on line) and he said "you know, I might just have to take you up on that," and we went into a whole conversation about like, tying me up and he made it like, really sexual.
Then last night I was talking to him and I asked him what he wanted (I meant out of life) but he turned it into a discussion about what we wanted in relationships, and then he asked why I was so curious/interested, and I answered honestly first, saying it was "just something to talk about, and gets me into your head a little." and then said (obviously sarcastic) no, it's because I want you. And he thinks I seriously like him! I can't convince him otherwise, and I totally don't. I mean, I like him as a friend, but that's honestly it.
I don't want him to go around thinking I like him when I don't. So how do I fix this situation? I've tried talking to him about it and calmly explaining that I really, honestly don't like him like that and that I was totally kidding, and he said something like "You can lie to me but you can't lie to yourself."
Yeah, he's kinda arrogant. But like...what would you do?
It almost sounds to me like he likes me, but he specifically said he didn't.
So I ask you, what the heck? (link)
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Haha...I know EXACTLY what you mean babe. I went thru the same thing myself. I wouldn't talk to him for awhile and give it time to sink in that you don't like him. But this guy sounds like he has a really big ego and i don't think that he's worth your time so just forget about it and move on to someone better! Hope I helped...Love yah!
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Me and my friend Kayla have been frinds for 4 years. Well i went to the fair one day and her ex boyfriend was their he started talking to me then he hugged me and asked me if he could walk aroud with me. Well i said sure, so then we were walking around and all of a sudden he turned me around and kissed me and i didnt stop him we just started making out. I didnt mean to though it was really hard to stop cause it reminded me of my ex b/f and how he used to kiss me so i went in a days. Well now she found out and she is really really mad at me but she wont admit it she hangs up on me every time i call her. I dont know what to do i dont wanna lose my friendship over a guy. (link)
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Well, first off, you should've known NOT to kiss your friends ex. I would HATE it if one of my friends did that to me, so let her cool down for a week or so. Don't even speak to her, bc if you do it'll just make her more angry w/ you! Also, it sounds like you aren't over your ex yet and she isn't over her's either. Babe, I'm sorry, but you got yourself into this situation, whether you can see it or not, so if she's really your friend, you should talk to her ex and tell him that it was wrong to make out w/ him bc you hurt your friend. (if you even feel that it was wrong) then hopefully she'll calm down and let you apologize. If not, that's her decision. So, yea there's a possibility that you could lose a friendship over a guy. It sucks, I've been through it too. But I hope everything works out for you! Ask me if you need anything else! Love yah!
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see the thing is i have alot of friends but not one best friend i can do everything with. i want my one friend to be my bff but i dunno how, its really confusing and even tho i have friends i feel so alone.....help please (link)
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Wow. You sound like me! I know how you feel bc I don't have a BEST friend here...just tons of friends (love yall) but yea I would just start hanging out a lot more w/ this person you want to be your best friend & talking more online or even calling them just to say hey and ask them about their day and stuff! Hope I helped! Love yah!
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Ok,i have this friend Tina. I know tina id going to become friends with my other friend. I do not want them to be friends but i no they are going to become really close. Tina always puts me in the shadow and she gets all the attension. How can i except that Tina and my friend are going to be come close..and not care? Not feel sad and left out inside? Not feel missing and alone? How can i just be happy with everyone? please help (link)
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Hey babe! Ok well if your other friend is a guy and you like him you need to tell Tina that she has no business talking to him but if its a guy you don't like like that or a girl then talk to both of them and explain that you feel left out. If they were truly your friends, they would respect your feelings and apologize. I'm in a similar situation here myself haha. But if they don't care that they're hurting you, move on and find better friends! But you really should be happy that these people are becoming friends bc then yall can hang out together and not have it be awkward if they ever stop ignoring you! Well, hope I helped! I hope it gets better for ya! love yah!
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my name is EJ and i have a friend that i have know for almost a year now and i have liked since the first time i saw her and i was wondering if yall could give me some advice on how to ask her out so if she says no we can still be friends (link)
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Hey EJ! I would just ask her when you talk to her if she likes someone right now and if she's even looking for a relationship. And if she tells you who she likes and it isn't you, just change the subject. But if she doesn't like someone, then she'll prolly say yes to you! Hope that helped! Let me know how it goes!
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OMG! I don't have any friends anymore all the guys at my school hate me and my "friends" don't even talk to me. No one talks to me. and no i'm not a "loser". I had "friends" but they keep discludeing me! HELP?! (link)
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That sucks babe I know how you feel tho it happened to me last summer. If your friends are discluding you from stuff, talk to them about it and ask them what you did. I'm sure you have one true friend tho so just talk to that person and hang out w/ them this summer and next yr you'll meet a ton of new people that will treat you better! well hope i helped! love yah!
