so...my name is Rebecca and I'm 17, going to be a senior in high school . i am currently at either the 2nd or 3rd spot in my class academically, but plan to graduate as valedictorian...so if you have a problem academically I'd love to help! i want to be a journalist (and kind of am), which means i may be a little harsh, but i do have a not-so-sharp edge (don't get me wrong, i can be sassy, I'd just rather smile :) ) . I love knowing that i can help someone and I'm actually of use to someone. When i was younger i was more shy, and all people knew about me was that i was a good friend and for the people i answer...i hope you think so too!
Also, God is big in my life. Like my whole life. And for anything I help you with...I give Him all the glory. It's all about Him and what He's given us. :)
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14/f
There is this guy that I like in church. When we were younger we were best friends, after my parents divorce when I was five, things changed. We stopped seeing each other as much. As we got older we stopped talking to each other, we both changed. After the divorce I have been going to church every other Sunday but now I am going every Sunday and youth group on Wednesday. Well in youth he will come up to me and my step sister and the people we hang out with and stands right by me, but I see the way that he looks at her and I know that he likes her. She doesn't know that I like him and she isnt going to find out. She is three years older. He is a freshman i high school and she is a freshman in college, she doesnt like him. The guy and me barely talk but we do every once in awhile. I don't know what to do. I can't talk to him how I feel because we don' talk much. What should I do? (link)
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I know in a tight nit group like a youth group it's very easy to develop crushes (I'm speaking from first-hand experience), and I know it can really hurtful when the person who you like, especially in such a close group, doesn't respond with the same feelings as you have. This one, however, as hard as it might be, I wouldn't worry about much...and I definitely wouldn't make any moves that may scare the boy and may jeopardize a potential friendship.
I am going to share this story with you because it seems very relevant and so, as I said before, you know I'm speaking from experience. I had a major crush on a kinda-guy-friend who I sort of associated with who absolutely didn't know it. When I was afraid of losing my chance with him, I made it known so that I wouldn't lose that chance...mistake. He was 15...very young thinking...and focused on God (as I too should have been at the time I now realize...) At first he was kind of like "cool" then the next day (yes the next DAY) he got freaked out. It took quite a while to get back to where we were and even longer to actually become friends. Now...three years from the incident...we're pretty close friends and we go to church and youth group together, etc., but it probably would've been a lot faster to have never tried to hang on to him in the first place.
I don't see your sister as a threat. She probably thinks the idea of going out with a boy so much younger is ridiculous and this boy is probably just a young thinker and...well the feelings probably aren't very deep. I'm not going to tell you to try to snatch him up, but try to be his friend...that's how the best relationships are started. If God has it planned for you two...it'll work out and you'll be glad you were such good friends first and laugh that he ever had a little crush on your big sis. (If He doesn't, He has another great plan for you.) Right now, though, don't worry too much. Just get to know him...he should like you (as a friend, at least), if anything, for that. :)
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I've had this best friend, Amy for like 15 going on 16 years. I cheered my 7th Grade year, and we were really close, then I quit and we drifted apart, so this year, my 11th grade year, she wanted me to cheer because we had become close again, so I tried out, and made it. Now, she has these other friends, one of them in particular, Kara who has this boyfriend, Trevor, and his best friend Sam had sex with my best friend. Now she's like crazy obsessed, and he's not the cleanest guy, he's very controlling, he's compulsive, obsessive, an she just wont talk to me anymore.
Idk what to do, she's my best friend, and we both hate not talking to each other, but now, she seems like she'd rather have him.
I've talked to her about it, and she did choose him. He don't like me, so I guess neither does she.
I've talked to her in everyway, she says that she doesnt want to choose and that she isnt going to put up with me acting like that, when really I aint done anything.
BTW, her parents dont want her with this guy, and she knows it and still goes behind their back.
I just want MY friend back, not Kara's friend, or Sam's beneficial friend.
What should I do? (link)
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All you can really do right now is what you have done...even if it's hard. as long as you've told her that you feel like she's choosing a guy over you (her friend, which usually gets people thinking) and that you think she's worth more than this guy...and that you really don't think that he's good for her (and that you've stressed you're talking to her for HER benefit)then...you just kind of have to let things go for now. if you guys are good friends and she's made an effort to try to re-establish that friendship again, she should come around. In the meantime, get to know some of the other cheerleaders. you joined something...make the most of it. and try not to cling to your friend...you'll get her back. i think it's an issue of patience. hope that helped.
