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Hey ask me for advice any time!! Im good at giving style advice!! :) :) But i also know many other things as well! Drop a question in my inbox ANY time and i'll give you an answer almost right away!! advice
is it wrong to think that u'r friends brother is good looking??????????????????????????
nope !! u can like aNyOnE u want hun~
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My friend played a joke on me and I know she was kidding..but I took it too seriously.I yelled at her in class..and then she was trying to talk to me after school but I ignored her and got in my car..I feel so horrible but I'm still mad..What should I do?
ok you dont have to forgive her,but you can say "man u really freakin got me with that joke!" "now im gotta get you back!! lol" "i feel really bad for yelling at you now that i think of it"
^ thats about the perfect thing i could think of to say with having to say sorry.
okay well like my friend (lets call her Kelly), well i though kelly was my best friend, and she was for a few years, but she knew other people in this other town and started hanging out there ALL the time and met this girl (lets call her linda) and linda and kelly became like BEST FRIENDS .. and now kelly barely like wants to hang out with me and like when i ask kelly to hang out she avoids the subject and then a day later i find out she avoided the subject cuz she already had plans with linda.
but sometimes i ask her to hang out first before she has any plans but then linda asks her to hang out AFTER i asked her and she said to me .. "sorry i cant go" and she hung out wit linda.
and now i have no plans for halloween this year cuz i got in a fight with my other bestfriend and now kelly is spending halloween with linda.
no one cares about my feelings and people push me around and i have no confidence and i cant really stand up for myself so i just kinda let people walk all over me.
Well,just becuase she wants to have friends with other people isnt bad..but still she shouldnt be doing that to you.I know its hard to tell her,but you have to try!If you only have those two friends,i'd make sure you become friends with the one you had a fight with.This is weird cause i feel like im ur friend that is hanging out with linda..but i would never do that to someone.Who knows,maybe linda and her were best friends for a long time,and still are or something.Yes,still consider as one of your best friends,you know she is still your friend shes just meeting new people,maybe you should to but still keep friends with her.
okay...this may seem strange but it feels like all my friends are turning on me...I had my 13th birthday party on sunday and invited 20 of my clostest firends to my house and well sunday came and only 12 showed up...these ppl i know have to be my rly clostest firends but here are the reasons for why most of them couldnt come
Me: hey maria are you coming to my party on sunday
Maria: no sorry i cant because im grounded
Me: oh so you arent going to Karissas the day befroe?
Maria: oh well i can go to that one and that one only
If you think that ones bad listen to these...
Chelsey: gotta do my homework! i have WAY to much homework
Lindsay: Sorry Sam my mom wont let me cause i didnt do all my homework yet
Karissa: my mom wont let me cause i didnt do my homework yet
Rachel F: i cant because i have too much homework
SPECIAL NOTE: all the ppl above cept maria slept over karissas house after her party and the best thing is WE DIDNT HAVE ANY HOMEWORK!!!
please help me ill rate 5's unless the advice is mean
OMG! thats mad gayy! i would never do that. I bet maybe 1 girl doesnt like you,,and then those girls that didnt go did turn on you because they are following the girl that didnt like you maybe?Or maybe they were fake,they could be pretending to like you.Thats what happend to me,thats how i can tell real from fake now.keep your other 12 friends,maybe test the girls that didnt go to see if they care.what i did was maybe not ignore them,but not talk to them for about 2 days and see if they talk to you first.Try getting to meet new people,and be really nice to people,like new people.Be out going and fun around the new people,but dont forget about your other 12 friends :p.The girls that didnt go to the party will soon realize how much they miss you and how good of a friend you are!!But when they do,dont ignore them,be nice.maybe bring up a conversation (example)- You :So what did you on sat-sunday? Someone-Homeowork (whatever they say)
You - Oh..i dont think we had homework though..did we?
Someone -Yeah we did
You-oh what was it?
Someone - bla bla bla
thats just an example..just act nice,but let them know you know what they did :p..something like that you know?! hey e-mail me if u want! do you have msn? i do my name is -- kristen1073@hotmail.com
I KNOW THIS IS LONG.. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP AND ILL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.. I PROMISE!!
