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Sex-but sadly...wait on her or what?
Well i dated a girl about a few years back. we went out for about a year; things happens blah blah blah. well anyways i still like her and i feel the same way. i've always wanted her to be my first but i dont know if that'd...happen.
This other girl, whose really into me. Seems to want the same relationship we have..and inside i feel that i cant replace what we had. But she wants to have sex with me, and i sware i am soo tempted but both the abstinence thing and the girl is stopping me. i dont want to regret anything, all i know for sure is that i want the first girl to be the girl i marry =\
really dramatic but if you can help thanks a million
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I think you should wait because the girl could just say that she is really into you and stuff just so she can have sex. Its better to wait too because it's a really important thing to someone(even if you dont think so, but trust me it is)and once it happens the relationship could end soon. Then you'll regret the things you did and wished that you had waited. So wait until you are absolutely sure you're ready and that its a good time in the relationship where you both trust each other. If not then things will just fall apart in the end.
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You'll never regret waiting (I'm not talking about waiting for marraige, just waiting in general & not rushing into sex), but there's a huge chance that you'll regret having sex with the second girl. It sounds like the first girl has your heart, & you should always trust your heart over your body. It may be tempting to have sex with the second girl, but all you need is a little self control & you'll be fine. You can't force a connection with someone. If it's not there with the second girl, don't do anything you'll regret.
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well go with the first girl and what becuse if you really love her you would wait but this other girl is tempting you just say no! and walk away marry this girl and be proud of yourself later i konw the more you wait the more you will get tempted so mary her and on your honey moon it will be wonderful.
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If you have chosen to wait until you marry the girl of your dreams, then you will have to have the self-control to stick with it. It really does not matter if you end up marrying the girl you have in mind or someone you have not met yet. What matters is having integrity to do what is right for you. Temptation never goes away, and some people think marriage will mean that it will be easier to be faithful, because you are having sex all the time. Well, this is not the case.
All people need to develop self-control in order to stand up against various temptations that threaten what they hold dear. Smokers are tempted by cigarettes, even though they know it will put their very lives at increased risk. Whether it is sex, gambling, food, spending...whatever the temptation, we all need to remember what is at stake; which, is usually more precious then the cheap and temporary satistaction of giving in...that can leave you feeling like you let yourself down most of all.
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Does the old girl like you?...you see..if she likes you i think you should get in contact with her...if she doesn't like you i dont think your with the right girl now. you need a girl who is going to do the same thing girl 1 did and obviously girl 2 isn't doing that for you. If your thinking of other girls while you have a girlfriend..thats not cool. I mean you care for this girl that your with right? then why do you want her to get hurt..because lets face it if you see girl 1 or meet a new girl 1 in a club or bar or something...your def. gonna try to talk to her. I think you need to figure out what it is you really want..and maybe you should talk to you girlfriend now about this. I hope i helped. Goodluck!
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well, I have to say you dont get this kind of sentiment from the guys as often as the girls.
MasterFunk's answer, as crude as it is, is a perfect example of the response you might get from a lot of guys. So, don't go dropping this question on guys you know unless you are sure they wont heckle you for years to come.
Whats the deal with the first chick, the one you dated? You might have feelings for her still, but be honest with yourself; if she either isn't willing to be with you again or even sleep with you at all, its a lost cause to hold your virginity for her when nothing is going to happen.
Waiting for the person you are going to marry is a long, lonely road. As crazy as relationships are , you might not even be talking to either of these chicks in a matter of time, and this whole thing becomes moot.
Do one of two things: either be TRULY abstinent and don't sleep with anyone until you are married (then at least you are sure), or drop this whole thing and give the 2nd girl a chance, and just go with it.
Lastly, sex is not love. Love is not sex.
The saying "One in the hand is worth two in the bush" (no pun intended you sickos rofl) is also apt here - you have a girl who is into you, and you dont want to sleep with her in order to save yourself for someone you haven't, or may never, meet. Like I said, if you are going to be absinent do it the whole way, or drop it and be with this 2nd girl. From her point of view, it may not be fair to her to keep some things closed off from her because of this romantic ideal you have.
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don't listen to the last guy. He's obviously a retard. Anyway, about your question ... your virginity is something you should cherish because once it's gone, your NOT gonna get it back. my friend lost it when she was about 13, and she says she really regrets it. well,that said, if you really want to go through with it, I think you should make a list of the pros/cons of each girl. and I'm not talking about if she has a zit on her forehead or anything like that. I'm talking about,say, if she cheated on you w/ your best friend. That would be a BIG con. Also, think of who you can most likely see yourself with in about 10 years. Bt, the choice is really all up to you. I hope I helped.
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