people relate to music in all different ways. maybe something in his music gives this guy the chills, or makes him feel understood, just like rap/rock/pop may do for you. its good to be exposed to other kinds of music, but for the most part, music is incredibly personal. let him listen to whatever he wants.

Don't jump to conclusions before you talk to her. You said she was talking to someone about how "you were on the verge of breaking up." that doesn't absolutely mean that she knew he was gonna break up with you- it could mean that as your best friend, she knew your relationship wasn't going so well, and had a feeling it was going to end. consider all the possibiltites. and then if you still feel like you need to know what really happened, talk to her. but be careful- most likely- she was just being a concerned friend.

heyy- sorry for the delayed answer! its really really hard to stop liking someone, as you obviously are experiencing. this is gonna sound so mean- but i swear it works. for a little while, concentrate on the things you don't like about this guy. think of all his annoying traits that you can't stand, his habits that make you clench your teeth. think of every reason not to like him, and go with that. keep your focus on anything else you can. after awhile, the romantic feelings will go away- and his annoyance to you will too ; ) good luck- you know where you can find me if you need anything else.

invite her to the party. i understand shes bothering you, but its a party, and you'll have other friends there with you. put yourself in her position. she obviously doesn't know shes bothering you, so when she finds out, she'll be an emotional mess of anger, confusion, and that terrible feeling of being left out. shes your good friend, on your nerves or not.

Just tell her that you absolutly agree. Josh is awesome and wonderful- which is exactly why you love having him as your boyfriend. Just tell that your happy she likes him, but it makes you uncomfterble when she talks about him so much. tell her that you totally trust her, and know she's not going to do anything with him, but that if she can help it, itd make you feel better if she didn't gush about him so much.

Go up to him and just be like...listen, im not mad, just a little hurt. whats the deal? even if your really mad, just play it off and be calm. your more likely to get an honest answer, rather than him just trying to defend himself. if he gives you a ligitimate, honest sounding answer, be the bigger person and tell him you understand, but that he might wanna consider some of his friends feelings next time he decides to just avoid the topic. if he gives you some bullshit answer, than tell him you really thought he was more considerate than that...and walk away. as long as you stay totally cool, you'll have a bigger effect on him than if you yell at him.

Whenever your talking to him tomorrow, flirtily throw in a little, "you wanna ask me that question now?"...and see where it goes from there.

absolutely say something to her. i know it seems like, how could she not realize you would be mad, but people get wrapped up in the rush of a new relationship. especially since this has happened repeatedly, she obviously doesn't realize what shes doing. decide on one person to talk to her. she'll respond much better to one good friend than a gang of people who shes just finding out have been mad at her together behind her back. just bring it up casually, let her know that it feels like her new boyfriends are always more important than her friends. tell her that more than being mad, your hurt. and that your not asking her not to have boyfriends, just to be aware of how shes treating the rest of her friends. expect her to be mad. expect her to start defending herself. don't fight her, you've made your point. its up to her what happens from there.

No, its not wrong to like someone elses boyfriend, as long as you keep it to yourself. you can't control who you like, and its good that your not thinking about going and "stealing" him away from her. you obviously care a lot about your friend, so as long as your feelings are kept to yourself, you should be okay. as for not being happy because you don't have a boyfriend, the right guy will come at the right time and you'll be happy you waited for mr right instead of being with a million mr wrongs in order to make yourself feel better. have fun with your friends, do whatever you want on friday nights- live up the single life, which is very different but just as good as life with a boyfriend.

well, seeing as my best friend believes to be albert einstein...oh wait...that was me. the one thing i can tell you is that emc squared equals nine, and corn on the cob should always be eaten with a side of mashed potatoes. your best friend does think that eating corn with you is awesome and she loves you...she said to me.
i hope this helps
love albert

You must already be a good friend to have written in here to try and help her. Keep being the best friend you can be, make sure she knows that you love her and will do anything to help her. *Have her wear a rubber band around her wrist...when she feels like cutting, have her snap against her wrist instead.

I had this problem last Christmas. first ask around- ask his friends, his brother maybe, your brother- any one whos a guy, and has some idea what this guys taste is. If that doesn't work, start dropping little hints when your with him.."what cds are into?" are there any new video games that have come out...blah blah blah. and in the end- trust your own best friend instinct. you and this guy aren't best friends for nothing : P

Well- you should deffinitly go. If you're good friends with the girl whos house it is, and these are some of her friends, they must be cool people. You'll be able to meet new people, maybe there will even be a cute guy there who you'll click with : p...as for your ex boyfriend, i completely understand the situation- my ex boyfriend and i didn't talk for 3 months and were really uncomfterble around each other...that is until we stopped avoiding each other, and started hanging out again. its bad the first couple of times, but once you both stop being mad at each other and start remember why u liked each other in the first place, everything will be good again. i hope this helps, and if you decide to go..have fun! : )

Hey...im risa, known to some as Reeses : )
I love the feeling of knowing that something i said helped someone when they were feeling confused, upset, or just in need of hearing someone elses point of view. i know it sounds corny, but im always here if you ever just need someone to tell you your not crazy. : )

Because maybe...your gonna be the one that saves me.

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