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ive had the same best friend for 5 years now. weve had a few falling outs and we have always gone back to eachother. shes outgoing and makes friends easily where as me, im outgoing but i am not good at meeting people on my own (my friends are jess's friends) (jess has everyone over cause she has an amazing basement to hang out in) (i have no where for groups of people to hang out in) jess is wanting to have closer friends than just me. i would like to too. i am afraid to DEATH that i will loose her and i honestly cant imagine that. another problem is that jess always asks me to come over a few hours before she says to go over so if she doesnt call me that night, i dont go anywhere. i wait for her to plan cause its her house and shes the one with the friends. i wouldnt be so jealous i think if i had my own friends or closer friends. what do i do to keep jess close while letting her have friends and also finding my own friends? i know i need someone else to go to when im upset i just dont know how to find good friends (i just need like 2 close friends) and then make them best friends *most important thing is to keep jess as close as we normally are!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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ok, so first you need to calm down. i'm sure you are a likable person, but you have to realize that if you put all of your self-worth in your friends you are going to end up getting burned because no one (NO ONE, NOT EVEN BEST FRIENDS)get along all of the time. so, my first advice is stop trying so hard to be loved, and first just try to be comfortable with yourself.
Secondly, i have a bff like you (only it's more like 10 years)and with a friend like that, you tend to love each other then bicker then drift apart and then realize how much you love each other again. so don't be so worried about losing her. you most likely mean as much to her as she does to you.
Thirdly, when it comes to making new friends that you can be close to, i realize how much easier it can be to make friends and be social around current friends (i was also in this situation) but i'm sure you guys (meaning you and Jess) have different interests from one another. go somewhere YOU want to hang out. or join a club or group YOU want to join. chances are there will be people in that place (or club or group, w/e) that have the same interests at you. that will help you relate and allow you to make more friends. (ex.my bff and i are close, but she has friends that are really into the music she likes, whereas i'm pretty close to some people in our youth group, because these people have the same interests as us.)
But, again, don't go out there going "who looks cool...they'll be my friend." just go on with life and do the things that you want to do and friends will come naturally. that's my advice. hope it helps.
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17/f
I know enough people from school clubs and sports teams, but where do I find the people like myself? I'm an 'overachiever' when it comes to school but I really don't fit the stereotype of the 'goody two shoes' that tends to go along with it. I'd like some friends that like to go to parties and meet new people. The thing is, it's not safe for me to go to parties where I live (long story), so how do I meet people that can invite me to ones outside of my town? Maybe some older friends or something? Thanks for the advice! (link)
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you're an overachiever but not a "goody goody?" take a college class. you meet some pretty interesting people, though i don't exactly suggest "party-ing" with ALL of them. or just try to talk to people outside of your groups. even if you know people in clubs and sports...chances are 1/2 of your school isn't in a sport or club. or go to hangouts with a current friend where you know a ton of teens go. it isn't hard to meet other people. hope that helped.
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ok i need help
i really dont know what to do
ok so my best friend b decided to talk to the guy i likes friend n. she wanted to see if she could find out anything and set up stuff to hang out. so i could hang with the guy i like. well things went really wrong. for me that is. because the girl and my best friend talked for about 2 hours and the girl was already asking her to hang and spend the night and stuff. which is ok i mean cuz my best friend would bring me too. then today the girl invited my best friend to go hang with her and the guy i like and a couple other friends. my friend didnt end up going, she couldnt. it just hurts cuz i wanted to be the one invited places. and i dont want to tell my best friend not to go hang out with this girl. but i dont know what to do. by the way, they girl is going out with the guy i likes brother and i have like the guy for 3 years. please help. i dont know what to tell my friend. i dont know what to do and i just want it all to go away. please help. (link)
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ouch. i could see how it would hurt that you wanted to be that girl. but can i tell you that the way to get to this guy isn't going through your best friend making friends with his best friend and his friends, which will eventually lead to him. if you've known the guy for three years, why not just become friends with him? that's the real way to build a reltionship. YOU need to talk to HIM, don't involve everyone else in the world. i'm sure your friend means well, but it's your relationship. you just have to take charge. as for your friend, let her hang out with this guys best friend. she has that right. and maybe you can go with them places sometimes. but that's her relationship. don't dive into these things too fast or get heartbroken over things too soon. it happens to too many girls and detroys theis spirits. just, make friends and don't take things too personally. you can get over this conflict, and you'll get over others. just talk to your friend and let everyone live thier own lives, including you. well, good luck.
