14/f/virginia
i am planning on running away from home. possibly to my dad's house. but are there like any laws that can stop me from doing so? like can i get put in juvy if i do run away and get caught? i cant take it in my house anymore. i just cant. i got to get out of here and soon.
Your best bet is to do things legally. Let your dad know that you would rather live with him. Then the case can be sent to court to get your legal residence changed to your fathers house.
If you are in physical or emotional danger where you are living now, tell the police. They can put you in your father's house while the case works its way through court.
There is also a hotline: "Our 24-hour crisis line has an experienced front-line team member ready to help you now. It’s anonymous, confidential and free. 1-800-RUNAWAY."
Here also is a helpful link of things you might want to consider before leaving.
http://www.nrscrisisline.org/youth_teens/nrs_help.html
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tuesday i turn 15. and i have lived with my mom since i was born. her and my dad got a divorce when i was realy little. i go to my dads every other weekend. my dad hasnt really been the kind of dad he is suppost to be. but i still love him. Well my dad lives in newnan and i love it down there all my friends are there and i have so much fun down there. My mom lives 2 hours away in lawenceville and i hate it here. We moved here a couple months ago and i have been in this new high school for 1 month now. I have no friends, everyone is stuck up and annoying there. I want to move in with my dad. Not because i love him more, but because i like it better there. my mom is always complaining that we dont have any money and i spend too much. Well i love her verrrrry much but if i tell her i want to live with my dad, she will get very upset adn like cry and all. What are some good ways i can tell her without her getting so upset? any help is wanted.
She's probably going to get upset no matter how you tell her. Your best bet is to sit down with her, maybe over dinner or by going out for icecream or something. You might want to start by telling her that you do love you a lot, but that since you've moved, you just haven't been happy. Tell her that where you are now you have no friends, no fun, and you can't stand the school. Then tell her exactly what you told me about your dad's place. Try not to mention the money issue, since a lot of adults are very sensitive about their income (or their lack of it). Make sure your mom knows for sure that it's not a parent preference, it's just mostly a preference for the factors outside of the home.
If she says no, ask her for at least a trial period. See if you can agree on a period of time to try it out, ideally a year, or a summer, or a school year. Promise her that if things really aren't better at your dads by the end of the trial period, you'll come back home.
She's almost bound to tell you that things are going to get better where you are. If she still says no, there isn't much to do to change her mind. Try not to whine or argue too much. Wait a month or two and try asking again.
I hope things work out for you.
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My sister has been smoking for over 6 months. She's only 16. I live with my mom and my sister so out of us three I'm the only one who doesn't smoke. I hate second hand smoke and how they don't even care enough to smoke outside. I've asked them numerous times to smoke somewhere else but they tell me to deal with it. My other sister who is 27 comes over with her boyfriend and they also smoke. My brother and I are the only ones who don't smoke but he doesn't even live here. I get so mad and my sister and I get into fights over this. What should I do? They don't think I have any right to be mad or anything and it's just not fair.
You are completely right. Make sure that they know that second hand smoke can give you cancer, and that they could be killing you. Find some pamphelts or something to print out of the internet to back yourself up. If they want to smoke, it is really gross and bad for them, but it's up to them. However, smoking inside where you live is horrible! I hope they listen to you!
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I just got out of 9th grade and my mother still will barely let me do anything. She won't let me go to the beach unless there's an adult there. I can't go anywhere with anyone unless she meets their parents first. She flips out when guys call. I wouldn't care so much but a lot of times a miss out on doing fun stuff because no one elses parents chaperone, they just drop their kids off places, and then I'm not allowed to go. Forget parties, because there are no parents she can confirm with that i'll be safe and not drinking or doing drugs. Does she expect me to never do anything in highschool? She doesn't trust my judgement, and doesn't understand that I won't make the same mistakes she did. I'm tempted to start lying 2 her and sneaking around so that I'm not stuck at home all weekend doing nothing. Soon my friends are going to be able to drive and she says I can't ride in their cars. I'm going to have a lot of boring weekends! How do I show her that I'm responsible so that I can go places? What can I say to her that will help her let go a little and not be so protective?
I don't recommend sneaking out. If you get caught, it will just make your mom even more overprotective.
I understand some of the things from your mom's side, and some from yours. Riding in your friend's cars might be an insurance issue. If you don't have the right type of insurance, and you're injured in an accident in one of their cars, your mom might have to foot the bill.
However, your mom should let you have at least a few more freedoms. Talk to her seriously, and let her know that you would like an opportunity to show her that you are responsible and that you have good judgment. Ask her for some things that you can do to show her that you can make good decisions. Something like meeting one friend at the beach for an hour or so, and coming home exactly on time, or something like that. When she does start giving you responsibilties, be sure to follow her directions to the letter. It may be annoying to always leave before the fun is over, or always call and let her know where you are, but it's the only way to show her that you are serious.
