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After break that lasted like a year, I'm back.


Um yeah, anyways.
My name is Amanda.
I am 16.
I will try to answer your questions to the best of my ability, but be warned, I am brutally honest.
So I might come off as being mean, but sometimes the truth hurts.
I'm not saying that to be mean, because I'm really a nice person.

And if you plan on sending me a question in my inbox, please use proper English.
I probably will not respond if you type LyKe DiS or IN ALL CAPS or if y00 cnt spl if yur lyfe dpended on it.

Have a nice day! :D

advice

Okay. im going to a new school next year, so ive been asking alot of questions on how to be like outgoing and stuff. but i was just wondering, is there a line between trying to be outgoing and funny and stuff even if its already hard for you, and then being fake?
because i know that im not just like a quiet person, becuase when im with my friends.. i can be all crazy and stuff. but when im around other people who i dont no, im really shy. and i dont want to be something im not.. but still..
idk if this makes since.. but basicly is that being fake?

I'm exactly like that.
Shy around everyone except for my friends.
It's mainly because you're comfortable around your friends because you know them well.
And if you're trying to be outgoing around people you don't know, that's not fake at all.

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Me and this guy dated for about 5 years. then we broke up and he started dating my best friend. I know shady and betrayl but I just let it be. Now they are still together, but he is messing around with one of my cousins. He told my cousin that he didn't like casey as much as he liked my cousin (Sam). So sam told me and she said that he had asked her if he could kiss her. Sam said no but that is still cheating in some sense on casey. I'm not sure what to do because i know this and even though casey and me are touchy on her and her bf i still love her. she has been my best friend since before we could walk. should i tell her? what should i say? or should i stay out of it? it's not really my business anyway but she is my best friend and i know how bad he can hurt girls like that. what do i do???

In my opinion, you really should tell your friend what is going on.
I think as her best friend, it's kind of your unwritten duty to tell her what's happening in this situation.
By telling her, it could stop your best friend from being hurt by her boyfriend.

Good luck & I hope this helped! :]

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eveyone has like msn now
how do you get like a screen name type of thing
and do you have to pay anything?

You can sign up for Windows Messenger [which is compatible with msn screennames] at this website:

http://im.live.com/Messenger/IM/Join/

And yes, it is free.

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okay people tells me secrets and stuff but at the same time they question me if they can trust me because i dont tell anything that much or tell them a secret why is that?

I think in this day and age, people assume that if they tell you something, they expect to get something out of you.
But just keep doing what you're doing.
As long as they know that they can trust that you won't spread the secrets around, I think you'll be just fine. :]

I hope this helped!

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Yesterday I went to a funeral for a friend that recentley died (june 16, 07) Its so unreal, I cannot believe that it had happened.
Our whole school was basicly at his funeral, or thinking of him and his family.
It was so unexpected and random, why him?
I'm having sucha hard time grasping the fact that he's gone, and I could cry and cry,
I wasnt even that CLOSE to him, like some others, and I seem to be showing so much more emotions about it.
What do I do? Have any of you ever lost any friends?
he was only 16.

I went through a situation that was alot like this in February.
I moved away from my old school about 4 years ago and I had slightly kept in touch with my good friend Jason and one night I received a phone call from one of my friends who knew him saying that he died in a car crash.
I was in shock for a while.
It's always hard to grasp the fact that someone is gone, especially at such a young age. And I know for my friend, it was extremely unexpected.

What you have to do is just take the time to think it through and just come to the realization that he is, in fact, gone. And even though you weren't close with him, it's completely normal to show so much emotion. I know when I lost my friend, I fell into this serious depression, because I didn't accept the fact that he was gone. You just have to accept it and do whatever you feel is right to mourn his death.

I'm sorry for the loss, and I hope I helped.
Just let me know if you'd like to talk about this more.

-Amanda. :]

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ok so its super rainy and thundering and we were planning on like a bon fire tonite so should i let them still come ova or no? like tomrrow!

You could either have them over and just hang out.
Or you could just plan the bonfire for another night.

Either way would work.

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X_Amanda_X

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well the thing is ive told her this plenty of times.. all she says is yeah im sorry im gonna change. and i say you never do. its the same thing. i always tell her how hurt i am by this and sick of it. but she doesnt stop. i dont know what to do though! i've already tried talking to her and it doesnt make a difference.. i really have no clue what i should do though? do you have any ideas?

thank you so much for reading my question.

I can think of two options right now.
1.) You talk to her again and tell her that she has said that she says she's going to change but she doesn't. If she doesn't do anything then she obviously doesn't care about your feelings, therefore she's not a real friend. Sorry to say it but it may be true.