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Okay Me and my bff are reallllyyy close we go everywhere together almost always think the same things and like finish each others sentences and have sooo much alike.Before we would talk the wholee day since like 12 all the way to 12 am like n total we would talk 4-6 hrs but know like we dont tak that much we talk like 20 minutes the whole day.And im always the one that has to call her for we can talk and if she calls me she calls me until like 4pm and she keeps saying shes busy and we only talk 20 minutes ten she ends up saying always i have to go..umm take bath idont know like if making it up soo are we fading away or does she want time off help!! (link)
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take this from someboday who has had a bff for 10 years. during school we spent everyday, monday thru saturday (sometimes sunday), 7:50 a.m. (when her mom took us to school) to usually around 8:30 p.m. (when one of our parents picked us up from work or classes or clubs), together, talking, laughing, and bugging eachother. not that we didn't love eachother, but when you spand 9 months like that for 10 years, you start to be more like sisters, sisters laugh AND fight AND don't ALWAYS wish to be around eachother.
moral of the story: don't take it personally if your best friend doesn't want to talk for hours and hours or makes some excuses to stop talking. she probably does just want some time to breathe and don't force her to keep talking or become too clingy. she probably just wants some time to think of herself or maybe she really IS busy and it might be kind of to muster uo the energy to do everything. take this time to do things on your own or get to know your other friends a little better. i'm sure if you were such good friends and so much alike, your friendship just won't fade away. just give your friend some space. it'll be okay, just don't worry so much. give her rookm to breather. hope that helps.
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In school im really shy and now that im starting high school i want to make some new friends but the problem is that i hate going up to people and talking to them, i feel awkward and out of place. It's like "hi" and then this long awkward silence, i get all intimidated and i don't know what to say or talk about. Can someone give me some starters on how to approach people and what to say. (link)
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i can totally realate to you here because i was painfully shy until the 8th grade and when i started high shcool i fewlt like it would start all over agian. it didn't and it only took a couple of tips...from here actually.
first of all, though it might be scarier to talk to the people who know you're shy than brand new people, you wouldn't believe how many people going with you to high school are worried about the same thing. if you sit next to someone you've known since you were 8, talk to them. nothing huge, you don't automatically have to dive into opinions and lifelong friendship, but you could just be like "hey, remember me? what's your schedule" etc.
secondly, utalize your close group of friends. there are more than likely kids that are more terrified than you, people move from other states and countries and they know less people than you. you and your friends can make friends with them.
third, don't be afraid of awkwardness with new
people. maybe you shouldn't start off with "hi." i mean, if you have algebra together, and you are totally thrown off by your teacher's expectations, you probably aren't the only one. look over to the kid next you (the oone with the same confused look) and talk to them about that! some other good ways to meet people are to join clubs oor sports, ones that you are interested in. then you already have things to talk about.
just remember, you aren't alone in the whole, new school, new poeple, new friends experience. everyone there is. just, be yourself and don't brush off people and they'll like you. but you should probably actually talk. don't worry. very few poeple look back on high school and say "i had no friends" that is much more common in middle school.you'll be fine. just be ourself!
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My friend (15/F) is definitely over weight. I know that nobody's perfect, and stuff. But she's at the point where it's a potential health risk! It could possibly be my fault for not helping her earlier, but I can't exactly change that now.
Her parents don't exactly help, though. Her dad makes unhealthy, meaty, casseroles almost every night. So, she isn't used to eating healthy foods. And I guess she's too oblivious to notice what she's eating.
Her parents also pressure her a lot. For example, there isn't a waking moment when her dad isn't nagging about some sort of walking. To be blunt, both of her parents are always reminding her of her obesity.
