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So about a year ago my mom met some dude named Jim. One night I was at my dad's house (divorced parents) and he had trouble breathing so he tried calling my mom but she wouldn't answer. So he just drove us there (because he REALLY needed to go to the hospital) and waited for my mom to answer the door. It took about five mins of knocking and waiting before she answered. She was wearing a bathrobe and she said she was sleeping and her phone was off. There was a pair of Hanes on the floor in the living room. Jim's truck was parked behind my mom's SUV. She made me go to bed and then jim left. Do you think she had sex that night?
I think it is possible that your Mom had sex... but I wouldnt know for sure. I think the real question is: are you concerned that your Mom might have slept with a guy that's not your Dad? If so, you did say your parents are divorced and therefore your Mom is free to see/date whatever guy she likes. Kind of sad, but true. My parents are divorced as well and my Mom currently has a boyfriend. It can be odd to see your Mom with another guy, but it will happen as long as your parents are divorced. Same for your Dad. One day your Dad might meet a woman that he likes and start dating her. What you need to know is that your Mom and Dad made a decision together not to be with eachother so they could both be happy with someone new. That could be happening right now for your Mom or in a week or several years for your Dad. Either way, your parents would want you to know it was for the best. If you feel like it, you could ask your Mom about Jim and see what she says. I think I'd ask her if she likes Jim as a boyfriend and then you would know. You can inbox me if you'd like to talk more.
14/f
Saturday night I was at my younger cousin's birthday party and after most everybody had left, some of my family were sitting out on the back patio on a couch. One of my uncles was sitting next to me and all of a sudden while he was drinking, he put his legs in my lap. I moved away a little and he ended up just resting his feet against my leg. I didn't think too much of it until he started rubbing his foot against my leg and started to pull my dress back a little. But I couldn't tell if it was done subconsciously or not. And then later, more people came out so we all had to squeeze together on the couch. He had his hand out behind my neck and kind of stroked my neck a little. Is this normal? I mean, I'm not really close to any of my uncles and none of them are as "hands on" (like putting arm in a hug) like he is. I feel kinda uncomfortable around him sometimes, even though I know that he loves my aunt and wouldn't do anything stupid or inappropriate to me. But I still have that weird little feeling in the back of my head. I honestly can't tell if it's bad or if I'm just being paranoid.
Hey there,
Your Uncle rubbing his foot against your leg and pulling your dress back a little wasn't appropriate of him. He could of done this because he was drinking, but either way it was inappropriate. When he put his hand behond your neck and stroked it, that's kind of normal. I say kind of normal, cuz sometimes if my Dad and I are talking and we can relate, he might reach out and stroke my neck for a few seconds. But if your uncle was doing that for a minute or longer on your neck, that is a bit odd. Plus, him touching your neck along with pulling your dress up doesn't sound right to me. Next time, if he does the dress thing or touches your legs inappropriately, just tell him to stop. If he doesn't, you should tell an adult you trust, such as your Auntie or parents. Also, if after you tell someone, you still get that weird feeling in the back of your head next time you see him, trust the feeling. Your instincts are usually right so talk to someone about it.
18/f
my mother and father fight a lot. This doesn't really bother me. It's the fact that she always takes her anger out on me. If idobt agree with her, I basically am discommunicated from the family for a few days, till I apologize. It's not fair. My brother will get in trouble for something, but then I end up getting grounded. My brothers are afraid of her, so yet always agree but I don't anymre, because she is usually wrong. She overreacts and always will start crying and will sy mean things to me. Like how I'm stupid or she hates me. I don't know what to do, or what to say anymore.
I really need some advice..
Hey there,
I can definately relate to what you are going through right now. My mom would take out all her frustration on me when she is having a bad day/angry at something and I would get the punishment by having her blame me for things that I never did, just listening to her yell at me for no reason, and have her not listen to my voice. I would get really fed up with it, upset, and even be in depression mode for a few days where I just wanted to be alone in my room with the door closed. If I didn't agree with my mom, she just got more angry and would want to argue that she is right.