Well i have these two friends... nd lets say their names are Bob and Rob.. well ive been good friends with bob longer than i have with Rob.. Both Rob and Bob are a lil chunky.. but they're not Fat.. So me Rob and Bob became a group this year.. and ive always felt like i fit in until one day rob was me and bob are fat.. nd we hate pool partys.. and we have something against skinny people cauz we're jealous of them.. so i was like you guys aren't fat.. nd since im like a twig,.. i got offended and i was like well now im gonna feel uncomfortable in the pool with you guys since we're gonna be in bathing suits.. and rob didn't answer.. so since bob is my best friend i decided to talk to her about it.. so i told her how i felt.. and im like its not like you guys excercise or try to loose weight.. so then we straightened it out... but rob and bob want to go shopping together and rob doesn't wanna invite me cauz im skinny.. i mean i understand how they feel but now i feel like rob feels more comfortable around bob and i feel like rob and bob are friends and im not part of the group anymore.. i mean i wouldn't consider rob my best friend... cauz she's not my type of person.. nd now bob is like turning into rob.. like they use the same font colors and fonts on AIM and bob started listening to rock just like rob.. and now whenever we're together and we talk about clothes.. bobs like Lisa your such a twig you can fit into abercrombie.. and the way she says it, it hurts my feelings.. so like rob has bob brain washed practically and i hate the way she's acting now like all punk and into rock or watever and like how she's saying .. i hate you, your so skinny.. its not my fault im skinny.. im a runner.. and ive been skinny all my life cauz its in my genes and ive been doing sports since i was like 2.. so i dunno wat to do.. please help
omg same with me!! im under weight but its in my genes. Everyones like "why are you so skinny?" I can deffinatly relate! Well just be like "hey wanna go shopping? and invite rob and bob. talk to bob about it and say that you feel left out.Yeah i know its harder to say it but it will help!
My best friend and I have been friends for about 8 years and we go together like pb and j. Now I'm starting to feel jealous of her because she's got a lot more friends than me and I think she's a lot prettier and skinnier and funnier and all that. I KNOW she won't abandon me no matter how many other friends she has, but I just hate being jealous.
Ahh i felt the SAME WAY!! just become friends with her friends and you'll be funny and cool. Do NOT try to turn her friends agianst her. Thats the worst. It will come back to you 10 x worse! Soon you wont be jealous. Get out there and give it all you got! Make plans and invite them to.Soon she'll be jealous ;). Wear make up it works great! Dont ever feel brought down by another person,especailly your best friend! Shes not a threat. And please stick with her! Your you and your pretty and funny and just awesome! You got to have confidence. If your playing a game think "im going to win!!" and most likely you will because thinking good things and thinking possitive will make you feel better and get closer to your goal!! Take your mind off of her and her friends.when you no her friends you'll all be friends!! You have to be outgoing to :).You cant go wrong with haveing a fun sleep over and inviteing everyone! Dont make anyone feel left out because you also have to be WICKED nice to people. Just think of these as guildlines to becomeing noticed :) They really work to! Get everyones phone number and dont be afraid to do risky things!Be a dare-devil :). Live on the Edge! Try not to think about the times she had with her friends,because those things already happend.Make new fun times that you can think about!!
Good Luck and i know your going to become popular wicked fast!!
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I have a friend and he is a marker this is the same person from the marker one the one when I said he died well his color came back and I just tried writing with him and he ran out again I have had this marker since I just started writing I mean I try to write a letter like h and it would come out like n I dont want to throw him away because I want to keep him for ever what should I do
uhh..keep the marker..in a glass box so you can cherish it and all the good times you've had together...seriously... just throw it AWAY!who really cares?