She has a short attention span, and gets annoyed by anything repetitive in the least bit. So, repeating exercises makes her walk away.
She recently bought a Jane Fonda exercise tape, which she used when she was younger to lose weight (which worked). She is convinced that only that exercise tape will work. After a month, she still hasn't received the tape (yes, I'm sure that she did order it).
My question is: how do I help her lose weight without being too pushy? Or should I just wait for the tape? But what if it takes months before she gets the tape?
Also: she will do almost anything I say, as long as it's not too harsh. So, obedience isn't an issue. She's just really impatient and ADD.
SORRY for the massive question! I tried to make it easier to read! Thank you for any answers! (link)
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ir's so awesome that you want to help your friend and you can do that without being harsh. first of all...i'm sure a tape COULD POSSIBLY help, but in my experience if your in your room with a t.v. and an excersise tape is sitting next to you, it's a lot easier to turn to mtv and forget about excersise especailly if you're not really into it. maybe the way you could really help her is through a "buddy" thing. we could all stand to be a little healthier right? tell her you want to start eatin healthier and you guys could do it together! you could choose better options for food at school or both bring a helthy lunch. this should help even if she continues eating the not-so-great dinners (though i would mention moderation with those). you could also work out together. there are excersises that you guys could do that are not repetitive. you could play sports like basketball, soccer, not formal stuff but it will help. you can also take excersise classes. stuff like dance class or martial arts can b so much fun and good for you. maybe it'll be something you two enjoy and continue with. if she is in SERIOUS danger health-wise or the parental comments get to her, she should talk to a professional. but it sounds like just your friendship can help if you stick together. :) sorry for the massive answer! good luck.
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by friend is mad because i like a boy she doesnt know... she like tells me who i can and cant be friends with... she also buts in with my relationship....she has major jealousy issues. what should i do...help please
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no offense but it seems like your friends a loser. all of my friends like guys i don't know so that's no excuse. she has no righ ot tell you what to do in your realationship. you can be friends with whoever you want to and that dosn't have to be her. and the jealousy might be the root of all her problems. she just sounds kind of stuck up and bossy. with her i wouldn't just go "um, i really don't like you doing that...", with her just say flat out stop or you really can't be friends with her.
and if she keeps doing it, i really wouldn't be her friend anymore. i'm sure you have a lot of other friends and you don't really need her around.
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Well.. normally Im a pretty outgoing, like laid-back kinda person.. not too laid-back, but I'm comfortable. Like around my family, and close friends. I'm really energetic and stuff, which is like the complete opposite of how I am in school. I dunno, but in school people usually see me as like a shy, quiet girl when my personality really isnt like that. like sometimes i feel like i shouldnt say some things, when its like my opinion.. i mean i raise my hand in class etc and im a good student, and i dont want to like fail or whatever, but i want to be as easygoing and more comfortable in school like i am in school and stuff, because sometimes it stops me from being friends with people and stuff when i know i'll get along with them and stuff. i guess it takes some time to know me.. and because of my softspoken and quietness in class, i got put in speech cause the teachers couldnt hear me when i could pronounce like all the words. i dont get it.. its like my voice kinda lowers and seems kinda dull and boring when i speak well sometimes, and like everyone in the class hears what i said except the teacher, of course. i mean sometimes i even pretty much shout it, and some kids like mumble and the teacher hears the mumble but apparently is deaf to me speaking?!? like i always have to repeat stuff. i mean seriously.. maybe i should just not care about what people think cuz sometimes i wonder if i say something like really weird i dont want to be labeled like that, when people like my friends really know me and wouldnt judge me like that. and ya i love myself and stuff but i dunno why i do that. i try to stop doing it and be like more outgoing every day, but sometimes i feel less like a kid and more.. like strict and junk, when i dont want to entirely be that way, and like be more flexible and stuff. i guess i'd like tips on how to be like.. more comfortable in school and stuff? or overall. thanks a junks for helping! =] (link)
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wow. i was reading the first part of this and i was all this girl is JUST like i was! i just siad that in my last question too. i told them that i just mostly hung out with my close freins...mostly my best freind and we met new people together so when i could talk loud or, um, normal to her and then since we were talking to another person i could talk to them like that. if a teacher sees you being outgoing it won't really matter if you speak loud in class. actually they probably just do that because they assume your naturally quiet, that's why they here the mumbling kids. and yes i used to feel "strict" or w/e but you let it go when you're having fun and laughing your butt off at nothing with your best friends. you jsut need to get out there and make some. AND SAY WHAT YOU THINK! really. the cool people will respect you for it. don't worry about being labled. just chill. it's not that hard. i though it was but it's not. so just be yourself would you.
