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Friends like grimy guys.
All of a sudden my friends are like desperate for guys and hanging out with these gross guys. Were all 18, and they're like 20-25. They aren't in college. Their like drug dealers and just basically ghetto losers. I'm repulsed by them and I can't stand when they want to go to one of their parties. The whole time I'm worried im going to get shot, they all think I'm the hottest and constantly want to hook up with me, but I refuse too and they don't really like me because I won't drink or smoke. But obviously I'm not going to put anything in my body that they have possession of. My friends are acting like whores and they'll probably end up with stds and it's ruining our friendship because I never want to hang out with them anymore because of this.
What do I do?
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First, losers love nothing more than to take others down with them. So you need to tell your loser friends, who are hell bent on sabotaging their lives, to take a hike.
The other thing is that a lot of girls like guys who treat them like crap. Too many high school guys these days are wussies (too many raised by single moms with no male role model in the house to teach them how to be a guy) and so when guys who are assertive and kind of dangerous come along that makes them hot to a lot of women.
Finally, remember this: whatever happens in high school will not matter to you in the big picture. Your brain is still developing, you have along way to go educationally and your friends or you will move away or gravitate to other social circles. Therefore, it is incumbent on you to take control of your own life and stay on a productive path toward success both in your job and in your personal life. And if things get tight for you you will often find your "friends" will suddenly not be there. That is why you have to view high school as just another step in life and not get caught up in stupid bullshit.
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You are a smart lady you should me new friends and let them poisen themselves!
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Well unfortunately you can't change your friends or who they want to hang out with. If its not your scene and not the kind of people you want to hang out with then you need to remove yourself from the situation. I have two friends that are going out with guys right now that I'm not to fond of. I have my reasons for not liking these guys but if my friends are happy thats all that matters. If you want to continue being friends with these girls then you need to accept their lifestyle. And if you don't agree with it then you need to move on and hang out with another group fo people. Maybe hang out with these friends seperately and on occasion if you don't like what they are doing. Good luck!
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Unfortunately it's not your place to tell your friends who they can and can't hang out with or date. They're adults and it is up to them who they spend time with.
But it IS your place to not do something you don't want to do. You don't have to drink, smoke or go to their parties if you don't want to.
You can let them know that you don't like their new friends and don't want to spend time with them but you run the risk of offending them and spoiling your friendship.
Alternatively, why not try and arrange things with your friends that don't involve these guys? A girly night in, a meal out, a bowling night, road trip, beach day etc are all good ideas. You could say something like "Hey, we haven't spent much time just us girls recently, why don't we go to/do [insert activity]?"
If it's a lost cause and you really don't want to spend time with them or these guys anymore then it's time to make some new friends. Make an effort to spend more time with other friends you have, join school/college clubs/societies etc and try and meet some new people. I know it's easier said than done but there's no point hanging out with people when you're not having fun and you don't approve of or like what they're doing.
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Did you talk to your friends about them? You can't really pick your friends' friends but just don't hang out with them when those guys are invited. If they're real friends then they'll start to miss you and ditch the guys to hang out with you instead. If they don't then they're whores and you deserve better friends... :)
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