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Q: Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good?

i usually use both,my heavy days i use pads and tampons, lighter days i use just pads.Everyones different though.For pads i use always without those butterfly things there too annoying and complicated lol and for tampons i use tampax pearl you cant feel that its even in there! both products work really well i dont really use any other brands.

♥ danielle

Q: I used to be what they call a cutter. I've been good and "clean" for about 9 months now. (I was never "emo" so comments referring to this topic like that are really unnecessary.) It was a security thing, really, and after about 3 years of hiding it I realized the only way to stop would be to tell people and get professional help. I REALLY didn't want to tell anyone, so I kind of let them find out for themselves. See, instead of cutting on my thighs or my stomach, like I normally did for those past three years, I started on my wrist so people would notice. Oh, they did notice and my parents got me the help I really needed.

I got over it and found better ways to cope. I've been coping through exercise, music, and just being positive about living no matter the situation. On saturday night I got really stressed out though. I had these plans to go somewhere with some new friends, I didn't actually want to go in the first place, but I didn't want anyone telling me that I couldn't go. Well, my dad took my car keys and wouldn't let me go because he didn't know the people really well. I understood, it was better that I didn't go anyway, but I got really pissed.

So, I kept going up to my room and thinking about cutting. The first 3 or 4 times I actually stopped myself and I went back downstairs to the TV room so I wouldn't do anything I might regret later. Eventually it got to the point that I couldn't hold off and everything was building up inside. I kept thinking about the rush, satisfaction, and release that I associate with cutting myself. I picked up my old evil habit and let the frustration run out of my veins. Now, I'm so disappointed in myself that the habit seems like the only way to make myself feel better. The craving is very strong right now because I feel bad that I did it in the first place. I know that continuing this path is destructive though and I should keep fighting these urges off.

I'm seeing my shrink at the end of this week, but for now I need some words of advice. I'm just annoyed about it, and the new cuts (on my leg and torso) aren't even deep at all, thankfully. I'm just afraid I'll keep doing it and they'll get deeper like they did before. Positive thoughts?

Although ive never cut myself (i thought of it but i couldnt stand the sight of blood),i used to scratch my arms and legs when i was depressed in middle school and the beginning of high school because of my weight i was unhappy and used to scratch myself as a release,This sounds silly but i watched an oprah show on weight and depression and it was almost like a wake up call for me i realized how im lucky to have the life i have and the people who are in my life.So i started to lose weight and stopped scratching myself and i felt so much better! To take out my frustrations now I write them in a journal i furiously write down what im feeling and after im done i feel so much better.Im starting to write songs now,music is deffinately now my release :) I think you should find your own "release" whether its music or painting a picture take out your frustrations on things that could potentially be something great like a great song or an amazing piece of artwork,just dont take out those frustrations on yourselr no good comes from it.Im glad you realize that cutting yourself is a horrible thing.Next time you see your psychologist tell them what you just told us,and show her your cuts dont leave anything out!Its clear you still have a long way too go but your getting there your getting help and thats awesome! I know youll get through this! Im going to pray for you everyday :)
Let me know how your progressing,id love to hear from you!

♥ danielle

Q: i shave my vaginia a lot and i get realllyy bad razor burn but i really need a way of healing it because i have a boyfriend and he can not see it!!!!!!!

do you know how to cure razor burn???

ugh i absolutely HATE razorburn.I found a few websites that i thought might help:

http://www.wikihow.com/Treat-Razor-Burn

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080809124235AAYDyOY

http://www.oohoi.com/natural%20remedy/home%20remedy/Home-Remedy-for-Razor-Burn.htm

http://www.iloveindia.com/home-remedies/razor-burns.html
http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/health/how-to-get-rid-of-razor-burn/

I actually got razor burn a few weeks ago,and i needed it gone fast.I looked online and found a website where someone said put deodorant on the area i thought noway that works but it actually really does! i put on dove deodorant and some lotion on the area and in one day the burning sensation went away and in 3-4 days the deodorant kind of formed a pimple where the ingrown hairs were and i just popped the pimple like thing out lol it really works trust me! :)

♥ danielle

Q: Hey, ive been getting discharge for over a year and i still havent started my period is this normal?

