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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice. I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.
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My dad doesn’t like me…and I know you’ll probably be like he’s your dad he loves you deep down I’m pretty sure he does…but no he doesn’t…..He never says he loves me or will miss me…he’s never given me a hug or anything.. …Like If he ever comes up to me and says I love…I would be weirded out by a lot..and be like umm..okay get a away from me you freak….It’s really awkward being near him…..Like he’s always yelling at me for the most stupid things…and it’s annoying….He’s really annoying….Like for example…every night I take a shower at around 9 and my dad’s like go take a shower and it’s like 8:30…so I’m like no later…it’s to early…he’s like what are you going to do. Wait till 10o clock like everyday…and I’m like WTF!! When do I ever wait till 10 o clock!! And it’s not like he says it every once in a while it’s every effing dayyy!! It’s soo annoying I’m tired of it…and not only that but the littlest things I do….like I cause an accident like accidentally spill my water on the table he’ll be god you need to pay attention..you never pay attetion..and I’m like WTF omg..it was an accident…and my grades aren’t that great rite..but I’m trying my hardest…but my dad’s like good you think everything hard..your not studying all you care about is straightening hair(which I don’t even do everyday), and myspace(which I haven’t gotten on ever since like 7th grade)…and stuff…good I just don’t know what to do..he’s always criticizing me…and it’s not like the good kind where you learn and it helps you..it’s like putting you down criticism…and I don’t want to talk to my mom about it because she’ll just get mad at me for even thinking that. And then she’ll probably go tell my dad..and he’ll deny everything…..Like he used to watch porn(gross I know) and sometimes he’ll forget it’s on history or it’s left on windows media player..and I used to tell my mom..and he would deny it..i’m just like SERIOUSLY!!….are you really going to believe..like it was left on..and he was the only one on the computer....and so ever since then it’s been even more awkward….because I wonder if he ever thinks of me like that….and one thing I especially hate is everyday I close the computer doors so I can do my hmrk….because I hate when it’s open b/c I feel like people are watching me….and every effing day my stupid dad has to come by and hit it open stare at what I’m doing then go to his room….and when I close it he’ll be like why are you closing it…are you on aim, facebook, myspace….and stuff…I tell him it’s because I like it closed…then he starts to yell at me and tells me to leave him open…GOD I don’t know what to do…I don’t want to sit and talk with him…because that’ll be awkward and knowing my dad it’s not like anything will change. He also yells at me for things I didn’t even do…like it’s my sisters fault and tell him it is…he’s like I DON’T CARE..YOU DO IT…and he’ll only believe me if I call my sister and she says it was her…then he’ll go on mumbling about it..and I’m just like OMG shut uppp…pleasee…GODD
All my friends are like I love my dad…and their dad actually cares about themOne time I got so pissed off I ran away…it wasn’t like really running away…i went to the park in my neighborhood…and sat down…my mom was freaking out…and she was a work so she could’nt get in her car and come look for me. My dad was like w/e…and stuff…so an hour passed…two hours…eventually it was 7 and I left at 4…and I was like w/e I’ll walk home cause I was bored…so I start to walk home and I get to the front door..and my dad is JUST getting out of the drive way to look for me…I’m just like wow…you are such an amazing parent..you really care for your kids…and he did’nt come because he was worried…it was because my mom told him to go find me…Yea so that’ my miserable life…I don’t know what to do…I don’t know if it’s me not doing something right or if it’s my dad’s fault..but I just need to know what to do…I can’t take it anymore…
Ok, I may get a 1 rating for this, but whatever. I do not care. Listen, you sound very immature by the way you act. No wonder your dad is always yelling at you. You have shown no respect for your dad or your mom, by the way you are explaining this. I am pretty sure there is more to the story, and you just left it out, because it may show why you get treated the way you do. If you truly want to stop getting yelled at, then stop doing the things you do to get yelled at for. Also, when a parent tells you to do something, you are not suppose to back talk and expect for them to be like "Ok, honey, do what you want." Yeah right. If you were my child and were acting this way, I'd ground you to your room for life. By the way, anything that you can do on the computer for homework, can be done without it, so you would be grounded from that as well.
If you truly want someone to treat you with respect, you need to follow suit. If you do not like the way your dad treats you, find a way to solve your problem by talking it out with him. There is no advice in the world that is going to make your dad change the way he acts, but the actions you do with him.
P.S. I seriously doubt that your dad thinks of you in a sexual way. You are just way to immature to think anything like that. Has he ever shown you any reason to fear that he would? If not, then maybe you are just looking for attention.