This friend I know started to hangout with the "popular girls" I feel like since she sarted hanging out with them we arent as close as we used to be what should I do?
just remember this quote
--if they havent made it in your future then they are not supposed to be there.--
i had a friend,kristen,she was MY BEST FRIEND. and i went into another crowd because she was kind of mean to me...we split up. I really do miss her i just wish we never split up. Maybe you should hang out and talk to her more and more...think of it as a new start and just maybe she'll make her friends be your friends,you might think she dosent want anything 2 do with you but she might be thinking about you everyday when she is with her other friends...(if you were close) i know i think about kristen a lot.. So yeah think of it as a new start and talk to her,tell her your sad and you mis your friend ship.
Ok, so I've liked this guy and I've liked him for at least 4 or 5 months. We are pretty good friends, like we hang at parties (if he doesn't have a gf at the time) and we talk to each other online ALOT. Well, he doesn't know cuz he's had on and off relationships and I'm scared if I tell him it will ruin our friendship. But that's not what I'm asking advice on. Well, I told a best friend of mine that I liked him a loong time ago, like when I started liking him. And I still like him to this day and this friend told me she has started liking him too. And she tries to brag to me about funny conversations they've had and I feel like she's taking what I have of him. and i just don't know what to do....:(...I'll take any advice you have...please...
Ok,be calm about this. You've talked to him A LOTT longer than she has. Well keep talking to him and have funny times and have fun conversations. You have to be outgoing!! I think your best friend forgot that you like him...since it was a LOONNGGG time ago,she probably figures you've moved on,and thats why she likes him. I know how your friend is..they jump all over the person and try to make them forget about you..the EXACT same thing happens with this girl i know. You could do two things--
Have funny times and fun conversations with the guy..and maybe ask him out or dont.. Just remember hes just a boy and friendship lasts longer than boys.
Or you could play dirty and--
Brag back about all the funny times you had with him and say how awesome he is and how your makeing plans
Your friend seems kind of intimidating [[sp?]] dont let it get to you..be easy going,have fun,be outgoing!
I would recomend the 1st option.
Ok,i have this "friend"...Sarah. I dont like Sarah...and i dont want her to be friends with my friends...cause if she is i know she is going to soak up all the attension,they'll like her,she'll turn them against me, and leave me out of everything. I hate her..shes so mean to me. How can i stop thinking about her,not care about her,and just make it so im not her friend..but not her enemy? Please dont be mean in you answers...i want to let go of her..but not be an enemy. Please help i'll rate high.
i dont no, im sure some people no this stuff tho..
Well my friend invited me to her party shes having, and I told her I could go but now I really don't want too. There like renting the Excercist and I REALLY REALLY do not wanna watch that. I told my parents and they said just tell her you don't want to watch it...well my friend Carina would make me watch it and everyone else wants to and her dad would make me watch it too. And I like hate the one girl she invited and the other one is okay and the girl who I'm actually friends with can't go. And if I tell her honestly why I don't want to go she'll get mad at me(yes stupid i know). I don't know what I should tell her sooo could someone please tell me what to say?
i think you should go anyways. Maybe you could make friends with these other people!! but if you really dont want to your friends might brag about it...and if you dont want to go maybe you could say your not feeling well or somethingg
OMG! I don't have any friends anymore all the guys at my school hate me and my "friends" don't even talk to me. No one talks to me. and no i'm not a "loser". I had "friends" but they keep discludeing me! HELP?!
Just hang out with the group you have you really only need one best friend to . Someone to share laughs. You dont HAVE to have a lot of friends. Im sorry though :( i know it hurts. thats what happend to me to ...but ya sorry things can get better tho...but they could also get worse.
i have two friends and one of these friends i like much more than the other. the friend i like more is called "rosie" and the friend that im not fond of is called "mary". so mary is really boring and not very social, im only friends with her through rosie. when im with both rosie and mary mary kind of shuts down and it looks as if she is very uncomfortable. i dont want to her to feel uncomfortable anymore. we dont really have a lot of stuff in common. what are some things that i can do to make mary feel more comfortable around rosie and me? thanks so much. i rate.