What you need to know, is that disagreeing doesn't solve anything... It just creates more conflict. So, what I did, as hard as it was... was shut my mouth, listen to her rant, and then let her realize that I needed to be heard. If you don't say anything, your parents can't make a counter argument and ground you. They just say what they want, then let you be. Then you can wait until they calm down (cuz they will eventually) and ask them if you can make a suggestion or if they are willing to listen. Just say "I would really like it if you listened to me for a moment" or "Sorry, I didn't mean that". As hard as it may be, if you wait until they are in a state to listen (calm, relaxed) it will be much easier for them to hear you. Your brother just gets his way cuz he is probably younger, thats how it is in my house...
If your mom calls you names, tell her to "please stop". If she keeps saying things, just say "I'm sorry" and walk away. It is not your fault that they are fighting and it is worse to be in the middle of a fight. Keep your ground, be polite, and eventually it will wear down. You are a great person and you do have the strength to get through this. If you need to talk, you can always inbox me
Lately, my parents have been getting in more fights. My dad likes to make up lies about my mom to make people side with him. My mom is kind of spazzy, so she'll freak out if something's out of place or if something doesn't go the way she wants it to, but she's really a nice lady. And my dad can be funny sometimes, but he really doesn't know when to stop and he's rude. He's really anti-social. He grew up without parents and he even lived on the streets for a while. He doesn't speak English at all, nor does he plan to learn, so my mom and I have to do all the talking since my sister is basically just as shy. My dad keeps saying he's going to move out and every time we try to get my mom and him together to get along, he ruins it by saying he hates my mom and all this crazy stuff about her, but he's still here and he actually had the nerve to ask my mom to help him find an apartment somewhere, but my mom said hell no. She won't tell me how she feels about it, just that she doesn't care. And my dad is really starting to get annoying and grouchy all the time... Quite frankly, I think they'd be better off seperated... But, I don't know. Does anyone have any tips on what should be done in this kind of situation? Have you gone through any divorces? Help, please :(
Hi,
The things I can think of are: marriage counselling (your parents might not find this a good idea even though it could be), or you helping them find ways to get along and remember why they married in the first place. You have to let them know that there is still good in the other person and try to bring out the best in them again. Do things to help out to make things easier on them and try not to start conflict if they are very sensitive to words.
My parents divorced about five years ago so I know what it is like to be in between a divorce. The best you can do is help them find the good in eachother and in life and go from there. The more you can communicate with your parents without forcing conversation (asking a lot of questions/being bothersome) the more you can find out what exactly they are fighting about and get on their good sides. Don't try to fix their problems though, because that can only make them more upset. If they need your help, they will ask for it.
What you can do, is make suggestions. Say things like "I know you don't want to, but I think Dad would be happy with an apartment" to your Mom. This shows you want to help your Dad and that you would like your Mom to help if she could. Then see if she does try to help. If she does, make another suggestion later on. You can try the same with your Dad. If two people aren't happy with eachother, sometimes all you can do is sit on the sidelines and watch (which sucks alot). Try to make suggestions, see if they would go to counselling, and be the best you can be. If you stay positive, your parents will be more positive. Happiness is what your family needs right now; spread it around
So I've been with the same guy now for about 2 years. We're happy together. The only problem is that my family hates him. He's never done anything to anyone, he's been nothing but polite and cordial. Their hate is based completely off his looks. They are all mad because they think I can do better. But I don't care what he looks like. How do I tell them to mind their own business, and come to me with their problems?
Hi,
Your family is being very judgemental. Let them know that you should love a person for who they are and not by how they look or what they do. Obviously they don't know him well or just aren't taking the time to.
