Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I love his family to death. Since he's away at college they invite me to visit them alot and I stop to see his mom at work whenever I go to the mall. I have a problem, though- I got his Christmas gift and everything, but should I get something for his family? His mom seems like the kind of person that would get something for me, but I would feel really bad if she did and I didn't get them anything, and I bet she would vice versa. He has an older brother, a younger brother, a sister, dog, and mom and dad. They're really nice to me, but I'm lost on the dating/present etiquette here. Should I get them something, and if so, what? (link)
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yes..regardless of what they get you..since your drop in alot...do something nice..a basket of some food, a plant, flowers, or even a gift certificate or a Christmas decoration...just something to say..hey thank you!
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I have short finger nails and I need to know a way how not to get nail polish every where aroung my nail, and I use dark colors so it's hard. Does anyone out there know how to do this? If so please help!
♥Jess (link)
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after polishing use a tiny tipped brush dipped in remover to take off the excess..or a qutip that you have removed all the but a bit of fluff on..even professional get stuff on the sides!
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I just moved to Florida from califorina a week ago,i now live with my aunt and uncle and 2 cousinns,AMANDA 17,JAACOB 15...I'M 15 turning 16 pretty soon...My cousin AMANDA is verry rude and annoying and just really a B*&%$...(i dont like to curse)anyhow from the day i got off the plain she wasnt all that nice to me...so over this week i have been hanging out with JACOB and i try to ignore her and stay out of her way...this makes me unhappy because we are family and we should be able to get along...i understand that maybe it is because i am getting all the attention but she has a job and she goes to school and becccause she is n advanced eveything she gets tons of homework and i hardly see her but when i do i wish i hadent...she is not verry social because of family issues...my question is this, is therre anything i can do so i dont have to walk on eggshels when i am arouund her???
thank you,
LISA... (link)
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ok..so where does it say that all family memebers get along...mine certainly do not!
maybe she is jealous that you will get attention from her mother?? 17 is a pretty selfish age. You really have a vinsight to what she is feeling for she is jealous.
sounds to me..even if YOu were pwrfectshe would be bitchy. do you sahre a rom wiht her?/Is her space being invaded?
Boo hoo on the homwork..ok..trust me you will have a ton too in a few years.
Nope there are some people who are such PIA (pain in the____)that it is like a minefield..though you could try to flatter her and giver her PLENTY of space.
I am os sorry you are in this position..is it temp. until you guys find your own place?How does Jacob treat you??
So get out of her way..keep you wits about you..look in the want ads for an apratment your mom can afford!
Pa am thinking of you and hoping that it gets better.
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ok well this all stared when someone close to me passed away and i still haven't really gotten over it he pased away in october so you can imagine how much i loved him and now it seems like everyone is dealing with the same thing like have you ever had something happen to your family like a death or someone gets cancer and then it seems like more people are going through the same thing and u didn't even know it before well thats how it is and it is kinda stressful for me does ne one have ne ideas on how i can kinda get it off my mind thanks (link)
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love..does not get..well gotten over fast. Since he died..you are grieving..this is normal...some people grieve for a long time. Me..i do not think there is anythng wrong with showing others that you loved someone. Now if it affects you so much that you cannot function..then it is a problem.
October is not that far away. if he dies of some disease..why not volunteer there..to help you work through this process and honor his memory.
He was very lucky to have someone like you care for him.
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I have no idea what to get my Dad for christmas. I'm a female and i'm 15. So my first question is does neone know any awesome tennis stuff that's like 20$ that I could get him? Or i was also thinking about making a picture frame for this picture i have of him, my brother and I. So Does neone know how to make an awesome picture frame that doesn't include to much construction paper and popsicle sticks? thanks!! Sorry for the lengthy..ness! (link)
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is he a die hard tennis fan?? Sometimes in back of the tennis magazine..you can find really good deals on tennis stuff. Balls (I know boring!!) or those little weights that you put on the strings to slow down the person's swing..how about half hour of a tennis lesson? Or ask your mom is she will go half on something. Check out Dicks or The sports authority for his favorite maker athletic wear.
