Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
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Location: Pittsburgh
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this summer i want to go on a vacation with my best friend for 10 years. i've only gone on family vacations before and i think it would be the funnest thing in the world to go on a vacation with my friend. problem is, my parents wont' let me.. i asked if i could go with her family and they said it was placing too much responsibility in their hands and that it was "dangerous"..and if my friend went wiht our family it was placing too much responsibility on their hands and stuff.. and then when i suggested that both our families go somewhere they said that they didnt know my friends parents very well (cuz they speak different first languages, so they never spoke too much when me and my freind met up)..and they said it would probably be a very uncomfrotable experience. but so many people at my school have gone on group vacations before all the time and i just want one vacation with one REALLY close friend and my parents won't let me at all!! i hate them,they never let me have any fun. they don't understand anything! (link)
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Well talk to your parents about this one night whenever they're both available to talk. I would just sit down with them and be like,"Mom, Dad, I know you two believe me going on a vacation with my best friend and her family would be too much repsonsibility in their hands, but I can ensure you it's not. Is there any way I can prove to you guys I'm responsible enough to go on vacation with them, and that it wouldn't be a huge hassle for her and her parents [ or this could be where you've already been helping around the house, etc. to show how reponsible you'ev been being lately ]. [ your friend's name ] has been my best friend for ten years, and all I want to do is be able to go on vacation with her this summer and hang out with her. At least she's not some new strangerthat I just met. You know her very well and you can trust her, and me." [ or say however you want to say this ].
Or also just try and convince your parents adn youe best friends parents to have dinner together sometime. That way, you guys can all discuss the plans of what would happen in the summer; where'd you be going, staying at, etc. and getting all the details down. Also now the parents could meet and your parents could get a better idea of what your friend's parents are like and if they're truly alright with you going along on vacation and everything.
I hope something works,
and I hope I helped!
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Please help this is kind of long, though.
I am 13, female. There is this kid who just asked me out. My friends gave me a heads up so I knew. They said I would look really cute with him. But there is a problem. I don't like him though. I said "I don't know. I think we would be better off friends. Sorry." Then to my friends he said things like "FUCKERRRR" and "AHHH" and "Why does everyone say no to me am I really that ugly" and that kind of stuff. I feel really bad that I said no but I just don't like him like that. I am going to talk to him later so what should I say in addition to this? "Hey. I am so sorry. I don't want you to hate me. Can we still be friends and act like nothing happened?" What else should I say? (link)
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That sounds good enough right there to me. But if you really want to add more on, whenever you're talking to him next, just be like,"Hey, I am really sorry. I don't want you hating me, and I don't want you thinking that it's you. It's really not. I just think that things are just better off if we stay friends. Can we still be friends and everything because I'd really hate for us not to be friends anymore over this."
I hope I helped!
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i dont know if this is in the right catagory or not but does anyone know who the song "graduation" is by? it sounds like alot of teenagers singing it or something and they used to play it all the time on radio disney. thanks!!!
Shelby ( Oochemo) (link)
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I believe you're talking about "Graduation" by Vitamin C, I love that song.
The other person's right, there's other graduation kinds of songs, but Hot Hot Heat's is called "Graduation Day", not "Graduation" so I'm sure the one you're talking about Vitamin C's.
I hope I helped.
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i live in a small closed-off neighborhood that i thought never had any kids in but me. but then i discovered that there's a girl who's exactly my age who lives like 2 houses away. i added her on mysapce and she knew who i was, and we talked and i asked her if she wanted to hnag out someday. and she said yeah but over the summer. but i want to hang out with her now. she's never outside or anything and i never see her, so how cna i get her to hang out with me sooner? she says shes too busy other days to hang out (link)
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well if she's too busy, she's too busy. there's nothing really you can do about it. :/ summer is not that far away so don't worry - you'll be hanging out with her soon enough. just keep talking to her over myspace and getting to know her better and just every now and then every couple conversations just remind her that whenever she's available just to give you a call sometime and you two can hang out. :]
maybe during one of the conversations, just mention how much you really wish you two could hang together now instead of having to wait till summertime comes and how nice it is having someone else in your neighbor that is the same age as you and everything since you didn't think there were any other kids before.
maybe once she sees how badly you want to hang out, the next time she's open and is able to hang out, she'll remember to give you a call.
i hope i helped.
