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Due to assholes on the site and people who have no idea what the hell they are talking about I have left the site. Ahem, Dangernerd...Who likes to make assumptions about people when they do not know them ;) Then has brass balls to go search up whatever information he can gather so he has back fire to use whenever he feels like starting a little hissy fit. Let me remind those who read this, Dangernerd has a nasty tendency of using what you post on the site against you if you where to ever have a problem with someone on the site. Mind you, He likes to gather false information in a way that he thinks will benefit him in the long run. This site is run by someone who doesn't have class, Who likes to pigeon hole people. The same guy who supposedly is running an "ADVICE" column but somehow has pre-teens asking about sex and how to do sexual things to their "partners" this site is also filled with people giving advice that is NOT helpful or use full in any form rather than most encouraging the young ones. Well lets get to the bottom of it, This site is a laughing matter. Dangernerd is a joke and couldn't be a bigger clown ;)
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Well, I've been really close with a boy since 3rd grade, we are know in 10th, still best friends. All of my friends seem to think we would make the cutest couple in the world. Neither of us see it though. We talked about dating and such and we can see us together but it's kind of a weird spot for us. I look at him as my brother but this past weekend we had a dance and a girl was all over him, I felt like I was getting jealous but I shouldn't have been. Now, I literally was the one who got him to go, I texted him alllll night and finally convinced him to go but he spent no time with me, I felt neglected but it was okay, I was just happy he was there. I can trust him with my life and I'll tell him my problems and after say "thanks for listening and pretending to care" and he answers "i care, or else I wouldn't listen" my favorite from before was "I've been your friend since third grade, I'm not leaving any time soon" we text all the time, its great, hes someone i look forward to texting, he listens and cares. so, do you think he likes me?
This is a tricky one and it could go both ways.
People who have known each other for years become close but just how close? Well, Depends on the person. From the sound of it I think your guy friend might like you just as a friend. Seeing you two have known each other for years he could of very well developed a sibling relationship with you. On your part you could of felt jealous because maybe you are the one with the crush. You could try to tell him how you are feeling and maybe discuss the possibility of you dating and see where it goes. If you two are as close as you say then if it doesn't work out you should have no problem staying close friends. Talk to him
well okay 15/f well ii have been in and out with this boy and i really like him we have been together for 9months and we broke up and i went back to my ex and then we broke up and i went back with the other guy now and i still like my ex and i really wan to go back out with him but i end up goin back out with thwe other one and now that i still like my ex and he likes me i dont know what to do hahah wow i get really confused who to be with i got two questions
should i tell my boyfriend that we are over and go with the other guy?
or
should i stay with my boyfriend and just wait till the time comes?
I think you need to decide who you want to be with. Personally, I think maybe you should stick with the boyfriend you have now. Your ex boyfriend is an ex for a reason and like I've said many times before if it didn't work out the first time didn't work out the second time than more than likely it will not work out the third time. If you keep breaking up with someone then eventually they are not going to want to be in a relationship with you any longer. Many guys would rather be with someone who is serious and is not going to keep playing with their feelings than continue to go back forth between breakups. You need to decide what you want but like I said if you keep breaking up with him it's only a matter of time before he moves on to someone new.
I'm 17/f and I have (or had) this best guy friend named Paul. Just to make this clear, we weren't together or dating and I never had any type of crush or romantic feelings for him, we were just best friends for like almost all of high school. Over this summer, especially we hung out all the time and went shopping and stuff. He was always the one I could vent my complaints to about other people and he did the same to me because we almost always shared the same views and didn't have other people who agreed with us. So there are these two friends that we have, Holly and Dani. They were pretty much his best friends next to me and I was (and still am) really good friends with Holly. The whole junior year, he started to get fed up with them and would complain about them all the time. Over this past summer when we would hang out all the time, all he could talk about was how annoyed he was with them and how he was "seriously considering not being friends with them anymore". I honestly didn't mind his complaining about them and even agreed with some stuff. but i said to him why did you get yourself into a whole friendship with them in the first place if you don't like them? I know, though that he didn't feel that way about me because I know we had a connection and could really, really relate to each other which him and Holly or Dani never did.