It turned brown and now its gone clear and goeyy is this also normal??

thanks

First of all,having discharge is normal.It is a sign that your body is healthy and working properly.Girls first start their periods at any age,some actually first get it when their 18 so there's nothing "weird" about not getting it yet.But too me,it sounds like 1.you actually kind of started your period (because my period first started out like that too) or 2.you had a poop stain on your underwear.My guess is number one,some period start off like that with just "spotting",like i said mine was like that.Welcome to womanhood! :D

♥ danielle

Q: so for the past few days my vagina/discharge has been smelling horrible. i mean, even when i wear clothes you can still smell it. its horrible. what does this mean?

Sounds like you have a bacterial infection.Go to the doctors and they will prescribe you with antibiotics depending on what form of infection you have.You could also get an antibiotic over the counter,but i would suggest the doctors first since your not completely sure what kind of infection you have yet.

♥ danielle

Q: i usually get charlie horse's in the morning from streching and they are so painful but they go away soon. but on sunday i got a charlie horse in my calf and its still like there. and now its in my calf + thigh and its now tuesday. it hurts to walk. HOW DO I GET RID OF IT?!?!

http://ca.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080712161241AA94mg6

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080611193518AAhkEHM

http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/24161

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-a-Charlie-Horse

http://ca.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080430054119AArBgzD

all those sites pretty much tell you the same thing, stretch,vitamins,drink more water,and eat bananas.If you need anymore websites i have a few more just leave one in my inbox :)

♥ danielle

Q: do you have to take tampoon out to pee?

well usually you have too.Since a tampon is used to absorb blood(it's a liquid) so is pee so it would soak up on the tampon.It's also very unsanitary.I would change your tampon eveytime you use the bathroom.

♥ danielle

Q: would dying my armhair blonde harm my skin?

Try doing a allergy test first to see if your skin has a reaction to the dye.After about 2 weeks if you so no signs of a rash,or infection of some sort then it's perfectly fine to use on your hair.

♥ danielle

Q: Well , you probably know what discharge is , but , is this normal?

My discharge is a slightly yellowish colour , and i dont know if it smells funny ive never smelt over discharge before!!

ive told my mum and she says its nothing to be worried about , but should i get it checked out or is it normal??

but i dont want a doctor looking at my privates cos i shaved them without telling anyone and it would be embarrassing for him/her to point it out !!

and a flabby thing sticks out my vagina , is this normal , is this ALL normal and im paranoid , or is it something to be worried about.??

im 12 and a female.

Hmm,well if it looks like clumpy cottage cheese and has an odor it could be an infection,that i would get checked out.If it's normal discharge like it's not clumpy,no odor then your fine.Discharge can turn yellow once it hits the air.The "flabby" thing that sticks out of your vagina is nothing to worry about,i think your talking about the labium minora which is supposed to be there! lol so you have nothing to worry about,your normal :)

♥ danielle

Q: i have these red things right bellow my butt..they hurt like pimples and i'm pretty sure they are.

how do you get those? and how can you make them go away!? i don't want to pop them because that would be pretty hard..they're right below my butt!

try going to a dermatologist and they can prescribe something to get rid of them.You could also go to a drugstore and get a body wash that specializes in getting rid of acne,but they take time to get rid of so don't expect fast results.Anything with salicylic acid,get's rid of them.

♥ danielle

Q: when i shave under my arms, you can still see the little bumps of hair so i tried shaving with the razor down and it kinda helps better but it gives me razor burn. what can i do to make it compltetly clear with out razor burn?

ah i HATE razor burn! it's the worst.Put a lotion

Use shaving gel,and change your razor regulary,after about 5-6 shaves get rid of it.You could also try waxing,or a hair removel gel.After showering,put a moisterizer or lotion on your underarms right away so it won't irratate the skin as much and will heal it.If you need anymore help,i have a few more ideas just leave one in the inbox :)

♥ danielle

Q: Does anybody know the phone number to the wayne county health department?

go on google and type in "wayne county health department" i found a few numbers from a wayne county,but there was more then one,find the one in your state and call the number they put on the website :)

♥ danielle

Q: Okay I visited my Dermatologist, I got a cream and a body wash. I got the most strongest cream they could give me, its named Salitop Cream with 6% Salicylic Acid. For the body wash, I use a sponge [the pretty soft kind] and I wash it throughly before using it, and after using it. My back isn't healing. Its just getting worse. Is there anything else I can do? I have been using this cream for about 4 months, and I haven't seen anything change but my back keep getting these obnoxious pimples! It's summer, and I really want to get rid of these because it is embarrassing to swim ! HELP!

i would visit your dermatologist again,and tell him you need something else and stronger because the Salitop Cream dosent cut it.