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my friend was over my house she acts like a stud we switched cell phones for 2 day during them 2 day i got over 15 messages from her girlfriend saying stuff i dont even want to mention should i ask her is she gay or play like i dont know
sinceraly "cluless" (link)
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[EDIT: Yes, things are going to be a little different and such, but not totally. She's still the same person you know, the same friend. It's going to be a little tough to accept, but overtime I'm sure you'll get used to it. When she does come out and tell you, talk to her about it. Let her know at first that you might not be comfortable with her talking about her girlfriend or anything, but that you support her ; you just need some time to get adjusted. I'm sure she'll understand and she'll be glad you're willing to accept it. ]
I wouldn't just come out and ask her if she's gay, because maybe she's trying to wait and find the time where she's most comfortable & ready to let you know. Also, you never know ; it could all just be a joke with her and her friend. Me and my friend make weird pervy comments to eachother all the time, but we're not gay. Just let her be the one to tell you, but maybe help guide her along.
Whenever you guys go to switch your phones back, or see eachother next, just mention that you got alot of messages from this one girl, _____. You got like 15 of them. If she asks what they said, tell her. See what she says. If she doesn't tell you, she may not be ready to tell you. Or like I said, it could all be one big joke with a friend or something she's having. You just need to wait and see what happens. If she does turn out to be gay, she'll tell you, someday. Whenever she's ready and comfortable and feels like she'll be able to tell you and you'll understand and accept it. At least as of now you're partially aware your friend might be gay, so when the time comes for her to tell you, you'll be ready.
I hope I helped.
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i have a bigg crush on one of my good friends brothers. she knows, and she swears she doesnt mind, but i think she does. should i go for it with him, or lay off and respect the relationship i have with my friend?
thanks! (link)
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Well, I would have a serious talk with her about this. The next time you guys are alone, just mention it once more. Be like,"I know you said you don't mind already that I have a big crush on your brother and everything, but I'm thinking about going for it with him, and I just want to really make sure you're fine with this." And see what she says.
If she says she's uncomfortable with it, then respect her decision. I know it'll be hard getting over him, but "chicks before dicks", as people've said. What's more important: some guy that you'll probably later break up with ( seeing as most teenage relationships don't last later in life ) or a friend who could be around forever?
But if she doesn't mind, and I don't think she does, go for it! Just rememebr: to divide time between her and her brother. Don't spend a bunch of time with one, without spending alot with the other cause if you spend alot of your time flirting with him and hanging with him; she's gonna start feeling ignored. So if she invites you over to hang, hang with her. Maybe drop by his room and say hi or something, but hang with her. If he invites you over, hang with him and say hi to her and everything. Or, dependign how close her and her brother are ; you guys could all just hang together!
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I hope I helped!
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Okay. I have a guy friend...And I love him soooo much...he's definitely my best friend. But in the beginning of our relationship, I told him that I have a step father. It was accidental...and now I regret it. Thing is - I DON'T have a step father...but somehow it spilled out. Now he is questioning our relationship and he doesn't think he knows the "real" me. He thinks I'm hiding something...I know it's kind of stupid...But I dunno. ;_;...Should I tell him that I DO have a REAL father? It's runining our friendship...I know, I know...it seems like a stupid reason...but we are supposed to be honest :( Should I tell him the truth? (link)
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Of course tell him the truth. If you don't, your relationship could turn troublesome. Because imagine if he were to find out from someone else or some other way; he'd feel hurt and betrayed. And that much bring the "trust" factor down alot.
I would just let him know soon. Just be like,"I do have something to tell you. You know my step-father? I don't have a step-father, I have a real father. I don't know why I told you I had a step-father, but it slipped out for some reason. That's the only thing though I've not been truthful about. Everything else about me, is me."
Or something like that.
He might get upset that you weren't honest, but hopefully over time after he's to himself to think and everything, he'll get over it and forgive you. If you guys are best friends, I'm sure he will.
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I hope I helped.
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okay i asked the question about why that guy doesn't talk to me at school but does on th internet.....well i have asked if he likes me already and he said he didn't buth kenows i like him....and he said i'd be a good friend and stuff and he has a grilfreind....but i've noticed he doesn't talk to me as much when he has a girlfriend he just stares more at school....i don't understand what is goin on and also all the gilrs he went out with this year used to be my old friends he's only been out with 2 girls though but they both were my freinds las year......WHAT"S GOIN ON i am so confused.??????? (link)
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Hm, I've tried re-reading this question over and over again, and I really don't know what to tell you, exactly. It sounds to me like he may just be messing with your head then if he's told you he's not feeling you in that way.
Guys are always so weird whenever they do things like this, and girls can never understand what they're actions mean.
