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i wanna leave for college
19/f. i wnated to leave for college when i graduated from high school but due to a series of events that would take to long to write, i stayed here and i'm living at home. i attend a university, not community college, so there are dorms and stuff and it's like a real university with events and so on. but, i can't live at home anymore. i'm up to my last nerve. I can't move out. I live in Miami and everything here is really expensive. Like a one bedroom apartment is 1200 dollars. and my mom won't let me room with anyone if it's not in school. i want to leave and i need my mom to let me go... or at least be ok with going, because i know i'm an adult but i still don't want to go without her blessing.
please help
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She needs to realize that you are growing up and you need to spread your wings and fly. Sometimes that's very hard for parents to accept. You need to let her know that you are growing and you need to do things on your own and learn on your own.
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Well why can't you just move to the dorms? Seems like a good comprimise. You're out of the house but still in a somewhat "supervised" environment. And some of the best times in college happen in dorms! That sounds to me like what you should do.
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Hey there,
What I would do, is try and meet her half way. Talk to your mom and ask her about all the options she would allow and then ask her if she could help look with you to find a place that you both can agree on. If she doesn't feel right about any other places, then talk to her and explain to her what you wrote here. Tell her you appreciate her opinion, but you are getting older and you would love it if she gave you her blessing. Say you cannot stay home forever and you feel that it is time to get out on your own. If you can, put some of your money towards finding a new place. Your mom would be happy if you are willing to help pay in any way. Even if you earned a hundred dollars to put towards it.
Explain to her that this is something you really want. If you do that, it will make finding a place for you that much more important and I am sure your mom will start thinking about other options. Tell her from the heart how you feel and she will be sure to listen <3
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