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I need new friends.
This my new year, 7th grade, and I want to make new friends and stuff. But sometimes I feel like some of my friends are like settling.. and dont really wanna make more friends. I mean, they are good people, but they just arent like me and my personality. Sometimes some of them are like tired for no reason and it really annoys me, especially cuz i may sleep for like 4 hours and still be energetic in the morning. yah we have our differences, but i'd like to meet somebody who i can just really have a good time with, and know that they seriously are my best friend. i already have some.. but.. idk. i dont really care if they're popular or anything, just not like butt ugly or whatever, and have similar interests as me somewhat,and stuff. or maybe im just being too tough and 'not appreciating my friends' but sometimes i feel as though they're kinda.. um dull.
any tips on how to meet new people? i guess i also tend to settle, and i get a little shy around new people and dont really show them my real self till they get to know me and i trust them and feel comfortable around them and stuff. how can i be like more outgoing or something? thanks a bunchh.
also, what traits do you admire about a person?
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maby you should be less shallow. and make friends with people regardless of whether theyre "butt ugly" or not.
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well can't you just keep your old freinds AND make new ones? you can do that you know.
as for making new friends though joining club or like doing new things (join a team or your youth group or something) is the obvious answer. also, since you probably just started middle school, get to know the people around you. i know you said your shy, i used to be like that too. mostly i hung out with my best friend who i can talk to about almost anything and we kind of met new people together so i could be talk casually to her then start talking casually to the person we're talking too. once you do it you see it's really not that hard.
and admirable triats. as cliche as it may sound...be yourself! if your not usually peppy or something and you think that might be an admirable trait, you don't have to just get peppy. just be friendly and talk about stuff you guys have in common or a teacher you guys don't like or something. but you should keep your old friends. you can't have too many friends.
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finding a new best friend doesn't just happen in a second. it takes a while to deveop that kind of relationship since you want someone who is "seriously your best friend" - well, if you want that, it may take a little bit and not always come automatically.
i don't know why your friends being tired annoys you. maybe they didn't get enough sleep. especially with school and everything (if your in school?) people are tired in the mornings, you're lucky to be able to be energetic on 4 hours of sleep.
i think that you should try not to be so tough on your friends that you ahve now. branching out is good, and i encourge you to try and meet new people and maybe that special person you just clique with will come along, but don't ditch or totally stop hanging out with your old best friends. hang out with new people, and the old.
to be outgoing and make friends, just smile and be a happy person. ask people questions about themselves, or start talking about common interests.
traits i would admire in a person are outgoing, friendly, funny, trustworthy, honest, loyal, they can be their own person, and more.
good luck!
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Well, just because you only need 4 hours of sleep (which isn't all that common btw) doesn't mean your friends are the same way. Some people need 6, 8 or 10 hours. I myself need at least 8. I dont even know why this would annoy you though, if your friends are tired then your friends are tired.
You might find them dull, and perhaps the sleep issue ties into that. Finding some other friends to 'flesh things out' might be a good thing, but I wouldn't drop your old friends just because they can't keep up with you (if, indeed, that is true).
If you are looking for for excitement, and friends that are a little more adventurous, I'd say just do some things solo and meet others who fit the bill. Just keep being open-minded and outgoing, and eventually I'm sure you'll meet, and make, some new friends. Plus I;ve always found that I've met new people while outgrowing old friends, its normal over time.
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