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I always thought my wife liked my body. But recently, in front of a whole group of friends, she stated that I'm "not allowed" to wear a swimsuit, which got a laugh. She then expounded on this, stating that I am "very white, and very hairy, and when I wear my work shorts, I get a "tan line" from just above my knees, to just below them. This shows in my swimsuit. Everyone thought it was really funny but me.
Do you think she was "just kidding', or did the truth slip out there? (link)
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woah..here is the deal..and I am married..i would NEVER ever put down my hubby...about HIS body either IN public or out..that is totally unacceptable.
She might have been kidding..but these kind of JOKES I never get...ok..let's make people laugh at those we care about.
So...sit down say..you know..i really need you not to comment on my body in front of others.
By the way..am thinking if you pointed out some um wee little defect she has..she would rip YOU a new one..
ps lots of men are very white and hairy...it that is all she can comment on..you must be seiously hot..
WEAR those shorts!!!
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Okay, so I have had a lot of downs with my mom and i even went as far as not living with her for while. Now I am back with her because social services said that they couldn't do anything. I am living a normal life now, only not getting along with my mom, now social services wants me to go into foster care, but I have made several new friends since we just moved and I don't want to hurt my mom, but I know that being with her isn't the best place for me! She has NO JOB, lives with a guy she met off the net, has severe health problems and I have been in a mental institution and am on medicines. I don't deal with stress very well and with Christmas almost here, I know it is going to be stressful, especially if I end up in a foster home, WHAT DO I DO?????? (link)
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oh...man..you poor thing..i feel for you.
On one hand your mom..who has some problems...
on the other a bunch of strangers.
has your mom ever gotten any mental health advice. Seems to me she is the one who needs some help..not you.
You are very level headed...you see your Mom for what she is.
is her behavior enough to send you over the edge right now? IS her new bf bad news? Can she provide for you both mentally and financially. How did you do in Foster care?
So..who is worse??Your mom or Foster care? What about your dad or any other family members.
this stinks..i wihs i could wave a wand and make it all go away. you are ealing with stuff MOST adults do not have to deal with.
Please be strong...please...we all are rooting for YOU!!!
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well heres the deal, my parents have been divorced since a was like 3 (im 13 now). ive always lived with my mom and my dad lives over 300 miles away. i can only see my dad every-other weekend and i really don't like that. i miss my dad a lot when im not over there and im thinking about maybe moving over to his house. but i don't want to hurt my mom's feelings or leave all my friends here (but i don't think that making new friends will be a problem). ive also been having lots of problems with my mom lately...
what do you think i should do?
i'll rate high (link)
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ok..are you having problems with your Mom..for you are growing up..and maybe she does not see this?? Or has somethng changed in the household.
What I think is great is that you CARE so much about your Mom that you do not want to hurt her. you are a great person.
Any chance of geting them in the same room and discussing this?
I would write a pro and con list of both parents..living with them...
Moms and daughters butt heads big time in the teenage years....man i was so awful to my mom...but..i was learning how to be an adult...
what are the REAl problems..make the list..and discuss this with both of them.
I feel for you..i know this is hard..but you have a good heart..ok..good luck!
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My mom was mad at my dad because a few days ago he went to New York without letting my mom know (he works there he didn't run off). Then like a day later my mom went to go pick up my brother somewhere and my dad thought they were just going to the highschool to pick him up but then they went to another town to another town. My dad didn't know that and he had a meeting to go to so he told me to tell my mom when she came home. Well a couple hours later my brother calls and is like "Tell dad we're coming home now and that we're sorry we were so late," and I'm like dad is not here why didn't you call eailer. Well anyway I got mad and my brother put my mom on the phone and I'm like "You can't be mad at dad anymore for not telling you where he was going," and she got mad and didn't say anything so i apologized and sahe just said bye. Now I think my mom is mad at me and my question is how do I get her to forgive me? Thank you I'll rate fives just for reading this. (link)
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your parents need to go to someone to learn how to communicate...ok they get a zero for not telling each other where tehy are.
this is not your fault..you are the child..it is up to the PARENTS to inform each other.
