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I know this is long but its pretty simple i think? i am not sure though....all i need is a song to go along with this problem..i know its sounds stupid, but plz just hear me out here plz...
Ok, my best friend and I have been best friends since 1st grade, which is almost 8 years (were 15 and goin into 10th grade)...we have been havin problems and stuff, she was taken out of public school and now goes to a private school now and i am still stuck in a public school. she lives 2 blocks away and i haven't seen her since january..we are suppose to meet next week or so, to talk, she sent a letter saying she wants to talk to me..and so.. i was thinking if we are thinking if we get that chance to get our friendship back that something should be made to prove a great summer gettin a friendship back together. i was thinking of taking my digital camera everywhere we went and take pictures of all the stuff we did...like the place we sat to talk and stuff like that and (if the friendship gets better and we have fun and stuff) to the magizines and stuff like that ..n the messes we made in the bedrooms and cookin n stuff... then go load the pictures onto a disk and make a dvd out of that all..or a slide show..and give it to her in september when school starts...and i was thinking, whats a great song to go along with the situation. please give me some suggestions. thx (link)
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There are probably A LOT of songs but I can only think of some oldies like Just the Two of Us by Will Smith or the original version by Bill Withers, Lean on Me by a lot of artists some being Al Green, Bill Withers, the Temptations, and Rascal Flatts. A really good song would be Ain't No Mountain High Enough. That's all I can think of right now, sorry. Hope I helped.
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ok..if this is the second time i wrote this sry. it says i didnt ask a question and i need some advice. well i am 14 years old and there is this guy. we have been talking for about a month and a half now. he tells me he loves me and we almost had sex. everyone always asks me if we go out, i never know what to tell them so then i just asked him what were we?..were we just talkin or do we go out?..and he said we are just talking. i mean i like u but i want to talk to other girls.
should i keep talkin to him to see if things get better. or shut him outta my life? i just dont wanna get hurt. yah kno? (link)
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This is an awesome quote that you should consider.... Never make someone your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. It's not worth it to just be his hook up girl while he's talking to other girls. Most of the time guys don't change no matter how much you want them to either. You deserve better and should find someone who will focus only on YOU. Hope I helped.
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I know this may sound weird, but i'm a girl, and i like hanging out with boys more than I do girls. It just seems that theres always awkward silences and I don't know what to say with girls. With boys, I can just act like myself and whats on my mind around them. Its not that im not friends with girls, i actually do have alot. but its more fun with boys. should I try to hang out with my own sex more or is this ok?? I feel a little weird and different thats all. (link)
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It's completely understandable. Sometimes I'd rather hang out with guys than girls just because there is less drama. Just make sure that you don't completely stop hanging out with girls. It's sometimes good to just hang out with girls. There are bonds between girls (even if we do act crazy sometimes) that can't be found anywhere else. All in all, its fine that you like to chill with the guys. You don't have to change yourself because it's not the norm. Hope I helped.
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ok so I have these 2 friends....We r really close but just like anyone sometimes i just get tired of being with them.....well first off they had planned to go bowlin....i hadnt heard that we were going for sure all day so another friend of mine called and since i had not heard from them i made other plans....next.....we had planned to go see some free concert and the day of the concert i had softball practice and didnt' really like the guy that was singing...so i didn't go and the whole time they were gone they called me tryin to rub it in that i didnt' go and tryed to make me wish i was there....when all i thought was nothin cause i didn't wanna go.....Then the next day they said something about going to see fireworks...but when they called me I was at my sister's fixin to get in the tannin bed and i wasn't ready.....So that night i went with my sis and her family somewhere else ot see fireworks... Was I wrong for not doing that stuff with them? Should I feel bad about it? cause as fo rite now i really dont' feel bad about it cause i did what i wanted ot do and went where i wanted to go .....
please help!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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It's fine if you don't feel bad. People get sick of each other ALL THE TIME. So really if you think about it, you're helping to keep the friendship together by giving yourself a break from them so you won't get sick of them completely. If you didn't give yourself a break from them, I think something would happen or be said that would later be regretted. As long as you're happy and no major conflicts are occuring with the frienships than you're fine.
