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I swear I'm going to scream at her the next time I see her.
This girl named Leah lives in my neighborhood and goes to my school.
We used to be best friends sadly, until I kind of tried to keep my distance from her. The reason why I wanted to keep my distance from her is because she acted like total jerk to me for no reason (I'm not gonna list what all she did to me) and then went and cried to me telling her to forgive her. All of my friends were attacking me, so I forgave her and I really wish I didn't do that.
She's is an effing stalker and I'm not kidding. She copies EVERYTHING my friend and I do (Yeah, it's supossed to flattery. Well, it's driving me crazy) All she does is talk about my other friends and when I'm not around all she does is talk about ME behind MY back. She wrote my friend a note today and my friend showed it to me.
This is what it said:
You probably are wondering why I was upset this morning. (I talked to my friend who she wrote the note to and my friend said that she didn't even notice and plus she didn't really care. ) Well I was confused, annoyed, mad, and upset. Katie (Me) has a problem. Dayna (one of my other friends) yelling at me for copying you two didn't help either. I'm already upset enough and plus I'm on my period (I'm on mine too so wtf.) She wont even get within a bazillion feet of me (She's obsessed with me and my friend. I was a foot away from her today so I guess she's blind.)
God, she goes crying to her everytime she has some stupid problem with me and says all this crap about me.
ALL she does is talk about how she hates all of my friends. She started cussing at me when I tell her to stop and I stand up for them. She will sit there and talk and talk and every word she says is a lie. She has seriously changed so much since I first met her. I know she isn't going to go back to who she was. I honestly think she forgot who that actually IS!
She's been a jerk to me lately and I want her to leave me alone. I don't want to be her friend anymore and she can't get that through her head! I know this kind of sounds mean, but if I told you what all she's done to me you would know she's the one who is mean...not me.
I have her screen name if that helps.
How do I just slowly let our friendship fade or just plain out tell her I don't want to be friends with her anymore?
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if you dont like someone dont pretend to. you dont have to be friends with her or answer to anybody else about it. just tell her you dont want to be friends or slowly break off contact with her. dont live in deciet its not a happy home
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ok so this is kind of a short answer relating to the question but obviosly you already tried just letting it fade away and that didn't work. so tell her how you feel the same way you found out how she did(write to her) or if you think she'll do some thing like pretend she didn't get the note just talk to her while no one else is around. tell her you think you've grown apart since you first met and give her some of your reasons like the many you've told us. if you don't want her as a friend just tell her that(maybe leave out the "get that through your head thing!!") andsay you don't want ot try to meand anything, right now you just need your space.
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well, she seems a little crazy to me, so talking to her might not make any difference.
I don't know, I'd try to act really annoying around her so she would leave me alone by choice. Or introduce her to someone else so she can stalk them instead
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i know what you are feeling the samething happend to me!!! but by following you and your friend around and doing wat you do well she is just trying to show u that she looks up to you!!
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I think you should flat out tell her how you feel. You already tried to keep your distance from her, but that failed.
Plus, you don't need to be hanging around someone who causes drama and is just plain mean.
When you tell her, make sure that you two are alone, that she's not in a bad mood, and that you don't yell. Yelling will only make her defensive and less likely to listen to what you really have to say. Try to avoid arguing, too.
Say something along the lines of this, "_____ (her name), you've been really mean to me lately and I don't like it. I don't deserve to be treated like that. If you're going to keep being mean, I'd prefer that we not be friends anymore."
Forgive her. Don't be mean to her, but don't become friends with her again.
If she continues to follow you and be mean, you probably want to get help from an adult.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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Wow, who needs enimies when you have friends like that! It seems to me that you already have tried letting it slowly fade away, and that didn't work. I suggest that you confront her about all the horrible things she has done to you and tell her how you feel. Yeah I know it sounds corny but it's the only way. you need to tell her that what she's doing is bothering you and that you want her to stop. If she does then problem solved, but if she accuses you of bieng mean, or continues what she's doing you have to drop her. Trust me that you don't want someone like that around you. Either tell her face to face thatm it's over or call her on the phone. Do not send a not e or e-mail though it could be used against you later on. Most importantly I know that it sounds cold but if she comes back to you with another sob story you have to see through it. don't allow her to suck up to you and worm her way back in. Stand strong, it's the right thing.
Well I hope this helps!
Tell me if it doesn't.
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