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ok so my best guy friend is moving. i used to like him but now im trying not to b/c he's moving and i no it won't work out. but i still want to be friends. how can i still be friend's with him if he's moving like 2 hours away. will being friend's work with him so far away? (link)
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Hey babe! YEA YOU CAN STILL BE FRIENDS W/ HIM!!! My best guy friend lives 8 hrs away from me and we've managed to strengthen our friendship over that distance for the past 5 yrs...even tho we're not talking right now haha! But like yall can still IM, email, text, & even call sometimes! You can still talk to him everyday! And it seems like it can't work out right now, and you're right, it prolly can't, but if you lose touch w/ him now, then who knows what could've happened between yall in the future? Ok well hope I kinda helped babe! If you wanna talk about this anymore just IM me anytime! Love yah!
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what are some good qualities you need to have in a friendship? for example ..loyalty. i need at least 3 of them. thanks i rate high for good answers
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Ok welll....
TRUST
HONESTY
CARING
....those are MY top 3...
What are yours?
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Okay, I made a new friend at the beginning of this previous school year and we are pretty close. Well, she can get very annoying sometimes and be really aggravating alot. Well, is it normal for me to want to spend time away for her? (link)
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Of course its normal!! We all need space from eachother sometimes! But if she's annoying just tell her that you don't like being around her when she acts like that but say it really nicely so she doesn't get mad! Ok well hope I helped! Love yah!
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my friend has been going through some tough times lately. her parents just got divorced and her mom is gettting married this fall.
shes cant act herself around her supposively new 'stepdad'.
how could i help her? and what are some ways she could benefit from having a new dad?
thanks! (link)
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All you can really do to help her is be a good friend and listen when she wants to talk about it. Also, just keep her busy--go to the movies, mall, pool, where ever she likes to go to take her mind off of it. I'm prolly not the best person to ask about this tho bc my parents aren't divorced so I really don't know what it feels like, but it would be cool having a stepdad bc thats one more person that will love her and always be there for her, and since he's not her real dad then it'll prolly be easier for her to talk to him about situations bc he can't really punish her haha! Ok, well hope I helped! Ask me if you need any thing else! Love yah!
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i was hanging out..dating this guy for about 2 months & we had so much fun together hangin out & he was so sweet to me.. we talked about not getting serious and everything since he was going pretty far away for college.. then he went on vacation with his friends for a week and came back & i went to a party at his house and he barely talked to me.. and now he never calls me and we havent hung out for like a month..was he using me or what ?.. i dunno what to do i really miss him!! ..it freaking sucks! (link)
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Well, then call him and tell him that you wanna hang out a lot before he leaves for college in the fall. He's prolly just afraid that he could fall for you and thats why he's staying away from you bc he's scared. Ok well hope i helped! Love yah!
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How do you make yourself less shy? When i'm in big groups i barely talk at all. i am painfully shy. how do i become more outgoing? (link)
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Hey babe! I'm kinda shy too until you get to know me but when you're in groups stick w/ people you know and then you have more to talk about! And I think in general to become more outgoing you just need to believe in yourself and realize that people will like you if you just be yourself! kk well hope i helped! Love yah!
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im 15 male and theres a girl i like but i don't know what to say to her (link)
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Ask her to hang out and if she doesn't want to then don't tell her how u feel, but if she says yes then see how things go and ask if she has a bf or not and if she's lookin for someone then ask her out if she says she's looking! Hope I helped!
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ok so i have this realy good who lives like a couple states away. our families are pretty close and we used to be joined at the hip. she moved a couple years ago and now we like never see eachother, except once or twice a year. i (link)
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KAIIII!!!! YOU'RE FRIKIN HILARIOUS!!!! Haha! I love ya soooo much!! But anyways...i think that if you break it off just bc she lives a couple states away then you need to go to a mental institution bc this friend would be heartbroken that she didn't have anyone to beat her ass at monopoly anymore!!! And she misses you LOTS too! You owe me Enrico's & Graeter's for my excellent advice!!! haha!!! Love ya tons, Kai!! Bffeaeaeaeaeaeaeaeaeaeae!
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yo right my SUPOSE to be BESTFRIEND i think is hiding from me that she goes out with one of my ex boyfriends and im really pissed....like me and the boy and me were REAL serious and it would hurt me to see her with him...I think this cause she be walkin wit him in the hallway he be over her house and they be on the phone and she said she wont tell me who she go wit..oh and plz dont say no lil smart comments cause its not cute people come on here for advice not smart comments well thanx in advance i rate high (link)
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Ok wow. Yea i'm in a similar situation so I know how you feel...I think you need to cool off and think about what this boy means to you and what you mean to him and if its worth being this upset over. Also, if your best friend realizes she's hurting you, then she's not being a friend and you need to tell her about this and see if what you think is true or not. Just tell her how you feel and how much it hurts to think it might be true and I'm sure she'll understand! Hope I helped!
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