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Hey, it's Kristen. I'm 17. I'm here to give you advice honestly and straight forward so ask!advice
me adn my friend brooke spend an auwfull lota time together.. and people are starting to call us twins... we look nothing alike.. well kinda i guesss tall and blond hair... we both hate it so much and always say no we don't!! but people just keep saying it !! ugh ..what should we do~!
Don't sweat it. Just let people know that you two (or you if it only annoys you) that you dont appreciate it and it's starting to work your nerves a little. It's not a big deal, just something to say to occupy peoples time. Plus, you obviously have a great friend here. Don't worry about everyone else. Enjoy being each others friend and ignore them saying that. You're lucky and they probably aren't. Hehe
My friend wants me to hang out with her her boyfriend one of the school sluts and my friends brother in 12th grade when im a sophomore. I dont want to but i want to do something over the weekend is it a good idea to go along?
It depends. Do you get along with these people? I don't see your friends brother being in 12th grade a big deal if you are a sophomore. Not much to worry about there. You just need to do what you feel comfortable with. Are you doing to be comfortable hanging out with them? If not, then don't go. There are hundreds of other things you could do over the weekend besides hang out with them, correct? It's all in what YOU want to do. x0
First when me and my friend were in first grade we were really good friends. Yea we would get into those little stupid fights that little kids always immaturely had, but we always made up. Now that we're older we've both changed. During our 6th and 7th grade year my friend became a cheerleader. She was leaving me for these people that I absolutely could not stand. On top of that, her mom didn't like me very much for the soul reason that I wear black.. Now her mom is getting so strict about her being with me and my other friends because she lost her mp3 player while we were at the mall. Her mom has said so many hurtful things like "If you were at the mall with your other friends you wouldn't have lost that mp3 player." and she even flipped out at my friend because she bought a GREEN (not black) greenday shirt from Hot topic. I think another reason why she might not like me is because I'm a democrat and my dad is Jewish.. and their family is completely evangelical Republican.. If my friend and I can solve our differences shouldn't her parents be able to put them aside? I hate this so much because for once in 2 years we are best friends again and I don't want to lose her. It hurts me a lot that she isn't allowed to be around me.. except at school, and that we can't do anything together. It's not like I do drugs, or do bad things. Infact, I teach a sunday school class, play on a select soccer team, and I even have a's in all advanced classes. It's so superficial, and I don't know any way to get around this, other than to wait another 4 years to have my friend back when we get out of highschool. I don't want to wait that long.. not again.. 2 years was hard enough without her support. Please give me some advice.
Sounds like her parents are real assholes. I vote you have your Mom or Dad talk to her Mom or Dad. That's a good solution. Adults usually listen to each other. If that doesn't work you'll just have to live with the only school visiting for a while. My friend and I had to do that too. But we spent every waking minute at school together that we could and we still have our friendship now even though her Mom sometimes still won't let me come over. Once you all can drive, who are you parents to know who you REALLY went to the movies with, eh? ;) I say try the parent to parent talk thing. Need anymore help, let me know. xo
Edit*If you can't do that than there isn't really much help and you didn't give me that slight detail. I guess all you two girls can do is confront her mother or whoever and dicuss it. You don't have that many options so it's hard to be picky:-/
Well, I got into a fight with my friend , shes been my friend since 1st grade. and i'm in 9th grade now. I got into a fight with her because she gave my purse to someone without asking me, and she wouldn't tell the person to give it back. so i said until she gives it back im not talking to you. she started flipping out swearing, calling me fat and ugly and i couldn't get a boyfriend. THEN, i was going to forgive her until she told my other ex-friend marie that i talk about her all the time, and told her everything i said about her (which was true), but i don't think she should do that, i can't trust her or anything . i don't think i can forgive her.. what would u do?!
Truly, you handle this immaturely by telling her you weren't talking to her until she got the purse back. That shows lack of maturity for handling the situation from the start. Beings you are girls, we handle things in stupid ways all the time. We insult each other, and share secrets that we shouldn't. I'm sure she didn't mean most of the things that said and the only reason she told this Marie girl was because she is pissed at you. But truth be told, you shouldn't have talked about Marie. Then you wouldn't have to worry about it. If I were you and you really wanted to still be her friend, which I would want to be. You need to somehow get her to talk to you. If you can write her a note if no other possibilities although approaching her in person would be better. Tell her how you feel about this and how much you value the friendship. I think you guys could work on the trust again. I have been there with my best friend I've had since kindergarten. Girls are known for the immature handling of things such as this but we usually work it out. So just talk to her and I'm sure you can forgive her. Look at how long you guys have been friends! Why would you want to lose something that great over ONE fight, right?! You both seem to have your faults here so what I would do is try to gain the trust back, sit down with her so you could both admit your faults. All of this fight over a purse? Just buy a new one and keep the friendship. Sounds worth it to me. Good luck with this.
xoxo`kristen
Im 13 years old and I just started jr. high. I'm in the 7th grade. The problem is that I have no friends and I don't know how to make any. I've tried to be social, but no one seems to want to talk to me. I'm in all honors classes, and the girls in the honors classes are all rich and white and popular. I don't really like them anyway, but i have every class with them. Thankfully, i have 1 really good friend I met this year. She dosnt have friends, either. How can I make friends? I want to be the popular girl i was in elementary.
