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Age: 13
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I'm a teenager ,I have everything I need
my dad would do anything for me,my mom is always
telling not to do stuff I really like, last week
she may me skip the dance try out she knows how
bad I wanted to be on the dance team ,last summer she
convinced me not to go at the cheerleading try out
I talk to many people they said I shoul think about why she does those things.I really starting to hate her she gets on my last nerves
I always said I'm not happy I always I never see
what I have,I constantly think about killing myself I never think positive I'm always sad
I want to have a boyfriend I constantly say I want,I want I don't like this country I miss my boyfriend my friend and my popular life here I'm nothing,although I have friends who truly love me. just surrounded by other races I want to go back I feel like I don't belong here I worry about every thing. I don't like myself even though I'm cute not ugly. I'm desperate for love I'm not a outgoing person I lock myself in my room now my dad is getting mad all the time about that .
I never show love to anybody.
what wrong with me ,what should I do
help me please.
thank you beyonda K (link)
well u could try to fit in in ur new country.it'z the same thing with me i lived in new york but then i moved to florida and i hated it, but after 1 or 2 years i started to stop complaining about it cuz i have a lot of friends and im popular! so u should try to fit in and jus make the best out of it and maybe you'll like the new place ur at.


ok i like hate my name so much .. it's Liana.. and well people sometimes "cant pronounce it" so they just say "Hey you!" or they just pronounce it wrong. Or sometimes their like "um..you.. i forgot your name" .. and well like is there anything i can do to get people to pronounce my name right or call me something diffferent that is easy to pronounce .. (maybe like a nick name)

p.s. sometimes my friends call me Lee for short but not very often (link)
jus tell ur friendz to call u lee or ana


I have a friend,Megan which I have been practically sisters with my whole life. I've known her for 6 years and we basically grew up together. I also have this other friend,Kelsy, which I have known for about 4 or 5 years, and is also extremely close with me. Megan and Kelsy have also been close for years,too. Kelsy is starting not to like Megan anymore, due to a drunk night when Megan got with the guy that Kelsy liked. I know it was wrong, but I've known Megan for half my life and I can't just drop her like that. Kelsy might get mad if she knows that I still want to be friends with Megan, because everytime she says something about Megan, I always agree by saying I'm not talking to her anymore either. What are your opinions on this? (link)
tell the truth...nd if ur reali sisterz then dont be sayin shyt about her behind her bak cuz tru friend'z rnt lyk tht..nd if ur other friend sez she duznt lyk her then jus be lyk ok u dont lyk that duznt mean u gotta go nd tlak shyt about her around me


i posted a question a couple weeks ago... and thanx to everybody that answered it... ok so here's another one for ya'll... so my last question was about me kissing another guy and do u think my boyfriend would break up with me... and how do i talk to him about it... well we talked and we are still together (yay!) so ne way... another boy problem question.... about ben... ok, i really really really like ben and he is the first boyfriend that i have had that i really truly like... but for some reason i cant get this paranoid idea outta my head that he is going to dump me... i think it's because this is my first real boyfriend and i am worried im gonna mess it up but i dont kno... this is really unusual for me because i am really a live by the moment-dont over think it kinda person... so i guess the question is... how can i stop worrying? i dont kno y this happening tho... he is really sweet to me and always says happy 1 week annaversary! and just stupid cutsie stuff like that... he treats my really well... and i mean... he told me i was the first girlfriend he really truly liked since his first.... i really dont want to get hurt... so i guess if u understand this at all... please help... lol...
...claire (link)
my brother says ask him and jus let it all out. he says that guys like to kno wuts on yur mind and if he really likes you, then he would understand your question with respect.


This chick I met this weekend was making the move. I knew what she wanted. Her boyfriends in Iraq, serving our country. Shes a senior, i am a sophmore. You are the brainy one... what do i do? (link)
oook well if u kno she has a boyfriend then dont make a move on her nd tell her that she has a boyfriend nd u dont lyk her even if u do say u dont czu u dont wanna make her break up w/ her boyfriend whoz away


i am the girl that said she was anarexic for six months and was 5'8 and 13 years old... i now weigh 120 pounds cuz i checked into a hospital and they made me gain ALOT of weight... is 120 to fat for a 5'8 13 yr old? my doctor said that that is how much im suppost to weigh since im so tall... but is that still to much? (link)
no thtz skinny! u thin bitch! shutup nd eat cuz u need a hamburger!


