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I told you so...
My friend Alex told me he didn't like his girlfriend Katie anymore. I asked why and he said it was 'cause he hadn't seen her all summer. I was like "well that's okay, you guys'll get back together at school." The later he told me he just didn't have feelings for her anymore (still summer). I told him he hadn't seen her and to just wait 'till school before he broke up with her or anything like that. Then later he told me he took his other friend's advice and broke up with her. At first he said Katie took it well, but then later Alex told me she IMed him saying she was gonna kick his ass at school. Now he's pissed off at ME for, in his words "not telling me clearly enough what to do." BUT I told him not to break up with her! How do I make him realize it's his own fault and not mine without just... well... accusing him of it being his fault? I RATE VERY WELL!!!!
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Tell Alex that he shouldn't be relying on you to make /his/ relationship decisions for him, and even if you did give him advice, it was simply /advice/, it was still up to him to decide whether to take it or not or what he wants to do. He should have his own mind and not simply be waiting for someone to tell him exactly what to do and how to do it. Just tell him that he took his other friend's advice, but it sounds to me like even though he's suffering from the consequences, he still made the right decision. If Katie's going to "kick his ass" when you guys go back to school, it doesn't exactly sound like the relationship was very firm. Just tell your friend it's not your fault, it was his decision, and he'll come around. Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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definately talk to him about it. clearly you told him the right thing to do, and now i think he realized he made a mistake and is trying to push it on you. tell him how you feel, because you definately did the right thing.
good luck!
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OK WELL TELL HIM THAT YOUR SORRY FOR W.E IT IS THAT YOU DID,THAT YOU DIDNT MEAN FOR ANYTHING BAD TO HAPPEN. LET HIM NO THAT YOU WANT TO BE FRIENDS STILL.HOPE I HELPED xOxO
ahhhh sry about the caps!!!!!!
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Guys will be like that. They think they're always right sometimes. Just tell him that he's wrong! And if he's going to treat you like that because you tried to help, then don't help him anymore! He's probably just mad because something went wrong. He'll probably get over it. Just give him time!
Hope I helped!!
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wow..i think he might just be upset over what he did and your the weakest target to him so hes taking it out on you. But that doesnt mean its the right thing to do. I think maybe you should let him cool off a little bit then talk it out with him. He is prob. just frustrated because its kinda coming back to kick him in his butt. I doubt that he will get his ass kicked. But if you cant wait untill he cools off then just explain to him that you didnt know really what the right choice and thats why you werent being clear? haha .. i would just make up some excuse like that for not being clear. But i wouldnt fight because well, you dont wanna make situations worse..believe me from experience!!
hope that helps
*__Beccaa =)
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Your friend shouldn't be mad at you because you kept telling him that he would probably feel different once school started up again. It was his choice to take his other friend's advice.
If he was afraid of the outcome, he should have made the decision himself instead of making his friends do it for him. Besides, even if you would have told him "more clearly" - he's the one that said that he didn't have feelings for her anymore. I would just try telling him all of that & I'm sure he'll get over it.
Hopefully everything works out & if you need anything else just leave it in the inbox. & if you ever need/want to talk - just leave your screen name or e-mail in the feedback comment or in my inbox & I'll IM you/e-mail you!
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Just repeat that you told him NOT to break up with her. He's eventually gunna be like OH SHOOT she did tell me not to break up with her. He shouldn't even be mad at you anyway, because it was his choice to break up with her anyway. Whether someone else told him to do it or not - a part of him had to have wanted to break up with her. So tell him that. Be like "Alex, although someone told you to break up with her, you wouldn't have done it if somewhere in your heart you didnt feel it was the right thing to do. So dont be mad at anyone for any advice they gave you."
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