Why do you kids care so much if you are popular? As long as you have true friends who love you for who you are, don't worry about it but if you insist on being popular. Try and get involved in some clubs or sports activities where you can meet people and become more socialy active. Try sitting different places at lunch with one of your friends so you can meet new people and explore your opurtunity of friends. And if you don't like the people in your classes, perhaps you could change your schedule around. If all of the popular girls seem to be not your type then why worry? Your at school to learn anyways, not to be popular. If anything, find something you have in common with these "rich white" people so you aren't so miserable in class. Just because they are "rich and white" doesn't mean you can't be social with them. Try the club and sports idea and stick by your really good friend. xoxo
my friend didn't get a single thing for christmas what should i do? i feel so bad! so should i get something?
If you have money then you should def get this friend something. That would be the sweetest thing you could do. If I could.. I'd buy them something too.. lol. xoxox--merry late christmas
Okay. My friend told me something not to tell anyone. I accidentally told someone though, like it slipped out. She won't talk to me and she told me to tell the person I was kidding and I was just wondering, so I did and now shes like "you're crazy, you're insane" crap like that and it's really annoying but I don't know how to deal with it, because we were really good friends, and I would think she would have been more mature about something like that. Anyway, my question is what should i do about it, there is no way she is gonna let me have my say and tell her what happened and she won't even talk to me. How should I handle this?
I have had this happen before. If you are true friends you can work this out somehow. She can't stay mad at you forever over that. Especially if you just tell the other person you were kidding. Does this friend have internet? E-mail her perhaps or write her a note since she won't talk to you. Let her know you value this friendship and that was a one time thing and how you feel and such. You guys can work this out easily. My friend and I did. If she still doesn't talk to you then shes being a little immature about it. Somehow, if you can, try and confront her in person. Do anything you can to try and talk to her about it without looking desperate or anything. Good luck
what would you consider as a slut?? me and my friends act like complete sluts but then they get really pissed off at anyone who calls any of us a slut. ive stopped taking it as an insult when people call me a slut. i don't know what to think! plz help.
There are many definitions for this in the world today. Let's say a girl goes around and kisses this one guy and then kisses another guy after than and continues. That is a small example of being slutty. Sluts tend to dress in a pretty volgar matter, showing lots of skin. If you show lots of skin, it doesn't mean you ARE a slut cause you aren't going and messing around with people that just means you dress in a matter people don't appreciate therefore they call you a slut. A slut is truly just someone who has been around the town before. Is with a different guy everytime you turn around and such. Although, a slut can also be a guy. But people don't tend to give guys the preference slut. xo*
oh gosh i dont konw what to say now.....
ok my friend and i like a same guy he is so fine and all but he can not decided that who does he want to date and all should i quit between him and my best friend? i think i should give up on him and contiuned the friendship between me and my friend so help me out guys
Ya know, my friend and I went through this over the summer. The guy wouldn't make up his mind and my friend lived closer to him anyways. I just let her have her try. I gave up. I was tired of waiting and we are still friends. I figured there would be other guys, and there was. I have a boyfriend now. Just let it go, and let your friend have a shot. If they don't work out, who knows. Maybe you could get a shot later on down the road. Be a nice, peaceful person about it. :) Altho my friend isn't dating the guy yet, they are close to it and I couldn't be happier for her!
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I'm going on a cruise for Christmas. And I went on one a few years ago. The last one i went on I saw tons of hott guys but i was to afraid to say hi. So I spent the entire cruise with my family (which was ok). Well, this time i want to be able to meet people while I'm there. What are some ways to meet new people without being really weird about it? thanks!
Well, say you are doing some form of an activity. Strike up a conversation with the person by asking them what brought their interest to doing this activity. Or if you're standing close to someone just be like "hi, how are you doing". Don't be afraid to approach people. I'm sure if you're friendly and nice as it seems they won't mind. You could even start up a conversation by asking what made them want to come on this cruise. Good luck xo*
srry if this to long but i rely need help
my two best freinds used to be best freinds till they got into a really big fite are not freinds anymore so lik when ever i hang out wif 1 of them my other friend will get mad at me n stuff lik that and i no for a fact they will never become friends again cuz the fite they got into was a huge fite
how can i hang out wif 1 freind w/o the other 1 gettin madd??