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OK. I have this guy friend I like. Let's name him David. And I have this friend. Let's name her Nina. OK. So I like David a lot. But he's 17 and I'm 13 (turning 14 really really soon), and Nina is 13 too (she turns 14 in July, a little bit before me). So today David told me to give Nina his phone number b/c he is too shy to go up to her himself, but I don't want to b/c I'm a little bit jealous. Does that make me a bad friend? What should I do? (link)
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It doesn't make you a bad friend. It's only natural to be jealous, but the best thing to do is to just give her his number. It'll suck, but it's the right thing to do. If you didn't, he would find out eventually and then they'd both probably get mad at you and it would just turn out really bad. Hope I helped.
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one of my " so called " best friend`z is pickin her boyfriend over me & her other friends, she say`z that she don't want to be w/him and all that but still yet she blows us off for him all the time .. shes 15 & he`z 19, & he treats her like crap, he picks her friends, & where she can & can't go .. shes not aloud outside or nuthin . . her mom doesnt know about this or even that they are datin .. should i let her mom in on whuts going on .. i mean shes 15 not an adult she should be able to have fun right (link)
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Personally, it sounds like the beginning of an abusive relationship to me. He should not be picking her friends and telling her where she can and can not go. It's too controlling not to be suspicious. First, talk to her about it and then if it becomes serious tell her mom. If you do tell her mom, be prepared for your friend to become very angry with you. Another aspect to think about is that if something really bad happened and you could have prevented it, would you feel guilty? Hope I helped and hope everything turns out ok.
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i went to my grandmas house yesterday and went swiiming and to get a tna ok when i first went in her apartment complex there were 3 guys i didnt really look or pay attention to them.. but then be4 i went to get tan i had to get something from my moms car and we i went up one of them was like hey andout of kindness i said hi back then when i was walkin to the pool air he came back up to me and was like do you see my friend over there he like you and wants to go out with you..i was like i dont know you and i dont know your firned he was like so he can get your number and talkn to you and get to know you and you guys can hang out. i wasnt wantin to talk a lot bc my mom was watchin all of this but she didnt know anything he said.on purpose will i was tryin to take off my clothes they throw there ball in water and wanted me to go and get it the basically wouldnt let me get a tan. my question is what am i supposed to do? i mean i would like it for the guy that likes me to come up to me and talk to me but he is too scared..he wasnt ugly i mean he had a really nice body. i was goin to go up to him but my mom was there so i was thinkin when i go back to my grandmas house what should i do? even if i dont go out wit the guy i can at least be his friend..can someone please give me some advice about what to say or do.. (link)
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You don't have to go up to him and strike a conversation with him exactly. Just make eye contact next time you see him, or smile, or just say a little hello. Anything to let him know that you are interested in any kind of relationship without you having to approach him. Hope I helped.
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Ok, so I've liked this guy and I've liked him for at least 4 or 5 months. We are pretty good friends, like we hang at parties (if he doesn't have a gf at the time) and we talk to each other online ALOT. Well, he doesn't know cuz he's had on and off relationships and I'm scared if I tell him it will ruin our friendship. But that's not what I'm asking advice on. Well, I told a best friend of mine that I liked him a loong time ago, like when I started liking him. And I still like him to this day and this friend told me she has started liking him too. And she tries to brag to me about funny conversations they've had and I feel like she's taking what I have of him. and i just don't know what to do....:(...I'll take any advice you have...please... (link)
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Some girls tend to enjoy drama and this friend might just be one of them. I think you should just explain to her that you feel like she's trying to compete with you and you don't appreciate it. Remember that although you might have "dibbed" him first, you don't have claims on him. Just make sure she understands that you don't want to hear about their conversations. Noone can take away your personal relationship with someone else, they can only just try to make you question that relationship. I hope I helped and good luck.
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my friends are always asking me to do stuff but not together like they all want me to do something with them sepratley. i never no witch one to choose i just want to hang out with all of them but they kinda don't get along wat do i do? (link)
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Rotate around. Go from one friend to the other, but don't keep it a secret that you are hanging out with one and not the other because they will find out. Just tell them that you haven't hung out with the other person in awhile, but you'll go somewhere with them next time. Make it fair so that you're seeing all of them equally. Some of your friends might still get mad, but its the fairest thing to do.
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I have a friend that graduated last year, I dont see him much, would it be too akward for me to call him now even though I havent seen hime but once in the last 4 months?
~Nokomis~ (link)
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No, it wouldn't be weird at all. It would just kind of be a hey how are you doing check-up kind of call. I think he might appreciate it.