To get them to back off, tell them exactly what you wrote here: that they should mind their own business and come to you with their problems. As you said, if he has done nothing wrong to them or you, you should be allowed to be with him. Tell them you don't want better, because right now he is the best. I don't think your parents judged eachother when they got together. Let your family know that until he does something bad, you don't want to hear any arguments from them again. They shouldn't be upset that he is treating everyone well. Let them know you love him and as long as you do... they should too
Where can I find Haley? I don't even know her username! How can I find her to ask questions!? She gives awesome advice!!!
Hey there,
You can find her by going to 'Columnists' at the top of this page, then click on the little blue writing that says "more options", type in Haley and you will find her. I did this and found one person there, so there must be a good chance this is who you are looking for. Otherwise, you can type in more info to find her... I Hope this is the Haley you wish to find
I am 16 years old female. It's my sophomore year of highschool and I am becoming depressed. I have a younger brother and sister that are twins. They are freshman in highschool and i hate it. Exspecially since my sister is like a mini me, only people think shes prettier and it just seems like shes better than me at everything. Like school, sports ect. We both hangout with the same type of friends. Sometimes I feel like my friends like her better than me. During my freshman year in highschool the upperclassman guys all thought i was really cute and were trying to get to know me and stuff. Now it seems like they would rather talk/hangout with her and not only is it embaressing but it really hurts. I am already selfconsious about my looks as it is. I even left school one day crying because someone tried to give me a compliment but it turned into a bigger insult by saying alot of people think my sisters prettier than me. It's making me want to disapear. I dont know what to do anymore. Please help me :'(
Hey there,
I am sorry that you feel this way, younger siblings can be very difficult to get along with. No matter what others say about you and your siblings, you are all different people and you will be good at different things. Sure your friends may seem to like your sis more, but she is just someone new. They have known you for a longer time, so it seems as if you aren't noticed as much. Newer people may seem interesting at first, but they tend to get less interesting as time passes on.
If the upperclassmen thought you were cute before, do not worry... they will always think of you as cute. Your cuteness doesn't just go away because they talk to someone else, they are still crushing on you (secretly). You will always be a person who is unique, special, and talented in your own way. There are many things your siblings cannot do that you can. I am sure they wish they were older so they could have what you have. You are allowed responsibility, time, and freedom at your age where they cannot have these things.
If you feel flustered or frustrated, don't go near them. You have your life and they have theirs. Surround yourself in the people that make you feel good inside, listen to your favorite music, and don't be afraid to do something you are capable of. Dance around your room, sing outloud, or soak yourself in a bubblebath and think of all the good things you have right now. There is always one thing that can make a person happy... I am sure you know what your 'happy' is. So, hold your head up high, smile, and ignore what others say. You will get through this thing called life, just never forget what makes you smile
I just dont know how to deal with all of my kids moving out at the same time. freaking out and just want to sleep all the time
Hey there,
A good way to deal with all your kids leaving at once, is to make a plan on how you can communicate with them once they leave. If you get their phone numbers you can phone them, if you get thier addresses you can write to them or send pictures, and if you get their e-mail addresses you can e-mail them and send pictures over the internet. Keeping in contact will help relieve your stress and help you know that they are still around to communicate with.
Also, talk to them before they leave. Let them know you love them and you would like it if they updated you on things that are happening in their life every now and then, because you care. Since I am a teenager, I would tell them that you do appreciate that they are grown/growing up and you are interested in what they are doing so you would like to hear from them is all. I am sure they will contact you or let you contact them once they move out. Plus, kids do get a little home sick and in sticky situations at times, so they will need you eventually; stay healthy for them.