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This my new year, 7th grade, and I want to make new friends and stuff. But sometimes I feel like some of my friends are like settling.. and dont really wanna make more friends. I mean, they are good people, but they just arent like me and my personality. Sometimes some of them are like tired for no reason and it really annoys me, especially cuz i may sleep for like 4 hours and still be energetic in the morning. yah we have our differences, but i'd like to meet somebody who i can just really have a good time with, and know that they seriously are my best friend. i already have some.. but.. idk. i dont really care if they're popular or anything, just not like butt ugly or whatever, and have similar interests as me somewhat,and stuff. or maybe im just being too tough and 'not appreciating my friends' but sometimes i feel as though they're kinda.. um dull.
any tips on how to meet new people? i guess i also tend to settle, and i get a little shy around new people and dont really show them my real self till they get to know me and i trust them and feel comfortable around them and stuff. how can i be like more outgoing or something? thanks a bunchh.
also, what traits do you admire about a person? (link)
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well can't you just keep your old freinds AND make new ones? you can do that you know.
as for making new friends though joining club or like doing new things (join a team or your youth group or something) is the obvious answer. also, since you probably just started middle school, get to know the people around you. i know you said your shy, i used to be like that too. mostly i hung out with my best friend who i can talk to about almost anything and we kind of met new people together so i could be talk casually to her then start talking casually to the person we're talking too. once you do it you see it's really not that hard.
and admirable triats. as cliche as it may sound...be yourself! if your not usually peppy or something and you think that might be an admirable trait, you don't have to just get peppy. just be friendly and talk about stuff you guys have in common or a teacher you guys don't like or something. but you should keep your old friends. you can't have too many friends.
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Ok first off this is to deal with my friend and me. my best friend plays soccer and everyonce in a while we play against her team. but I sorta like her in a more kind of way. so I kinda go easy on her. because I could beat her tail in a skinny sec. but I don't know if she likes me. she is one of my best friends. so advicenators, do you magic. HELP. if they help, I will rate nicely. and fairly, sup4321 (link)
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love life or sports? hmm...
i'm j/k. don't go easy on her just because you like her. all good athletes are supposed to put their personal feelings aside while in the game. it's the same if you were like figghting with someone on your team or something. forget about it, play, then pick it up agian later. hey, if anything you should impress her. if she knows how the game works...she can't get mad just because you like scored the winning goal or something. she should be proud of you. and if you think she might like you go for it. but it still shouldn't affect your game. that help?
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ksooo. i just started highschool like 2 weeks ago.. yeah and im a freshman..well in my school they let us go out to lunch (although theyre like changing it next year supposedly :[) well anyway. i have the same lunch with my 2 best friends, plus these 3 other girls im friends with. well my one best friend lives like a block away from the school, so my 2 best friends and i have been going there like basically everyday except for like 2 days. well, i love going to her house, since i dont really get to talk to them as much, and its a nice way to catch up and everything, and talk about things we cant with the other 3 girls. but now i feel bad. like one of the girls keeps asking what we're doing for lunch and stuff. and i feel bad like they think we don't want to eat lunch with them. now, i'd love to. if it was MY house, i'd let them over everyday. but it's my best friends house. and for some reason she's not allowed to have them over. well what should i do? i don't want those other girls to think we don't want to hang out with them. they're like my only other friends and i dont want them to think i dont like them anymore. (link)
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well you coul find a mutual place all of you can go...like a park. or if all else fials stay at school. that way you could include everyone. or you could always just eat with them half the time and your other friends half the time. either way you should see all of them so thay all know they're your friends.
