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See, my friend wants me to perform in the talent show with her. She wants to do a skit that includes four people, and she unkowingly included me as one of those four people. Anyway, since the beginning of the year, I've always wanted to sing for the talent show, and my other friends say I should sing, too. I really want to sing, but I don't want to hurt my friend's feelings. What should I do?

You have to do what you want to do and hopefully she understands this. Just be honest with her. I don't know how your school does it but maybe you can do both?

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Im 13 and female. Girls at my new act really, really nice when they want something or need help, ect. but when i wanna just hang out they act like bitches. (sorry for the explict language.) Like just yesterday, i practically did they're whole history paper and then they just snub me. I think it might be because im emo. Can you tell me whats wrong?

From what you said here clearly they're not your friends. I'd find new ones.

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what do you do when your being replaced

If people are dumb enough to try and replace you, then you don't need them.

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All of a sudden my friends are like desperate for guys and hanging out with these gross guys. Were all 18, and they're like 20-25. They aren't in college. Their like drug dealers and just basically ghetto losers. I'm repulsed by them and I can't stand when they want to go to one of their parties. The whole time I'm worried im going to get shot, they all think I'm the hottest and constantly want to hook up with me, but I refuse too and they don't really like me because I won't drink or smoke. But obviously I'm not going to put anything in my body that they have possession of. My friends are acting like whores and they'll probably end up with stds and it's ruining our friendship because I never want to hang out with them anymore because of this.

What do I do?

Did you talk to your friends about them? You can't really pick your friends' friends but just don't hang out with them when those guys are invited. If they're real friends then they'll start to miss you and ditch the guys to hang out with you instead. If they don't then they're whores and you deserve better friends... :)

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he's about as weird as they get. i'm absolutely in love with him though. this guy is in a class of mine at school. he's not nerdy, he just doesn't go out, and doesn't really do anything about his social life, so we never cross paths outside of school aside from the internet where we talk. we've become good friends though and he clicks well with mine. i think he likes me by the way he smiles at me and talks to me differently than with other girls. he flirts with me like crazy and turns red every time we talk. he doesn't talk to many girls though. i try to make it obvious that i like him but boys can be stupid and i don't think he's getting the picture since he's never had a girlfriend or much experience, and i really want him to ask me to hang out. what do i do?

Ask him to hang out. Hint it all you can, he can't be that stupid. If he still doesn't get it, just tell him.

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all of the people i care about and love in this world use me and i don't have the gall to tell them off. my boyfriend uses me for sex and ignores me thoughout the week, forgets our plans, doesn't give two shits about me. he was supposed to come over monday but forgot and never called. his way of apologizing for that was poking me on facebook. my friend uses me to get weed. and when not that, cigarettes. besides that, she thinks i'm the dumbest person on this planet and basically backhands me all the time (metaphorically) by insulting me. another friend only hangs out with me when she has something serious going on and needs someone who is willing to listen to hours of bullshit while smoking all of that poor person's cigarettes!!!

I'M SO TIRED OF ALL OF IT. i'm not talking to any of these people right now, but i know i probably will in a few days. i really care about all of these people, deeply. but i won't be taken advantage of anymore. i'm graduating in a few months and i have half the mind to move across the country without telling any of them. i can't believe i've put up with all this for so long. my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years, known eachother 4. the first friend i've known for 4 years, and my other friend i've known for 13 years. what should i do?

First off, why do you care about people who use you? Dump your boyfriend and get rid of your so called "friends". Maybe they used to be your friends awhile ago, but now they definetly aren't even remotely close to what I would call an aquiantance, let alone a friend. If you really think moving across the country is a good idea for you then I say go with it. Forget all of these selfish people, there's people out there that will treat you right and like you for you.

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Ever since 8th grade I have struggled with having and keeping friends. I'm a senior in high school now and I'm still having trouble. People seem to be very jealous of me. I get told constantly "I never thought you'd be this nice, because you're so pretty and I though you were stuck up" or with my friends it's "well I mean I'd invite you to the party, but then all the guys would be all over you." or "everytine I introduce you to a guy, they always end up liking you, so I'm not
inviting you."

I'm so upset about this. I've been crying about this for the past week, because I'm down to 2 friends. I know it sounds silly to cry abou being pretty, but it's not fair, why are
people judging me like this. I never go after guys they like, I'm kind of shy so i hardly talk to guys.

Now, my last two friends are even starting to abandon me. The one is hanging out with this girl, because she said "now she's the pretty one." and she gets all the guys attention. My other friend refuses to eat around me, because she wants my body. And she has begun hanging out with these heavier girls.