I think your mom is really mad at herself. Both your parents are relly childish in the way they do things.
She should have called earlier and he should have told her he was going out of town.
Listen..i think there is more going on in your parents life than they let on..hello they are married TALK TO EACH other.
it is not OUR job to carry messages...
show your mom this..i am a mom...call your husband..it is only polite and caring to let your PARTNER know things. Dad...never EVER go out of town even on business without telling your wife.
and KEEP YOUR CHILDREN out of this..they are kids..not a messenger service.
am sorry for being so harsh..but your parents need a wake up call..to each other!!!
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Well, about four years ago, my father divorced my mother. It took a little over three years for the divorce to go through. During that time, my father treated me like crap. He was constantly yelling at me, picking on me, and just making me completely miserable. On time, he told his family that I should go to fat camp, and they all laughed at me. He's called me "fat, ugly, stupid, and a piece of sh**." I tried running away, but he caught me, and dragged me back. He also dropped me off on the side of a highway in the middle of winter, and drove off. He lead me to become so depressed, I would hurt myself.
Their divorce was finaliazed, but we had to move our of our house and move in with my grandma. I still visit him on Fridays and Sundays. He's been making us look at houses for him, which makes me really upset. He won't support us at all because he claims he has no money, but he owns his own business, and I've done some detective work, and found out how much he makes. I hate going with him because all we do is look at houses, and it bothers me because we had to move out of our house. My 16th birthday was in September and not one person from his side of the family realized how old I was. My father didn't even have a cake for me. This was one of the most important birthdays for a girl, and he totally ignored it. He just left yesterday to go with his girlfriend to Florida, and didn't even invite us, and also waited until the night before to tell us he was going. He doesn't plan on seeing us when he moves to Florida in a couple of years. Should I just stop goign with him? I'm 16-years-old, and I would rather spend my Friday nights with my friends. I want to have a father, but not one that makes me feel so crappy. What should I do? Should I continue to visit him for the sake of having a father, or should I just forget about him? Thank you so much for helping! (link)
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YOUR dad is a sob( son of..)!! I am sorry..but for him to PUT you down when he is a super HUGE loser..man..would that I could go beat this crapola DAD down..
sorry..kids are gifts..and i am thinking I totally know why your Mom decided to dump this guy.
No I would not give him the time of day...besides the fact that he verbally ABUSED you, does not support you either financilly or emotionally...this guy is so SELFISH he cannot even remember your b-day. Sweet 16 is THE most important day in a teenagers life..grrrrrrrrrrr
Do not visit him..if he or your mom ask..tell them that you dad is not emotinally there for you and that you want to save yourself by keeping the pain he INFLICTS on you..to a minimum.
But remember..you are awesome. Any father but your stupid LOSER of a father would be proud and grateful for a girl like you. You hold your head up high and realize that your dad is losing out on the GREATEST gift that God give us...children.
Print this out..send a copy ot your dad with a it's been nice to know you..but i am ASKING SANTA FOR A NEW DAD!!!!!
Sorry...but to me..he really has no redeeming qualities to continue down this path...
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hey umm i really want to wear a thong and it is not like i want to b/c its cool but b/c i really need to w/ the pantylines. i havnt asked my mom yet and i need to help find a way to ask her! pleas help and thanks!! (link)
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hey mom..i really do not want panty lines..got any suggestions..but there are panties that have no lines...how old are you??Is that her problem..or is she lik me and do not like the way they go ..um up your..back end...the feeling not the llok
So go shopping with her and maybe you can reach a middle area...