2.) It may be a phase. Let it run it's course. Let her have her space. Soon she will figure out that she needs a best friend and that she misses you.

Good luck =]

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omg. my best friend in the world is being a slut. i mena i love the chick to death but her ex-boyfriend who used her then broke up with her to have "fun" over the break are doing any SEXUAL THING U CAN THING OF. theyve tried haveing sex 3 times but dude. the guy doesnt even like her and isnt planning on even asking her out. and shes inlove with him. hes such a man whore and i told her that she can pick up desises and stuff like that but she acts like she didnt even do anything wrong. i dont know how to tell her to stop without coming off as a controlling freak you know. I LOVE HER TO DEATH but i dont want to yell at her and make it to where she cant tell me stuff anymore. PLEASE HELP! what do i do.
ps. SHES TWELVE.

TWELVE?!
Well since she's obviously not taking your advice I would go to her parents. You may feel like you've betrayed your best friend, But you may be saving her from fatal diseases.

I hope this helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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i would really appretiat it if you take the time to read this.. because im in tears right now..all i want is my best friend back. okay so me and this girl (we'll call her chelsea..) chelsea have been best friends for years.. closer than like anyone.. we hung out like almost every day. never got sick of each other, and had the best times. but then she got this boyfriend from a different school. and started talking to him constantly and i felt left out a lot. and then she has ditched me a lot.. like ive caught her in a million lies. so many.. she wont stop.. and i wasnt talking to her like a week ago.. but then we started slowly talking and today we were laughing and stuff together.. then i find out she went with her boyfriend to dinner with her and her dad and hung with him all night.. whenever me her and my other friends were supposed to hang out.. so tonight when i got home i found out she went with him.. and she started to lie.. but then she told the truth that she was with him.. i know she went to his house because her dad told me. so she immediatly admitted that.. i dont know what to do. im so sick of her lieing to me. i burst into tears after talking to her.. please help me.. i really need it. thank you SOO much for reading this//and helping if you do..

You should tell her exactly what you're feeling. If you just let it go by without saying anything, she'll just keep ditching you. Just tell her that you're sick of her lying and her ditching you.

Good luck and I hope I helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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My friend anita has been kinda of mean lately. we've never had a fight but we've known each other since we were about 7 (i'm 14 now) everytime i ring her to ask her to come out she always has something else to do like clean her room or the living room or something like that. the only time she wants to come out is when she has to go to the shop for school or her parents and i think shes just using me for that because she doesn't like walking to the shop by herself!i don't no what to do! should i try to igore her for a while? should i just ignore the whole thing and carry on with whats going on?please help!

p.s. i rate 5's

No do not ignore the whole thing. If you just let it go on then it will get worse. You have to talk to her about it. If she gets angry because of your honesty and decides that you should'nt be friends anymore, she wasn't a friend in the first place.

I hope this helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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I am a girl age 15.
Few days back in school , when we were near basketball courts , I tried to pick my key chain from the floor, I could not control myself and farted loudly. It was a sudden incident. Six boys & girls were there all noted it and laughed, I was very much embarrassed and ran away from there. I am still upset. I told this to my elder sis, her first response was also a laugh. She tried to convince me that its natural and can happen with any body, she told me that once this was happened to her female teacher also. But I am still feeling guilt. Please advice me.

Why are you feeling guilty?! It's natural! It happens to everyone!

X_Amanda_X

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HI AMANDA!!!!!!!!

It's Alli :]

I LOVE you, and your 'NEW' hair! :p

Heh Thanks! I love you too!!!

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well, suddenly, all my friends are getting boyfriends. i'm 12 // f. gonna be thirteen in january. like. all she ever talks about is him! i was crying last night. i'm really upset. please, advice.

Don't let it get to you, okay? Just because your friends are getting boyfriends doesn't mean you have to have one too. If you really want a boyfriend and are willing to just go out with any guy that comes around, it probably won't work out. So:
1.)Don't rush into any relationships, they won't work out--trust me.
2.) Just be yourself around guys. If they don't like you, screw em!
3.)The guy you are looking for will come around! Don't be upset!

And if it bothers you that much that your friends always talk about their boyfriends, just explain to them that you don't want them talking so much about them because it makes you feel bad! If they were really your friends they would understand how you feel.

I hope I helped, and Good Luck! =]

X_Amanda_X

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I'm so depressed my girl left me and I didn't really make many friends when I moved here from NC what can I do to cheer up or meet new friends?

