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so i have this friend....
shes a great person and all but she doesnt take very good care of herself...for example...
*she has body odar but she doesnt seem to know
*she doesnt brush her teeth, only mouth washes..
*she will wear the same pair of pants for 2 weeks in a row (but she has like 10 pairs of pants)
*she weill go and work out than come home and eat ice cream....
how do i tell her that thease arent healthy for her and she should change her routine? (link)
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This is what I would do.
About the body odor: go shopping with her. Buy deodorant and say something like "I love this kind. It makes your skin really smooth! You should try it!" - that way you aren't coming out and telling her that she has body odor.
About the teeth: invite her to spend the night at your house. When you're getting ready for bed, you'll see that she isnt brushing her teeth and that shes only using mouthwash. Say something like "If I were you, I would start brushing my teeth. Mouthwash is okay but when I went to the dentist I learned that it isnt very good for your teeth if you just use mouthwash because you need to completely clean your teeth."
About the jeans: while she is at your house, let her try on some of your clothes and when she trys on your jeans, say something like "You can borrow them. You should wear them to school tomorrow. You have a lot of jeans but you don't wear all of them. You should mix it up a bit!"
About working out: work out with her, then get a healthy snack and offer her some. Say "I used to eat icecream and other stuff after excercising but it sort of cancels out all of the progress I made that day with excercising."
Hope I helped. If you need anything else, leave it in my inbox.
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okay i have a friend and i am on the phone with her and she wants me to come over and i dont know if i want to go bacause i dont really like her sisters and i dont want to go what are some good excuses you can think of that I can get out of this i really need this help my mom said i could but i dont want to so she asks me and i say i dont know but i need a excuse but i dont want it to be mean so please give me some good excuses
love brittany
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Things you can say:
-I don't really feel that good today.
-My parents are going somewhere tonight.
-I'm grounded.
-We have family from out of town coming over.
After you say your excuse, you should say something like "Thanks for asking though. Maybe we can do something next weekend instead?" that way she doesn't feel as bad about it. Hope I helped!
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I am having a new friend over today, and I would like some ideas on what we can do. I have DDR so that is one thing, but besides that all I can really think of is tv. I am a female/16 if it helps! Thanks! (link)
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Well, I'm sure by the time you get my answer, your friend will have already been over & stuff, but I have some ideas in case you need them for another time!
-Listen to music
-Watch a movie
-Go on a walk
-Go shopping
-Paint nails/toenails
I would have more, but I'm not sure what you or your friend are interested in but I'm sure you'll have fun no matter what you're doing. Good luck hun! Hope I helped. =]
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hey is there any where i can go to talk to people my age from around where i live in massachusettes.anything would be great. (link)
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Myspace is a really good place to meet people. I have met a lot of people from my school on there. You just choose what school you go to in your profile & it makes it a lot easier to find other people that live in that area.
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Alright- so my best guy friend might like me. How do I let him know that I sort of like him too without being vulnerable to rejection? Or I guess how can I hint it to him in a subtle way? (link)
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You should ask him who he likes & then hint around about who you like & see if he catches on. This usually works for me & I just give really obvious clues about who I like. If he catches on, then you can find out if he likes you. If he doesn't (even after making it really obvious), he might just be pretending like he doesn't catch on so he doesn't make things awkward between the two of you. Hope everything works out! If you need anything else just leave it in my inbox!
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I have liked this guy for a year. He said he liked me and to wait till summer so we can be together. Well its summer and he still never asked me out or anything. Hes hurt me soo many times. I met this other great guy and i think we have something. And I know that he'll never hurt me. I dont know who to like!!! (link)
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It sounds like he's sort of leading you on. =/
I would go for the other guy & see what happens. You already know that he won't hurt you, so you don't really have anything to worry about! I would just go for the guy who is going to treat you right.
Hope everything works out!
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My friend Alex told me he didn't like his girlfriend Katie anymore. I asked why and he said it was 'cause he hadn't seen her all summer. I was like "well that's okay, you guys'll get back together at school." The later he told me he just didn't have feelings for her anymore (still summer). I told him he hadn't seen her and to just wait 'till school before he broke up with her or anything like that. Then later he told me he took his other friend's advice and broke up with her. At first he said Katie took it well, but then later Alex told me she IMed him saying she was gonna kick his ass at school. Now he's pissed off at ME for, in his words "not telling me clearly enough what to do." BUT I told him not to break up with her! How do I make him realize it's his own fault and not mine without just... well... accusing him of it being his fault? I RATE VERY WELL!!!! (link)
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Your friend shouldn't be mad at you because you kept telling him that he would probably feel different once school started up again. It was his choice to take his other friend's advice.