If he says he doesn't feel that way about you, then I guess he doesn't. :/ The next time he keeps staring mention something to him and see what he says. Maybe he hasn't been realizing he's been staring so much, and he'll stop.
I hope I helped. :/
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okay there is this guy i like and i'm kind of freinds with him.....i guess let see what you think. okay well i have talked to him alot on aol instant messageing but he won't ever talk to me at school and he asked me if i like him on aim and i said yes and all he does it stare at me and all of his friends talk about me and him and his freinds stare at me at lunch but always try to play it off.....i don't get it why doesn't he tlak to me at school and why does he stare at me all the time? (link)
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It sounds to me like he might like you. The reason he might be talking to you in school is because that'd require talking face to face, which might be making him nervous. It's easier to talk to people over the internet, cause you don't have to worry about what to do, or how to look or anything. It's less pressure.
And ususally whenever guy's are looking at you alot, that means their interested. And if his friends are talking about you two and looking at you, they may be checking up on you for him and that might mean he's mentioned to friends he likes you.
Ask him on the internet - don't straight out ask him, just mention it casusally sometime. Be like,"Hey, I noticed we never talk in school - why is that? I'd like to talk to you more in school. :]" And see what he says. Also, mention the friends factor. Be like,"The other day at lunch, I noticed your friends were looking at me or at least in my direction alot. Do you know why?" Or just something similiar.
I hope I helped.
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My bestfriends mom passed away and she asked me to go to the service. BUt i have absolutely no idea on what i am supposed to wear. She catholic so idk if its different from different religions.
Is the service also the funeral.
Any advice please give.
thank you (link)
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A service is a funeral, yes.
I would suggest wearing a dress, and one that'd obviously be appropriate for this type of occasion. Just a nice, simple outfit. And nothing bright, either. Darker colors ( most people usually wear black ) work.
So maybe go through your closet and look at the choices, and maybe even ask your mother or someone for help who might know what's appropriate and what's not and you can get their opinion.
I hope I helped.
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Yeah. I kind of need help!! Me and my best friend r having a huge fight right now and I don't know what to do. We both said things we didnt mean. What should I do? Im so confused? ;0; Please help me. I already apologized but she wont take my apology!! (link)
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Well, you can't force her to accept your apology. What would probably be the best thing to do right now, is to just give her some space, but not THAT much space. Because if you keep pushing her and bothering about it, she'll only get more mad.
Just tell her you understand why she won't accept your apology and everything, but you hope in time she will. And ask her if she'd like to talk about it, and try and work things out. If she says no, then tell her you understand, and you hope later in time she'll want to talk it out. And if she ever is, you're there.
And just keep trying to keep in touch with her every now and then and let her know you're sorry and stuff. And show her that you miss her, and want things to return to the way they used to be. Over time, if she's not one to hold grudges, she'll realize how much you're sorry and how much you miss her, and she'll want to forgive you and return things back to normal.
I hope I helped.
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Ok one of my friends are gay. let's call her tina. at first everyone thought tina was gay/lesbian whatever, because of the way she dressed.(she wore her clothes a LITTLE loose and somtimes she wore a lot of things that boys would wear) but she denied that she was a lesbian, so everyone backed off. but then everyone noticed that she was being a little too friendly with two girls. let's call them ciara and brittany. somehow people just started the rumor that tina was a lesbian again, and this time she didn't deny it. then tina ended up going out with brittany and they just broke up. the details are a bit too long, so i'll just get to the point. i was over tina's house after she broke up with brittany, because i still wanted to be her friend even though her sexual orientation had changed. when i was over there, she was askin me should she go back out with brittany and she let me listen to the message that brittany left on her answering machine. they both wanted to get back with each other, and were saying that they loved each other. well, ask you can probably already tell, i feel a little uncofortable with this who situation. any ideas on ways i can feel a little more comfortable with this would be great!!! (link)
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I know you may find it weird or uncomfortable, but realize how hard this must be for her, for one. Alot of people aren't as accepting to homosexuals so she may get teased and such and really might need you to be there for her, and she'll need someone to talk to about stuff.
I have alot of bisexual friends and such and whenever they start talking to me about things like that, if I REALLY start feeling uncomfortable, I just pretend it's her talking about, her boyfriend or something, or I just pus the fact out of the way that's it's another person of the same gender.
Just try and do your best and be there for her as much as you can.
