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How to get rid of a "friend"?
Okay, So I have this friend who I've known since 7th grade. I'm now in 12th grade (and I'm a girl btw) and my friends and I seriously don't like her. We are constantly complaining about her "know-it-all" attitude and the fact that she tinks she is better than the rest of us. My friends and I have talked and we feel she is a toxic personality, and we don't wnat to be her friends anymore. The only problem is, she doesn't have many other friends and I'd feel extremely bad "getting rid of her". She was bullied all through elementary school so I feel like she doesn't have good personal skills, or maybe she is mirroring that bully mentality on us. I really am sick of her being so rude and childish. How can I get rid of her without feeling absolutely awful? (There's no way I can go another year with her. I might blow up at her which I don't want to happen.)
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i had to haha.
you can always be straight up and tell her that you don't want to hang out with her but since she was bullied i wouldn't do that. maybe just gradually stop hanging out with her. drift away from her slowly.
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sit her down and have a heart-to-heart with her. tell her to either listen to what you have to say, or go away (the direct approach will get her attention). what i also recommend, is while talking to her, it'll soften it up a bit if you lie a little. say things like "you know i love you" or "you're a really good friend of mine" etc. those may not be totally true at this point, but it'll let her know that you care. tell her that you love her to death, or whichever softening phrase you wish, but her attitude has gotten to be very intolerable. explain to her your side. tell her how she's been acting and what toll its taken on your friendship. ask her to try and change the way she acts. and tell her that if something doesnt change soon, you don't think you'll be able to be friends with her anymore. this is being direct, but again, softening it up a bit. sugarcoating it, if you will. she'll realize, after having been told all this, that not only is she about to lose her only friends, but she's not a very enjoyable person. after talking to her, give it some time. see if she changes. give it a week, or give it three days. the time span is your choice, since this was your ultimatum. if she changes the way she acts, you'll most likely change your mind about wanting to dump her. but if she doesnt change, go with your original plans and just tell her that you gave her a chance to change, and she took it for granted. that way, you wont feel bad about it, since you gave her the heads up.
i hope this works for you :) take care.
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