I am 19 and live in Massachusettes. I love listening to music. I graduated from high school..class of '07. I like giving advice to people because there is always someone who needs and i need it too. well if you ever want advice from me feel free to send me a question or IM me. my AIM is listed on my Advice Column page.
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Okay so my hair is very thick. It was kind of unhealthy so I trimmed it myself... which I've never really done before.
...I heard that if you cut your hair a certain way, it may take awhile to grow back to the way it was. My hair usually grows extremely fast... and I cut it months ago and it's barely grown. I mean it does little by little but is there something wrong with my hair? I cut a few inches off and it's still pretty close to the same length... maybe a few centimeters longer..
I try to use some good shampoo and conditioners but i don't even know if that will really help.
should I worry?
will it grow back normally eventually? =[ (link)
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i took cosmetology and your hair will grow back normally unless you have a condition that won't allow it to. however, hair on just about everyone grows a 1/2 inch a month. so be patient, it just takes time. =)
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for two years now. We've been having since since the second month. I've only ever been on top maybe 3 or 4 times. I don't know why, but I feel wierd in this position. I feel like I can't move. Or I don't know how to. It's really embarrasing because I feel like he's always doing the work. I feel like it should be both ways. Any advice or websites or somethin that I could learn how to move properly. Ha wow this is awkward. THANKS =] (link)
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I find that it is easier to lean toward him. Like have your hands one on each side of his head on the floor or bed. Then it's kind of like sliding your body up and down his. And if you would prefer to stay sitting up straight, then it would most likely be easier to bounce up and down and occasinally move your hips around in a circular motion. Hope I helped =)
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i have recently taken a likeing to some screamo music. Anybody know of some good music, that is kind of like alternative/rock/and screamo combined. All of my friends hate this kind of music,so they don't know of any bands. but i'm starting to dig the music. so please, Help? Ooh, preferably before monday, because that way i'll have a chance to upload it to my ipod. (link)
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you might want to try listening to Brokencyde..they have some good screamo stuff. not sure if there is any on itunes tho since i dont have an ipod. and their myspace has some of their stuff up. thats all i can think of right now, but if i can think of anymore bands then i will post on this again
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i was just wondering what you (a girl) would think or do if you found out i (a guy) was wearing a thong or what youre feelings would be? (link)
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Im sorry but i personally would probably laugh till tears came out of my eyes.
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this is very embarrassing, but my boyfriend often teases me about having hair around my butt hole. is this normal? I'm a 17 year old girl and i was wondering if its normal or not. its not very hairy at all but there is a tiny amount of hair around it.. is that weird? (link)
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Get it waxed...it might seem awkward but you wont have to worry about it for some time and it will be smoother. Plus you dont got to worry about cutting yourself.
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whats a good type of birth control? (link)
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For the pill form I would suggest Loestrin 24 FE. Its what I take and I think its wonderful because you only get your period for about three days. It's also less heavier. But when being sexually active condoms are also good to use at the same time because its added protection. The pill isn't completely 100% effective and neither is the condom at preventing pregnancy. Also, the pill doesn't protect against STD's. A combination of the 2 however will make the chances of getting pregant or and STD less likely.
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I am going on birth control (i'm not sure what brand yet...i just got a blood test done...i am seeing the doctor for persciption and stuff next week)
while on the pill (or patch or w/e i get) can you have sex w/o a condom and still be safe?
Yes; i know that having both is ideal. and yes i know that BC doesnt stop STD's or anything; im just curious...
and also; do you still have your period while taking birth control? or is it stopped? (link)
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Like any method of birth control you use whether it be the pill or a condom, etc..there is always a chance of getting pregnant. I know this because of friends who have gotten pregnant while takin the pill. If you take the pill as you are supposed to the chances of it happening are less likely. But if you absolutely don't want there to be a possibility either use a condom or don't have sex. And as for still getting your period the answer is yes for the most part. There are many pills where you have 3 weeks of active pills which stops it and one week of pills where you will have your period. Another kind of pill (which I am on) is Loestrin 24FE. There is 3 1/2 weeks of active pills and only 4 of the other ones. On those last 4 is when you'll have your period. If you want more information in Loestrin 24FE try this site: www.shorterperiod.com I am pretty sure thats the site. And another type of pill is Seasonale which you only get your period I believe four times a year.