You will be okay without them and they will always be only a phone call away. Keep your life moving by doing things you love, going for walks, and visiting your friends every now and then. Friends are there when you need them and they can keep you on your toes :)
19/f. i wnated to leave for college when i graduated from high school but due to a series of events that would take to long to write, i stayed here and i'm living at home. i attend a university, not community college, so there are dorms and stuff and it's like a real university with events and so on. but, i can't live at home anymore. i'm up to my last nerve. I can't move out. I live in Miami and everything here is really expensive. Like a one bedroom apartment is 1200 dollars. and my mom won't let me room with anyone if it's not in school. i want to leave and i need my mom to let me go... or at least be ok with going, because i know i'm an adult but i still don't want to go without her blessing.
please help
Hey there,
What I would do, is try and meet her half way. Talk to your mom and ask her about all the options she would allow and then ask her if she could help look with you to find a place that you both can agree on. If she doesn't feel right about any other places, then talk to her and explain to her what you wrote here. Tell her you appreciate her opinion, but you are getting older and you would love it if she gave you her blessing. Say you cannot stay home forever and you feel that it is time to get out on your own. If you can, put some of your money towards finding a new place. Your mom would be happy if you are willing to help pay in any way. Even if you earned a hundred dollars to put towards it.
Explain to her that this is something you really want. If you do that, it will make finding a place for you that much more important and I am sure your mom will start thinking about other options. Tell her from the heart how you feel and she will be sure to listen
Me- f/15 Brother- m/17 going on 18
I am a little worried about my brother. He just graduated high school and will be off to college in August. He got a large amount of new friends during senior year. Some of them known to party and what not. I knew he drank illegally at parties because I heard rumors and stuff. This summer I have seen him going off with his school back pack whenever he goes out. I got a little suspicious and recently found it in his room full of drugs. I am worried about him. I don't want him to go to college and fail out. I know that if I tell my parents they will be surprised because he was always and honor roll student, if I don't tell I feel like I should. Should I keep my mouth shut so that my brother won't be mad at me and never trust me? I feel bad for snooping in his matters, you can tell me it's not my place because he's almost an adult and can make his own decisions but I had to know. So tell or not?
Hey there,
Yes, it was wrong of you to snoop in his bag.. but, if he is setting himself up for trouble, somebody has to set him back on the right path. Don't believe every rumour you hear, unless you have proof. I am sure he may have been doing bad things, but do not tell your parents unless you are absolutely sure. He could just be having a good time at parties without alcohol..?.. he could just be carrying his pack around with drugs for some of his buddies..?.. you never know.
Before you tell your parents anything, talk to him about it. First, admit that you looked in his pack. He can be mad if he wants, but explain that you were concerned and that if he is doing drugs or drinking, you thought he knew better than that. Do not raise your voice at him, but let him know it is wrong and that if he doesn't tell your parents, in time you will. I am sure he will be mad for a while, but do not tell your parents for at least a few days after confronting him. I know it will be hard, but that way you allow him to think about what he is doing wrong and it gives him time to turn himself in without the hassle of you telling and having a bomb thrown at him.
He will always have some respect for you since you would have given him a chance to do what is right. Talk to him, give him time, then talk to your parents about it calmly. I am glad you know that drugs and alcohol are bad for him and for anyone. It is alright to worry about these kinds of things. Kudos for you looking after your brother. Do what you know is right. Even if it hurts at first, he will appreciate it later
Ok i have a sister. And she went out with this bot, lets call him max, well after about 2 weeks he broke up with her. then he asked her out 2 days l8r and she said yes. well a week l8r he broke up with her agian. Ever since they first started to go out shes been acting different but then whhen he broke up with her for the final time she was like changed i don't kno how to explain it but she just acted really different. she flirted with every guy in sight. And i'm just reallly tired of it. But every time i try to talk to her about it she always denies everything. Like our best friend (let's call her mary) Mary, me and her talk all the time and she agrees with me. And just 2 days ago me and my sister got in this HUGE fight. And i just have no idea what to do. Please help
(Sorry it's so long)
Hey there,
The reason why she was acting different is probably because when a girl is with a guy, they tend to change themselves so that either: the guy will like them or they are flattered and under what I call a "love spell" where they do not have any realization of how they are really acting. After the final time he broke up with her, it sounds like she felt the need to have somebody want her. Flirting with every guy shows that she is dependant on guys now, she doesn't realize she can be independant, and maybe she doesn't have anyone else (besides a guy) who is special in her life (even though it may seem that she does). Denial is a way of showing that she does not realize what she is doing.