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My parent's are like, sexist. They won't let me hang out with boys. They think that I'm just going to go out and have sex with every boy I see. I tell them that all we're gonna do it hang out (which is true) but then they have to make up the excuss, "Honey we trust you, not the boys." Soo, what can I do to make them trust me? (link)
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well you have toadmit..that most guys ar after one thing...but am thnking that they went through somethng to make them super strict...
Ask them about when they were teenagers...what kind of rules they have.
They are going to ahve to learn to trust you.
Mom and Dad..limiting boys..will just make them seem even more special.
Trust your girl..she is YOUR child..surely you imposed your morals on her.
now as to you..do NOT give them ay reason to doubt you.
Try a test date...but screen the guy forst..the more you know..the better you are informed.
She is going to grow up one day..you have to let her go.
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okay so my mom smokes and i hate it.. like all my clothes smell like smoke b/c our house always smells like it and my teachers look at me evilly b/c i smell like smoke but i cant do anything about it do you know any way to either get my mom to stop smoking or to like at least have my house not smell like it all the time?! (link)
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my husband smokes..
i guess your mom will not mind being HOOKED up to a oxygen machine when her lungs give out.
She needs to talk to people who are living with cancer...
But..to me..
Does she KNOW that second hand smoke cause more CANCER than the person who are smoking??
When i had kids..i told my mom and my husband that no smpking was allowed in the house..period..he can smoke in his car as long as we are not in it.
If she will nto do that for you..then get some of those ashtrays thaat suck up the smoke..
but I urge you to show ehr this..
My mom had THREE heart surgeries..she topped COLD after the docot told her..she would not live..for a another one...
it is..a matter of life and death...
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Before I begin I want to say that I am not complaining, I absolutely love my mom and my life.
So my problem is my mom's yelling. It's almost like she feels that she cannot get anything across to my siblings and I unless she yells. Sometimes she is even too busy yelled that she doesn't realize that we have already done the things she's asked us to do. I've tried talking to her about it several times. My younger sister once told her that sometimes she doesn't listen to my mom because of her shouting at us all the time. Talking to her never works. I can understand that she is very stressed out at times and wants to come home without any trouble. But instead of asking us to do something, she'll say something like “GET OFF THE TV/COMPUTER AND CLEAN THE GAME ROOM NOW!!!” I'm even embarrassed by it at times because she does it while we have friends over also. I don't think she's simply asked us to do anything in a year.
I want to know if anyone ones anyway I can get through to her. And once again, the talking about to her does not work. I can't even talk to her about anything any more. It feels as if she just does not like having us around even though I know it's not true.
My parents are divorced so it's not like he can help. He lives in Iowa while we live in Texas.
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I am betting your mom's parents yelled just like mine. I yell too..i wish with all my heart I could cahnge it..it is hard..when all your life..your paretns yell at you...
so show her this..and your question..tell her how much I WANT to change..and how damaging this is to you.
Did you kow that yelling hurts kids self esteem..and causes them to get inot trouble..later on in life.
I am betting she has had trouble at work..just like my Dad..and jsut like me
maybe we all could count to 100 before ww yell..
It our kids..we need to CHANGE for them....
please...
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2day my family and i(14) found out that my older sister (27) has a tumour down there, and is supposed to be haveing surgery in a week. after that they will be putting her on keimotherapy(sp?) and well if none of those cure her, she will then only have 1 more year to live..im so scared of loosing her! (link)
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ok..this is scary..take a deep breath...
Now..cancer does NOT always kill..do NOT event hink that.
you have to be strong for YOUR sister. She and your paresnts ned you. Having these doom and gloom thoughts does no one any good..especially her.
Read up on the tumor...go to WEBMD and find out what you can.
be there...for everyone..make sure that YOu are living your life as weel as you can..your paresnt will be focused on her..so you have to be the bst you can.
But..KEEP THOSE death thoughts to yourself..do NOT give up on your sister...ok
Be strong..ma thinking and praying for your family!
