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Hey Guys, My name's Nikki. I'm 15 years young, and I'm always willing to help with anything you need. Don't be afraid to ask. I answer everyone's questions like I would if they were my best friends -honest & to the point-. If you ask me if those jeans make you look fat, and they do, I'll tell you. Haha. If you wish to add me on myspace or whatever, my info's on my column. Talk to you soon.
~Nikki~

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I want to get a tattoo on my ankle for my 18th Bday.
I want this tattoo, but on my ankle.

http://flickr.com/photos/clairebriston/2445810981/in/set-72057594061238578/

Can anyone explain how much pain it is? Or tell me a place that would be less painful?

Well, I can't really tell you EXACTLY how painful it'll be because I have yet to get my first tattoo, but if you plan on having it on your ankle, then yeah, I would expect at least some pain because of that bone right there. However, since it's such a small design, it shouldn't take that long to ink in, so at least it'll be over quickly. You should be thankful you chose a small tattoo instead of a full back piece or something like that. =P

I hope I've helped a tiny bit.
~Nikki

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Okay, well I'm not a big TV and radio fan. I get all the music I listen to from MySpace or the internet. And so now, I can't find any good music. Help please.

I prefer the following genres:
`Acoustic
`Alternative
`Dance
`Dance Rock
`Electro
`Electronic
`Electronica [is there a difference b/w the 3?]
`Emo
`Indie
`New Wave
`Pop Rock
`Powerpop
`Rock
`Trace
`& Any good soundtrack song from movies [ex. Marie Antoinette]

Some of my favorite artist are:
`Albert Hammond Jr.
`All Time Low
`Amber Pacific
`Backseat Goodbye
`The Beatles
`Benny Benassi
`Cobra Starship
`Daphne Loves Derby
`Fall Out Boy
`Forever the Sickest Kids
`Jason Mraz
`John Mayer
`Justin Nozuka
`Katy Perry
`Ladytron
`Meg & Dia
`Metro Station
`Phantom Planet
`Playradioplay!
`A Rocket To The Moon
`The Scene Aesthetic
`Shwayze
`Tegan & Sara
`Yellowcard
`You say party! We say die!

Thanks so much in advance!
Sorry, if it's too much.

-Madina Lake
-The Medic Droid
-Jamestown Story (or "and then I turned 7", same band, they just changed their name.)
-Danger Is My Middle Name
-Uncrowned
-We The Kings
-Panic at the disco ( I like their old stuff better than their new.)
-Secondhand Serenade
-T.A.T.U.
-Family Force 5
-Flyleaf
-Chiodos
-Atreyu
-Paramore



I know I have more, I just can't think right now. Haha. I hope I've helped.
~Nikki~

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i wanna get a pair of boots..i normally wear a 7 but they only have a 6 1/2..i Really love them so much..would it make a big difference?

Well, I know it would to me. What's the point in getting boots if you wouldn't be comfortable? I know they'd look good and everything, but you wouldn't be able to walk for a while if you got a huge blister on your toe or something. It depends on the store you're getting them from, but usually for a few dollars more, they'll let you special order your size if they don't have it in stock. just ask one of the employee's there if that option's available. If you're shopping online, I'm sure you can find the same boots (or, at least boots fairly close to the ones you want) on Ebay or something. Or you could just wait until they restock. Then you might be able to find your size.

I hope I helped. =)
~Nikki~

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Well
I've had sex with my bf once.
And that was it.
Everytie i kiss him a certain way, hold him a certain way, touch him a certain way of stuff like that, he gets a little "excited".
He tells me that i give him boners all the time (and he makes me pretty dern horny) and that he loves me (we've been going out for a year) and he lets me touch his happy place and all but it never really goes any further....
How can I tell him I want to have sex with him again without making him feel awkward?