If I were you, I would find small proofs that she is reliant on boys, then whatever you do, do not shove it in her face. Casually mention that 'hey didn't you ask ___max____ to ______?' and eventually it will kick in her brain that she may flirt alot. It won't happen within a day and maybe not a week, but it will kick in eventually. Remember to not make it sound as if you are nagging her. Casually mention.
If she starts to argue or get defensive, say sorry. And if she says something mean after you say sorry, then don't say anything. If you do this, the last thing she knows is that you are sorry and that she has nothing to argue back. It takes willpower, but you can do it. Eventually, she will understand you are trying to help. Then, she will even trust your advice if you mention that a guy is not the right one for her.
Patience is key, do not rush her into becoming herself again. Only she can truly do that (with your help)
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Hello. I have a very difficult situation and want to remain anonymous please.
I am a 22 year old very devoted Muslim (my father was American Indian and my mother Jordanian). I am married with 2 beautiful girls and a wonderful husband. He works in IT and I am a stay at home mom who is on the internet much too often.
I was raised in Jordan. We went to a very good school and Quran school. I learned to memorize most of the Quran at a young age.
This is the first time I am opening up about this and REALLY need your advice.
My parents sent me and my brothers and sisters to a Quran boarding school for 3 months out of the year every year since I was very little. I learned a lot.
You see I lost my father when I was young (8 years) and the man who headed and taught the school and his wife where very helpful in helping me heal in ways no one ever did!! I loved my father, he was the greatest man I ever knew. But this teacher that trained me had sexual relations with me since I was a little girl in that school. He was a very kind man who really knew how to teach well. But sadly I had to have two abortions before I was 17 years old. He was the only one I was ever with other than my husband. His wife was the one who took me to get these procedures to save my family and myself the shame. I am very grateful to her for being a mentor and confidant. But this is a shameful thing in my past I never told anyone about. The strange thing is that it has not bothered me or haunted me like I hear on Oprah and others who had these experiences. I do not have ill feelings toward this man and his wife. They are people I still respect because of how ethical and kind they have treated my family through out the years. They paid for all my education and my brothers and sisters as well. They provided meals for us when my mother did not have enough, etc. But the physical relations thing is all in my past--until now.
My girls are now in Jordan with my family and they are sending them to the same school to learn the Quran. The same man is still teaching there. I asked around if anyone else had my experience and no one would talk about it. It is a very shameful thing for a Muslim Arab girl to talk about these things!! But my aunt, who is about my age, opened up to me and told me she had similar experiences with this man. She is also married now with five children and wants to leave the past in the past. She begged me not to tell anyone about him and to just leave things as they are since we both went through it and we turned out “OK”. He is still teaching now.
It would be devastating to our family to bring this news out about what he did with me and the other countless girls ?. I would never bring that kind of shame on him, my family or my religion. But I don’t know what to do because now my girls are in that same school. They are young I am concerned that the same thing may be happening to them that happened to me. One of my girls, the oldest is doing things to her body that he told me to do. She does not want to talk about it. She is the same as I was when I was her age. I think the same thing may be happening to her.
I really want them to learn from this very good school, but I don’t know what to do!! Please advise me.
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Hey,
I sent you an email before, I hope you got it
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Hello. I have a very difficult situation and want to remain anonymous please.
I am a 22 year old very devoted Muslim (my father was American Indian and my mother Jordanian). I am married with 2 beautiful girls and a wonderful husband. He works in IT and I am a stay at home mom who is on the internet much too often.
I was raised in Jordan. We went to a very good school and Quran school. I learned to memorize most of the Quran at a young age.
This is the first time I am opening up about this and REALLY need your advice.