I just don't know what to do. I only have 3 months of school
left, and I dont think I can make it any longer. I've asked
my mom if i can just take online classes to finish the year. I'm just so depressed about this. My best friend has been my best friend since 8th grade and she has alwYs been insecure. She had a severe eating disorder last yea that she almos died from.

What should I do?

This probably isn't what you want to hear but your friends are really shallow and all about themselves. Find friends that accept you for who you are and won't care if they're not the "prettier" one or the "skinnier" one. That's so low.

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me&bestfriend have been bestfriends for 10 years now! always honest with eachother and talk about everything. But i think we're drifting away..whenever others talk to her she will be extra nice to them and talk to them more and be sweet,and seems to be getting along with more people now and talks to them more than me. and when she does talk to me its only a couple of sentences. and if shes online and i say hi shes suddenly offline. and when i write on her wall on fb she takes days to reply but yet when the other person writes on it she replies straight away. but when we're together we have the funnest time, is she bored of me? i get really mad, if she doesnt wana be friends then say so!

I'm not saying she doesn't want to be friends anymore but usually after 10 years its difficult and heartless to just say "I don't want to be friends with you anymore." She could be just bored or just knows that she doesn't have to try as much at the friendship because she knows that you'll always be there. I would just talk to her about it and make sure everythings okay.

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Okay so I am in a place were it's really cold out side so we aren't going outside unless it's something outrageously fun haha. What are some things me and my friend can do tomorrow when she comes over? Out of the ordinary things like truth or dare or nails and hair... Somehings that are realllyyyyy fun for just the two of us. Also we can't leave the house so something we can do when we are at home. Please don't say make something or something.. Some realllyyyyy awesome things! Thanks!!!

Is there snow? Snowball fights, building snowforts, snowboarding/skiing/sledding/tubing. If not umm how about watching movies, making picture collages, drawing/painting, making gingerbread houses/christmas cookies, building a giant fort out of blankets and pillows and watching movies or listening to music underneath it.

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is acting cute bad? cos i look cute and sayy cute thing sometimes but after i reilised people like myy best frieds and stuff like me being cute/ ditzy, i started kinda 'playing up' the cuteness and stuff. is that bad?

If that's who you are then it's perfectly fine. Just a tip though that most people find overly-ditzy girls annoying and stereotype them as "stupid". But you should be fine as long as you're not overdo-ing it.

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14/f

Please don't answer/read if you are going to be rude or preach to me because I don't care to what you have to say if you're just going to bitch. I'll do what I want thank you.

Okay so..
I recently started smoking pot over the summer. I like it so whatever. It's not like I'm an idiot though I get mostly A's and a few B's here and there so don't say it makes you dumb.. Well, this isn't the problem. I guess word got around school that I smoke weed, it's not that big of deal, but it happened after I smoked weed with a group of guys at my friends house. It's almost like they are giving me shit for it. It's like all they have to say is "Pot head" and I don't understand because hey! they smoke weed too. Why do they do this? I usually shrug it off but now it's just like STFU! They don't say it in a completely rude way but not really in a friendly way either. Why are the biggest stoners in the school calling me a pot head so much? Like anyone that I have ever smoked weed with call me a pot head. Da fuq. I don't get it. This includes my brother's friends and those guys (about six of them).

Honestly, I'm not that close to them like we talk but it's not like we are really good friends. I do wish we where close friends though because I find myself to have a lot more in common with them than with my current friends.

you can't lose brain cells from mary jj. that is false. and you can't get "addicted" either unless you make it your life basically. its not like niccotine. andd get this, you're not a pothead just cause you smoke. you're a pothead if you're a pothead. just ignore these people and don't let them get to you.

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Okay, So I have this friend who I've known since 7th grade. I'm now in 12th grade (and I'm a girl btw) and my friends and I seriously don't like her. We are constantly complaining about her "know-it-all" attitude and the fact that she tinks she is better than the rest of us. My friends and I have talked and we feel she is a toxic personality, and we don't wnat to be her friends anymore. The only problem is, she doesn't have many other friends and I'd feel extremely bad "getting rid of her". She was bullied all through elementary school so I feel like she doesn't have good personal skills, or maybe she is mirroring that bully mentality on us. I really am sick of her being so rude and childish. How can I get rid of her without feeling absolutely awful? (There's no way I can go another year with her. I might blow up at her which I don't want to happen.)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hl9VxVmXAxs

i had to haha.

you can always be straight up and tell her that you don't want to hang out with her but since she was bullied i wouldn't do that. maybe just gradually stop hanging out with her. drift away from her slowly.