bring her into the conversations pay attension to her and rosie..dont leave her out and only dont look at rosie if your haveing a funny intersesting conversation.Like i said bring mary into it to. Compliment mary and say shes cool and you like what she was wearing. Laugh and be funny around her. Soon she'll be extremly comfortable!! Also have you rosie her and some other people make plans! but dont make her look like the least favorite one because that really hurts when people think you dont care about them [[for both sides]]. I'm sure she'll feel a lot comfortable around you ! good luck !! Just be outgoing and stuff and she'll click into it!
hey okay i ahve this best friend or did im not sure okay i kno this person olivia and like she is such a bitch to me we were best friends in 6th adn then in 7th we did nothign but fight now she had taken my best friends boy friend and my best friend didnt kno that they were broken up no one told her nething and like all olivia could say was sorry now corey the same dude says he still ahs feelings for my best friend and like broke olivias heart not my beset friend hates olivia but now since the same guy hurt them its like im out the picture and there bf's now i dont kno what to say to my best friend in stead of talking to me she was on the phone wiht olivia comforting her but like i understand but man she does nothign but talk about olivia and now there together...........i dont kno what to do i have no one like ne friends cuz olivia turned trhem all against me and now everyone hates me for no freaking reason.........how can i get my best friend back or tell her that olivia is just useing her cuz she is...........sorry for the length....thanks
maybe they have a stronger friendship now.. than you and your other best friend did..sorry i dont no what 2 tell ya tho
I'm 26 years old and pretty lonely. I'm finding it harder as I grow older to make and keep good, healthy friends. My best friend has a problem communicating and being around when I need her. I always feel like I'm only here for her comfort and it really sucks. She's always just so flighty and in and out of my life. I guess we are friends when it suits her needs. I don't know how to go about telling her how I feel about it.
I guess the bigger problem is that I really don't have any other friends. I don't know where to start making them either. I am a queer femme and it seems my community is pretty cliquish. It sucks and I hate being lonely.
I would love it if you had any advice to offer.
Im sorry :( i think you should find a job or group were you could meet people. You need to be very friendly and some what outgoing. If your shy people might think that you dont want to be there friends [[if thats the type of people they are]] Maybe hang out with your friend's friends and they'll become your friends to. Then you will be included in there group :) i hope for the best x0x
Love you Lots,
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OK so im having a party soon ( a sweet 16) and i realllly need a head count of who can come. normallyy if we were making all the food i wouldnt care ..but its going to be catered so if i tell them 80 are coming and only 30 show up...that wont be good...lots of food will be wasted...and lottss of money.
i hear talk about how everyone is excited to go because there is an after parrty in an indoor pool at this hotel..but im not getting the RSVPS ! I got 25 confirmed so far...between the few who called and the few i asked if they were def coming.
what are some ideas of how to get a headcount! should i pass a paper around saying put ur name here if you plan on coming? somethin...i dont have time in school to ask everyone myself..so what can i do? i need to have an idea of who will be coming by friday.
does this happen in your schools too? or is it just mine..because in past parties nobody has RSVP 'd really either...
You could make flyers,and on aim[[if you have it]] for your away have like --
Type "2" if your plannin 2 go 2 my sweet 16!
Type "3" if you cant make it
or something like that..
Call people..Make a list of everyone you want to invite..photo-copy the list..hand the list to your friends and pass it around to peopl.. like put it on hot pink paper or something bright!!
Tell them at the ending of the flyer that you MUST RSVP buy Thrusday..that way you'll no ahead of time..also..put your number on the flyer like-
****PLEASE RSVP [[your name]] BY THRUSDAY!!****
[[your name]] -- [[your number]]
********HOPE TO SEE YOU THERE!! **********
good luck and please rate me!!
Ive always had a small group of friends that all got along. Well in the past 3 days it all fell apart. One friend got mad at me for something totally retarded, and then all of a sudden the other friend had a problem with me too. Now come to find out they've been talking behind my back about it. Im not saying they're totally at fault for whats going on because I know I am partly responsible for it, but I dont see why they couldnt come to me and say whatever it is they had to say instead of ganging up on me and then talking behind my back. I just dont know what to do. Ive tried talking to them about it and that didnt make anything better they just acted as if I was full of it and ignored what I said. So should I just give up on 2 people who were my bestfriends and get over it, or keep trying no matter how bad things already are? Please help. And if anyone wouldn't mind it would be easier to give off the whole situation over aim to give a better view point. Thanks again everyone.
