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Hi!My name is Melissa.I'm from G.I. New York.I love being able to help people and giving advice.I'm usually the person who people come to for advice and i'm always glad to be there for them.If you just wanna talk or if you want advice you can IM me.UnLuckyWishes3.I'm really into sports and love to play basketball.I play JV voleyball and Varsity track.

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Okay so i need some help in helpin out my best friend.. so here goes with some background information. my friend met this kid over the summer at her camp, well it turns out he lives in the neighborhood where we go to school at. well my friend chills with him sometimes and she really likes him ALOT, but the thing is he says he doesn't want a girlfriend and everything but he's trying to get my friend to have sex with him!! i mean she asked me for advice and i told her she shouldn't because i mean she's 14 and she shouldn't lose her virginity to this guy who she doesn't even go with.. and it's kind of obvious that all he wants is to hit it.. well she went to 2nd base with him and i'm afraid she's gonna do it with him and he's gonna like stop talkin to her or just use her for sex. i mean i don't want that to happen to her but she won't listen to me she like wants him to like her. and he'll say all this stuff like yea after we have sex we'll go out, and i'm like yea bullshit. but she believes his lies and she needs to wake up and smell the coffee..lol.. so what can i do to help her out? help me out please. thankies i'll rate you too.. buh bye.

Let her know what can happen to her and what the consequences can be.Ask her if she really wants to waste her first time on some guy who isnt even interested for the person she really is.Try to talk to the guy.If it really comes down to it let her parents know whats going on.I mean she'd pry be mad but in the long run she'd be so happy you did.Your a good friend to her.Hope i helped and good luck with that.

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Okay.. i have had a secret that only my really good friends know but im not going to tell what it is. Well, in skool one day this kid chase shouted it out loud and everyone looked at me. I asked him who said it and he said it was my bestfriend! Well she promised she didnt do it so i forgave her and she told me my other friend jade said it.. but now i heard that this girl that i really dont like her name is shelby she told 2 of my friends that didnt know and i didnt even tell shelby about it my other friend shannon did. Today we were in s/s and my other friend amanda told me she said it! Im just so confused! should i be mad at all these people or should i just let it go?? please help!

Maybe this time let it go.Just try to watch out for who you tell, people can be untrustworthy sometimes.If it happenes again would be mad @ them.Hopei helped and it doesnt happene again.

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okay in like 3 1/2 hours my next door neighbor is having a birthday party and im invited. i have no clue what to get him! hes 12 , likes baseball , basketball , rap ! any ideas?

I know this isnt very creative orw/e but mayeb give him money.I'ts always hard to get teens presents so money's usually something everyone loves.If you had more time then maybe getting him a b-ball or baseball and having all of his friends sign it.Sorry i wasnt that much help but have fun at your party.

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i moved in june to the west side of canada, and in september one of my freinds died from cancer i wans't able to go to his funeral but i still miss him, and now i jsut found out another one of my firnds has cancer in the same place that my freind that died did, what can i do to get my mind off of this

I know this might not take your mind off it but it might make you feel better.Maybe go to a hospital and visit people who have cancer ,talk to them and just try to brighten thier day.Or maybe even just donate 5-10$ to an organization for cancer.Think of all the things you can do to make thme proud of you and know that you made a difference.i'm sorry i didnt answer your question but i thoguht it might help and i'm super sorry about your friends.

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I'm new at a school and I tried out for basketball and made it! The team is always really nice to me and we joke around and stuff, but when i see them around at school a lot of them just ignore me, at least most of them do. [Some of them are my friends] some of them smile and say hi or something like that but most of them walk right past me without saying a word. I want to be close to them as friends but I don't know how I can be since I've been going to the same school for a while, I''m not used to being the new kid. Do they want to be my friends? and what are some questions I can ask them that won't seem to akward...something that's recent [ex. What are you going to be for halloween, who do you like?..questions like what are your interests never work out..]?

thanks so much!

Just try to keep talking to them.I was the new girl on my bball tema last year and through-out the year they started talking to me in the halls more.Maybe if you have some classes or the same teacher to ask them what'd they get on a test or did they think it was hard or easy, or something about the teacher.That always seems to help people because then they usually start laughing about the teacher or something.Maybe say sometime all of us should go to the movies, or something.

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There is this one kid who goes to my school and his name is Jamie. He's been at my school since second grade and I have always just thought he was kind of an annoying and weird kid. He used to like me and he still flirts with me but I have always sort of acted like I hated him (because i thought i did). Anyway I figured out that all this time I have liked him. It seems like a good thing (because he might still like me) but there is a problem...He's moving to Hong Kong in January! He's kind of a geek in my grade but he thinks he's really popular and stuff and I was going to tell him right away that I like him but then I decided that it would be really weird if he didn't still like me too and then he would tell everyone that I like him and then I would be thought of as a loser for the rest of my life at school. So after that I thought that maybe I would tell him on his last day of school but I'm not sure if that is the right thing to do....Please help me...SOON!

you could tellh im on the last day of school if your really worried about,maybe even write him a letter letting him knwo how you feel and that you'd still like to stay in contact with him.Or find one of his friends or yours that you know won't say anything to anyone else and ask them to talk to him about who he likes.Bring a few random names into the conversation and bring up yours with it.Or have them ask him what would you do if these people liked you.That way if he likes you you know its good to tell him how you feel.Hope i helped, let me know how things go or if you have another question.GOOD LUCK!