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hi i have a friend that is WAyy to prideful of her backround. she like, bases her life on it. il use an example, say if she were spanish, shed make a sn that would be like spanishbaby or cutie spanishgirl and she has nicknames, real nicknames that are words in spanish like guapa or buena chichi chicana etc or some crap like that, and her whole family speaks it n shes always singing songs in it, and talking it to me. shel say something and then il be like what?? and shel say it in english, like "it means im so cool in spanish". and always wearing clothes that represent it, and rarely does she have friends that dont speak it. and her whole room is decorated in it, and she wears jewelry representing it, and shes always like "you cant speak it stupid" or she always like "oh shutup you cant even speak it" if i try to say a word, and shel just go up to random people and be like haha she cant read spanish. im not saying i dont like her i maen its just getting SO annoying, i wouldnt be so annoyed if maybe i spoke it too, but im just getting terribly sick of it. shes always talking it to people behind my back..laughing at me with another person, what do you think i should do? (link)
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Well, she has the right to feel proud about her heritage. A whole bunch of Americans wear American shirts and have American screen names and it isn't really different. I think you are just bothered that you don't always understand what she's saying and you don't like feeling out in the dark. In that case, just tell her. Say hey I don't like you talking about me behind my back or making fun of me because I don't always understand what you say. Just make her realize that it's a problem for her to be making fun of you just because you're not exactly like her and know everything she does.
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this girl is having her sweet 16...and im not invited but the rest of my friends who dont even talk to her are. I was just asking...do you think when i have mine i should invite her? or should i not invite her. (link)
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Well, if you are friends with her and like her then go ahead and invite her. If you want to get catty, then don't invite her just because she didn't invite you. I guess it depends on how good of friends you two are.
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ok well i have this serious problem there's this girl named "sally"* and she has both lunches with me at carroll high school. i have known her since 4h=th grade and we have always been amazing friends but i think that since we have been at the high school she has made more frinds being freshman homecoming queen and everything. so im not really one of her favorite friends anymore....well i realized what she was doing in about the begining of the school year around homecoming time so i asked my mom to start making her cookies to see if she would be my friend again and she has but there are 2 problems i think she is just being my friend because of my mom's cookies(they are pretty good i will say so myself) and 2nd problem we have spent so much money on cookie dough that my family is going in to debt and all because my friend was ignoring me what on earth should i do?
*privacy reasons
lol kiah jk i love you!!! (link)
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You're right, she is just using you for your cookies, but atleast you know that she'll keep being your friend, right? You're family going into debt thing.... well who's more important, your friend or your family? Your friend of course. Just kidding miss Erin. lol I love you 2 and I would never use you for your mom's cookies (although I do love them). You are one of my favorite friends so no need to worry haha :)
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I'm 13 and I need some help with my friend "Kelly"* I've been best friends with her since 5th grade and now we're in middle school. She has always been a very competitive person but lately she has been plain nasty. She insults us and makes comments that really hurt. She has even said something insulting about my mother. She always likes to win and makes sure she is right in everything. She is pretty self-centered and thinks highly of herself. I've been her friend too long to totally drop her but both of my other best friends agree she has been acting really horribly lately. What should I do?
*Changed name for privacy. (link)
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You need to be upfront with her and tell her what's up. One of my friends was hurting my feelings and I told her and she stopped. If she doesn't stop, thne you need to drop her no matter how long you two have been best friends. There is no point in having a friendship when the person is being mean to you. I can only say tell her what is going on.
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Since September, I have been friends with a girl, we are both 13. I really like her but I am very worried about her. Before she came to our school, her Step-Father, she hasn't seen her biological father in 10 years, threw her, her Mother and her sister out of their house and they had to move back here.
Since then, she has been cutting her wrists and talking about how she wants to kill herself. Recently, she has started taking paracetemol everyday because she says that she gets headaches and feels ill if she doesn't have any. She used to smoke and I know she still has cigarettes at her home in case she needs them, I'm worried she might start again.
She hates her Mother and yesterday she told me that her Mother is moving to another city and leaving her and her sister, who is 14, behind. I can't tell anyone because if I do, my friend will be put in care and she will never forgive me. No one else knows about all this except me and I am so worried about her.
I don't know what I can do to help her, I am going through a difficult situation myself and I'm so wrapped with it that I don't know how to cope with my friend as well. I have tried talking to her and telling her to get help but she wont and there is no way I can make her. I don't know what to do, I can't tell anyone and she wont get help. I'm so scared that one day she really will kill herself, she's threatened to so many times. What should I do? (link)
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Are you willing to save her life? Sure, she'll be mad that you told at first, but in the long run wouldn't it help her. If you truly care about her, you will tell an adult. This is too big of a problem to take on yourself, especially if you are having issues too. I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but it's the truth. The girl needs help and you can't give it to her, so get someone who can.
