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Ignoring.
Hey guys.
First i'm going to start this, i am 15/f.
My boyfriend is 17.
Well, we started going out a month ago. Everything was really good, we had our ups and downs, but i really care about him.
Lately he has been really busy, and kind of pushing me to the side. It seems like he doesn't care about me anymore. He barely talks to me at all. One time i asked him to do something, but he went out with his friends instead. I would be mad about that if his friends weren't my best friends.
But yeah, everyone says to talk to him about it but i can't even do that! He will get mad at me, and i know he will; it has happened before.
Anyone know what i should do? i'm woried i will loose him and i really don't want to.
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As I started reading your question, my first thought was this: Let him be distant for a while. This is how guys tend to cope with stress.
However, you then went on to say that he has gotten mad at you for talking to him about things. It has been a month. If he is getting mad at you easily, this is a bad sign. It seems that he is a moody person with a temper. This is not a good person to be in a relationship with. You say you don't want to lose him, but remember that it has only been a month. You are young and you will be able to find a guy who will treat you well. All guys get moody sometimes, but getting mad enough to make you not want to talk to him, that is a different thing altogether.
That is my opinion based solely on what you said. Because you have mutual friends, perhaps you should ask them if this behavior is normal for him. If it is, leave him. If it isn't, give him some time and space and see what happens. If he hasn't stopped this in a week or two, talk to him. If he gets mad, leave him. You have too much of your life ahead of you. You don't need to put up with this.
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Honestly, even if it kills you inside, you should end it. This is from personal experience too. It just happened to me about 2 weeks ago, except I was the 17 year old and my boyfriend was the 15 year old and we were together for 6 months. Well the first 4 months went wonderful but the last two got bad. Always arguing and he never really wanted to be with me, pushing me away. And when I'd try talking to him about something he too would get mad about it. Now that we;re not together I am hearing things like he was using me and stuff and he just didn't know how to end it. So there is a possibility that he has lost feelings for you and just doesn't know how to end it, hoping you will get sick of his game and break up with him. Thats how some guys are. And it does hurt but it might be the best thing. I really hope I helped and I know how you feel.
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if hes pushing you to the side and not giving u any time or attention maybe it would best if you hung out with new people i noe its hard but everyone needs someone to luv them nd hes not givin u dat luv so i hope this works out nd everything goes ok good luck :)
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Ehhh, I'll leave it up to you to decide, but I would get out if I was you. He's gotten mad at you before over something like that? He's going to get mad at you again if you try to talk to him about something?
That's just a preview of just how things could really be if you keep going with it.
Talk to him about it, and yes you can do it. So what if he gets mad at you. If he really cared about you, and seriously did want to be your friend, then he would make some effort to keep things from falling apart...not get mad at you for trying to save things.
Don't worry about losing him. If he does get mad at you over something like this, then is he really worth it? Please, if you take anything out of this answer, just realize that you have to be close best friends for relationships to work out (for the most part). If there's no friendship part between you and him, then he's not boyfriend, just a boy. Think things through and talk talk talk talk talk to him, you can do it. Is he really being a friend to you? Hope that helped and good luck.
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If he is ignoring you or pushing you away maybe there is something he is trying to tell you but hasn't found the right time or way. Try talking to him about this situation, I know you said he will get mad, but tell him he needs to understand. If he doesn't listen, I doubt that this relationship will go anywhere. If he gets mad, he isn't for you, there are guys out there just waiting for you to pop out in front of them, give someone else a chance if your boyfriend is too stubborn to take it. ♥ Hope it all works out for you in the best way possible.
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umm why dont you talk to him about this? it seems like he's either pissed off or wanting to break up with you.
edit: well if youre not mature or ballsy enough to talk to your boyfriend should you even have one? take the responsibility and do something about it. if he gets pissed over stupid shit like that why the hell do you want to keep going out with him?
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