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How to not care..
Ok,i have this friend Tina. I know tina id going to become friends with my other friend. I do not want them to be friends but i no they are going to become really close. Tina always puts me in the shadow and she gets all the attension. How can i except that Tina and my friend are going to be come close..and not care? Not feel sad and left out inside? Not feel missing and alone? How can i just be happy with everyone? please help
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You should notice Tina is better than you.
Tina knows it, and your other friend knows it.
You know what would make you feel better?
Drinking the stuff under the sink.
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OMG i have the same exact problem!!! I would confront Tina aout it and tell her that you feel as if you are being replaced by her new friend. And i would try an be friends with the new girl. Who knows you might lover her after all.
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Simple join in with them like if they are going to the mall then ask if you can come to if you join in then you won't feel left out. Mind you I'm not saying butt into private conversations but you get the idea. If that doesn't work talk to your friend about how you feel she probably doesn't know she's doing it. I would do the second thing first if I were you. would love feed back.
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Hey babe! Ok well if your other friend is a guy and you like him you need to tell Tina that she has no business talking to him but if its a guy you don't like like that or a girl then talk to both of them and explain that you feel left out. If they were truly your friends, they would respect your feelings and apologize. I'm in a similar situation here myself haha. But if they don't care that they're hurting you, move on and find better friends! But you really should be happy that these people are becoming friends bc then yall can hang out together and not have it be awkward if they ever stop ignoring you! Well, hope I helped! I hope it gets better for ya! love yah!
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I have been there before. I have lost my old time friends from like 2nd grade and 4th grade when I entered middle school...and truely I never did gain them back. It's not like we have a grudge against each other or anything, it's just that we have all moved on and some of my friends have literally moved away.
The only thing you can do to keep from losing your friends is to talk to them. Tell them what you told us. It probably won't fix the problem 100%, but at least they'll know how you feel and if they're good friends, they'll start trying to spend more time with you and fix the problem. Sit down with them somewhere and have a long talk. Don't feel bad about feeling jealous and replaced because we have all experienced that when a friend starts spending more time with someone else.
You could also try becoming better friends with BOTH of them. That would be a good thing because the three of you will hang out and you'll have TWO bestfriends. There's nothing wrong with having more than one bestfriend.
And if all else fails, I'll tell you the truth. Not all friendships work out. Sometimes, even the sturdiest and longest friendships die out.
Think of it this way: "In everyone's life there are certain people who have helped to form his character and given direction to his life; they are like big stones in a river that force the water to alter its course."
And even if those people are not with you forever, they still helped form who you are. Cherish your memories...don't forget them, but don't be sad when your newer memories don't have your bestfriend in them. You will make new friends. Just be glad you were friends with your bestfriend and you made some good memories together.
Even if you were still friends with your friends, that doesn't mean it will last forever. It might have to end eventually anyway. Different colleges, etc.
Try fix your friendship, but if it doesn't work out, just accept it, look at the positives, and live life.
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