Well, if you ask me, you're friends are being stupid by getting mad. All you are doing is hanging out with the other one. It isn't like you are talking behind their backs or anything. It's harmless. They can't get mad just because you have other friends. You are your own person and I don't get why people don't see this when they get over things like this. Their fight, isn't your problem. But if you insist on doing something, you need to talk to them and help them understand that you like both of them as friends and you want to be friends with both and they can't change that. Truly, why does it matter? You aren't causing any harm. Talk to them separately and help them see this. Good luck xo*
I have a friend,Megan which I have been practically sisters with my whole life. I've known her for 6 years and we basically grew up together. I also have this other friend,Kelsy, which I have known for about 4 or 5 years, and is also extremely close with me. Megan and Kelsy have also been close for years,too. Kelsy is starting not to like Megan anymore, due to a drunk night when Megan got with the guy that Kelsy liked. I know it was wrong, but I've known Megan for half my life and I can't just drop her like that. Kelsy might get mad if she knows that I still want to be friends with Megan, because everytime she says something about Megan, I always agree by saying I'm not talking to her anymore either. What are your opinions on this?
You can't let Kelsey decide who your friends are just because she doesn't like them. You are your own person and no one can change that. And if she can't respect that, then she isn't much of a friend anyways. Although, I understand you guys are close. Talk to Kelsy, and tell her you still want Megan as a friend. Explain to her that you understand that what Megan did was wrong but everyone makes mistakes and you want to be both of their friends. You can have more than one best friend and if Kelsy doesn't wish to be around Megan, you can hang out with them at separate times. Sit Kelsy down and tell her how you feel and try to get her to understand it all and perhaps you should even try talking to Megan about her feelings on Kelsy and you even patch things up. But I'd work on getting Kelsy to accept that you still want to be Megan's friend before you try getting the two to be friends again. Good luck xo*
Ok, theres this one girl, lets call her 123. Theres 2 other boys involved too, 456 and 789. When I'm hanging around 456 and 789 flirting and all, 123 will come to our group and start flipping out on me for no reason. 456 and 789 say she's just jealous of me and I shouldn't worry about it. Later when 456 and 789 are gone, 123 will come up to me and apologize. 123 does this everytime we get into a fight! What can I do, this just happens repeatedly and I want it to stop! What can I say to 123 to make her stop or whatever to leave me alone if she's just going to keep doing this? Thanks for the help!:)
P.S. I'm 13 and in grade 8 if that helps.
If you ask me "123" probably likes "456" and "789" and is probably just jealous. That's how us girls act when we get jealous and upset over something like that. She probably doesn't even mean to be like that. It's in a sense like an instinct type of thing if you get what I'm saying. I think the best thing for you to do is talk to "123" about it and find out of she does indeed like "456" and "789" and if she is jealous or just what is bothering her and making her this way. That's the only way to solve it: Talk. xo*
alot of people think I'm gay but I'm not what to do
Are you male or female? Considering gay is a sexual terminology for men I'll assume you're male. My friend had this problem. His voice hadn't changed and he didn't have a girlfriend. If you're female well people assuming that are pretty stupid. Try getting a girlfriend if you're a guy and if you're a girl try getting a boyfriend or flirt with a friend of yours of the opposite sex. Show people you aren't gay but I wouldn't worry about it too much. Who cares what they think, They'll learn one day it isn't true.
should I be proud of what i am?
Well the title of this says "being gay". Are you gay? Well no matter if you are or if you aren't.. You should be very proud of who you are. God made you the way you are for a reason. Don't let anyone else tell you that you shouldn't be proud of who you are. Stand proud to just be you. :)
Hey I'm the girl wanting to talk to my friends ex. I have another question..srry! imma go out with this guy and like we went out before and it wasint working.(he cheated twice).and I dont trust him but i still wanna go out with him. what do i do? thnx and your soo awesome at advice
Well.. I don't quite understand why you would want to go out with someone who cheated on you twice and whom you do not trust. That stuff hurts deep, I must say. I cheated on a guy once, and we stayed together but it was never the same again and started fights. That could happen with you. But I can't past judgement. I think you if you really want to go out with this guy and he means a lot to you then, you need to lay down the rule. Let him know that he has lost trust with doing what he has done. He needs to prove he can be trusted. Be calm in telilng him of course. Personally, I wouldn't date him. No girl deserves to be cheated on by someone. And if it happens more than once, chances are it'll keep happening. But you never know, he could change for you depending on how much he truly cares for you. Try it out and see what happens. The first time he starts acting shady and cheats again, I'd let him go. You don't need that. Good luck sweetie. I hope it works out for you. I am not trying to change your decision or anything, but seriously, thinking about it. I don't want you hurt.
