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annoying friend
hi i have a friend that is WAyy to prideful of her backround. she like, bases her life on it. il use an example, say if she were spanish, shed make a sn that would be like spanishbaby or cutie spanishgirl and she has nicknames, real nicknames that are words in spanish like guapa or buena chichi chicana etc or some crap like that, and her whole family speaks it n shes always singing songs in it, and talking it to me. shel say something and then il be like what?? and shel say it in english, like "it means im so cool in spanish". and always wearing clothes that represent it, and rarely does she have friends that dont speak it. and her whole room is decorated in it, and she wears jewelry representing it, and shes always like "you cant speak it stupid" or she always like "oh shutup you cant even speak it" if i try to say a word, and shel just go up to random people and be like haha she cant read spanish. im not saying i dont like her i maen its just getting SO annoying, i wouldnt be so annoyed if maybe i spoke it too, but im just getting terribly sick of it. shes always talking it to people behind my back..laughing at me with another person, what do you think i should do?
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She doesn't sound like that good a friend...maybe shes just trying to act "cool". Tell her that it bugs you. You dont need to change for your friends, so dont change your language...hang out with another group..she'll eventually come running back..lol..hope this helps!
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Well, I think it's perfectly okay to be proud of your heritage. In fact, I think it can be a really emotionally healthy thing if expressed in the right way. Your friend seems to be going a little over-the-top, and that could be for one of two reasons.
First, she could secretly be uncomfortable with who she is. People can act in an over-confident way when they really don't feel confident at all. Maybe she thinks that by pointing out her differences, nobody else can do it in a way that will hurt her.
Second, she just doesn't sound like that nice of a person. She's using her heritage as an excuse to treat you in a shabby way, and that's never okay. If she's talking about you behind your back or making you feel uncomfortable, then you can say something. After all, you trying to speak Spanish is a COMPLIMENT to her and your friendship.
If she doesn't respect where you're coming from, then I'd think about finding friends who do. Best of luck.
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why dont you talk to her or move on
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either learn the language... or dump her! u don't need that kind-of negative energy around u all the time!
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thats really bitchy, tell her to go back to spain if she likes it so much
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Well, she has the right to feel proud about her heritage. A whole bunch of Americans wear American shirts and have American screen names and it isn't really different. I think you are just bothered that you don't always understand what she's saying and you don't like feeling out in the dark. In that case, just tell her. Say hey I don't like you talking about me behind my back or making fun of me because I don't always understand what you say. Just make her realize that it's a problem for her to be making fun of you just because you're not exactly like her and know everything she does.
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tell her to kill her slef
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she does sound really obsessive about it, but its hard when your away from your homeland. i'm Canadian and people will often say I'm obsessive about Canada because I have a "Canadians Kick Ass" Sticker on my piccolo case, and a sticker representing Canadian hockey on one of my binders, but being away from your homeland is one of the hardest things ever, and she's probably just afriad that she is going to lose base with being Spanish, so i know it can get annoying, but just go with it, and ask her to help you with Spanish. Tell her, "hey, i really can't speak spanish that well, can you help me?" and then maybe she'll quit making fun of you and help you.
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dont be pissed off that she represents herself. but to solve your problem punch her in the face. i promise, shell back off.
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I think you need to lighten up. It sounds like you are making a big deal of something that is so minor. It is a good thing if people take pride in their heritage and culture. If it is bothering you this much though then just tell her that you don't like it when she puts you down when you try to enjoy her culture that she loves so much. Maybe it will give her a new prospective on where you are coming from and teach her that just because you aren't spanish or whatever culture she is that it is alright for you to want to embrace it. good luck!
♥ Katie
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There's nothing wrong with her showing pride in her background. If you really have a problem with it tell her, I doubt she'll change but it's always worth a try. Maybe you should distance yourself from her for a while. And maybe you can use this as a learning experience to learn a new culture.
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my friends do the samething.. i just go... " You know where are in America.. SPEAK ENGLISH!" she should stop.. if she doesnt.. then just ask her to stop doing it around you.. x0x
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