I'll tell you something that worked with my mom. (My mom is a little strange, so this might not apply to your mom.) The first few times I met friends at the mall, my mom actually went with us. After three or four times of hanging out with us and seeing what we did, she was way more comfortable to let us go alone. My friends were totally understanding about it. At first I had to call and check in several times, but eventually she let that go, too.
I hope things work out for you!
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i have begged and begged but mom will not let me get my tongue peirced! she says im too young to make that kind of choice.im 13! one of my family members got it done when she was 11 and my mom approves of it! i really want this done but i dont know were to go that will let u with out your parents permission and one of my friends said to do it my self which i thought about but then another friend said that if you hit the wrong spot it can kill but still this is a choice.what should i do?
If you find a place that will do it without parent's permission, you'll probably end up with an infected tongue. Also, you can do some pretty bad damage doing it yourself. I think you might be stuck waiting this one out.
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Ok does anyone think this is wierd..my dad goes in the kitchen cabinet and its like 4 boxes of cereal n he looks at my favorite box and he tellls my mom not to buy them cuz HE DOESNT LIKE THEM..wtf is that?I like the freakin cereal y cat i keep it?...plz tell me if u think thats realli retarded
My dad is worse. He tells me my cereal is gross, tells my mom not to buy it anymore, and then EATS IT! Aaahh! He does this with all my food.
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hello. i'm 13 and my parents are divorced. they have been ever sice i was 6 years old. and my dad just remarried a really AWFUL woman! they just had there 1st anniversary. her son is CONSTNTLY making fun of me and my dad just says "deal with it" its taunting a bull at school would do. well to cut to the chase, my mom still had my dads last name and just changed it today. i feel so different now it really makes me sad. i feel like i'm closer to my stepmom than i am her. please help. all answers will be rated a 5 for effort! :`(
Ask your mom about changing your name too. You could take her name, or a name in the family, or some other name that you like.
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okay last night was my cousins baptism and it was fine until the party when his parents got durnk, and his parents are my uncle and my aunt and my aunts like a second mom to me and my aunt got stoned and sooo drunk and my uncel got drunk and they culdnt take the baby cuz they culdnt care for it so my mom had to fight with them to get it and it feels like my whole family is falling apart...im afraid of my aunt now wat do i do?
I don't blame you. I can't believe someone would get drunk at a baptistm party, and obviously Christian gathering! I would try to get them some help. There's a time to drink, and there's a time to stay sober. If you can't get them help, then I would stay away from her any time there is alcohol around. If you get afraid of her, then there is probably a good reason and you should stay away, as hard as it may be.
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My sister always likes going swimming with me and my dad. I find it fun too! But the thing is she's been planning it since last Sunday for her me and my dad to go Swimming today. But when I went to the bathroom this morning, I found out that I have my period. So I told my mom that I couldn't go swimming. But then when we were driving home from Church today, my sister brought up the subject, and my mom said that I couldn't go. She kept on asking and asking why I couldn't go and we told her because I can't. So now she's really mad at me. She's only 9 and doesn't know about periods and stuff so she's really mad at me. I feel really bad. I wish she was a little older so that she could know. So now I feel really guilty. What should I do?
You can swim with a tampon in. There's no reason to change your plans because of your period.
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K Here's the deal. I recently went to tx to see my dad's side of the family 4 the first time. When i got there my 17 y\o female cousin gave me a tour of the yard as per my uncles request. A wasp flew down her shirt and a so as not to get stung on her boobs she lifted her shirt briefly exposed herself to me. I turned around out of respect but i still saw. And i liked it :(
my question is, that wrong. i mean shes very attractive and a total stranger to me. I mean i would'nt feel that way about any of my cousins that iv know 4 many years.
please help me AIM: MicroSurjj88 email: loser1588@hotmail.com
THNX, Microsurjj 16 Y\O
No, there's nothing really wrong. To try to pursue a relationship would be wrong. You saw nice breasts on an attractive girl, and you reacted the way that any guy would. DOn't feel bad, you're completely normal.
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i had sex like a few months ago...well ive gotten my period since..and its been on a regular schedual but this month it hasnt come...i havent got it!! im freaking out!! it usually comes at the verrrry end of every month n goes into the begining of the new month but this month is hasnt!! =( could i be pregnant since ive already had my period about 2-3 times since ive had sex?? =\
There is such a thing as implantation bleeding, where you bleed like a period when you're pregnant, but only once, not twice. I don't think that you are, but you might want to test just in case. The cheap ones are usually as good as the expensive ones. Good luck. I just had a baby, so feel free to ask me anything that you need to.
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