This is what I can give you for help and other questions you have you should as the doctor. And you can research it through google or something. Some things you might want to talk to your doctor about are the different forms of birth control you could use. Because there are many forms such as the pill, the shot, the patch, the ring, and others that doctors insert in you that stay there for lenghty amounts of time.
Hope I helped =)
And good luck
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Hey guys.
First i'm going to start this, i am 15/f.
My boyfriend is 17.
Well, we started going out a month ago. Everything was really good, we had our ups and downs, but i really care about him.
Lately he has been really busy, and kind of pushing me to the side. It seems like he doesn't care about me anymore. He barely talks to me at all. One time i asked him to do something, but he went out with his friends instead. I would be mad about that if his friends weren't my best friends.
But yeah, everyone says to talk to him about it but i can't even do that! He will get mad at me, and i know he will; it has happened before.
Anyone know what i should do? i'm woried i will loose him and i really don't want to. (link)
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Honestly, even if it kills you inside, you should end it. This is from personal experience too. It just happened to me about 2 weeks ago, except I was the 17 year old and my boyfriend was the 15 year old and we were together for 6 months. Well the first 4 months went wonderful but the last two got bad. Always arguing and he never really wanted to be with me, pushing me away. And when I'd try talking to him about something he too would get mad about it. Now that we;re not together I am hearing things like he was using me and stuff and he just didn't know how to end it. So there is a possibility that he has lost feelings for you and just doesn't know how to end it, hoping you will get sick of his game and break up with him. Thats how some guys are. And it does hurt but it might be the best thing. I really hope I helped and I know how you feel.
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Well i dated a girl about a few years back. we went out for about a year; things happens blah blah blah. well anyways i still like her and i feel the same way. i've always wanted her to be my first but i dont know if that'd...happen.
This other girl, whose really into me. Seems to want the same relationship we have..and inside i feel that i cant replace what we had. But she wants to have sex with me, and i sware i am soo tempted but both the abstinence thing and the girl is stopping me. i dont want to regret anything, all i know for sure is that i want the first girl to be the girl i marry =\
really dramatic but if you can help thanks a million (link)
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I think you should wait because the girl could just say that she is really into you and stuff just so she can have sex. Its better to wait too because it's a really important thing to someone(even if you dont think so, but trust me it is)and once it happens the relationship could end soon. Then you'll regret the things you did and wished that you had waited. So wait until you are absolutely sure you're ready and that its a good time in the relationship where you both trust each other. If not then things will just fall apart in the end.
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how much is a pregnancy test usually? (link)
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store brand is usually around 7 or 8 dollars. then there is the more expensive ones like ept and others that go for somewhere between 15 and 25 dollars. hope i helped!
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last saturday (may 13th)me and my boyfriend were having sex and the condom broke. he noticed it a few minutes after it had broken but he hadnt cummed yet. there was still precum though and im worried i might be pregnant. ive been showing all the signs. having to go to the bathroom a lot, severe mood changes, eating a lot more, and ive been having dreams everynight since then. like sex dreams and dreams where im pregnant. im suppose to be getting my period around the 27th so could it just be PMS or should i get a test if my period is late? i rate 5's (link)
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Although you have been showing the signs doesn't always mean your pregnant. Worrying about it and thinking about it a lot will sometimes make your body think you really are. So naturally it will do what it would if you were pregnant. Wait a couple days to see if you get your period. If you dont wait a couple more because it just might come late. Then if it still doesn't come get a test.