I have this friend who has this really mean ex-boyfriend. He left her a long time ago and I have his screen-name. i want to talk to him just so we can be friends. i always tell her how hez a jerk and that he dont deserve her. But i want to talk to him online..should i? What if she says no i cant talk to him? thnx i rate!
Alright, I have a ex boyfriend, he was really mean. Everyone said I didn't deserve that he didn't deserve me. We finally broke up. We didn't talk for like 2 months, and hated each other and my friends hated him with an immense passion. And just the other day, I IMed him, and he IMed my new boyfriend. He said my new boyfriend is really nice and cool. IM him, talk to him a calm mannor and let your friend know it's cool now as just friends. This guy was madd mean to me, but now we're friends! If he starts actin funny, stop talking to him dude. I think you might want to ask your friend if you can talk to him first though. She might not be cool with it, so consider feelings.
i have friends and sometimes i feel like they dont need me... i dont know why... i cant tell them about it because then they would obviously say that its not true. i have a bestest friend but shes not in the U.S. so i cant see her veryday and hang with her. please help me...
I have a friend like that. She thinks we don't like her but she keeps hanging out with us. We all like her, she's cool. You need to sit your friends down and tell them how you feel. It seems you are a little insecure about the friendship you all share. Tell them that, tell them how much the friendship means to you. Let them know you need some for sure assurance that they care. I know how it is when people say they care, but turns out they don't. I'm guessing you are in school. Junior High or High school. I'm in Junior High so I know how the friendship thing can be. If you need anything else, let me know.
This is gunna be long so be ready, but please help! im driving myself crazy not knowing what to do... ok, i've been going out with my boyfriend for a little over 3 months, and i like him alot, but our relationship is 'dying' and he doesn't know what he wants to do with it and i wanna know how to bring it back up again, i think that we should hang out more like we used to in the summer but then school started and we stopped hanging out, but it doesn't seem like he wants to hang out now. but hes so odd, cuz at times he wont even acknowledge my presense, then 20 minutes later he'll be all over me, and hes so protective of me... like there this one kid that keeps calling me and he's trying to get with me and my boyfriend hates that and wants this kid to stop, and i dont see why he would be so protective of me if he doesn't want to go out. and i know if we just hang out once outside of school then our relationship would be great again, cause then we could do wat we used to.
soo....
1) what do you think he wants to do (break up, not break up etc.)
2) what should i do to bring my relationship back up?
PLEASE HELP!!! i rate high
I don't think he wants to break up. If he wanted to break up he wouldn't even acknowledge you period most likely and he would not be protective over you. It is perfectly normal for him to be so protective over that kid who wants to get with you, don't sweat that. First of all, talk to him. Find out what's goin on. You'll never know the truth behind his actions if you don't ask. To get the relationship back up, communicate more. Try calling each other a little more and writing notes to each other and such. Keep each other informed on each others life. Try to hang out sometime. After school, get a pizza or something. Chill on the weekends. Get the chemistry flowing again. Try doing little things for each other such as walking to each others classes together at school and stuff. Eat lunch together. :) If you need anything else just ask me in my inbox.
Okay, well, there's a guy I know from MSN who I've been talking to for about a year now, friend of a friend, never met him in person. Last year we mentioned that it might be interesting to actually meet, though he did think that it might be a little awkward, but twice our plans got screwed up one way or another so we just dropped the subject. I didn't speak to him all summer because his computer broke down, and when he came back on I thought maybe I'd mention our idea again. He said he thought it might still be weird, but I said we should give it a try anyway because there was nothing to lose. He agreed and even suggested a place we could meet. A few weeks later, on a Friday, I said how about Sunday and he said yes, but we didn't decide on a time or anything, and come Sunday I didn't see him online until the late afternoon and he didn't even bring up our half-made plans. Anyway, the point of all this is that I really don't know what to do, whether I should keep trying or not. I really want to meet him because I like his personality but for all I know he finds me annoying. I don't know whether to let it go for another while so as not to seem desperate, or if I should just confront him and ask him to just tell me whether he wants to meet me or not so I can go from there. I really don't want to sound pushy. Sorry this was so long, but any advice would help. Thanks.
Confront him. Ask him why this keeps happening and if he really wants to meet you. Tell him how you feel, if you don't then only God knows when you two will meet... And if you guys do meet I would suggest taking a friend a long. No matter how much you trust someone online and no matter how well you think you know them you never know.