If he was afraid of the outcome, he should have made the decision himself instead of making his friends do it for him. Besides, even if you would have told him "more clearly" - he's the one that said that he didn't have feelings for her anymore. I would just try telling him all of that & I'm sure he'll get over it.
Hopefully everything works out & if you need anything else just leave it in the inbox. & if you ever need/want to talk - just leave your screen name or e-mail in the feedback comment or in my inbox & I'll IM you/e-mail you!
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i hate myself i really do. when i look at myself i just want to end my life. i feel so ugly. and i have no friends. i never had a bf and no one ever liked me before. But that is not why i am crying. i stop caring about my uglyness. i was in my bestfriends house and she was talking to her mother about me. I guess they thought i wouldnt hear it. Her mother goes i know u feel sorry for her and all but now that you made new friends its time to let this one go. my friend goes yeah eww gosh i hate her. She smells bad and wow shes very ugly. my new friends dont like her and i just dont know how to leave her with out sounding me! wow i started to cry. that hurt so bad. the only perosn i loved and cared about hates me and never liked. she just used me!!
what do i do? how can i change for her? i need to be her friend (link)
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Wow. First of all, I'm so sorry that that happened to you! That is terrible & no one should be treated like this.
I don't think you need to be her friend. Don't change who you are for someone like that. Always be yourself - no matter what. The great thing about being yourself is that you know people like you for who you really are. You might not have that many friends, but it's better to have a few true friends than a bunch of fake friends.
I hope everything works out for you & again, I'm really sorry. If you ever want to talk - just leave me your screen name or e-mail in the feedback comment and I will IM you or email you. Good luck with everything hun!
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my friends keep trying to set me up with all these different guys all the time... but hello IM TAKEN!! i tell them that everytime but they wont listen to me. They say that it doesn't count because he lives so far away and i never see him. And recently me and my bf are going thru a hard time in our relationship and according to my friends going out with other guys is supposed to make me "feel better?" um ok what's up with that? They aren't even acting like friends, they should be supporting me and telling me everything is guna be ok but instead they are already assuming that we're guna break up. And i hate it when they tell all these guys that im single... IM NOT!!! how do i get thru to them?? (link)
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Just talk to your friends & tell them that you don't want another boyfriend because you already have one & you want to stay with the one that you have. Then tell them about the rough time that you're going through & tell them that you could really use your friends through this & that they aren't helping by trying to set you up with other people. Maybe then they'll stop & help you out. I hope everything works out & if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox.
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my best friend is like fading away from me. she just never calls me anymore. she used to call me every day. now whenever she calls she asks for my sister. i dont know why shes mad at me but i thnk it may be because im not a vegetarian. as stupid as it sounds i think so. any way she is a vegetarian and she believes in it very strongly and i told her that i wasnt a vegetarian any more and she was like "WHAT!" and hasnt really called me and actually talked to me since. and in her profile it used to say my name is Sarah (not real name) but my best friend Anna (me, not real name) calls me spanky. but now it says my name is Sarah but my friends call me Ess. she doesnt talk to me when my sister invites her over. i dont know what happened shes just mad at me all of the sudden. what an i do to get her back (link)
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I would just talk to her & tell her how you're feeling. I think that you not being a vegetarian is a stupid reason to end a friendship. I would talk to her & tell her that you being a vegetarian has changed but YOU haven't changed. You're still the same person you were before - but now you eat meat. I hope everything works out for you & if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox.
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oh of my best guy friends likes me, and he has for a while. at first i didnt like him but now im starting to. but im afraid if we go out, then break up,that i'll lose one of my best friends. but im also afraid if i dont tell him i'll regret it. so my question is shold i tell him i like him or not?
plus i dont know if i really like him, or if im just really flattered that he likes me (link)
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I would tell him but I would also tell him that you don't want to lose him as a best friend either because he means a lot to you. Then I would just go from there. Hopefully everything works out & if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox!
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I got a lot of my friends mad at me for a stupid reason (long story) and now i only have....hm....2 friends.I think. I'm really bored because I have nothing to do. I don't really care that they don't like me but it bothers me that they think I did something really "bad" when I dissagree. This is a stupid question....I need help on what I should do about my "friends" and what I could do in my spare time by myself.
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Try talking to them & telling them that you don't think that what you did was so bad. If they don't forgive you, I'd just give it time because they should be able to forgive you if they were your friends. In your spare time, watch movies, go shopping, listen to music, & try to make some new friends. I hope I helped & I hope everything else works out for you hun!