So then the first day of senior year comes. I'm really, really good at reading peoples' attitudes and have a really good sense of when people are being even the slightest bit snippy or moody or avoiding. From the first week of school until the fourth week of school this was the case with him. It wasn't too bad but I could tell he had a slight change in attitude towards me from what it was during the summer. He even canceled on me like twice when we were supposed to hang out, for reasons like, "now I don't have time" and "I'm too tired". AND every single time I turned my head I would see him with Holly and Dani. Like, if he could pick either me or Holly to walk in the halls to class with he would walk with Holly and not bother waiting for me. I mean, don't get me wrong we still talked all the time the same as we always did but it was just different from what it was over the summer. And the thing is, I did absolutely NOTHING that he could be potentially annoyed or upset with me about. So it's not friendship breaking material but definitely something he should be confronted about.
I call him and try to talk about it in a very calm, civil manner, trying not to make that big a deal and before I can even really say anything he's like, I don't wanna talk about this now, you're just in a bad mood. So I had no choice but to take the immature route and write him a fb message about how I felt. I was so annoyed that he was too immature to handle talking to me on the phone. I decided, I said what I have to say, now it's his turn to say something to me. It's been almost 4 weeks and he hasn't said anything to me. I really feel like he just doesn't care or he's too immature to have the balls to talk to me and confront the situation. I just feel really let down. I really don't want our friendship to end, but on the other hand, if he doesn't care it's not worth it right? In a way I feel like if he really wants me as a friend, he would talk to me but then again maybe he's just being immature, so if he's that immature i really shouldn't be friends w/ him anyway, but then should I let his immaturity in this one situation ruin our friendship? Should I say something to him or still wait for him to say something to me? This situation is just so middle school-esque but I feel like I shouldn't spoon feed him by talking to him. From the bottom of my heart I really want it to work out but idk if that's realistic. What should I do??
It doesn't really sound like it has anything to do with maturity, It sounds like it is clearly peer pressure. It COULD be that Dani and Holly might of said things that made him think twice. Despite you being friends with Holly almost EVERYONE talks about someone at one point or another behind their backs. I'm not saying this is the case but it very well could be. If this IS what happened then you're right he should of been man enough to discuss this in a private manner. The next possible reason could be that he might be feeling overwhelmed with the amount of time you two had spent together and just might need some time away for awhile and if this is the case again he should of told you he needed a break. All you can do well...You could try to talk to him it has been about 4 weeks now and that is plenty of time to give someone who needs space. If he doesn't respond back, gives you the cold shoulder, or makes up excuses well then you at least get a hint that he is not interested in making the friendship work. If this happens at least you tried and you were the bigger person for trying to make things right
Well I'm 16 and a female, for my 7th, 8th and half of 9th grade I had a bestfriend...lets call her Max, well Max and I became friends in 7th we had one class togther and lunch, in class we never really spoke but then slowly around October she started speaking to me, then we later found out my friend June was her bestfriend. So the three of us hung out, Max and I got to know each other and what not. But then June moved away ad Max was horribly depressed. :/ Her grades even began to drop. Well her and I continued to hang until we eventually became bestfriends. I'd always go to her house, she'd go to mine, we were unseperable. Then 8th grade came we were just closer we'd tell each other everything there were no secrets. I'd never met someone like her she was funny and fun, and ugh I ended up crushing on her, but what ever. I never made my feelings known since moraly I was told it was wrong plus, I was scared that'd push her away. Our friendship wasn't worth it. But anyways once came freshman year, I got sick really bad and barely attended school. So we'd still talk on the phone online, she'd visit me and everything. But she began to change and distant herself. :[
When I returned to school I was very happy to see her and she acted like she was very happy to see me too, although she was cold toward me at times and I didn't know why. Then I found out she became friends with these two other girls, lets call them Terry and Petter. (._.)
Well I was friends with Terry since I knew her from one of my classes but Petter didn't like me she actually hated me, not sure why. I think cause my friend ummm...Lauren hated her and ugh so much drama. Well anyways, as the year went on I continued to be ill and switched into night school. Halloween came around and we still went trick-or-treating together with Lauren and Max and I. But I saw she was changing, she then gained a bf and I knew him too from another class, we'd talk she found it odd I think but never told me much. Well then summer came me and her stopped talking all together, I went to summer school and ran into Terry and Petter somehow Petter tried talking to me and well we became "friends" I guess. I don't know...well I'd hang with Terry and Petter alot, so then Lauren didn't like it since she was now my bestfriend basically, and well somehow I got them to speak to each other. Now Terry and Petter weren't friends with Max anymore, Petter hated Max actually now, they both told me and Lauren that Max would speak shit about us behind our backs.