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Well like I want to because well we do have things in common. I guess it's just that like in the beginning things were good between us. There weren't any problems or anything. But then he ended up making these two friends and well in the beginning was cool because like I felt included. Then all of a sudden the conversations just started to revolve around them and I felt I was left out of the equation. Now I try to find every lame excuse so I don't have to go out with him and his friends, because when it's just us it's cool but when his friends are there, it sucks because he doesn't include me and neither do his friends. Plus like I promised his brother I would sort of look out for him, not babysit, just look out for him since he's in Europe and his brother's English is not perfect so I kind of help him out. But my friend from Europe is like my older brother. Usually I don't get involved with my friend's siblings because with a former friend years ago, I got into a problem with his brother and well he obviously took his brother's side and well I don't want history repeating itself because well like people say no matter what, blood is thicker than water. So I feel conflicted.

oh i see. maybe you could just go out with just him and not when he's with those friends. or maybe you can invite some of your other friends when he's with his other friends and you can all hangout together so you feel less like a thirdwheel since you have your friends there too.

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I am a 20 year old guy, and well I am having friendship trouble. My best friend had to go back to Europe and then his brother came instead. So it's different than the way it was with my best friend. But what upsets me the most is that my best friends brother says that we're friends and he emphasizes it a lot, but he acts contrary to that. He never talks to me, there is some tension and when he invites me to hang out with him and his friends, the conversation revolves around them and he doesn't include me and I feel like a third wheel. I really want to have a genuine friendship with my best friends brother. What can I do?

well does your best friends brother want a genuine friendship with you, or does he just feel obligated because since his best friend left, he feels like he has to fill the position? why exactly do you want a friendship so badly with someone who treats you like a third wheel? if it's bothering you that much and you really want to be friends with this guy let him know everything that you told me. see if he actually wants to be friends with you. its not worth trying to make a friendship better when the other person doesn' even want it.

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Hi latly me and my bestfriend havnt been talking that much i feel like we are drifting apart how can i make things better?
thanks s

ask her if she wants to get coffee or something. that brings back alot of time to talk and its worked for me so why not give it a try? :)

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17/f my friend really wants a car any kind of car if it runs it's good. And her mom said msybe how can she talk her into getting one??

you can tell her that she won't have to drive you around anymore, if you have siblings you can say that you can help her pick them up so she can have more time to herself. and you can help her run errands if she's busy.

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My 16 year old feamle best friend is, and has been for 3 years, dating my 17 year old male cousin. My cousin just recently moved in with her because his family is definitely falling apart. I am okay with that because we still all spend time away and toghether, But my problem is that they have been having sex for over a year now. I know they are too young for it and so do they. Now my best friend is in a hole; she hasn't had her monthly since May! She wants to find out for sureif she is pregnant before she talks with her parents. Should we keep it a secret and buy a test or should I convince her to tell her parents? Also; I know she is not ready for it... should she out it up for adoption or have an abortion, or keep it if she is!?
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you can only keep it a secret until she finds out that she is pregnant, if she is. then she'll probably have to tell her parents.


alright well a 16 year old definetly isn't ready to raise a child by herself, unless her parent(s) are willing to help raise it, but thats obviously between her and her parents. about the whole adoption/abortion thing, i would definetly go with adoption. there are alot of couples out there that are unable, but ready to have a baby and would love to adopt one. as for abortion, its a proven fact that it effects the girls/women who have abortions for the rest of their lives. its a terrible thing to do to the living baby inside of you and to yourself, in which you can damage your uterus and possibly never be able to have children again. if you want to see how depressing abortions really are, youtube "abortions".

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I need some unique ideas on ways to ask a girl to prom! Please help ASAP!

i know a guy that decorated her parking spot and wrote in chalk "will you go to prom with me?" and decorated it with flowers and stuff, i thought it was really cute :)

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i like being there for my friends, ill try to listen and give advice when my friends are in trouble. but the thing is im not good at advice because im more of a listener so its not really helping my friends so i feel really bad when it wont solve their problem,people say i dont need to fix their problem i know that, but i wanna at least know what to say when they're in trouble how can i be better at giving advices?

advice on how to give advice? haha nice. well you can practice answering questions on here :) and i find it better to go home and think about the situation after a friend tells me the problem so i can give them the best possible advice i can think of, instead of just saying the first thing that comes to mind. try putting yourself in their situation and thinking of what YOU would do.

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what makes a person easy to trust and easy to open up to them?

i just wanted to add to the answer below me that it takes time, and if you want to earn someone's trust, you need to be patient.

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