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sorry this is so long but please take the time to read it. my best friend...lets call her Alyssa, she has been my best friend for about 2 years. we've had our fights and everything like a normal friendship. right? haha. but the past winter, we didnt hang out at all because her dad started to hate me. so she wasnt allowed to hang out with me. once he found me, my brother, and her walking home from school together and he got so pissed. he was yelling at her so loudly outside, in front of all the neighbors. so we never let him see us hang out together. but hes in the army or something and he leaves home for a long period of time (like a month and a half) and then her mom started hating me for no reason. and so we never were allowed to chill out together. and we live half a block away. BUT now, her mom likes me..and her dad is gone but they dont tell him that alyssa is allowed to come over to my house now. her mom lets alyssa come to my house everyday now! haha. but maybe not everyday. but im wondering..isnt this wrong? i mean, her dad thinks that his daughter is staying home but shes actually haning out with me. is that wrong? alyssa is so cool and i really want to keep being her best friend. (im not a lezbian and im not bi) (link)
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It isn't necessarily right to sneak around behind her dad's back, but if you guys are really best friends then I wouldn't let something like that come between the two of you. I would just ask her what her dad doesn't like about you & fix the problem & I'm sure her dad would change his mind & it would be easier for you two to hang out. I hope everything works out for you! If you need anything else just leave it in my inbox!
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I know i already talked about this but i dont care. its REALLY BUGGiNG ME. my bestfriend krystal got a new bestfriend heather. and everything about her just kills me. the simplist things. i dont care if im accting immature. i dont want to make new friends. and i dont want to be friends with heather, the one who's stealing krystal away from me. all krystal talks about is heather this and heather that and how GOOD she is. it gets to me, so much. i cry myself to sleep so much. what do i do? i have already told krystal multiple times that i feel left out and ignored. (link)
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I would just try telling Krystal exactly how you feel. Tell her that you feel left out & that you feel like Heather is replacing you as her best friend. Tell her that you don't want to lose her as your best friend, but she should really try to think of your feelings & include you more if she is really your best friend.
If she doesn't listen, I would just try hanging out with different people while she is hanging out with Heather. Just hang out with her when Heather isn't around since you don't like Heather.
I hope everything works out for the best! If you need anything else, just leave it in my inbox.
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ok i no that this is not in the friendship categlorie but im really having a hard time trying to find out who i am ... like i change my mind alot about things i like and my friends and i want to be original and kool but i always seem mess up ok well i gotta go but all 5 ratings if you answer good! thanks
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Just be yourself. I was the same way last year & I changed my style so much just to fit in with what was "cool" & what other people liked. That was a mistake. Now I dress how I want, listen to what I want, & act how I want. And I've made a lot of friends that way. The greatest thing about being yourself...is that you know that people like you for who you really are. Don't change just to impress people. Hope I helped!
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well i got into a fight with a friend of mine, something she did really hurt me, but it isnt something so horrible that i want to end the friendship over it, basically this would all be solved with an appology but im not sure how to go about this. its been two days and i havent talked to her since then, so should i need help on what to do, should i wait until she IMs/calls me and appoligizes or should i do something else? 18/m if that matters at all (link)
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I would either wait for her to come to you & apologize. After all, she is the one that hurt you. Or I would try talking to her & just tell her that what she did really hurt you, but you don't think it's something to ruin your friendship over & maybe then she'll apologize. I hope everything works out with your friendship! If you need anything else just leave it in my inbox.
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hi its baseballislife44
my name is tommy and i also live in ohio so thats pretty cool
if you ever want to talk send me an email baseballislife4444@yahoo.com
or drop one in my inbox (link)
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okay, thanks =]
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i have a lot of guy friends and less girl freinds and its been like that for like my whole life and im like not the tomboy type and im like girly as everyone saya. i have girl freinds like a lot but i have more guys. what does taht mean? sometimes i think taht girls dont liek me cuz im like too boyish but everyone says im not? then wat does that mean?
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I'm exactly the same way. It doesn't mean your boyish. It just means that you get along better with the guys that you're friends with. Personally, I'm friends with more guys because a lot of the girls at my school are backstabbing and I don't have time for fake friendships. The important thing is that you're happy with the guys that you're friends with. Hope I helped!
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ok well me and this girl...lets call her cindy...are friends i guess but if we're around certain people she ignores me and acts like i'm not even there but if its just us then shes nice to me and we act like friends....so i don't get it are me and cindy friends or not? (link)
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I think that you should try talking to her about it & if the problem continues, maybe she isn't a real friend because real friends don't treat their friends like that. I hope everything works out!
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I just found out that one of my best guy friends likes me...I don't feel the same about him,but I have no idea how to tell him other than "i dont like you" and thats kinda mean *lol* I'm also afraid it will be awkward around him, any ideas how to make sure it's not? (link)
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I think that you should try to act the same around him like you did before you found this out and if he brings up the fact that he likes you, you should tell him that you think you guys should just stay friends because if something happened between you guys in a relationship then it could ruin the great friendship that you already have. That way you're setting him straight without being mean about it. I hope everything works out!
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