I'm 15/f and over the last year or so, I always feel so irritated when my parents talk. Like I find them really annoying, even if they're are asking me something like ''what do you want for dinner''
I'm wondering if this is just a teenage phase or if there's something wrong with me?
I mean my parents are cool and I like them, but I always feel annoyed when I'm talking to them, and I hate it.
Thanks!
Yes, it is definitely a teenage thing. It also stems into adulthood. The thing of it is as you get older three things happen.
~1~ You are starting to be independent and you want to live your life and not be bothered all the time, even if it is by your parents.
~2~ Hormones start to make your mentality change. Hormones causes you to think irrationally and get angry faster. It happens.
~3~ When you are around someone for so long, you tend to get on each others nerves. This is why you get so frustrated and annoyed when you are being talked to by them.
The best thing to do when you are feeling like this is to get away and have some space. Always remember to try and think before you speak. It is the hardest thing in the world to do, but with practice, it can be done. When you start to feel annoyed, think "why did that just piss me off?" Once you think about it, you will find it funny and just shrug it off.
Good luck.
yeah well my little sister and brother are just really annoying and when ever im with my friends they are right there listening in and just standing by us and i cant even say anything becuase they tell my mother and father everything so i cant even talk to my friends at home ill be doing something and they are so annoying they are also really really loud they are by the way 11 and 13 but my sisiter will be 12 in may 8th i pretty much hate them im tired of their shit i just wished i was the only child like mu sister is sooo spoiled and i have to clean up her mess and if i say something to her she goes and tells my mother and my mother always sticks up for her so i get in trouble my brother just always bothers me whatever im doing he has to question like if im texting he will be like why do you always text? and it makes me mad and they all gang up on me all the time and i sometimes want to hit them!!!!
wtf do i do to control myself and any advice on my brother and sister?
I am going to give advice as the little sister and as a mother.
The little sister:
I was always wanting to hang out with my brother constantly. He got to do so much more than I did. I wanted to feel closer to him and feel "cool". I know that I was a pest. However, if he had shown me at least some encouraging moments where I could be his sister and he could have fun with me, such as: hang out with me at least once a week for an hour, or even include me sometimes, then I would have felt compelled to leave him alone more.
The best thing to do, keep your cool. Let them know that you need some time alone and with your friends without them interrupting or butting in. If you keep your cool, be courteous and have patience with them, there is nothing to tell on you for.
As a mother:
Go to your parents with your concerns. Do not go up to them with an attitude and make an ass of yourself. If you talk to them and let them know how you feel, things may get taken care of in a mature way. We like to think that our children can come to us for anything, and not be scared to get into trouble. Children tend to forget this part of our love for you.
We try to communicate with you and you cannot keep a mature head on your shoulders. Just think of it this way, you know how your sister/brother acts towards you and it bothers and annoys you? You do the same to us, only we aren't the ones that did anything wrong.
Let them know that you don't mind doing your fair share of the chores around the house, but find that it is unfair to pick up after someone that doesn't pick up after themselves.
Ask for their support in helping you get the privacy you need and deserve. Any parent that cares, will be willing to work with you as long as you are not being bitchy about it. Does that make sense?
I posted a question a while ago about telling my parents I want to move back to England to finish school when I'm 17 and how I should tell them..
Well, I decided to type everything out just to see how it sounded and so I didn't miss anything out and I had the idea of printing a copy of this one for each of my parents and sitting down with them, explaining the situation to them but then saying ''The details are on the paper I've given you'' and letting them read through the thorough explanation while I'm there..
I thought this way, they couldn't interrupt me or cut me short and there's no way I'll get nervous and forget anything or get too emotional and start crying halfway through my explination.
I've included all the details from prices to schools to transport to areas and at the end there's a little emotional plea.
Is this or is this not a good idea? Should I tell them straight up and risk missing bits out or being interrupted or just give them the paper and then let them ask the questions?
HELP!
Hi hun, me again. I am really glad you decided to talk to them. I think this approach is an excellent idea. It shows that you have thought this out completely and have gone to the trouble of getting all the information needed. I would like to submit one thing to you that I have learned in my communications class, always expect a counter argument and add to your work stating things you know could be brought up to null your work. This way, you have covered all aspects and can expect a better response. I hope this helps, and good luck. I hope soon you will be in England chasing your dreams!!:D
Ok, here's the problem. I have a 10 yr. old sis that drives me absolutly insane. Everytime I go to my parents to keep her away from me, they ignore me! Even if I'm having an issue in school, or with myself, they just won't listen to me. Almost everyday, I feel shut out from everyone, and my sis is RLLY pissn me off. I need help pleez!