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okay promp is coming up soon and I want to go but don't ANY girl friends for me to ask/ I hardly ever talk to girls but I really want to go (link)
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hello. who says you need a date. go w/ a group or go alone. just as long as you're having fun prom's doing it's job. you don't need to be on top of someone to have a good time.
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Since last weekend my best friend has been acting different. Last week was homecoming and we went with a group of our friends. Some time earlier in the evening I had told her that she and one of her guy friends would be cute together because she needed a nice time. She brushed off everything I said. Homecoming was a fun time and I spent part of the evening getting to know her previously mentioned guy friend better. I told her that I liked him later that night and she didn't sound upset. The next day we were celebrating her birthday [said guy friend being there] and we spent most of the party obviously flirting with each other. For some reason my friend found it necessary to tell all of the girls at the party that I suggested that she and her guy friend start something after I made it pretty clear that even though I had said it I really liked the guy. I'm still upset with her and it's difficult to talk to her about it and about anything going on crushwise. Is it my fault for introducing the idea to her or is it possible that she's purposefully trying to upset me? I like to think that she's not being insensitive because she's my best friend but she really hasn't made an effort to prove otherwise. (link)
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It is possible she's trying to get you back for suggesting that and then deciding YOU actually liked him and then flirting with him at her party even if she did sound okay with it. maybe later she thought about it and was all why would she do that to me?. you probably should remind her that you like him and you might want to tell her why you siad that in the first place. as for what everyone else is thinking i think you better just brush that off unless you want to go around telling everyone your side of the story. she also could've just wanted attention. but yes, she is very possibly jealous or mad at you so even if it's hard i advise you talk to her.
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ok so i moved to a different city but i still keep in touch with all my friends.MY best friend there espacailly we talk atleast twice a week but lately our talks have all turned into fights or me being a nag if she does something like smoke.i have been feeling like she doesnt care about me anymore so i told her we arent best friends anymore unless she can prove to me that she truly does care.But she says its to hard to impress me so she wont even try.what she doesnt understand is i just want to know that i mean something to her.i know she knows i care about her so why do i feel like she doesnt? (link)
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Alot of times friends move away and for some reason we don't really know they start bickering. It could be because you aren't part of her every day life anymore so she thinks you just don't get it or you just don't hang out like you used to so it feels like you aren't friends. Some people say they just "grow apart" because they have different experiences and all. She might just feel like you just left her. I think you should just flat out tell her that you just wanted to know that your friendship meant something to her. say it means something to you that's why you "nag" her, you're looking out for her. but if it doesn't mean anything to her it's really not worth it right now. i'm sorry to say you should probably focus on making friends in your new town right now (if she's being like that). maybe later if you go back to your old town for some reason you can try to patch it up but at this piont i think it's better letting both of you cool off and get used to things first.
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I know this guy and we knew each other but we never really talked talked. And recently we started "talking" well. He blocks his emotions out so he wont get hurt. And i am trying to make him trust me and show his feelings. But, he says he doesnt cry or get sad. He says his mind is blank and He blocks out things so he wont get hurt. I have NO idea how i can get around this, like to show him something he has never felt before. He hasnt even been tickled in a long time he said. I asked him if he liked romance he said Yeah, and i said like what. Hes like when a girl is sad or crying i like holding her. I said well, what about the other way around. He said like the girl holding me? I said yes. Hes liike well its never really happend to me. I wanna like ... i cant even explain it. Make him happy? he says nothing makes him happy, so i feel like i need to do something. I am not gunna just sit back and watch him sufer like this. He is 17 btw
Thanks so much! It means a lot (link)
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well your a great friend for wanting your friand to be happy but sometimes you just gotta be there for them. he's already started to open up to you if he told you all that so...just be there for him. people don't want to get hurt so doing that actually isn't that unusual. really, i know it takes alot of parience and you don't think it will help but...just be there for him and let him talk to you. who knows, maybe you'll be the girl who holds him. but for now i'd just keep talking to him.
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There's this guy from my clique who likes to irritate me. But anyway, he makes fun of everyone. I'm rather close to him as in like I can talk to him. Both of us belong to the same clique and I guess i can talk to him pretty well as compared to the rest in my clique.