My parents sent me and my brothers and sisters to a Quran boarding school for 3 months out of the year every year since I was very little. I learned a lot.
You see I lost my father when I was young (8 years) and the man who headed and taught the school and his wife where very helpful in helping me heal in ways no one ever did!! I loved my father, he was the greatest man I ever knew. But this teacher that trained me had sexual relations with me since I was a little girl in that school. He was a very kind man who really knew how to teach well. But sadly I had to have two abortions before I was 17 years old. He was the only one I was ever with other than my husband. His wife was the one who took me to get these procedures to save my family and myself the shame. I am very grateful to her for being a mentor and confidant. But this is a shameful thing in my past I never told anyone about. The strange thing is that it has not bothered me or haunted me like I hear on Oprah and others who had these experiences. I do not have ill feelings toward this man and his wife. They are people I still respect because of how ethical and kind they have treated my family through out the years. They paid for all my education and my brothers and sisters as well. They provided meals for us when my mother did not have enough, etc. But the physical relations thing is all in my past--until now.
My girls are now in Jordan with my family and they are sending them to the same school to learn the Quran. The same man is still teaching there. I asked around if anyone else had my experience and no one would talk about it. It is a very shameful thing for a Muslim Arab girl to talk about these things!! But my aunt, who is about my age, opened up to me and told me she had similar experiences with this man. She is also married now with five children and wants to leave the past in the past. She begged me not to tell anyone about him and to just leave things as they are since we both went through it and we turned out “OK”. He is still teaching now.
It would be devastating to our family to bring this news out about what he did with me and the other countless girls ?. I would never bring that kind of shame on him, my family or my religion. But I don’t know what to do because now my girls are in that same school. They are young I am concerned that the same thing may be happening to them that happened to me. One of my girls, the oldest is doing things to her body that he told me to do. She does not want to talk about it. She is the same as I was when I was her age. I think the same thing may be happening to her.
I really want them to learn from this very good school, but I don’t know what to do!! Please advise me.
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I sent you an email. I hope you get it
OK so my cuz (lilly) and my older sister (June) just moved into my house and now I have to share everyhitng all over again. My other sis just moved out so its like I lost her and gained two others. My sister (June) spends her money on stupid stuff like ciggerets and then gets money off my parents to get other things. Then my cuz likes to barrow all my stuff with out asking me and now she is waving it in my face that she got a camera and a new dress for homwcoming when I didnt because we cant affored it right now.They both get $130 sum dollars in the mail and I get nothing. Then after I said I got a new camera like she did she went and asked my parents for more money for homecoming and I cant get any she keeps taking the stuff I want and now she is mad because I got the shoes she wants. I hate how they both dont respect the fact that we dont have alot of money and wave what ever they get in my face. How do I keep my cool and how do i confront my parents about this. Should I even confront them?
I am so confused
Hey there,
I know what you mean! I used to be best friends with this girl (her family is what I consider to be, real rich and we aren't so much), we hung out ALL the time, until she decided to completely dump me for my brother. Before she did this, she had lyed to me, backstabbed me, and used me (to get to my brother). This was a while ago, but she comes over every single day (arg). I live with my mom, and my mom treats her way better than me basically. I keep thinking to myself 'how could you treat her so nice MOM, when this girl is so mean'. No matter how much I explain.. my mothers the only one that doesn't get it.
And the only way your parents will understand, is if you confront them. Parents are sometimes pretty clueless, until you tell them what is happening right under their noses. Your older sister and cousin obviously do not know the value of money, and your parents are just giving into them. When something is bothering you, your sis and cousin might not know. You have to tell them straight up that while they are there, they have to respect you and your space.