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Things have been going great with my boyfriend. But I can tell my best friend is jealous. I guess I dont blame her but still, I'd like to be able to talk to her about it without feeling guilty like I'm bragging. I've tried to talk to her about like our first kiss or stuff like that but she either gets all quiet or says bad things about him.. like he's a player or something like that (which he isnt, we both really like eachother but thats besides the point). I just really want to be able to share it with her and not feel bad about it. Should I still talk to her about it or just talk to my other friends? Thanx so much.. I rate high!

I would still talk to her but maybe not as often so she might be more into what your saying and let her know that you want to share this with her and you dont want to make her feel bad or brag.You just wanna share it with her because thats what friends do.So i would maybe try to talk with all your friends including her.Hope i helped.

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I am starting to have feelings for my best guy friend but I don't want to do anything to hurt our relationship. What do I do? I'm in a weird situatuion now. I haven't told him.
xo0x CoNfUsEd xo0x

If you think you're going to keephavign these feelings for him i would let him know but tell him that know matter what he thinks of all of that yo donyt want your friendship to change because that means alot to you.Or m,aybe try having one of your/his friends talk to him about who he likes and see if your name comes up if your worried about letting him know.Hope i helped.

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its my friends birthday on sunday.. n im going to her party saturday to sunday.. i have no idea what to get her!! shes a punk girl who likes soccer.. so if u could give me ideas thatd b great!! i'll rate u!!

You might just want to give her money , thats always good to give if your not sure what to get someone.That way they can pick out something they really like adn its thanks to you.Hope i helped.

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I used to have 2 best friends. Arina** nd Stacie** (** names have been changed) and I know 3 is a tricky number to work with when it comes to friends. So one night me and stacie were texting each other and shes like "i got a bf" and I say, "really, who?" "tyler" then I say, "wuts his last name?" "i dunno" then I say "and let me guess...u never met him before?" and she got all offended and called me a bitch when I was just kidding, cuz she went out with this guy tht lives in P.A and never met him before. So we stared fighting over the text messaging bickering back and forth. And we haven't been friends since June. And I don't think we ever will be again. But the sad part is my (favorite) other best friend, arina, turned against me for some reason and I think its because stacie is tellin her a bunch a trash about me. So me and Arina stopped talking to me and I really want to talk to her and ask her why shes mad at me. Its so painful it makes me cry. We were like the bestest friends. I was more close with arina than anyone. We shared such good times. I just don't know what to do cuz one day arina stared giving me the silent treatment without telling me why. So she just left me in the dark. I do not know how to solve my problem at all. Can you help me? I miss arina! :`(

Maybe ask one of your close friends to find out whats going with her.Like have them askher and belike why are you and {your name} fighting or whats up w/ your and {your name}. Or try goign to her hosue when you knwo someone wil be home and ask liek her parents if you can talk to her for a minute so you knwo she wont just throw you out without talking or anything.Sorry i kept writing {your name}, I just dont knwo your name.lol.Well i hope you get your friend back i knwo what it feels like.

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All my friend has been doing lately is complaining. Not to be stuck up or anything but things are going a little better for me than they are for her lately and shes tryen to bring me down with her so we can share being upset all the time . On the fone she doesnt stop complaining I just want to hang up on her. I dont want to be rude to her about this but im just so sick of listening to her complain. PLEASE help!

she pry just likes to share her problems a little bit too much.Ask her if she can stop talkign so much about her all the time.Just be like "Listen i like helping you and all but i dont want to hear about it EVERY second of the day only sometimes." If that doesnt work then just flat out tel her she's way to self-centered.Hope i helped.

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alright...no matter what you think i don't hate you but it does bother me that you told me online that you wanted to take Nick and then you denied it...idk...maybe someone was on your s.n...but that's not really the issue anymore...it's just that i've changed and you haven't...i'm not the same person i was last year...and you are...and i guess people change so...we're not as close as we used to be...so i guess we're just not best friends anymore...

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Alright,i'm not gonna argue or anything about that.If thats how you feel i'm gonna respect that and its your choice.But you have to understand the thing that bothers me is that you said i like nick i really dont and i know i never said that nor thought that.And then you also said that i told kaileen and sam that when i didnt.Even kaileen says i didnt tell her that,well because i didnt.I dont want Nick and i have no interest in him and you need to understand that.I just want you and him to be happy and have a good relationship.

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okay well i have 3 best friends one is emily i've had for 3 years and the other two brittany and meghyn and i spent the night with meghyn and brittany this weekend, and emily is always like your ditching me.. sometimes i feel like i have more fun with brittany and meghyn then emily well see meghyn and brittany are popular and brittany is in my class so we hang out alot.. so hanging out with them makes me popular but emily is not so popular... what do i do about it? me and emily are good friends but sometimes it gets annoying we have been best friends for 3 years.. what do i do? mods please dont delete i really need help.