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My sister has a myspace and shes only 13 well i made it so itsaid she was fourteen.. she has a ton of people on there she doesnt know. and she doesnt know how to control herself around people she dont know she'll talk to them and tell them stuff. How can i tell if She has a Private myspace.
She is a friend on mine so i cant just view hers to find out.
id really appreciate it.
thx (link)
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you can ask someone who isn't her friend on myspace to go look at her page and see if it comes up as private or not. or you cn create another account of your own (which you probably dont want to do) and check it that way. you can even give me her link if you go to my page and i'll check it out for you and let you know. if you go with that last one send me a message to my myspace: http://www.myspace.com/ideclareidontcarenomore well i hope i've helped
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I'm a tiny little person (13/f) and my mom wants me to exercise. Aside from burning off fat and staying at a healthy weight, why is it important to exercise? (link)
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It's also important to exercise because it will give you more energy to do things during the day. Also because you'll be able to do more things when needed. But it's mostly cuz of staying healthy and having energy.
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what if your bestest friend only says "your mom" as a comeback?! what do i say to that loserface?!?! (link)
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well it depends on if you take it personally. if you don't take it personally then say it back. if you do, then say something so they get the point.
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alot has been going on around me. i'm really depressed. well last night i thought of cutting but i dont have the guts to do it. so instead with a pin i carved an X into my wrist. i feel so addicted i did it again this morning. i keep having these suicidal thoughts and i dont know whats wrong. my life is a mess. and i dont know what to do help? (link)
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I had the same problem as you. I had the urge to cut but was too afraid so I used a safety pin. It's still not a good way to deal with things so I tried like someone already said snapping an elastic on my wrist. It worked for a while but I eventually got used to it and it didn't help. Now I have found my own way to deal with my problems. For me, because music and swimming are like the most important things to me, I go listen to music,write poems, swim, or anything that involves those things. It helps me escape from everything else because they are what I love and NOTHING can change that. So you should find something that you love doing so much that is safe and do that whenever you are stressed or depressed.
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I'm 13, and I weight 115 lbs. I want to drop a few pounds so that my thighs are slimmer and my stomach doesn't poke out of my shirt. Most of me is pretty skinny except for those 2 areas. I'm horrible with commitment so how do I take off the weight and keep it off? ( I'm very busy so exercising for a long time is a no, I'm not good at staying with the "no soda" act either) (link)
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you don't have to exercise for a long time for things to happen. all you have to do is try to work out for at least 15 minutes during the day even if its right when you wake up. do a few crunches/sit ups (takes about 5 minutes)and try to find a site that will show you different leg toning steps. that should be all you need if you stick to it at least 3-5 times a week
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Ok so theres this guy and I really really like him. We've never talked but hes so so cute I can't get over it. He has like, the perfect smile and he's adorable. Ever since I first saw him ,which was a while ago, I've wanted to be with him. I know it sounds cheesy or obsesive but I'm not. I mean if I was I would have talked to him already right? Well I really want to talk to him but I think it might be kinda awkward if I talk to him out of no where. No one knows I've liked him yet. But I might tell someone soon. Anyways, I was just wondering if theres a way I could talk to him without it being awkward or weird. I'm friends with some of his friends too by the way thats how I first saw him. But I really like this kid and he seems really sweet so is there anyway I can like become friends without seeming weird? We've hung out together once but we were with a group of our freinds so we didn't really talk. He knows who I am but we've just never talked. I'll give a 5 to anyone that answers nicly cause I really need help!
Thanks so much! XoALyssa (link)
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i don't know how much help this will be to you but i have the same problem too most of the time. and i always ask my friends for help. they always tell me to just go talk to him but i never know about what. i'm guessing you don't know what to say to him. when i'm in that situation i pay attention to things that his friends say about him and learn what i can about him. if you find out something interesting just go up to him and bring it up in someway. for instance you find out he likes dogs then say something about your dog(if you have one) or something that will make him be like "hey, she likes dogs i do too...maybe she's pretty cool after all" well i hope this helps and if it does let me know. this is the first question i answered so yea..
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