Kind of hint to your sister that if she did not smoke, she would be healthier AND have more money so she doesn't have to ask. You can't really force her to do anything because she might turn what you are saying off, but you can suggest that it would be a good way to save money. Of course she won't stop doin it right away, you have to give it a little time but hint every now and then. Same goes for your cousin; when she starts bragging, tell her that it hurts you when she does that, because you can't afford it. She needs to know that she won't always have everything handed to her for free and that she doesn't realize the value of money by just asking for it all the time. Say how she has so much (give her a list of examples) and that she is so lucky to have so much. Does it really hurt her for you to have only ONE special thing (the shoes)? She has to let you have at least one thing, let her know that.
Also, you have to have your parents to back you up, which is why you HAVE got to talk to them. Have them understanding you, being on the same level, and knowing what your sis and cousin do to you, will let them know that it isn't fair. You do not get money just handed over to you, so why should your sister and cousin be so privileged? Ask your parents if there is a way to have Lilly and June EARN their money. Such as doing some chores or things to help out your parents.
Calmy gather your breath, and let it all out for your parents to hear. Make it clear that you need respect from Lilly and June; they take things for granted. It may be difficult, but nothing is going to change unless your parents know what they are doing. You need your rights too.
When you reach out, things only get better
My parents are divorcing and it's really hard. I cry all the time. I don't want them to divorce and not be together. They're always yelling now and fighting over really STUPID stuff! I hate it. It's making me really depressed. Mom says Dad doesn't listen to her and Dad says Mom doesn't seem interested in him any more. It sounds like a big bunch of garbage now and I just want this to be fixed. What do I do? How do I cope?
Hey there,
My parents are divorced, and as hard as it was,there were many things that helped me get through it.
Hobbies or anything that keeps your mind occupied help, reading, music, and talking to your friends/people you trust help the most. It is always okay to cry. Crying helps you let it all out and cleanse your soul.
You should try to live your life as you normally would and spend time with your friends as much as possible. Friends are the best medicine, they can make any day brighter. Ignore the noises you hear,it is between your parents and they will work it out.
Keep you head high no matter what, smile through it all, keep living your life, and it will be alright. You will always have both your parents and they will always love you the same. Sometimes things cannot always be fixed,just mended well.
um.....hey i have brown eyes omg but i soo dont know what to bring them out with i use eye liner well black eye liner and i dont know what else to put on and. By the way im 14years old i dont whant like to much make up on and ya thank you very much bibi
Hey,
Try using different shades of eyeshadow on your lids, use brown liner instead of black, and/or use the new mascara that is specially made to bring out your natural eye color. It is called "Lash Blast Luxe" and has a tinted shimmer. Try to use products that enhance not blend in your natural eye color :) Hope this helps! Good luck!
13/f
I love my family but some how hate it. My dad, mom and my younger brother lives together. I can't stand any of this. I am pretty emotional. Lots of girls all. I don't really show it until I get in my room and start crying. I don't know what is my problem. I feel like my family hates me but I know they love me but I just don't feel it. I feel like I have favorites between my parents. I love my mom so much but I can't stand my dad most of the time. I always fight with them though. My mom drinks alot. My dad tries to stop her but he always yells at me for the most stupid reasons. He has even hit me for the most stupid reason. My little brother is the favorite kid. I don't like him at all. Not for that reason though. My parents think he is an angel. He is 11 years old. I try my best of everything. My brother has tried to act all emo or punk all the time and it bugs me. My parents have stopped him. He has gotten in so many fights and has done things behind my parents backs. When my parents find out he does get in trouble but not as bad as me if I leave a dish around the house because I forgot. I don't really know how to react. I don't talk to anyone about my problems. I can't talk to my parents. I've tried but its always gets worse. I've been under alot of stress for school and friends and all that. But my parents don't care, honestly. Please help me. I don't know how to react or how to act or just do be the same.
this pobly sounds lame but despite your mom's drinking and dispite the fact that your dad is abusive you have your life to live and you should'nt have to deal with all of the stress my advice to you would be GET OUT!! Talk to someone like a councellor tell that person what's been going on get help especially if your only 13 thats's way to young to be dealing with this type of pressure if you really wanted to live your life the first step would be to get out A.S.A.P!!!