okay ive been on vaca. for a few days, and last night i was on the phone w/ the boy i like and im pretty sure he likes me..and i was feelin so horny and i seriously wanted him so bad..(weve made alot before) and i keep fingering my self..
and i want to do stuff with him right when i get home which is in 2 days..but how do i tell him i wanna..? (link)
ok well stop fingerin ur self cuz thtz jus wrong nd u sould ask a friend if he likes u or jus asl him out or somthin..im sure tht will get u sum where


what are the chances of a condom having a hole in it?? i had sex with my boyfriend and i know it didnt break cuz i know what that feels like....and nothing has ever happened before.....but like im worried for some reason..... (link)
the chances r very slim..mmhmm yes slim very very slim..u must check thy condom b 4 using thy condom for thy hole b cuz if thy hole iz in thy condom thy sperm frum thy man will get in thy self..mmhmm


Hey guys. I'm 14 and I am dying to see the movie Thirteen. I've read the script and I've seen almost every clip there is to see on the internet! The movie is rated R though. I'm pretty sure I can convince my mom to let me see it, but she'd want to see it too.. and the movie has parts where Tracey cuts herself. I cut myself also, and I do not want her to catch on about my self injuries until I'm ready to tell her. Any ideas on what I should do? (link)
first of all....STOP CUTTIN UR SELF!!! nd u should go see the movie but then after tht tell ur mom wut u do nd try to stop nd get help


okay this is actually a very long thing but ill make it as short as i can:
Theres this guy and we were like BEST FRIENDS last year and we were always flirting and everyone knew we liked eachother.. and then over the summer we told eachother that we really do like eachother.. and then the next school year rolls around and were still friends but like the whole school knows hes trying to ask me out, so things are a little harder and more akward but we try hard but then things start to get so annoying cuz people wont stop bugging us and like mostly him cuz he is just like retarded and too afraid to ask me out so we like take long walks talking about it and he says he wants to ask me and not me to ask him and that he still likes me and everyhting but he still doesnt do it.. it gets really old and i let him know that but things kind of continute the same then things start to slow down a little cuz we both have kind of lost energy trying to find time for eachother cuz were not in any classes together and not from the same town. So then all of a sudden he says he doesnt like me anymore.. after liking me for sooo long, and then a few days later he says he does and tehn the next week he doesnt, so RIGHT NOW hes saying he doenst but omg he acts like he likes me like even more now and he like i dont even know but now im hanging out with a lot of guys more than usual and he gets all like jealous kind of and i don know what to do, cuz we will prolly never end up going out cuz hes stupid but i still like him, but i hate him for what hes done to me and how he wasted my time!! ahh i need help! please do your best, i knwo this is kind of too retarded of a situation but i tried


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oook u should still be friend'z w/ him no matter wut! k? nd u should talk to him askin him wut'z goin on nd y he neva asked u out nd tell him tht u wasted ur time on him for a long time..nd u shoudl ask him rite then nd there if he like'z u nd if he duznt then tell him tht ur movin on cuz u cant waste ur time on him wen he duznt lyk u..nd tell him 2 tell the truth cuz if he reali duz lyk u nd ur hangin out w/ other guyz he'll get reali jelouse nd it'z his problem 4 not tellin u da truth.


okay so im 13..and i have the BEST boyfriend in the world..and weve been going out for 2 years! and i feel so happy w/him and its not like so kid stuff, i relaly care for him..and he wants to finger me? but likewhen you finger someone doesnt like discharge get on your fingers? and im afraid he'll get grossed out..what should i do..should i let him?
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first of all ur too young! u should wait till lyk 10th grade or somthin..nd yeaa he will get discharge on his finger'z..but i dont think u should let him finger u.


I am 14/f and my cousin who is 12/f will not leave me alone...i see her everyday and she calls me like 5 seconds after i see her on my cell phone and she wont shut up...she wont leave me alone on the internet and she keeps talking to me and my friends....it bugs the hell out of me.... and she copies everything i do and everything i wear....when i told her that she has to let me have some space she started crying and told her mom that i told her i hated her...which i never said. Her mom came over and told me that i had to be nice to her because she had no friends. What should i do to keep her from annoying me with out making her cry and making me look like a bad person? (link)
i think u should tell her the truth nd tell her wut u think nd help her make friend'z nd tht she should be herself nd not try 2 be u or anywun else..nd if she cry'z nd tell'z her mom then u should talk to her mom about it cuz it'z not rite to try bein sum wun else..u gotta be urself!