Haha, really, if he TELLS you that you give him boners all the time, it really shouldn't be that awkward if you just ask him "Do you want to?" If he's smart enough, he should know what you mean. But, if you're a bit more shy than I am, which, is pretty hard to be....then find a place where you KNOW for sure you're alone (I don't really know how difficult this would be for you since I don't really know your age...) Then once you think the moment's right, just either ask him like I said before, or tell him that you think you're ready to try it out again. I know it's not much, but I hope I've helped.
~Nikki~

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Ok, I don't mean to sound all baby-ish and be like "oh u should feel bad for me" but nobody notices me. I have depression and I have done stuff in class I shouldn't do, and nobody has noticed. My friends tell me they would notice, but they never do. I want people to notice me. I'm ugly and i feel fat compared to everybody else, but my friends tell me i'm not. I don't believe them. In a way I want to become popular, and I know I want to have ppl and guys like me. Any suggestions? Without being to harsh please!

ok, chances are, you're not ugly or fat, so you might as well just throw that thought out of the window. and as for people noticing you, try to talk to them instead of waiting for them to talk to you. try to meet a new person in school every day, just gather up some courage, and go talk to someone. soon enough, you'll get to know more and more people and they'll see you for who you really are. here's my view on it: more people= more freinds. more freinds = more popularity!
I hope i've helped in some way.
~Nikki~

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im 14f.

well last week i met a guy that i rele fancied and still want to go out with. i was with him and a few other guys by this party and i rele wanted him, so i went down on him, then a couple of his mates, but he didnt seem to wana talk to me much after.
we saw each other a few times ova the week and i made sure to wear short skirts and stuff and do things with him, but now hes with a different girl and they r going like a couple now and thats what i wanted. i tried everything but i cant get him to like me! i dont kno if its coz the other girl is better at giving head or if i wasnt good enuff, but loads of boys say im gd at it. what should i do?! and can i get him back and with me as a boyfriend?!

ok girl, Im 13 and i know you might not take me seriously but I've also been with a lot of guys and relationships aren't all about sex and trying to show off your skills at giving head. Some guys (believe it or not) just dont want someone that is always willing to do that stuff. sometimes (if they're actually decent) they want a relationship that's based on trust and love, not sex and lust. Maybe he just didnt have the same feelings for you that you had for him. and if he didn't you probably can't change that. Im sorry if thats not exactly what you wanted to hear, but its true. personally, i think that you should just find another boy that wants the same stuff that you want in a relationship. The guy's probably really happy with his girl and possibly, in love. i hope everything works out good for you. and if you ever need any other advice, just ask me. Ill most likely be around for a while.
~Nikki~

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what are some different bands that aren't really heard about that much? i like bands like brand new and manchester orchestra -but i'm not too picky. i like indie, screamo, expiremental, etc. (anything really) any others that not every body has heard every song by them yet? that'd be great!
ps. i've tried to look around and not really much luck.

Madina Lake is an awesome band! you should check em out. ^_^

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Is it sad that I am 16 and never had a boyfriend? I feel stupid walking through the halls seeing all the couples and knowing that I have yet to experience that. Please let me know if I'm pathetic.

of course your not pathetic. you could be one of the best girls in school and not have a bf. the thing with boys is, they go after the girls who are easy, not even bothering to go after the ones that are actually worth something. (now, im not saying that all GFs are sluts) and while they're going after the easy ones, the good ones are all walking around wondering whats wrong with them. thinking that they're fat, ugly, too clumsy, or just plain wierd when the truth is, they are the most wonderful girls in the whole school. put this into concideration and let me know if your view on anything changes. ( just think about it. there's probably a guy that likes you right now but is just to shy to say anything) i hope i've helped.
~Nikki

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my 3 aunts and my mom and evry1 thinks im going gothic~but i dont think i really am atleast not as much as most ppl~i do love black nails and most of my clothes are black~i do hate my life i only have 7 friends~im a girl my friends are 4 other more gothier ppl a prep tht are all girls and my bffs are a guy and a girl who just has ther own styles~i just feel normal when im around friends and i hate being around my family~around my friends they act like nothings different~around my family there always sayin how they hate my clothes and how i act and tellin me to stop doing different things~i love spencers hot topic and clairs~i did want red or purple tips~and every1 thinks im gothic i guess kind but my mom says shed burn my black~i do not wear all black and not even evryday~i do really act like it but i try not to around them~yes i do think i am ~most of my cousins bffs are gothic but their 18~but they said they would kill me if i did and i no they wouldnt kill me but theyd do something~dont say talk to themthere not tht kind of family they dont care wat i say i can not talk to them~srry tht im gothic but its not my falut i like the style i hate my life and evry1 cuts me down on everything~wat do i do