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my friend is well a "slut" because she goes from boy to boy and the only reason why she does is because she thinks they are cute but recently my other friend broke up with her bf and now my "slut" friend wants to go out with him what should i do because they are both my friends but i dont want any of them to get mad at me...what should i do? (link)
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Warn your friend about the consequences of going out with this boy and ask her is it worth it to go out with him when you know it isn't going to last that long? In the end, neither of your friends should get mad at you. Your "slut" friend ,as you called her (which she really isn't a slut since she hasn't done anything with all of these guys, but whatever you think), has no reason yo be mad at you. You aren't exactly supporting your "slut" friend ,so your other friend shouldn't get mad at you either. It's not like you're going out with her ex.
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okay this is really weird.. im 13/f and i juss found out one of my best guy friends is gay! he doesnt know me and my friend know.. but now me and my friend cant look at him the same.. were not aggaint gay people but i mean when we see him talking to another guy its kinda freaky cuz what if he is flirting with him.. i dont know he has had a girl friend and me and my friend thought he was gay because he hung out with all girls but we didnt want to believe it.. and we want to be friends with him still but this is all happening so fast and we dont know what to do!! can you please help us and help us find a way to not think of him as gay and think of his as we used to.. we will rate 5's
sincerley
just not the same* (link)
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One, how do you know he is gay if he hasn't told you? Don't believe everything that you here. Two, gay people aren't a totally different species and they are not attracted to every guy they see just like you are not attracted to every guy you see. If you are really his friend, the whole gay thing wouldn't bother you. I guess just talk to him about it and either you'll become more relaxed or you will no longer be his friend. He's still the same person as he used to be just a different sexual preference, and his sexual preference probably won't even make a difference until high school.
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IF a friend says bad things behind your back and you and her are the bestest friends in the world should you still be friends with them? I want to but i don't know if that is right or not?? (link)
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Well, first you need to talk to them about why they said bad things about you. Sometimes people say things they don't mean. If she does it again or there isn't a valid reason, it probably wouldn't be the best thing to be her friend again. If it was just a little misunderstanding, then there is no harm in forgiving her.
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well last year (6th grade) i was asked out by one of my best guy friends and i said yes, but then the next day i told him that is was just to weird and i wanted to go back to being a bff, so that whole rest of the year i have not talk to him and the whole time of this year i have not been talking to him, i mean sometimes we talk on AIM, but its just so weird, and im not sure that i really want to be his friend again, one of my other guy friends told me that he still liked me... so i was really confused. so in all of my class that are with him, i get soooo shy, and i have not raised my hand once in that class and im not as social, i am always just soo hyper and entergetic and crazy around everyone else! i dont want to talk to him, but is there any advice on how to just be more in to the game, because i am getting really bad grades in that class because im to shy to raise my hand to ask about something that i dont get!so i need serious help and advice! (link)
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Don't worry about it. He'll get over you soon enough (I don't want that to sound mean, but it's true). Don't suffer because you are afraid of what he thinks. Be your normal self and it will be ok. If he has any signs of wanting to go out with you again, then you just have to tell him that you aren't interested. Be yourself and do your best and everything will turn out ok. Don't suddenly change your personality because of him.
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me and my friend have decided to get eachother presents. well, we are like best friends so i got her something special that took me a long time and trouble. it coct about $30 but she is my best friends, so she deserved it. today she said she would tell me what she got me if i told her wat i got. it turns out she got me a $3 key chain!!!!!! i smiled and said "thanks, can't wait to see it!" but inside i was screaming. she already knows what i am getting her so i can't return it and she said she was so excited it was a great gift. im mad, is that wrong? what should i do? i dpn't wanna hurt her feelings but c'mon! please help, i rate high. (link)
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Well, if it had a good meaning behind the gift then you shouldn't be mad. If it was a crap gift that she just got because she didn't know what else to get you, then it's understandable that you are upset. I'd be pissed if I spent time and money on a person that didn't seem to care about me. Maybe just ask her about the gift to see the reason behind it and next year don't give her as great of a gift. Then again christmas is about giving and not receiving. You can't really be all that greedy although I do understand your point of view.
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