|
My Sister........
Ok i have a sister. And she went out with this bot, lets call him max, well after about 2 weeks he broke up with her. then he asked her out 2 days l8r and she said yes. well a week l8r he broke up with her agian. Ever since they first started to go out shes been acting different but then whhen he broke up with her for the final time she was like changed i don't kno how to explain it but she just acted really different. she flirted with every guy in sight. And i'm just reallly tired of it. But every time i try to talk to her about it she always denies everything. Like our best friend (let's call her mary) Mary, me and her talk all the time and she agrees with me. And just 2 days ago me and my sister got in this HUGE fight. And i just have no idea what to do. Please help
(Sorry it's so long)
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Hey there,
The reason why she was acting different is probably because when a girl is with a guy, they tend to change themselves so that either: the guy will like them or they are flattered and under what I call a "love spell" where they do not have any realization of how they are really acting. After the final time he broke up with her, it sounds like she felt the need to have somebody want her. Flirting with every guy shows that she is dependant on guys now, she doesn't realize she can be independant, and maybe she doesn't have anyone else (besides a guy) who is special in her life (even though it may seem that she does). Denial is a way of showing that she does not realize what she is doing.
If I were you, I would find small proofs that she is reliant on boys, then whatever you do, do not shove it in her face. Casually mention that 'hey didn't you ask ___max____ to ______?' and eventually it will kick in her brain that she may flirt alot. It won't happen within a day and maybe not a week, but it will kick in eventually. Remember to not make it sound as if you are nagging her. Casually mention.
If she starts to argue or get defensive, say sorry. And if she says something mean after you say sorry, then don't say anything. If you do this, the last thing she knows is that you are sorry and that she has nothing to argue back. It takes willpower, but you can do it. Eventually, she will understand you are trying to help. Then, she will even trust your advice if you mention that a guy is not the right one for her.
Patience is key, do not rush her into becoming herself again. Only she can truly do that (with your help) <3
]
More Questions: |