Recently, he kept criticising bout me. Whenever he knows a guy is interested in me, he'd be like "What?! He has really bad taste". There's this other guy who was interested in me and he happens to know that guy as well. So he was telling me "Ya, anyway, he has really bad taste. His favourite girls from the FHM magazine are all not nice."
And he likes to put me down, saying for eg "everyone in our class is quite pretty.. except for ___(my name)"
And when i just randomly told him that someone said i look like one of the girls from a pop group,(the girl is a tomboy) he'd say "ya , people say that you look like the ugly lesbian part of her right?"
And I'd be like OK FINE! just what the hell is your problem. Can someone tell me just what the heck is he doing cos he's really pissing me off a lot. And it's not like he's so handsome ok! He's not handsome at all! And I'll be like yeah what right do you have to criticise people's appearance. (link)
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you shouldn't put up with that! seriously ask what his problem is. loud. so everyone will hear.
it is possible that he's jelous if you becuase people actually like you and you say he's not handsome or for some other equally stupid reason but even so you shouldn't have to deal with him. evn if he is part of your "clique" that kind of person isn't your friend.
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I have a best friend,
and we've been friends for a few years now,
but I'm really getting annoyed with her.
She always wants to hang out and its really frustrating to me to have someone constantly need me, I have other friends, unlike her.
She uses that as an excuse to make me hang out with her too.
What do I do?
I've already tried explaning to her
how I feel about it too.
But really shes getting on my nervous.
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i'm sorry if this first part doesn't really help but you should make some time for her (keep reading) just not all of it. if you ahve more friends try introducing some of them to her.if you know something she likes to do find some group that does it (ex.basketball team, drama club, etc.) and suggest she try for it (try out, audition). mention someone in your class that sounds cool that you don't really know that well and suggest she go over and talk to them. really she just needs to make friends, but she needs to do it on her own. don't be annoyed at her clinging to you, help her meet new people. like i siad she really just needs someons to hang with, everyone does. no one likes to be alolne.
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This girl named Leah lives in my neighborhood and goes to my school.
We used to be best friends sadly, until I kind of tried to keep my distance from her. The reason why I wanted to keep my distance from her is because she acted like total jerk to me for no reason (I'm not gonna list what all she did to me) and then went and cried to me telling her to forgive her. All of my friends were attacking me, so I forgave her and I really wish I didn't do that.
She's is an effing stalker and I'm not kidding. She copies EVERYTHING my friend and I do (Yeah, it's supossed to flattery. Well, it's driving me crazy) All she does is talk about my other friends and when I'm not around all she does is talk about ME behind MY back. She wrote my friend a note today and my friend showed it to me.
This is what it said:
You probably are wondering why I was upset this morning. (I talked to my friend who she wrote the note to and my friend said that she didn't even notice and plus she didn't really care. ) Well I was confused, annoyed, mad, and upset. Katie (Me) has a problem. Dayna (one of my other friends) yelling at me for copying you two didn't help either. I'm already upset enough and plus I'm on my period (I'm on mine too so wtf.) She wont even get within a bazillion feet of me (She's obsessed with me and my friend. I was a foot away from her today so I guess she's blind.)
God, she goes crying to her everytime she has some stupid problem with me and says all this crap about me.
ALL she does is talk about how she hates all of my friends. She started cussing at me when I tell her to stop and I stand up for them. She will sit there and talk and talk and every word she says is a lie. She has seriously changed so much since I first met her. I know she isn't going to go back to who she was. I honestly think she forgot who that actually IS!
She's been a jerk to me lately and I want her to leave me alone. I don't want to be her friend anymore and she can't get that through her head! I know this kind of sounds mean, but if I told you what all she's done to me you would know she's the one who is mean...not me.
I have her screen name if that helps.
How do I just slowly let our friendship fade or just plain out tell her I don't want to be friends with her anymore?
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ok so this is kind of a short answer relating to the question but obviosly you already tried just letting it fade away and that didn't work. so tell her how you feel the same way you found out how she did(write to her) or if you think she'll do some thing like pretend she didn't get the note just talk to her while no one else is around. tell her you think you've grown apart since you first met and give her some of your reasons like the many you've told us. if you don't want her as a friend just tell her that(maybe leave out the "get that through your head thing!!") andsay you don't want ot try to meand anything, right now you just need your space.
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