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last night i hooked up with my friends crush. the thing is, i didnt know she liked him! she was always talking about this other guy she liked. well i think she got really jealous and upset and i havent talked to her about it since. but i know i should. what should i say to her and she i talk to her face to face, online, through a note, or what??? (link)
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Well the best way to talk to someone ( and show repsect ) is to do it face-to-face, but if you feel you cant' do it, then do it the way you feel most comfortable.
I would just be like,"____, I'm so incredibly sorry. I know "sorry" probably won't make it for what I did, but I just want you to know that I truely am and I wish I had never done anything with him, I majorly regret it. I honestly didn't know you liked him, otherwise I never would've done anything. I assumed you liked ____, because you've always talked about him. Even though I know this is no excuse because I really hurt your feelings and everything and I understand you're mad at me, but please consider starting over, please? Like I said before, I'm really sorry and I didn't mean to do anything purposely to hurt you, and I never would." ( or something like that ; just try and take some parts i've written maybe and make it your own words adn feelings ).
And then just let her read it and give her time to think about it. Don't try taklign to her, cause that'll just annoy her. Let her sit down and really think about wether she's ready to forgive you or not and see if she talks to you. If she tells you she cant' forgive you yet, let her know you understand, and you really hope someday soon she can, and that she'll want to talk and be friends.
But I'm sure she'll realize it was all a mistake, and one huge regret and you're really sorry because it's not like you purposely meant to hook up with the guy she liked ; you didn't even know she liked him. It was all one huge mistake and misunderstanding.
I hope I helped.
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ok. ive been BEST friends with this girl since 2nd grade. then she moved 2 years ago. but we still talk and see eachother. but after she moved, she started caring about hoe she looked, and she started being mean to me on the computer. but when i talk to her she's like her old self. and the most important thing is now (on the computer) she's starting to tell me that i should dress better, and i should wear brand names. but that's not me. what should i do? (link)
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Well in my opinion, if she was your BEST friend she wouldn't be telling you you should dress better and start wearing name brands - she should like you, for you.
Just ignore it.
The next time she mentions it, just be like,"Eh, brand names aren't me, sorry." And move onto another subject. If she keeps persisting it, though, I would talk with her. It'd sound to me then like she might want you to be "cooler" since wearing name brands is "cool" to most people for some odd reason.
I'd then just mention something to her and see what she says and she why she keeps persisting that you wear name brands and that you should dress better and everything. And once more, just tell her, you're sorry, but that's not what you want to dress like, it's just not you. And she should just accept it and move on.
I hope I helped.
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i used to be the most awkward kid in my school, but i really really REALLY changed over the summer. and i'm starting to make friends with people so that's good, but the thing is everyone's already like best friends with each other, while i'm just an okay friend. so when all the best friends are together and the okay friend comes along, i'm kind of left out in the conversation (not really intentionally..it just happens). and i can't just force myself into it uninvited because, come on if you and your bff were talking and this random girl started intruding you'd be annoyed too right? so i'm not sure what to do, but i know i really really really need to find a good friend at school fast, because i feel as if i have no true friends at my school. =/ help!? (link)
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Gah, I know how that feels!
What I've tried doing is hanging with each person individually and getting to know them better and becoming closer and closer slowly but surely, and whenever you feel you can all hang out together with more people without being kicked out of the group, then do so.
And you CAN sort of nudge your way into the conversation, but just be careful how much you nudge so you DON'T seem annoying, then, because I've done it slyly before, and they've started many conversations with me without getting annoyed.
Just listen in on their conversation, and whenever they may say a joke to eachother, start a conversation up by asking them what that's about and maybe have them tell you the story behind it or something.
And then maybe even share with the other people a joke you and so-and-so had while you two were hanging out alone one time, so you can get a few chuckles out of people.
It'll take some work and time, but if you keep making sure you're getting to know the people around you no matter the situation, it should work out just fine.
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I hope I helped.
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Would it wrong to take a nap with your boyfriend or girlfriend? on the sofa or something?
I dont know, for some reason, I dont think my mom would agree. I'm just wondering too, I'm curious, what most parents would think of this? (link)
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I personally don't think anything's the matter with this. It's just two people sleeping on the couch, doing nothing to eachother and just being comfortable in their home.
Now, I could see why your mother'd be concerned if you two were to say like, under the sheets in your bed or something, cause that might lead to other ideas in her mind, but the sofa? Harmless, I say.
I hope I helped.