I found some websites that could help possibly help you with your problem for the time being :)

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Get-Rid-Of-Pimples-On-Your-Back,-For-That-Smooth-Look&id=363249

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Get-Rid-Of-Body-Acne-Pimples---Cure-Pimples-Treatment&id=500020

http://www.funadvice.com/q/pimple_underarm_legs

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Bacne

♥ danielle

Q: I am really under weight and my mum thinks i am bulimic, what should i do>

i found some websites on hwo to gain weight the healthy way :)

http://yourtotalhealth.ivillage.com/diet-fitness/healthy-ways-gain-weight.html

http://nutrition.about.com/od/dietsformedicaldisorders/f/GainWeight.htm

you should also go to your doctor or talk to a nutritionist and get you on a healthy meal plan that's right for you :)

♥ danielle

Q: I've recently put on some weight, maybe like ten pounds (which puts my weight at like 130.) Most of this new weight seems to have turned into stomach fat.
My friend Khalil,saw me recently (we don't live very close to eachother so it was a longer visit) and really liked the extra pounds, he said it made me look softer,and my new belly (which is kinda rounded) was 'adoreable'.

So I was wondering do more guys think like my friend, or are they mostly in for skinny girls?

From what ive heard from guys,guys dont really like super skinny stick straight kinda girls.Alot of them like girls with curves and a little meat on their bones.I think the whole "skinny trend" is going away now,and big is becoming beautiful again :D and thats a good thing because the women you see in movies and on tv their bodies arent realistic,because real women have curves :)

♥ danielle

Q: I really need to know what it feels like when your cherry pops. Yesterday i went for a bike ride for the first time in like a month. i just went again this morning, and i could barely sit down. it hurts really bad, but only when i'm on the bike. i read that it could pop just doing sports and stuff, but what does it feel like? please help!

It REALLY hurt for me when it happened, i hated the feeling.It continued to hurt for the second day but then the pain gradually went away.Maybe you should stay off the bike for a few days until it heals down there.

♥ danielle

Q: I am new with tampons and i just pull all first one out and it really hurt. How do i make it stop hurting me?

Same thing happened to me too when i first started using them.You might not have put it in all the way,it really hurts if you didnt so maybe thats why.It also might be too dry too when you take it out.Another reason might be that your too tight down there so you might want to work your way up from small to large in tampons.Start out with a regular sized tampon along with a pad (because regulars dont really hold that much) and then when it dosent hurt anymore to take out the tampon try the next biggest size.Good Luck! (and if you have anymore questions feel free to leave one in my inbox)

♥ danielle

Q: im going on a cruise next month, (i go to a year round school and we have 2 weeks of at the end of april) and i'm worried that i will have my period while on the cruise. if i do then can i still swim? i canNOT put tampons in and if i swim in the pool will it stop "bleeding" ?

Yes,when your in the water your period does stop so you should be fine but i would strongly recommend wearing tampons just incase because some might leak.If you absolutely CANT wear tampons then try wearing ultra thin pads in your bathing suit.And make sure you dont drip anywhere while getting out of the pool if you have a break from swimming and jsut lay out or go to the bathroom or whatever just remember to change the pad and put a new pad on.

♥ danielle

Q: okay, it's thursday. i'm having a huge party on friday, which is tommorow. I woke up this morning with an EXCRUCIATING sore throat.

is there any hope for me? how do i get rid of it and fast?

Ah! i just got over one a few days ago,but to get rid of it you shoudl drink alot of green tea with honey and try not too talk soo much or two loudly.Halls fruit breezers work well too plus they taste amazing.Try also using those throat sprays for your throat it numbs it and then relieves the pain mine went away in about 2 days.Try also gargling watr with salt in it it really does help.I found some websites that have other remedies.Hope i could help & remember to get plenty of rest! i think youll be fine ;]

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Get-Rid-of-a-Sore-Throat?&id=415771
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-a-Sore-Throat
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070119163439AApIFRQ&show=7

♥ danielle

Q: I was reading up on it online, and I was wondering if anyone has had any experiences with it. How effective is it?

Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

im soo sorry i thought you meant birth control pill!

http://www.fwhc.org/abortion/medical-ab.htm
http://www.ru486.com/topics/articles/article_92.asp
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070123071059AAtMNJ2

try asking your local doctor too,sorry for the mishap.

♥ danielle

jeez chill im sorry i just saw "pill" and i didnt see the abortion part i know theres a difference sorry it was an honest mistake.