WOW...you are in THE EXACT SITUATION as my friend...and im one of the two best friends she lost. I wonder if you are her..i guess i'll find out when you take the peoples advice or not huh. Well i was the one she lost..because my friend,who was in your situation,was a mean person and alls she did was ignore me and talk crap. She never paid attension to this though. So i gave up on her. But i still like her..shes not a bad person if she wasnt so mean we'd still be friends. But i would say..if i were you..to forget about them..if they dont like you,just stop trying..far to many people try to impress others.
and ps--dont take the first persons advice--you shouldnt be like them,that makes EVERYTHING worse..thats not nice and sooner or later they'll find out,plus its bitchy to rip friends aparts for your likeing..things will be worse if you do that.
and PPS--im not mean like your "friends",just to tell you..you might have thought i was comparing myself to them about the backstabbing part..but i wasnt..
good luck anyhow..
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i baby sat this little boy a few months back and i met his brother at the same time one time we were out walking and he told me that his bro had wrote a suacide letter i didnt believe him.. but i've started hangin out with his brother whos my age, when i looked for a top in his drawer i found this note book i read the first line saw it was the letter, then he turned around and goes do u mind, so i put it back, but im really worried now i dont know whether to tell him i know, just be a friend and try to help him without telling him, maybe see if i can read the letter when he aint in his room some time i duno please help!
NO i would most definatly NOT tell ANYONE unless you no for citain that you know !! What i would do is ask him this -- "can i change into a shirt in your room?" and if he says "sure" then lock the door or tell him to not come in because your changeing then look for it...in the draw,if its not there then please dont be looking every where for it. But then,if it IS the letter...you could either--
Say to him -- "I know what you wrote in a letter--and i just want you to no im always there for u and i hope you do the write thing"
or--
Your brother told me you wrote a suicide note a while back...i didnt no if he was lieing..but it kept bothering me so i have to no the truth,did you write a note like that?
dont make it seem like its all fun and games but not too emostional..are you his close friend? i think you should be his close friend befor you talk to him about it..because if your not he might just say "its none of your bissness"
Ok i have this friend Jackie, She's really fun and she acts like the best friend ever. but she has this lying thing that she wont stop. she'll lie about anything!! her dad hates me so i cant hang around with her around him and she lies about him too. when i ask if she can do something, she'll lie and say her dad is home just because she wants to go somewhere else. then she'd make stupid things up like i have a crush and she'll say "OMG I SAW *HIM* AND HE SAID HI JACKIE! WHATS UP. IM GOING TO CALL RACHEAL TODAY" and then i didnt believe her, bc i never do cuz shes always lying. so i went and i asked him if he saw her and he's like, no...i didnt. so she lies all the time. AND she'll look for stupid reasons to fight with anyone. I've told her i knew she was lying all the time and i wanted her to stop but then she got mad at me for like 7 months and then im always the one to apoligize even though i didnt do anything. so how can i make her stop lying and not get mad at me for nothing?
thanx so much!
SAME PROBLEM GIRL!! ,kayla >:O. Well what you have to do is hang out with at least some different people,and she must be a good liar... thats how kayla is to me. DONT tell her a lot of things but make it seem your open with her so she isnt sad or mad... and never talk about anyone behind there backs to her...shes the type that will tell that person everything bad you say just so you guys wont be friends...she likes to get involved with your personal life ..so dont tell her everything about you[[personal wise]]
do yooh know any really shiney lip glosses? and where i can get it from??
signed,
_lip gloss_
CVS has awesome lip gloses, if you want you can look for these things called "juicy tubes" you should find them at cvs,fileans,and mabe evn claires/icing. i got mine from cvs,it wasnt that much money =) good luck i hope u find the lipgloss you want!!!