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Hey im 14 and this guy is 16 .. Soo we hang out all the time but my BEST friend hates him and thinks hes bad and stuff.. but whenever his around me hes really sweet my friend just says .. Oh he just wants a piece of ass and all this other stuff.. and i think my friends parents are itimated that he can drive ( because he drives me places). Were not going out by the way but everyone thinks we are becuz we act like it. hes a drinker too =/ liike he has this rep that he always goes to parties and gets drunk and throws up everywhere ! .. so yea =/ what should i do? should i stick with him.. i mean i like him but my friends hate him =/ PLEASE HELP (link)
WELL..u should talk to him about it nd ask him if it'z tru nd stuff...if i were u i would get to kno him better to see if he'z reali lyk tht cuz alotta pplz talk $h*t about tht kinda stuff nd if UR FRIEND'Z PARENT'Z dont lyk tht he can drive tht'z 2 bad 4 them..i mean there not YOUR parent'z nd bedside'z they could be wrong about him..u shouldnt listen 2 evryting evrywun sez..u should get 2 kno him betta nd see if it'z tru nd if it iz then u should talk 2 him about it.


Um...okay, I have to wear a helmet to ride on rollerblades, a skateboard, and a bicycle. It sucks. I was wondering if anybody knew of a way I could convince my mom to let me ride without a helmet, because mine is really big and it has this visor, and I don't really need one. If this is a lost cause, which I think it is to tell you the truth, is there any sort of helmet that actually looks okay? thanks in advance (link)
ok well u can tell ur mom or dad that u dont lyk it nd it bother'z u that u have to where that all the tiem nd jus ask them if u could get wun w/ out the visor on it.


I am a 13 year old girl. I have a really good guy friend who is also 13. i am starting to develop stronger feelings for him everyday. I drop hints alot, but he just acts like nothing happened most of time. Other times he will flirt back. A few days ago he put his arm around my waist but I don't know if it was a friendly gesture, or if its because he likes me. We have a really close friendship and don't want to ruin that. Should I keep on flirting, or just be firends? If he does like me, what are the hints I should be looking for? (link)
i think u should keep flirtin w/ him..it'z not bad 2 flirt but maybe if u keep flirtin then he'll ask u out or somthin...or u could get sum wun 2 ask him if he lykz u..nd u can be friend'z nd flirt w/ him 2! cuz all mi friend'z nd i flirt w/ our guy friendz.


I have a new neighbor and shes reall cool, i wanted so things to bring up to talk about wit her? i just dont want any acward silences. Also do you no anything to do when we chill at my house? (link)
well u could start by tellin her ur name nd ask her where she'z frum nd stuff nd jus start conversations nd eventually u guyz will be bestfriend'z! nd u could lyk watch movies,talk,go on da computer while she'z at ur house so u guy'z dont get bored nd stuff


alright the guy who is like a bro to me asked me out what should i do btw i like some1 else who flirts with me alot.
help! (link)
i think u should tell ur guy friend thatz lyk a bro to u tht u dont lyk him lyk tht nd u have feelins for sumwun else nd tht u would rather be friends w/ him...nd if he duznt lyk tht then it'z not ur fault tht he'z mad..u cant force ur self 2 lyk him lyk tht...


Sorry this is long, i rate high though! :)

The guy i used to date over the summer on and off started REALLY hitting on me last night. He practically offered for me to have sex with him (dont worry, i wouldnt have sex, but i could tell he wanted to do something with me) Then he told off this person for me that was pissing me off. And he said i owed him one. And I asked what he wanted from me. And he said he wanted to make out with me. (Keep in mind this was online so we couldnt have made out right then and there) So i said ok, because i still have feelings for him. Then a little later i asked if he liked me, or just wanted to make out with me. And he said "I dunno, never thought about it..." What do you think about all of this? Should i go for it? (link)
u can make out with him but dont do anything stupid cuz u dont even kno if u lyk him or not..nd if u think he have feelings for him then yeaa i think u should go for it..i hope i helped!




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