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Ok.. hi. See me & my sister are like 9 years apart, she's 23 & I'm 14. She is always talkin bout how I shouldn't be mean to her, but she used to ditch me for her friends & crap. Ok, well, she's all of a sudden wanted to be "sisters" and I'm just like, no. She's all whiny & she's babyish. It really gets on my nerves but, when I wanna spend time with her she's always "busy". Ok well we have alot in common but she wont open up to me & tell me about her problems. She goes & tells mom (BIG mistake). Then mother goes & tells daddy & they talk about her so bad. I dont know what to do! I know I don't like her sometimes but hey, she's my sister. Please help!! (link)
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see she wants to be your sister..for she has grown up a bit.
but be careful....she may be trying to get you to open up so she can squeal some more..so play nice..bur realize that SHE might be playing YOU!!
so be careful..and maybe play her a bit bakc...
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my dad was recently laid off from work (he was the manager for the propane department of a co-op). he decided he wants to go back to the job he had before that, which was an EMT(emergency medical technician). the problem is that he left that job because he had a lot of depression problems when he couldn't save someone. should i still encourage him to go back to that job? (link)
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Monster.com..look for some managment places first..i can only imagine how that job..seeing so many people hurt..would be so hard..so..go to monster plu in your town thn high his mamagement jobs..athen print it out..YOU may be geting him a REALLy good one!!
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hi i love my mom but every day she always yells at me for no reson like if i write sloppy. and she loves to get me in trouble with my dadi need some help what can i do to be a better daghter.
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so...have you figured it out..that it is TOTALLY your mom. Something must be going on in her life to yell at you.
So..what do you think it is..are things ok wiht your Dad,,,maybe she has an anger issue....
So start a conversation..(during a good time) Tell her you love her but wan to know what is going on..why is she so angry..that her anger is totally affecting you...
Youa e a GREAT girl...believe me most kids would not ask the question..how can i be better...wihs you WERE my girl..
so it is NOT you...ok
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I've recently paid the funeral expenses for my father's funeral out of the estate account. ($10,000)....should any travel expenses be paid to family members ( out of state)....???
Is there a travel allowance ?? (link)
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ok..so are you saying..you are trying to expense out..a funeral trip???Like you pay the family member to come?? or reimbursed??
I do not think there is a section for this..but I would go on the IRS website and ask them. Or your aacountant...but i am going to say no...unless it is a voluntary thing YOU want to do out of your poecket.
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Posted Monday December 06 2004, 9:44 pm
I need some help on this one...
My dad has been really depressed lately and i dont know what to do about it. He keeps on tlaking about how he is going to kill himself and everything and how there is no God and God just wants to be left alone. He also gets mad at stupid things and jsut tells me that i am worthless and that i will turn out to be just a worthless as he is no matter how hard i try. I try and put it aside and remember that it isnt my problem or just try to walk away or ask him to stop talking like that, but he doesnt listen, or he just comes back at me 10 times worse! I would file something on him or try to get him help, but he is my only parent/ family left thats in this country that i know...what do i do?
~Lost
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I want you to print this and show your dad.
you are a parent..to a child..Their life is tough enough without adding YOUR misery to it.
How dare you discuss KILLING yourself..what WOULD happen to YOUR child...a foster home(abuse, neglect and NO love happnes there)..what..that IS what YOU want for your kid?
A child is a GIFT from God..and whether you believe in HIM or not..you will NOT ever abuse this precious being.
you are depressed..go see a doctor and get on some medication. my WHOLE family has been through this and I am an expert on this.
Once you start prozac or paxil or wellbutrin..your life will change.
You will no longer feel anger or feelings of helplessness.
But YOU are NOT to ever say that You are going to kill yourself to your child.
That childs' life will become HELL if you do that for they will always think that YOU did not love them ENOUGH to live.
So get some hlep..be a MAN and live for YOUR child..if no one else.
Lost I am sorry you are going through this..your dad needs some help..hang in there..ok...am thinking and praying for you and him....Please write me if you need someone to talk too..i am here for you..been through this..my sister tried several times to kill herself..finally she got on teh right meds..and her life changed totally...
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