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one or the other..
I have a friend,Megan which I have been practically sisters with my whole life. I've known her for 6 years and we basically grew up together. I also have this other friend,Kelsy, which I have known for about 4 or 5 years, and is also extremely close with me. Megan and Kelsy have also been close for years,too. Kelsy is starting not to like Megan anymore, due to a drunk night when Megan got with the guy that Kelsy liked. I know it was wrong, but I've known Megan for half my life and I can't just drop her like that. Kelsy might get mad if she knows that I still want to be friends with Megan, because everytime she says something about Megan, I always agree by saying I'm not talking to her anymore either. What are your opinions on this?
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You can be friends with both. It's not fair to you if you have to drop one. Kelsy needs to understand that you're still friends with Megan but you know what she did was not right but that YOU have forgiven her for it.
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tell the truth...nd if ur reali sisterz then dont be sayin shyt about her behind her bak cuz tru friend'z rnt lyk tht..nd if ur other friend sez she duznt lyk her then jus be lyk ok u dont lyk that duznt mean u gotta go nd tlak shyt about her around me
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u should confront Kelsy first and say that u will still be friends with her and megan, but to remember that u are not megan and that she wuz drunk that night. u should also tell Kelsy that she should try to forgive Megan. Then u should confront Megan and tell her that she really hurt Kelsy and that she should apologize (if she hasnt already) try to get them 2 make up by goin someplace w/them, like the mall. talk about it w/them and if things get out of hand, then change the subject. Hope i helped ya!
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If your friends with Megan you shouldnt hide it from Kelsy because 1 your lying to Kelsy and 2 if you want to be friends with Megan Kelsy shouldnt have a problem with it. If Kelsy gets mad at you for being friends with Megan you have to tell her that Megans your friend too and not just her.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~
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Don't ditch anyone... Sit both of them down and have a "heart-to-heart" (I know it sounds dumb but trust me it'll work!) Have Megan talk to Kelsy and vice-versa... I think they probably still really care about each other. Explain to them how much all of this is hurting you. You said you've grown up together..tell them one stupid night can't erase all those years of memories... Oh and next time Kelsy talks about Megan don't agree with her, unless you really want to, because you shouldn't lie to make someone happy. Just talk about this with them and it'll work itself out... Good luck! If you need more help leave something in my inbox..
Hope I helped!
~Lana
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first of all, by telling kelsy that you're not going to talk to megan anymore is just going to make things worse, becaues she'll find out that you're still talking to her, and then she'll be mad at you for lying to her. you really shouldn't have to make the decision about who to be friends with, because this isn't your problem. its a problem between megan and kelsy that they have to work out. you can still be freidns with both of them, but just be aware that they might talk about each other behind their backs to you, and all three of you may not be able to hang out. but, if like you said megan was drunk, then kelsy has a little less reason to be mad at megan. but, i would suggest talking to megan and kelsy, and making them talk to each other, and try and figure things out. if megan feels bad about what she did, she should appologize and let kelsy know that she was drunk and didn't know what she was doing, and that she still wants to be friends. if kelsy really still wants to be friends with her, she should be able to forgive her, and then things might be a little tense for a little, but they should work out. hope this helped, and best of luck!
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Uhm.. neither of them should care that u are friends with the other.. just don't hang around both of them at the same time.. u kno? They shouldn't care who your friends with.. otherwise.. they were never ur friends in the first place.. if they can't understand that you love them both very much bcuz u've known BOTH of them for ur whole life practically.. then they aren't ur true friends.. if they care as much for u.. as u do them.. they will both let u be friends with both of them.. talk to each of them n tell them that u think they shouldnt care and u cant choose bcuz its not right and it wouldnt be fair to the other.. tell them u love them both n all
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well what id do is to say to kelsy that there is more fish in the sea just tel her to get over it. its what id do if i were a girl.
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I think that is very childish, sounds like something that had happened in 5th grade. "I'm not going to be friends with you if your friends with her." i mean...jesus, you have both good friends on each side, i think you should tell them to grow up, theres more guys out there, and thats stupid not to be friends anymore over that. Hope i helped
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You can't let Kelsey decide who your friends are just because she doesn't like them. You are your own person and no one can change that. And if she can't respect that, then she isn't much of a friend anyways. Although, I understand you guys are close. Talk to Kelsy, and tell her you still want Megan as a friend. Explain to her that you understand that what Megan did was wrong but everyone makes mistakes and you want to be both of their friends. You can have more than one best friend and if Kelsy doesn't wish to be around Megan, you can hang out with them at separate times. Sit Kelsy down and tell her how you feel and try to get her to understand it all and perhaps you should even try talking to Megan about her feelings on Kelsy and you even patch things up. But I'd work on getting Kelsy to accept that you still want to be Megan's friend before you try getting the two to be friends again. Good luck xo*
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I think you should talk to Megan about this whole thing. Talking it out will make your friendship stronger. Maybe even set aside some time like a movie night with your friends or a sleepover to work it all out. If they still wanna be friends try this. Hope i helped(:
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