the exact same thing is happenning to me. 1 time i was around my uncle (which is REALLY into the whole church scene) and i had my black nail polish on and he started giving me a lecture on how, in his words, "goths are evil satanists who sit there and mope around all day and cut themselves because they feel like no-one cares". I was just sitting there listening to him and after he walked away, i realized, I DONT CARE AND NEITHER SHOULD YOU. Do what you want. like the person before me said, you shouldn't apologize for being goth. goths are people too, you know? they eat, sleep, cry, bleed, think, and all that stuff. just because you like/wear black doesnt mean that you're goth or that you have to go goth. just be yourself. I hope I've helped in some way.
~Nikki

P.S: Red tips are awesome!!! ;)

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okay so i am 16 years old/female and i have only gotten my period once.. when i was 14. i think this is really wierd because like i have gone through every other part of puberty, like im done growing and my boobs are big and everything. when i did get my period it was a full 6 days and i dont know why i never got it again. it was late to begin with too since i have been the same height and stuff since i last got it. my parents say want to take me to get blood work done and im scared though. what could be the reason for not getting it? i've also never had sex and i also get a normal amount of discharge. help please!!!!

usually i dont say this, but your parents are probably right. you should probably go see a doctor or something. you really shouldn't be scared since it's just your period, but if you've only gotten your period once, and that was 2 years ago, most likey there's something wrong with your uterus(sp?) But, anyway, the sooner you find out the better. try to listen to me please. My name is Nikki and i'm 13 and i kno, you probably think i'm too young to know what i'm talking about and all that, but trust me. my freind went to the doctor the other day bcuz her mom was getting worried because she's almost 14 and she still hasnt gottne her period yet and the doctor said that if you still havent gotten it by the time your 14 or so, you should get it checked out right away. once again, please listen to me and see a doctor. if you need me for anything else, you can probably figure out what to do. My AIM is: rockchick132006. thanks for listening, (or at least reading this whole thing) ttys.
~Nikki~

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So i love this kid,
ive liked him on and off for 3 years.
He's went out with my friend many times and they broke up becuz they had a bad relationship, then over the summer, me and him kinda had a summer fling, and we went back to school and i still loved him but hes going to ask out the same girl again and i know she likes him.
IM very jealous of her, but the thing is , no one else likes her, shes not that pretty or anything special, shes actually kinda weird.
How should I deal with this?
Im soo jealous :[

haha. sounds like what happened to me last summer. Think of how the other girl feels, and whenever your jealousy gets the best of you, think of how she would feel if you did whatever you were going to do to her. also, if you can, try to just ignore both of them for a little while,try to focus on school. at least until they break up again. then I would probably say its safe to go after the guy.

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Well i dated a girl about a few years back. we went out for about a year; things happens blah blah blah. well anyways i still like her and i feel the same way. i've always wanted her to be my first but i dont know if that'd...happen.

This other girl, whose really into me. Seems to want the same relationship we have..and inside i feel that i cant replace what we had. But she wants to have sex with me, and i sware i am soo tempted but both the abstinence thing and the girl is stopping me. i dont want to regret anything, all i know for sure is that i want the first girl to be the girl i marry =\

really dramatic but if you can help thanks a million

don't listen to the last guy. He's obviously a retard. Anyway, about your question ... your virginity is something you should cherish because once it's gone, your NOT gonna get it back. my friend lost it when she was about 13, and she says she really regrets it. well,that said, if you really want to go through with it, I think you should make a list of the pros/cons of each girl. and I'm not talking about if she has a zit on her forehead or anything like that. I'm talking about,say, if she cheated on you w/ your best friend. That would be a BIG con. Also, think of who you can most likely see yourself with in about 10 years. Bt, the choice is really all up to you. I hope I helped.

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Girls, do you think that facial hair on a 15 year old guy is attractive. I know that girls don't really like mustaches. But do girls like anything, or should I just stay clean?

personally I like it clean, but you can do whatever. It just feels kinda funky when you kiss.

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websites silimar to myspace

xanga.com and myyearbook.com. (I personally like myyearbook 'cause it has a lot of stuff to do such as qizzes and jokes)

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