I acted as if it didn't bother me, but infact it really did, like alot...I don't know why. :(
I just couldn't believe the horrible things she'd say about me, I was pissed off and very upset. Those 2 years when we were so close, what had happened?! I didn't get it, but what ever I justed tried to forget her. Then there was some drama when she came back this summer from Mexico, she found out Terry and Petter and Lauren and I were very close friends now. I don't think she liked it. >.>
So Terry stoped talking to Max and so did Petter, Idunno...I had deleted Max along time ago from my friends list and well, a month or so back she sent me request so I accepted we only spoke once, very briefly. So my question is, will I ever get over her? I miss her as my friend and nothing else, I know she's not into girls and I have a boyfriend so that's not an issue. But why can't I seem to forget her. I miss her very much, what should I do. I'm affraid to talk to her since she said she disliked me so much, basically...I'm lost.
She had changed alot when she began to hang with Terry and Petter, they got her to smoke weed and she just doesn't seem to be the same person.
Usually if someone changes and or distance themselves from me well I'm like what ever, their lost. But with her...I miss her, I feel like I lost something...Well there yah have it.
Sorry it's so long, and sorry for any typeos but I'm to lazy to check them :T
First of all this is not your fault, When people get older and they start to enter high school almost everyone changes in one way or another. It sounds like your friend is hanging with the wrong crowd and we don't always realize it but our friends also play a part in who we are and how we act. You said that your friend is smoking weed, Weed has it's downfall and it effects different people in different ways.
Here are some of the causes from marijuana
http://www.nadapp.gov.tt/forum/faq/marijuana.html
I know you don't want to hear it but I think you need to make new friends.
My Friend Ricky is going through a lot in his life right now. I want to help him out...
1.) He lost his full scholarship to a college
2.) He started smoking weed a lot
3.) He broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years
4.) He lost his grandmother
I tried telling him I was here for him but he's not taking any help from anyone. He's not working and he's unhappy...he needs to be pushed...I WANT to help him I can't let him fall through the cracks he doesn't deserve that!
What should I do? Please help!
I understand that you want to help your friend but there is only so much a person can do for someone when they don't want to accept the help. If he did accept the help even then is there only so much a person can do. If smokes weed often you can support him but he the one who needs to kill his habit, If he broke up with his girlfriend technically you can support him but again it was his choice to make. If he is not accepting the help right now than all you can do is tell him if he needs a shoulder to lean on you will be there to listen and eventually he will come around.
last year at school i had headlice. i felt horrible all summer, bu have fianaly cut my hair and got rid of them. i was nervous this september that i might get them, but i am sure i havent. i'm so glad not to have them now, but a friend told me privately yesterday that she nows i have headlice. i prentended to agree with her, telling her the truth about catching it of my friend, and having a hard time getting rid of it. but the thing is, i am so sure i got rid of them, and i know this sounds stupid, but i feel really bad, like my self-confidence has shot down by miles. i want to tell her the truth. i'm sure she doesn't blab about it, but she might tell her friends, which i hate, cos i feel really self concoius. should i tell her that they've gone now? i have nothing to feel guilty about, right. i mean, i just caught it off someone else and nits prefer clean hair, so it's not bad right my mom gave me such a hard time about it last year, and i feel kinda ashamed. i didn't do anything wrong, so why so i feel like this. i go to a school where a lot of the girls are kinda snobby, and it just feels weird. i've been obsessing over this all night and i could use some advice. thanx so much
I had a friend who got headlice more than once when she was younger, The truth is it is not that uncommon and probably more people get it than you think. If your friend goes and tells her friends about it and they all make in fun of you well than clearly she isn't much of a friend in the first place. I know you want to tell her the truth but if you don't want other people to find out about it then I suggest you be careful who you tell. You didn't do anything wrong no, and getting headlice isn't fun at all but you aren't the only one to get it either.