Here's the thing with little sisters, they just want to be with you (this is coming from a lil sister). They they that you are cool and idolize you because you are older. She could be trying to hang out with you because she really wants to be with you.
I know that it's annoying. I went from being a lil sister (still am, but don't think the world of my brother anymore), to a mom with two girls that are 3 years apart. The youngest tries her best to hang around her sister all the time. Luckily for me, they are still young and like to play with each other, but it does get on the oldests one's nerves.
I would suggest just trying to spend some time with her, when you can. It doesn't have to be anything special, maybe just watch a thirty minute show with her, like Hannah Montana or something. Maybe if she gets some hang out time with you, she will back off a little bit. After you watch the show or spend time with her, tell her (politely) ok I need to go and do some stuff on my own. At first, it still will hurt her feelings, but after time, she will be grateful that you even spent some time with her.
As for your parents, you need to go up to them and say "hey look, I am having some issues that I need your help with and I need you to listen to me. If you can't provide me help now, then think of what you are going to do when I make a bad decision and tried to come to you for help, and then get into trouble instead. Would you rather take the time to help me now, or be hurt by my actions later? Also, tell them that you didn't ask to be brought into this world, and it's the least they could do to actually be parental figures to you and help out."
I know if I actually had said those exact things to my parents, my lips would be walking beside me on the floor, saying OUCH, but you can try to get them to notice you. After all they owe you at least that. I hope things get better for you. Good Luck!!
Alright, I'm a bit depressed where I live now and I've tried to tell my parents about it but I didn't really tell them HOW upset I was because I don't want to worry them.
Anyway, I thought of going back to my birth country (I'm in Spain now, I'm from England) to finish school next year. If it goes to plan, I'll be moving out a few months after my 17th birthday (I'll have 2 years left of school, not 1)
So the idea is to get a little studio apartment or share a flat near a public school and live alone while I finish school (by the way, living alone in the UK is legal as long as you're 16).
My parents would be paying the rent but I'd get a part-time job and work as much as I could to pay for food and help out as much as I can.
I only recently talked to them about going to boarding school but they said they couldn't afford it (it's 25k+ a year..the rent on a studio is nothing compared to this) so my plan is to leave it for about a month so they don't think I just thought of this in the heat of the moment.
I want to gather as much information as I can and be fully prepared when I tell them about it.
I'm close to my parents so I want to make sure they know I'm not trying to get away with them, I'm just really down and it's effecting my life hugely. Has anyone got any advice on how I can convince them, anything I could do or say? Just..advice in general as I'm really crapping myself about the whole situation.
I would let them know that you are unhappy with your surroundings and your school. Let them know it's not personal with them. You just don't feel the same about this place as you do your home town and you think you would be better off if you could go back. Now, I am not sure if they will agree to let you go, but if you act mature and handle the situation gracefully, and without indignation, it will help you out more. Good Luck!!
....is pissing me off. All. The. Time.
I do not know what to do about my mom. Generally speaking, she can never be happy with me or anyone else; picking and picking at sore scars is what she does best (she's weak, what can I say).
To be more specific, we fight all the time, and it sounds outlandish, but it's almost never my fault. She fights with anyone and everyone. Simple as that.
Today she called FOUR times to yell at me about the same thing. FOUR times. I did not want to go to HER friend's house for lunch, I had other things to do. She yelled at me about it, and changed the topic to something that had nothing to do with it at all, only to YELL again (and feel good). She's off the wall, everyone knows it.
I tell myself to calm down and ignore her ,but it's so hard. What's the best way to avoid her, without getting worked up over her craziness and yelling? Anyone in a similar situation? Thank you
Deja vu? My mom is the same exact way (or was). You want to know how I finally fixed her ass? One day, I called her and told her that my dad and I got into it. She told me well your going to be pissed off at me too then. She had told my brother something I told her and asked her not to say anything. So, I finally said, "ya know what, I'm done with this family. I'm sick of this shit." I didn't talk to her for a week. Now, she has totally given me my space and stops being so judgmental of me. So, here is my suggestion to you. You can either a) get angry, yell at her, tell her to mind her own business, back off, and don't talk to her for a few days. or b) you can sit down and talk to her and tell her that although her advice is appreciated when you ask for it, but you need room to become your own person. If she doesn't like it, revert back to a! Good Luck!!