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Parental Issues, divorce maybe?
Lately, my parents have been getting in more fights. My dad likes to make up lies about my mom to make people side with him. My mom is kind of spazzy, so she'll freak out if something's out of place or if something doesn't go the way she wants it to, but she's really a nice lady. And my dad can be funny sometimes, but he really doesn't know when to stop and he's rude. He's really anti-social. He grew up without parents and he even lived on the streets for a while. He doesn't speak English at all, nor does he plan to learn, so my mom and I have to do all the talking since my sister is basically just as shy. My dad keeps saying he's going to move out and every time we try to get my mom and him together to get along, he ruins it by saying he hates my mom and all this crazy stuff about her, but he's still here and he actually had the nerve to ask my mom to help him find an apartment somewhere, but my mom said hell no. She won't tell me how she feels about it, just that she doesn't care. And my dad is really starting to get annoying and grouchy all the time... Quite frankly, I think they'd be better off seperated... But, I don't know. Does anyone have any tips on what should be done in this kind of situation? Have you gone through any divorces? Help, please :(
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Hi,
The things I can think of are: marriage counselling (your parents might not find this a good idea even though it could be), or you helping them find ways to get along and remember why they married in the first place. You have to let them know that there is still good in the other person and try to bring out the best in them again. Do things to help out to make things easier on them and try not to start conflict if they are very sensitive to words.
My parents divorced about five years ago so I know what it is like to be in between a divorce. The best you can do is help them find the good in eachother and in life and go from there. The more you can communicate with your parents without forcing conversation (asking a lot of questions/being bothersome) the more you can find out what exactly they are fighting about and get on their good sides. Don't try to fix their problems though, because that can only make them more upset. If they need your help, they will ask for it.
What you can do, is make suggestions. Say things like "I know you don't want to, but I think Dad would be happy with an apartment" to your Mom. This shows you want to help your Dad and that you would like your Mom to help if she could. Then see if she does try to help. If she does, make another suggestion later on. You can try the same with your Dad. If two people aren't happy with eachother, sometimes all you can do is sit on the sidelines and watch (which sucks alot). Try to make suggestions, see if they would go to counselling, and be the best you can be. If you stay positive, your parents will be more positive. Happiness is what your family needs right now; spread it around <3
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