I know emily doesnt fit in with your other two friends but sometimes try adn niclude her in the things you do and then other times just hang out with them at least this way your showing her that you like her and all but sometimes you just gotta hang out with them.And let her know your not ditching her just sometimes you just need to hang out with them.Hope i helped.

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I have a friend and me and her have been friends sense 4th grade we're in the 8th now , but lately she has been thinking that every single one of her exboyfriends likes me. I keep telling her that its not true, but she still thinks it. I dont want her mad at me over something like this. Its not like I like them back is what I tell her. What should I do?

I know it'll pry get annoying but just whenever she says that just reisure her that you dont like them, so dont worry.Or just talk to her and ask why do you think all your old boyfriends like me.Maybe thats how she deals with break-ups.you should definatly talk to her and let her know that u dont want to get into a fight or have her mad @ you over something stupid like that and lose your friendship.hope i helped and everything works out!

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hi. i dont have a boyfriend and i want one and ive never had one bc im ugly. ive been really sad lately bc i want one. i feel lonely .. what should i do?? =(

Be more confident you may think your ugly but other perople pry dont.Be more positive because if people hear you say your ugly and if you act liek it and your all sad whats fn is that.Just go out adn have fun and take your mind of gettign a boyfriend because most of the time you shouldnt go looking for things let what your looking for find you.It seems to help me.hope i helped.

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Ok heres the problem.. my friend got her peroid in 5th grade.. so she gets it normally now.. but when she was supposed to get it this month she didnt.. She never had sex.. what could be the problem?

Your period changes over the years.Like when you get it.It's happened to me a couple times and i got mine in 5th grade and i'm in 8th grade now.Wait about two weeks to see what happens and if it doesnt just have her mom or dad take her to the doctors just be safe.If she started doing alot of physical activities or stopped doing them that could also be why or if she's been eating differently.Dont worry too much , it's actually pretty common, but make sure she's keeping an eye on how its going.Hope i helped.

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I'm 14 and going into high school this school year. I have been friends with this girl lets just call her Liss since...the end of 6th grade. We became best friends ever in 7th grade and then everything with her other friends went downhill from there. They all hate me and some have now threatened to kill me. I'm not scared, that has nothing to do with this but i'm making a point. I thinks he thinks she can't like me anymore cuz this has been going on awhile and she doesn't wanna get into trouble with her other friends when they do the same thing to her as me. COnfusing i know. Lately, she's been making exscuses not to hang out, she adds me in her profile if i ask her cuz thats how her pro works but she takes me out the next day and never puts me back in. I've told her this bothers me and she always makes up some dumbass exscuse like I had to take someone out there wasnt room. And i'm like i'm ur best friend take someone who isnt. I never said that but i sure did think it. The point is...i think her and i are starting to stop being friends and i dont want to. She's a wonderful person and one of my best friends and i don't wanna lose her to the people who she *THINKS* are her friends. They do seriously threaten to beat and kill me and her..but they are cowards and dont even have the guts to look me in the eye. They wont hurt us no matter what they say but i think she might be scared and stop being my friend just cuz of them. Help me..i'm all confused!

This happens alot around that age it really really sux....ALOT!you should try to confront her about it and let her know whats on your mind and you dont want her to change or be scared because of her friends.You two sound really tight and if your as good as friends as you sound you'll be able to work it out.Dont feel bad i'm going through sorta the same thing my best friend hates me.I'm not sure really why either.If you need advice or just wanna talk my s/n is UnLuckyWishes3 or just drop something in my inbox.

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ok...well me and my best friend were so close, like sisters, and tehn she started hanging out with people that she said she hated! can you please help? thanks!

x0 CoNfUsEd FrIeNd!

I'll try and help i'm not sure if i really understand everything.Were you and your friend close and then she ditched you because of the people she hates?Try and talk to her, just ask her over or something and talk about it.Tell her whats on your mind without yelling or alot of confrontation.Thats definatly weird if all of a sudden she starts hanging out with people she hates.dont feel bad my best friend hates me right now because she thinks i like her boyfriend and i dont find him attractive, like more then a friend.And i just wanted her to be happy with him but things are weird and crazy sometimes.It sounds like you really care about your friend and you dont want to lose her.Just talk to her, it seems to help in alot of problems if you talk and stay calm.hope everything works out.

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people have been saying me and two bestfriends look so much alike as though we're triplets. lol but we're not the only ones, i was wondering why do bestfriends always look like one another? dressing-wise too. its natural they wanna look like each other rite?

Yea and when you pry hang out with people so much you pick up what they like and what they like to do.Me and my best friend are starting to look alike and have the same hair color.It's kinda weird, but cool.hope i helped.

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i have a classmate who has terrible body odour and we duno how to tell her that she really needs a deodrant or perfume! how can i tell her that shes BO, without hurting her feelings?

I've had this problem before just once and a while be like something smells off do you smell it too.I said ii nicely like it was something in the air but i think she understood and one time i really thought it was something in the air and realized what it was.She just gave me a smile like thanks for telling me.Hope i helped.

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