Don't get too upset. Just make new friends. All will be well then.

X_Amanda_X

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Why do preps call people that aren't preps preps. Sorry kinda confusing but I'm just wondering that. Cause a few of the real preps call me a prep and I deff. don't consider myself or my friends preps.

This usually happens because they are stupid. They have to insult other people just to make themselves feel good. Don't let it get to ya. Once they realize that you don't care what they think, they will stop.

I hope this helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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every friend i have, i talk about, except one who is a grade younger than me. i talk good things about her but sometimes she can really make me mad and sometimes i get teased cause shes only in 6th grade and i need to "get some friends my own age". there this girl i really like in my grade but im like the only person in my skewl that likes her, and im trying to fit in so i pretend i dont really like her. i talk about everyone. its really bad! im a real bitch. i want a best friend. its pathetic!

please tell me what i can do. thank you

Are you reading what you just typed?! The reason why you can't get any friends is because people obviously see that you have a repuatation to talk about people behind their backs!

SO if I were you I'd stop talking about people behind their backs and start being nice!

X_Amanda_X

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I'm shy but I want to make friends. I'm in clubs (band, chorus, jazz band) but whenever it comes to conversation-making, if I'm around another friend it's easy to talk, but if I'm by myself I'm really shy! How can I become less shy, or at least overcome this. This would be greatful because I think I only have like 9 friends. Heh, thats NOT NORMAL!!! Lol but its kind of hard because I'm easily intimidated by people. Thank you for ANY help, I mean ANY!!

It's good that you are in clubs that can help you make some friends! Don't go into a full-fledged conversation the first time you talk to someone. Just start with small talk. For example, instead of totally babbleing about how you get solos in every music you play, Just say something simple,perhaps a compliment, like, "Hey nice solo."

Eventually after some small talk, they will start having more lengthy conversations with you =]

I hope this helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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Ok i have a friend and weve been best friends since i moved here in the 7th grade.. until we came to highschool. (9th grade) We just slowly started not talking and hanging out. I miss talking to her and hanging out with her & i do try to talk to her and stuff but it seems like she doesnt want to talk to me. I dunno if i should talk to her about it or just leave it alone and cool down for awhile.. what should i do?

As much as I hate to say this, you will probably just have to move on and make new friends. You are lucky that it's starting in high school. I'm in middle school and I've already had that happen to me.

But..Yeah this is what happens as life goes on. I found a quote that's really cute about friendships. "Friends are like stars. Some stay, some go. But the ones that stay are the ones that glow"


I hope this helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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ok.. my friend had a really hott boyfriend and i liked him and he liked me also....(he told me) i didnt want him to break up with her because of me because im not like that.... we just had a dance.. and he started grinding on my while she wasnt looking.... about 15 min hey dissappeard and a little bit l8ter and friend appeard cring like no other and when i talked to her she said he broke it off with her... and then about an hour later he asked me out... i didnt kno wat to say but i said yes and we slow dance and grinded all while my friend was crin.... my other friends found out about all this and told her... she HATES me now.... wat do i do and how do i make it better???

i always rate 5

Well, no offence, but if you were truly her friend you would be comforting her in her time of need instead of stealing her ex. Just think..how would you feel if your boyfriend just broke up with you and now your friend is already his new girlfriend and your friend wasn't there to help you.

One possible way of perhaps working things out with her is just to talk to her or write her a note apologizing for what you've done. Although I can't guarantee that she will forgive you. Afterall, would you forgive someone who stole your boyfriend, got all up on him, and totally blew you off in just one night?

I live by a quote, "Before judging someone, walk a mile in their shoes. Then you will be a mile away and they will have their shoes!" Sorry, I'm just trying to get someone to smile. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, put yourself in her position. What would you do if she were you, and you were her?

I hope this helped, and good luck! =]

X_Amanda_X

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Okay, My name is melissa, and i'm fifteen. Theres this guy at my school who keeps calling me fat. He says that i'm obese and that i should just stop eating!!! The problem is, that i'm 5,4 and i'm 105 pounds. I dont think that's fat, and all my friends say i'm stick thin....but, i dont know. If he calls me that, do other people think that? And...if not, how do i get him to stop?

Please help! I rate high!

~Melissa~

Well, according to this Body Mass Index calculator I am looking at, it says you are fairly thin for your height. If you want to see for yourself, go to www.am-i-fat.com And is this kid whose saying your fat, fat? Because if he is he's obviously just jealous since you're so skinny. Or he likes you. It is proven that guys pick on girls when they like them. But anyway..Don't let him get to you.

I hope this helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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