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OK my best friends cousin likes me! He's a junior im a freshman and lets just say i led him on...... badly! so here's the deal! he's cute and everything but i dont like him like that! I might be starting to but i really like this other guy! what should i do in this situation???? (link)
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You just have to be honest with him ; and you can't keep leading him on. The longer you lead him on, the harder it's gonna be to tell him and the harder he'll take it.
Just be like,"I'm sorry, but I really only feel friendly vibes between us ; nothing much more. Do you think we could still be friends, at least?" And see what he says. If he needs to time to think ; give it to him. Let him come to you when he's ready to.
Sure it may be akward at first, it's common between people, but it'll only remain awkward if you LET it remain awkward. Just try sparking some conversation adn talk to him likey ou two used to. Try and get some jokes and laughter in there ; that always eases the tension and awkwardness of things, and sooner or later, things'll return to normal.
I hope I helped.
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In the past I have had some huge fights and lost my best friends and never talked to them again. This recently happened for the 3rd time over a misunderstanding but when some really hurtful things were said to me, I decided not to talk to the person again. This person is Abby. It has been almost two weeks since our fight and I can tell she wants to be friends again.
She really hurt me and said she never liked me anyways, just after saying we were best friends. I know she could do this again and another conflict would start, but I really miss how much fun we had together. As it is right now I don't go out on weekends anymore because I'm excluded from everything.
Should I forgive her just so we can have fun together again? My other friend says I am crazy for even considering forgiving her.
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Well if you're thinking about forgiving her still, I would just seriously have a majorly serious talk with her about the whole situation and everything that was said and thought and felt and just try and resolve it and talk about what's going to happen with you guys in the future.
No matter what, she must apologize and be truely sorry. If I was you in this situation, I could never be friends with her until she apologized and I knew she really meant it and that she really misses me.
But also, ask her while you two are talking if this is probably ever going to happen again, because if it is, you don't know if you want to try and become friends again just to be disappointed and be argueing with her all over again, it's really not that worth it.
So talk to her, make sure this isn't going to repeat itself and that you two'll be good friends again and have a good time together.
I'm one of those people who forgive, but never forget. So if this girl does it again, then I wouldn't continue being friends with her and give her another shot. I also believe in second chances, but if she thinks she can do it ANOTHER time and STILL be your friend, she has another thing coming.
So like I said, talk to her, see where it goes from there.
I hope I helped.
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okay.. so my friend always talks about this kid.. and my friend told me that she thinks she likes him and she knows i like him too.. and now i just feel so weird having us like the same person and were like bestfriends.. im not sure what to do. stop talking to her? or idk. (link)
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don't stop talking to her. she's your best friend!
now, if i were you, there's two things i would do. i would talk to her about it, definetely, no matter what. it needs to be talked about and you guys need to release your feelings and thoughts to eachother you can't keep it all bottled up and hidden from eachother.
but then you two need to decide what's going to go on from here. are you two going to let some boy who you two'll probably never continue dating throughout school ( i dont want to sound negative, but teenage relationships do tend to end sooner or later ), and then have no shoulder to cry on? no best friend? i don't think so.
or do you two want to be like,"may the best man win". this can somewhat be agood thing cause it shows maturity and that you're not gonna let your friendship get ruined ; but then there's the pain of seeing your friend with the guy you like, which usually results in jealousy and hate and a ruined friendship.
so if you REALLY want my true, true advice, here... i say like i said before, you and your friend talk about it and just get your thoughts and feelings all out there in the open and everything nad let eachother know, and then i would both suggest neither of you go after this guy. if anything, just be friends. like i said, would you both really choose one guy over a best friend?
"guys come and go, but friends are forever".
"chicks before dicks".
i hope i helped.
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Met a really cute guy. We went out couple times. He is smart, cute and nice to me. However, I felt that I'm not into him as much he's into me........I don't want to hurt his feeling if somehow he asks me "the question" one day, but I don't want to pull apart either. What should I do to keep just friend with him? (link)
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If "the question" ever does arise, don't make up something or distract him from the question ; it's better just to say it then then keep him lingering around thinking he still has a chance.
Just in a nice tone, just be like,"I'm sorry, but I really only feel friend vibes between us. Do you think we can be friends?" And see what he says. Seeing as he likes you, and he'd probably rather be friends then nothing, everything'll work out fine.
It may be awkward after if he's all quiet or something around you cause he may feel embrassed or stupid, but it's only going to be awkward if you guys let it be awkward. So try starting conversations with him ; ask him about his day or crack a joke, just make conversation like you guys used to before "the question" came.
And like I said, everything'll work out fine.
I hope I helped.
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